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Hello. I am currently in my second year of Engineering. I have been studying in a boarding school since 8th standard. Till 7th, there was a girl whom I didn't like much. But, after seeing her after almost 1.5 year, in 9th, I was literally shocked. I got a deep crush for her. But the biggest problem has raised because my family shifted to a city far away from the previous one in my 10th standard. I can't even find her anywhere, not on Instagram or anywhere on social media. Her father might be there in contact list of my dad's phone. But I am very much afraid to inform regarding this to my family. What should I do ?

Dear Sir, I am 45YO working in GCC and She is 45YO working in India govt banking sector. We met through matrimonial site in 2009. We liked each other and decided to get marry. But due to some arrogent way of talking of her and her mother with my mother, which I didn't like at all. So before gettting finalising and engagement, I decided to go away from her without hurting and it took 5 month in Feb 2010. Actually I AM AGAINST HURTING ANYBODY'D'S HEART. So I made a situaton like that she rejected me. While meeting we both decided, even though, if we are not getting married with other we will be as friends in future. So I got married in 2011 and She got married in 2012. After our marriage we got busy in our married life and we were not able to contact with other for several years. But in second half of 2019 we again came into to contact over phone WA. Once she demanded make-up box and some chocolates from GCC, so I provided through courier. Then her demand increased with mobile recharge, Sani-pads, U/garment, sometime cakes on birthdays for her and for her 2 daughters, for late father's, own mother even though her mother stays in different city, gifts through Amezon, Flipkaut, Zamato, Swiggu etc etc.. One day she told she want to marry me, because there were physical quarrel with the husband and MIL, So she want to get divorse due to dosmetic violence between them. I avoided this topic as I am happy with my married life. Then 1 day she had some gmeil problem she was not receving email so she shared password. So I cleared all the promotions and unuseful stuff from her gmeil account. But I was shocked when I saw that she had saved all communication of having extramarital affair chats of WA with her office 2 different colleagues and, 1 Garage mechanic and College friend all were vulgar chats and different-different years. Especially all vulgar words and arrangement and planning made by her to meet in different room location. There I came to know why her husband is so physical quarrel with her. She had mentioned about husband activity of beating to her. And so both of them want to get divorse. But this all thing I kept it confidential with me from her. Let she admit some day. But I am still waiting. Now after 2021 all this has stopped because I convinced her and made her feel what she was doing after meeting her. She admitted her mistake and she promised that she will not go in wrong path. She also said it happened unknowingly she went with the flow. But She pleaded me and wants my Love and want to marry me privately and for her happiness, she in under divorce process. She proposed me for marriage in 2021 till now I have avoided with some excuses. Coming to the main topic, since 2021 to 2025, whenever I visit India, we meet each other, as I too have soft-corner for her and Love her as we were first Love of each other in 2009. Everytime when I inform her that I am coming to India, her dreams flies in sky and tells me come soon, I want to marry with You. And every time she ask something or the other gift as mentioned above. How should I get rid of this burden of over-expenses. Due to this it is difficult to manage my monthly expenses, means "The snake has to be killed and the stick should remain intact". Everytime I tells her this month not possible next month for sure, but again after 2-3 days she comes with new demand. And I am sure, if I broke this relationship she will again go to wrong path as she is getting divorce. Pls give some tips how to reply her to stop these expenses from me.

My son a corporate lawyer is 27, he is seeing a girl since covid 19 ended, the girl is well educated, courteous,rightly placed but very independent minded. they both want to marry and myself and my wife do not have any objection to it, infact we have agreed that they can live independently post wedding to hav desired privacy subject to uphlding indian values. they both understand it very well. Now the issue is the girls parents appear to have objection to her wedding wince they think they are rich and if the girl marries our son she will have to face regular constraint for money and will need to live like middile class families. Their point is well undertood by us and respected by us i.e. myself my wife and my son. Issue is 1. we the parents never knew that they were very socalled rich, 2. we never thought that the the couple will marry as my son had told us multiple times that they dont haveany such plan. 3. we as parents are ok with they not marryiing or marrying, only this is the cancellatin of marriage will scar our son for ever emotionally as he had said that if she does not marry him he will not marry again. Kindly advise how do we support this situation to avoid damage to everyone.

