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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Aug 06, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 25, 2025Hindi
Relationship

Hii, Currently I am 27, and i am in relation with my a girl since 2 years.We both understand each other's hearts. We understand each other's feelings. Her parents are ready to let her marry with me.But my parents are not ready. I tried everything to convince them but non is working. They are not ready because she is another cast. But I can't let her go. I have to leave my home. So please suggest.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's never easy when you have parents who hold beliefs around inter-caste marriages. So, convincing them is out of question. the best you can do is talk to them about what you see in a life partner and why your girl is the best choice. And after that, you can only hope that they come around.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 20, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu We are In a relationship for 7 years and in my family they have accepted her as she frequently visits my home and meet my family members .She was trying for the past 2 years to convince her father but now her father is not even listening about our relationship and her mother though likes me doesn’t want to go against her husband . Her father said her that he wont be the part of her marriage and her life if she marries me .As a result my lady doesn’t want to go against her parents and be with me . Though she can’t live without me but she doesn’t want to hurt her parents and for that she is ready to leave me and go as per her parents and marry someone else.she has accepted that , her life will be hell as well as the person she will be marrying .Kindly suggest me what to do coz i cant imagine my life without her .
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Sometimes the reason for someone not liking you maybe a silly one.
Maybe her father wanted to find a boy for your lady or he wanted time to get to know the person. Try and find out from her what exactly bothers her father about you or the marriage. It can be frustrating to dig into this BUT hey, do what you have to, to make the relationship work, yeah?
A humble attempt in that direction where her father can see you for who you are and understand why his daughter actually loves you might go a long way not in just his acceptance in you but also pave the way for a better connection between him and you.
And oh, ask you lady not to give up...

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Dating Coach - Answered on Jul 03, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 01, 2025Hindi
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Mam, I am in relationship with one girl since 2.5 year and my girlfriend told about our relationship to her mom. Every positive point of mine which told by my girlfriend to her mom but every point taken negetivly and denied to her.. Move on from relationship... Leave this relationship. He is not good boy.. The problem of her mother is the caste as well as I am Divorcee person and she is unmarried. We love to each other and want to marry. Due to her mother oppose, she is nervousness totally or told that she has no any idea what to do... How to do.. She is not sure she is convince to her family or not. She told that I don't know how much time she can servive to convince her family. Totally her mind felt like empty, dumb, nervousness. Her father not know about our relationship. When this type moment occurs she behave that sometime it is agree to make efforts for convince and sometime when she is nervousness that time she told that i can not convince and to do the breakup because she is not want to go against the her mom and family. But she told that also she want to marry with me. What should I do?
Ans: I am going with the assumption you both are adults who are thinking individuals. I am also assuming you are both financially independent.

Families, parents are important and it should be so. I understand parents apprehension, having said this, I do not get it why caste and relationship status as previously married takes precedence over compatibility. One should also realise that every relationship needs working upon by 2 people- there is no certainty if someone gets married within their caste or choice of parents/ family.

Coming to your issue there are 2 options

- she is open to take the step upsetting her parents and getting married to you

or

- she and you need to move on and move on in the true sense. which means no connection whatsoever, move out of each other's social media, block contact details and move on, heal yourself and find someone else.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 17, 2026
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Hi, I am presently earning a net salary of 85000 after my all deductions( HL EMI of 40000 and other statutory deductions like PF/NPA etc). My age is 40 years any my dependents are my wife and 2 children of 9 and 3 years. My monthly SIP contribution is 29000 spread across Large, Small, Flexi funds any I try to increase it by 5- 10% every year for the last 8 years. My present MF portfolio is of of 60 lacs with XIRR of 15%. My NPS balance as on date is 43 lacs and PF balance is 20 lacs. Monthly NPS is at 23000( including mine and employer contribution) and monthly PF 20000 ( mine and employer). I also have shares of approx 5 lacs and liquid funds of 10 lacs in FD for emergency. I have term plan of 1.50 crores. I will continue with my SIP for next 20 years till my retirement. I want to have a corpus of 30 lacs each for my both child for their higher education when they attain 18 years. I also want to have my retirement corpus of about 3 crs by 2046 so that my post retirement expenses are taken care by SWP. We have health policy for the family for 20 lacs. Will I be able to achieve my desired financial goals with my present investments. Or any rebalancing is required.
Ans: » Your Overall Financial Position

– You have built a strong financial foundation.

– Eight years of disciplined SIP investing is a major strength.

– Regular SIP increases every year have worked well for you.

