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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 28, 2025Hindi
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I am 36 years old un married, during chat in instagram one of my junior contacted. How to approach to marriage proposals. She also looking matches , she asked my caste, income etc looking that she is more prefer that I am not the same caste . Inthis how to approach. And she used post her daily in insta fb with glamour pics, I feel she looking rich and bright person than me . She is also 36 years. So what to do . How to explain her my marriage proposals.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If she is not interested, kindly drop your plan.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Hi Shalini,I am 42 year old male and have been separated from marital relationship and i don't have children,since 13 years and living alone where my father and mother had passed away few years ago.I was searching for brides profile from matrimony websites and found a widowed woman who is selfemployed. I called and talked her. she is equivalent of my age.She has one son aged of 24.I was willing to marry her but she does not want to marry anybody rather she expressed her interest and consent to live in a cohabitation(Living together relationship).(She said that her son is a grown up boy and preparing for competitive exams and she loves him a lot,She added that it is not possible to convince him for marrying another person.I accepted it and said ok. Later on we had date and moved on.Whenever she come for a date she asks me to spend and buy apparels,asking me to recharge mobile,asking me to buy provisions ,watches and to pay water taxes of her house.I did it without hesitation and she asks me for gold ring and ear-studs.She is not having contentment and i feel that she is greedy and she does not shows any form of courtesy towards me and further she did not spend even a single rupee for me .I am worried that she is exploiting me.I was wondered and shocked that during a little discussion with her she said that she could move away from me at any point of time if she finds any other person whom she likes her.I was dejected.I said that i am not your Money wallet to swindle me.I am not ready to spend money to a girl who informs me that she will be leaving from me.I scolded her. Even when have planned to marry at that time the woman asks me that whether i am a dominating person and asking about the details of my earlier marriage and testing about my genuinity. Now the relationship has broken between us and i am very much worried that whether i have taken a correct decision or not from stepping away from her because whenever i like to see her she ask me to make surprises for her.In turn no love and affection is being received from her. Kindly advice me that whether i have taken correct decision from quitting her relationship or i have hurried a lot by taken a wrong decision. Please advice and guide me and do the needful in this regard.
Ans: It's understandable that you're feeling confused and conflicted about your recent relationship. Based on what you've described, several points emerge:

Red flags in the relationship:

Financial demands: Her consistent requests for money and expensive gifts, without reciprocation, raise concerns about potential financial exploitation.
Lack of emotional connection: You mentioned not receiving love and affection, raising questions about her genuine interest in building a meaningful relationship.
Conditional presence: Her statement about leaving for someone else suggests instability and lack of commitment.
Focus on your past: Excessive questioning about your previous marriage could indicate insecurity or distrust.
Your decision to step away:

Given these red flags, your decision to end the relationship seems reasonable. Prioritizing your emotional and financial well-being is crucial.

Moving forward:

Focus on self-care: Allow yourself time to process this experience and prioritize your emotional well-being. Explore activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.
Consider therapy: Talking to a therapist or counselor can help you gain clarity, understand your needs, and develop healthy relationship patterns.
Refine your approach: Reflect on what you seek in a relationship and adjust your boundaries and expectations when seeking future partners. Don't hesitate to say no to financial requests or behaviors that make you uncomfortable.
Be patient: Finding a genuine connection takes time and effort. Focus on personal growth and building healthy relationships before actively seeking a new partner.
Remember, prioritizing your self-worth and respecting your boundaries is essential for building healthy and fulfilling relationships. Don't feel pressured to rush into anything that doesn't feel right. Focus on building a life that brings you happiness and fulfillment, and the right connections will follow.

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I am in a delimma on my daughters approach.She is a doctor and with higher specialisation . All of a sudden she comes forward and says wants to marry a person who is her batchmate but is an inter caste and younger to her by a year . Caste is of lowest strata . I am a person who always respected everybody but the approach of this kind without considering the pros and cons and acting very violently to make it happen is very disturbing and I am in a dilemma . Please suggest
Ans: Dear Janardhan,
She's your daughter; certainly you can talk to her about your concerns, right? And when she shares, do make sure that you LISTEN first. As parents, you can be concerned and be quick to judge the person that she has chosen to marry. But when you do that, you are only going to push her further away from you. Let her share her side first and then present your side of concerns...request her to think about it and have another discussion a few weeks later.
As a toddler when she threw a tantrum, what did you do? I am sure that you let the emotion pass, then you picked her up and showered her with affection, so that she registers that she will be loved and cared for BUT her tantrum will not be appreciated.
The situation is similar; so try to break into her world and hear her out first...I hope you understand that for logic of pros and cons to be communicated, there is a need to first accept the emotional state that she is in...

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 15, 2026Hindi
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I have 12 lack Diamonds plain from orintal insurance company medicliam policy I want to know how much amount issue for lens for cataracts surgery
Ans: Your effort to maintain a high-value health insurance cover of Rs.12 lakh is very good. Many people realise the importance of medical insurance only during a hospitalisation. Because you already have a strong cover with The Oriental Insurance Company Limited, you have created an important financial protection layer for your family.

However, when it comes to cataract surgery and lens cost, health insurance policies usually have specific limits. It is important to understand these limits clearly.

» Understanding Cataract Surgery Coverage

– Cataract surgery is normally covered under mediclaim policies.
– The policy usually pays for hospitalisation, surgeon fee, OT charges, medicines, and intra-ocular lens (IOL).
– But most policies keep a limit on cataract treatment, even if the total sum insured is higher.

This means even if your policy cover is Rs.12 lakh, the cataract claim may be restricted to a smaller amount.

» Typical Cataract Limits in Health Insurance

In many mediclaim policies in India:

– Cataract surgery may be limited to around Rs.25,000 to Rs.40,000 per eye, depending on policy terms.
– Some upgraded plans allow up to Rs.50,000 or slightly higher per eye.
– Premium imported lenses, laser techniques, or advanced multifocal lenses may cost more and the extra amount has to be paid by the patient.

So the lens cost alone may range from Rs.8,000 to Rs.60,000 or more depending on the type selected. Insurance will usually reimburse only within the cataract limit mentioned in the policy

» How Lens Charges Are Treated

– Standard mono-focal lenses are generally covered within the cataract limit.
– Advanced lenses such as multifocal or toric lenses are treated as upgraded choices.
– The difference between the hospital bill and the policy limit becomes out-of-pocket payment.

Because hospitals sometimes suggest premium lenses, it is important to check the insurance approval amount before surgery.

» Practical Steps Before Surgery

– Ask the hospital to send a pre-authorisation request to the insurer.
– Confirm the maximum cataract limit per eye under your policy.
– Ask the hospital for a detailed estimate showing lens cost separately.
– Check whether the surgery will be cashless or reimbursement.

This small step avoids confusion during discharge.

» Financial Planning Perspective

From a Certified Financial Planner’s view, you have already taken a wise step by maintaining a large medical insurance cover. Cataract surgery is a common age-related treatment, and insurance helps reduce the financial burden.

Still, remember:

– Health insurance works with sub-limits for certain treatments.
– The sum insured does not always mean the entire bill will be paid.
– Understanding these limits in advance helps you plan your medical expenses calmly.

» Finally

Your Rs.12 lakh mediclaim cover is a strong safety net. For cataract surgery, the insurance company will normally pay only up to the cataract treatment limit mentioned in your policy, and any premium lens upgrade may need personal payment.

So the best action is to check the exact cataract limit in your policy schedule or call the insurer’s customer care before the surgery.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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