Hello Dr, I am married for 24 years. Our was love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had leave my fathers house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have 2 son who now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelors status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife is also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In Dec'2024 I lost my job and came back to mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically We both are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like to reconnect with her physically and emotionally. But dont know she is a changed person. She doesnt have emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how should I handle this situation. I want her back in my life.

Hi RediffGurus, I’m a 30M (CTC : 30LPA) and currently in serious marriage discussions with a woman (28F ; CTC : 25LPA) I met through Shaadi.com. Some context: We’ve met 5+ times one-on-one Our families have met twice Conversations have been deep and transparent on values, marriage expectations, kids, finances, lifestyle We even went as far as sharing ITR, CIBIL scores, investment details We both did and shared full body health checkups, including fertility, STDs, and thalassemia In our 2nd meet, we discussed past relationships. She told me she had one relationship. In the last meet a few days ago, she herself brought up physical intimacy (I did not bring this up out of nowhere). I honestly shared that I’m a Virgin. She explicitly said she is a Virgin too. After that, we got formally engaged with the Blessings of both Families & continued meeting up with each other, occassionally. Then during one of our recent meets, out of nowhere, she confessed that she is NOT a Virgin and that she had been physical with her ex. Her explanation was that at the time the topic came up earlier, she wasn’t comfortable sharing and ended up giving an incorrect answer. She said she fumbled her response to her own question. Now I’m struggling with something deeper than just the V-card aspect. Because: This was explicitly discussed, not assumed She had multiple chances to correct it earlier We were already at a stage of extreme transparency in other sensitive areas. Now I’m questioning other things we’ve discussed that I can’t independently verify. Like views on cheating, open marriage, long-term expectations, etc. I don’t know: Whether this is a forgivable lapse due to fear/discomfort? Or a red flag about honesty? Or what, realistically, she can do now to rebuild trust? I don’t want to overreact, but I also don’t want to ignore this. How should I proceed in this situation? What questions should I ask myself or her before deciding whether to move forward or walk away?

Seeking advice to help my brother move on after failed love/marriage Hi Sir/Madam, My brother was in a relationship with a girl who is 14 years younger than him. They had been in love for more than 10 years. The girl’s family was aware of their relationship, but our family was not. After nearly 10 years, my brother informed us that he wanted to marry her. This came as a shock to our family, and we initially did not agree to the marriage. None of us in the family (my parents, my sister, or I) approved of his choice for several reasons. For two years, we tried to convince him not to go ahead with the marriage, but he was firm in his decision. Eventually, we accepted his choice, and the marriage took place. However, after the marriage, they never stayed together even for a single day. The girl left soon after for her exam preparation, which lasted about 8 months. Later, she expressed that she no longer wanted to live with him, saying she had lost all feelings for him and wanted a divorce. My brother still loves her deeply and wants to live with her. He is even ready to accept all her conditions, including her wish to work. But the girl continues to reject him and insists on getting a divorce. We are trying to convince my brother to accept the reality, let go of the past, and start a new life. However, he remains emotionally attached to her and is unable to move on. Our aged parents are deeply distressed, as he is not listening to anyone’s advice. He is now 39 years old, and we are worried that he is losing precious time and peace of mind. Please suggest how we can help him overcome this difficult phase and begin a new chapter in his life.

Sir, I used to teach a girl. After a year, we both fell in love with each other. But then I suffered from a serious mental illness, and during that time, I asked her to tie a rakhi (sacred thread symbolizing a brother-sister relationship). Now that I’ve recovered, I still have feelings of love for her. What should I do?

I'm 21M, 2year cllg student. I'm attracted towards 3year senior girl. She is very pretty, and very beautiful n attractive. I see her with respect and wanted to talk n meet but never able to do it.. I just notice her and my mind kinda start observing her.. I liked her social nature, very passionate speaker and good dancer and have a bold voice. Her vibe is chilling and funny. But here is me fantasizing about her, meeting her and smiles, giggles in thinking. As I'm bit insecure and ambivert but I tried to be open n social by joining club and spreading connection but my due to my nature all same. It's going to be 10 month of her being my crush but ... Tell me the RIGHT path.. forget her(which I can't) or confess her( which I'm not able to)..