– Your retirement assets are growing from multiple sources.

– You have a good emergency fund.

– Health insurance and term insurance are already in place.

– Overall, your financial journey appears well-structured.

» Assessment Of Children's Education Goal

– Your elder child is 9 years old.

– The higher education goal is roughly 9 years away.

– Your younger child has a longer investment horizon.

– A target of Rs.30 lakh per child may look sufficient today.

– However, education inflation is usually much higher than normal inflation.

– By the time your children reach college age, actual costs may be significantly higher.

– I would suggest reviewing this target every 2-3 years.

– If income permits, gradually increase allocations towards this goal.

– The longer horizon for your younger child works in your favour.

» Assessment Of Retirement Goal

– Your current retirement assets include mutual funds, NPS, PF and equity investments.

– The biggest positive is that contributions are continuing every month.

– You also intend to continue SIPs for another 20 years.

– Based on your current savings discipline, the retirement goal appears achievable.

– However, a retirement corpus target of Rs.3 crore by 2046 may be on the lower side.

– Inflation over the next two decades will significantly reduce purchasing power.

– Your actual requirement may be much higher.

– I would encourage you to periodically reassess the retirement target.

– It is better to build a larger retirement corpus than discover a shortfall later.

» Review Of Asset Allocation

– Your portfolio already has exposure across different equity categories.

– NPS provides additional diversification.

– PF acts as a stable debt component.

– Emergency reserves are adequate.

– There is no immediate need for major restructuring.

– Avoid frequent portfolio changes based on short-term market movements.

– Consistency is more important than chasing the latest performing category.

» Emergency Fund Review

– Maintaining around Rs.10 lakh in emergency reserves is a sensible decision.

– With home loan responsibilities and two dependent children, liquidity is important.

– Continue keeping emergency money separate from long-term investments.

» Insurance Review

– Family health cover of Rs.20 lakh is good.

– Review whether a super top-up can further strengthen protection at a reasonable cost.

– Your term insurance cover of Rs.1.50 crore is useful.

– However, with two young children and a home loan, it may be worthwhile to review whether the cover remains adequate based on current liabilities and future goals.

» Home Loan Consideration

– Continue paying the home loan as scheduled.

– Avoid diverting long-term retirement assets towards prepayment.

– If future bonuses or surplus cash become available, you can evaluate partial prepayments.

– Balance loan reduction with wealth creation.

» Areas To Focus On

– Continue annual SIP increases.

– Increase investments whenever salary increases.

– Review education goals every few years.

– Reassess retirement corpus targets periodically.

– Maintain adequate insurance protection.

– Stay invested through market cycles.

» Finally

– You are doing many things right already.

– Your disciplined SIP history, NPS contributions, PF accumulation and emergency planning place you in a strong position.

– The main area needing attention is not portfolio rebalancing.

– It is ensuring that your education and retirement targets keep pace with future inflation.

– Continue your current investment discipline.

– With regular investment increases and periodic reviews, you are well-positioned to achieve your financial goals.

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 16, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 16, 2026
Career
Good Afternoon Sir, I need your guidance regarding my admission situation. I scored 77 percentile in JEE Main and 95 percentile in MHT CET. Unfortunately, I got a compartment in CBSE Class 12 Chemistry, so I am currently not eligible for MHT CET CAP rounds or JEE-based admissions. As a result, my current percentile scores are of no use this year. My compartment examination is scheduled for 28th July, and I am confident that I will clear it. Given this situation, I wanted to ask: - Should I take admission in a below-average college that is still available after clearing the compartment? - Or would it be better to take a one-year drop, prepare again, and aim for a much better college next year?
Ans: I could have given a more accurate response if you had also shared your 12th Grade Maths and Physics marks. However, based on the information provided, I want to remind you—in case you are not already aware—that you need to ensure a score of at least 75% or be in the top 20 percentile in your board exams. Scoring above the 96 percentile in JEE 2027 will be extremely challenging but not impossible based on your JEE 2026 performance. Your MH-CET performance is good and can be further improved with focused preparation over 7-8 months. The large disparity between your JEE and MH-CET results is unclear to me. To answer your question, I suggest considering a drop year to prepare well and strategically for both exams. Additionally, it is advisable to have at least 8-9 backup options apart from JEE and MH-CET, such as COMEDK, PERA-CET, VITEEE, AEEE, SITEE, etc., and/or register with some reputed colleges that accept your Board Exam or JEE scores. All The Best for Your Prosperous Future!

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