My 24 year old nephew is having a hard time finding a job. It's now affecting his mood and motivation. Talking to him or simply having a conversation feels like walking on egg shells. It's hard to say what can trigger him these days, especially if it is anything to do with gyaan, or upskilling or simple advice like 'have faith.' How can we support him emotionally and help him stay encouraged during this difficult time?

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Hi Sneha,

Please advise your fiance that if he wants a good job, he must first focus on his current job and do well there.

He has to be a success there; only then other organisations will hire him.

Explain to him that all jobs today are demanding and stressful and changing jobs will not help him.

He must focus on his current role, perform well and then he can look for another job.

Though it's your personal life, my advice would be that you too should start working and get married only once both your careers are on the right track.  

Ans: Hi,

Choosing between continuing exam preparation and seeking a job is a significant decision that should be based on various factors. Here's some advice tailored to your brother's situation:

1. Evaluate His Progress: Assess how much progress your brother has made in his exam preparation. Has he been consistent in his studies? Has he shown improvement in his performance in mock exams or previous attempts? If he's making good progress and has a strong determination to pursue a career in government services, continuing with his exam preparation might be a viable option.

2. Consider the Competitive Landscape: The competition for government jobs, especially UPSC exams, is intense in India. He should realistically evaluate his chances of success in these exams based on factors such as his academic background, preparation level, and the number of attempts he has left. If he faces challenges in cracking these exams, he may need to reassess his strategy.

3. Financial Stability: It's essential to consider the financial implications of continuing exam preparation without a stable source of income. If your brother's savings are running low or if he's dependent on family support, he might need to explore job opportunities to support himself financially.

4. Professional Growth: Working in the IT industry for six months has provided your brother with valuable experience. While preparing for exams, he could consider exploring part-time or freelance opportunities in his field to keep his skills updated and gain practical experience. This can enhance his resume and provide him with additional career options in the future.

5. Seek Guidance: Encourage your brother to seek guidance from career counselors or mentors who can provide insights into his career options and help him make an informed decision. They can also provide support and advice tailored to his individual circumstances.

Ultimately, the decision to continue exam preparation or look for a job should be based on a thorough assessment of your brother's goals, abilities, and circumstances. It's essential for him to weigh the pros and cons carefully and choose a path that aligns with his long-term career aspirations and financial stability.

Ans: Dear Sir/ Madam,

You can consider the following steps -

- Indulge him into some new courses of his interest or in alignment with his career
- Encourage him to be part of discussion groups on LinkedIn where he can share his knowledge
- He can write blogs/ content, make you tube videos or short reels and showcase his skills. There are many who are looking for free knowledge and content. He can leverage it. This way he creates his own opportunities.
- Ask him to work on his networking skills which will go a long way. This way he will be able to connect with multiple professionals across industry. Most important skill one requires in today's industry.
- Can take up freelance/ contract work until he get's a full time job
- As parents keep motivating and encouraging him let him know that not having a job does not define his worth. Keep supporting and guiding.

Hope this helps

All the best

Thanks and Regards
Ashwini Dasgupta
www.ashwinidasgupta.com