Hello... I don’t know what to do here or am I playing with my life or what..! I am a woman making my career As CMA which will be done within 4 years as i have already cleared half of the exams and after that my family has said that they will wait for 4 years max and then i need to marry cus i have two more sisters younger than me on the other side i wanna marry my bf but he is not settled yet and said he need time to settle his dreams are also big like setting multiple business and has to set 5 business like gym+sanitary+electrical equipments+ home decor+tiles and said he also wanna buy a car due to this he can’t focus on marriage and said “in sab ke alawa mujhe kuch nahi sujhta” but also said that “if he was doing something he would definitely marry me cus he need a life partner “ but these business will take time like many years...I am getting too much proposals right now cus it is my prime age for this. I am too confused what should I do as my bf said that he can’t even do engagement before those things and my family will pressure me in 4th year

Hi I am married for 24 years. Our was a love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had to leave my father's house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have two sons who are now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelor status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife was also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In December 2024 I lost my job and came back to Mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically both of us are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like reconnecting with her physically and emotionally. But I feel like she is a changed person. She doesnt have any emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how to handle this situation. I want her back in my life.

I am around 59, I was never married, possibly no luck or rue my past chances when I was young and attractive, I am still in good looks, hit the gym everyday; I like one girl who is single, 29 years old and am seriously interested in her, she is quiet and works in sales-telecom, her english is not so eloquent but I find her very attractive, I am interested to marry her, I met her in th past, she likes my dressing, personality, finds me attractive but never reciprocated to me, she is altogether conservative, I did not have her telephone number and email but got her coordinates from a known person to both, I like her very much. I sent her messages on her email - no obscene messages but like "I adore you", "I like you" etc in hindi; I quietly saw the reciepant in her email "+1" - but cannot fathom this "+1" receipant, so was scared maybe she connected me to her HR or to police but I am a a smart and intelligent bloke; maybe she could put me into police?? -but I never would write anything obscene to her; but whenever I send her message I always write the first line - "please do not complain" - how to improvise ?? My body functions very fine, my productivity I assume is good because I exercise regularly and before I was a long distance runner; I am definately going to tell her that - I wish to marry her and that "I like you intensely" !! please advise ?? - dreams need to be attempted !! regards

I met a boy in arrange marriage meeting one week ago he said that he had no drinking habit then tomorrow we meet again then he admitted he drinking occasionally what should I do now

Hi. We are a family of 4, my husband aged 45 years, myself of 44 years and 2 kids, a son aged 3 years and a daughter aged 15 years. I have been feeling lonely since last 4-5 years and since my husband used to get angry over me for small reasons, I only discuss only if it feels absolutely necessary. Our emotional and physical connect was also entirely missing. Recently I found my husband cheating with another woman and when asked for he admitted of cheating me with multiple different women over last 6 years. Although he admits his mistake and it feels as if he is trying to improve and give more attention to me, however i fear that he may cheat again which has resulted in sleepless nights filled with fear for me even when he sleeps besides me. It seems that I have 3 options. Option 1 - To continue my life and let him do whatever he wants. Option 2 - Give him a chance assuming that he will not cheat, Option 3 - Seperate from him, assuming that he is definitely going to cheat. I have read on multiple forums that on ce a male starts cheating he never stops. Pls guide on which option I should take.

Is 16 too young to date? I am in first year of college, and I like meeting someone during weekends. He's my childhood friend who has known me since I was 7. But my parents believe that relationships are a distraction and should only happen after marriage. Because of this, I hide things from them, which makes me feel guilty and stressed too. I want honesty but I know how my parents will react if I tell them who I meet. How should I deal with my relationship while living with parents? Is it a crime to meet and share your feelings?

Shadi se pahle wife ka past malum ho gya to kya karu

I am in a physical relationship with a younger neighbour. He recently told me that he has a girlfriend but he doesn't want to get married to her. They have been childhood friends so she is seeing me as competition. She feels that I am the reason for their breakup. I don't know how to handle this.

I have a huge crush on my college professor. He is 41, tall, looks smart and teaches management in two other colleges. Lot of girls like him but he has never taken advantage of that, at least not that I know of. I even found out that he got divorced two years ago. My friend told me that she saw his profile on a dating app. Ever since then, I've been wanting to tell him how I feel. I don't want to have an affair in college, but I just want to tell him how much I admire him. I am 19 and this is the first time I have felt this way about any guy. My friends think I am crazy, this is just hormones. How to find out if this is real?

My married ex still texts me for comfort. Because of him, I am unable to move on. He makes me feel guilty by saying he got married out of family pressure. His dad is a cardiac patient and mom is being treated for cancer. He comforts me by saying he will get separated soon and we will get married because he only loves me. We have been in a relationship for 14 years and despite everything we tried, his parents refused to accept me, so he chose to get married to someone who understands our situation. I don't know when he will separate from his wife. She knows about us too but she comes from a traditional family. She also confirmed there is no physical intimacy between them. I trust him, but is it worth losing my youth for him? Honestly, I am worried and very confused.

I'm 43 married and I want to date again. After our marriage, my husband shifted to Dubai and has no plans to return to India. Ours was an arranged marriage. I have two daughters, both are in high school. I recently found out that he is cheating on me. I can't get divorced till he returns to India but I don't want to be single and feel guilty or blame my husband. My husband never loved me. I want to feel loved again. I don't know how and where to get started. Can you help?

Hello Sir, I'm really struggling with my family's behavior after my arranged marriage. They pushed me into it, and now they're constantly guilt-tripping me and badmouthing my wife and her family. It's getting really tough to handle, and I'm feeling overwhelmed. Can you please offer some advice on how to deal with this situation? I just want to be happy and have my family's support.

I am also in same but I am 57 yrs old looking for same. Can u suggest such reliable dating apps who are serious

Hi so i was in relation with one girl since one year we met through matrimony site, my family knew about her and her family expect dad evryone met me so we planned evrerything about marriage but now she dont want to marry me because she is like dad wont accept me since our caste is diffrenet and her dad come up with some good aliances with good package so now she dont want me and want to end this but i was fully engagaed in this now my age is also like finding girl will be difgicult so what should i do now I want to take revenge because she suddenly changed decision without good closure Shoul i text her future groom plz advise

My boyfriend did not defend me when his friends made fun of my looks. We were at an engagement and his friends kept teasing me for being too traditional. They called me behenji type. I was wearing a sleeveless top with a dupatta. He laughed along instead of stopping them. He thinks my style is too old. Is this a red flag?

Hello, I am 27. Never had any girlfriend and never ever touched a girl, nor had sex with any sex worker as it was my choice to remain virgin till marriage. I am looking for a partner to marry, but nowadays girls are having past, sexual history and they are always hiding or lying. So I am looking for a girl who has no past relations and is virgin and loyal. These are my preferences and I think they should be. I am not forcing it on others, but for me virginity, loyalty and no past matters the most in life. So what should i do tofind a girl with no past relations, virgin and loyal?

My girlfriend still talks to her ex 'as a friend.' It didn't bother me earlier but now, either they are talking and sharing every detail or I am being more observant. But it’s eating me up. If I enter the room, she hides her chats and says I’m overreacting whenever I bring it up. I don't want to be controlling, I have never been. But I don’t want to look like a fool. How do you know if there is something beyond friendship between them?

Hello there! There is an introverted boy I have liked for over a year now. 5 month ago I asked him out on a date and he rejected me. He said he wasn’t dating anyone at the moment. It is true, he never dated anyone and hasn’t since then. Now he is acting strangely and hangs out with me more, stares at me, seems nervous, has hour long conversations with me about his dreams and goals, and his family. We know each other a lot better now but he is confusing me completely. Is there something i could say to get an answer? It is driving me crazy. There is another guy who likes me and I feel so bad because I like him too but not as much as this other guy!!

Mam boyfriend doesn't take with me. What I can do this time. Only he talk with me when he will be in some problem

Am asking my wife for divorce desperately, as my girl friend wants to marry me. Am persuading her but the problem is my wife's boyfriend is not demanding or hurrying for it. So wife is like ignoring the request, and am fine with all, daughter also can go with her. I want this marriage to end soon. But there is no progress in situation. 14 years of marriage is just for namesake. We both don't like to stay with each other.

Meri gf ki sagai ho gai hai ab mere se km baat karti hai jis ladke ke sath sagai hue usse jyada bat krti hai mai dukhi hu is baat se ab mujhe kya Krna chahiye plese

I am 48 year old man divorced 3 years back after 22 years marriage. My ex-wife got custody of children and I pay maintenance. Now I met wonderful lady age 41 who is also divorced. We both want to marry but my children aged 20 and 17 are completely against it. They say if I marry I will lose them forever. Should I choose my happiness or my children?

It is always me who initiats a conversation in my relationship but when ever I do I receive a response with equal intensity and will does it matter who calls first or it matters how is the response to the call

I am a 58 year old widower my wife passed away 18 months back. I have 2 sons aged 28 years and 20 years. I am constantly approached by a 43 years old lady who is a divorcee and have 18 year old son with marriage proposal. We are known to each other for several years. Before her proposal I have never thought of remarriage. She is a very good human being and very attractive and now I am unsure how to handle the proposal. Requesting you help that how should I handle this.

The guy I'm dating screenshots our personal chats and sometimes even shares them with his friends as jokes. It’s making me very uncomfortable and self-conscious whenever I talk to him. I like him, but this behaviour feels like a breach of trust. How should I confront him about this without sounding insecure or controlling?

Hello, Im in my 40s and single. I need a life partner,who is respondible and similar to my culture. How should I approach people. I have tried matrimonial sites I do wish to settle down. Thankyou

I am a 49 year old widower,have 2 daughters, and looking for my remarriage.Six months back i contacted one lady, through one matrimonial site ,divorcee,47 yrs old from Mumbai who faced Domestic violence in her first marriage and has one son.since then we have been chatting on whatsapp daily,talked few times on phone and met once 4 months back she is good looking and i have expressed my feelings for her.she says she has no such feelings for me but needs time as she is talking with other proposals at the same time and asked me too to do the same.one problem with me ,as she says ,is i am too tall for her height as the height difference is almost 10 inches and other problem is i am well placed job wise but in a good city in other state.she has very good other proposals also but chats with me dailly everyday for last 6 months where we had talked casually and friendly too .i am confused now and apprehensive also about what final decision she would take a about me.

Dear Sir/Madam, I am 45YO working in GCC and She is 45YO working in India govt banking sector. We met through matrimonial site in 2009. We liked each other and decided to get marry. But due to some arrogent way of talking of her and her mother with my mother, which I didn't like at all. So before gettting finalising and engagement, I decided to go away from her without hurting and it took 5 month in Feb 2010. Actually I AM AGAINST HURTING ANYBODY'D'S HEART. So I made a situaton like that she rejected me. While meeting we both decided, even though, if we are not getting married with other we will be as friends in future. So I got married in 2011 and She got married in 2012. After our marriage we got busy in our married life and we were not able to contact with other for several years. But in second half of 2019 we again came into to contact over phone WA. Once she demanded make-up box and some chocolates from GCC, so I provided through courier. Then her demand increased with mobile recharge, Sani-pads, U/garment, gifts through Amezon, Flipkaut, Zamato, Swiggu etc etc.. One day she told she want to marry me, because there were physical quarrel with the husband and MIL, So she want to get divorse due to dosmetic violence between them. I avoided this topic as I am happy with my married life. Then 1 day she had some gmeil problem she was not receving email so she shared password. So I cleared all the promotions and unuseful stuff from her gmeil account. But I was shocked when I saw that she had saved all communication of having extramarital affair chats of WA with her office 2 different colleagues and, 1 Garage mechanic and College friend all were vulgar chats and different-different years. Especially all vulgar words and arrangement and planning made by her to meet in different room location. There I came to know why her husband is so physical quarrel with her. She had mentioned about husband activity of beating to her. And so both of them want to get divorse. But this all thing I kept it confidential with me from her. Let she admit some day. But I am still waiting. Now after 2021 all this has stopped because I convinced her and made her feel what she was doing after meeting her. She admitted her mistake and she promised that she will not go in wrong path. She also said it happened unknowingly she went with the flow. But She pleaded me and wants my Love and want to marry me privately and for her happiness, she in under divorce process. She proposed me for marriage in 2021 till now I have avoided with some excuses. Coming to the main topic, since 2021 to 2025, whenever I visit India, we meet each other, as I too have soft-corner for her and Love her as we were first Love of each other in 2009. Everytime when I inform her that I am coming to India, her dreams flies in sky and tells me come soon, I want to marry with You. And every time she ask something or the other gift as mentioned above. How should I get rid of this burden of over-expenses. Due to this it is difficult to manage my monthly expenses, means "The snake has to be killed and the stick should remain intact". Everytime I tells her this month not possible next month for sure, but again after 2-3 days she comes with new demand. And I am sure, if I broke this relationship she will again go to wrong path as she is getting divorce. Pls give some tips how to reply her to stop these expenses from me.

Hi im 27 year old girl. My parents are looking for an alliance and liked a profile through matrimony. The guy also liked mine and asked for my no. He did chat well on the first day but then it felt like i was aksing majority of the questions and he was just responding to that. It has been a week. He just starts everyday with good morning or good noon. He doesn't ask anything else about me. Thing is im an intorvert but im trying hard to continue the conversation and understand him. Since his family is busy with some function they said they will fix first meetup in mid of the month with both families. He also asked for my insta. He doesnt seem to have much followers the no. Is in single digit. When asked he said he just opened recently and he doesnt use insta much. And he is also following these couple pages filled with wierd makeout videos. Im losing interest in him and also doubt his character. I dont know what to do.

My partner and I want to explore an open relationship. We are both creative artistes in our early 30s, switching between Goa and Bangalore for work. We have been in a live-in relationship for five years, but since we are not married, we'd like to explore the possibility of an open relationship where we are not mutually exclusive to each other. The idea is exciting because it will mean more freedom for both of us. I am an introvert and he likes to flirt casually. But honestly, deep down, I'm terrified. I've had flashes of intense jealousy just imagining him with someone else, and the thought of emotional hurt is paralysing. How do we even begin to set truly healthy boundaries and clear communication rules to ensure our primary relationship remains strong, and that we protect each other from unnecessary pain? What are the biggest mistakes couples make when venturing into non-monogamy, and how do I know if I can genuinely handle the emotional complexities of this journey without losing myself?

My girlfriend is too clingy and constantly wants to text or call me even when I’m at work. I love her, but I feel suffocated. How do I create space in the relationship without hurting her feelings?

I am Brahmin working in bank and he is Jat working in airforce. We are together for almost 5 years and we discussed about our marriage with family, but both sides denied and my mother threatens to lodge fir against them and then they threaten to kill me and boy and my mother if we marry against their consent. I think that they are just playing game to secure themselves. They have fixed his marriage along with his brother in December forcefully. We want to marry each other . We are so stressed and depressed Thse days, our family have made us so weak. We are looking for some way to convince them. Please suggest some thing to easy the process of convincing .

Hii , I am career oriented female and just 23 years old. I have certain aspirations and dreams to fulfill before getting married. I have a boyfriend who is a very genuine guy, but he insists on getting married early in next two - three years. However I want to take sometime to get settled in my career, explore about myself, my career so that I don’t regret settling later in years. The problem is that I need time and my boyfriend can’t wait due to certain family issues. I will be on a crossroad after two years, please suggest.

Am 39 years I failed to get someone to get married to what should I do

My self Manish from Aggarwal family widower my age 59 ,my wife expired on Jan 2020, then after 2 years I marry with 52 year lady she stay 1.5 years then she go back due to she not feeling comfortable with my Daughter in law, so know I feel very lonely what can I do sometime feel now I don't get marry again I stay alone at home and find some committed relation with someone from Ludhiana itself. What can I do please suggest Manish

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I am in a relationship with two men. One is an old friend who has been with me since my school days. I always thought of him as my friend but he recently proposed marriage. The other guy is my former colleague who I truly love but his parents do not agree to our marriage because he is a Catholic and I am a Jain. I tried breaking up with him but my heart refuses to let him go. He supports me but says that I will have to adjust after marriage. Meanwhile, my school friend is aware of my feelings and has been with me despite knowing about my past relationships. My family thinks I should choose him over my boyfriend. I am honestly confused and I am not able to decide what and who is right for me. Can you please help? Both are equally loving and care for me.

Am 39 years I failed to get a man what should I do

Hi I am facing a situation I don't understand well I have been dating with this girl for over 3yrs but in those 3yrs we used to chat only once a week then things changed in an instant so we lived in different areas we didn't speak to each other again until this year 2025 after 1 year I approached her I told her I still love her she said she loves me too and we kissed now when ever I see her she doesn't come to me everytime I have to go to her I think it's her friend making her do this to me

Me and my ex were in a relation for almost 2 years. At first everything was alright. We were so happy, then he started demading private videos of me but when i denied he used to get angry and wouodnt talk unless i agreed. I trusted him blindly and sent a few as he promised he would delete them at once. Months kater when i randomly asked if he still got those videoshe confessedhe never deleted them. I was shattered and my trust was instantly broken. But i loved him so blindly i still didnt have the courage to leave. I couldnt face my parents after that. I felt i failed them. The vakues they taught me. I forgit everything for his happiness. When i finally got the courage i broke up but then he started calling me a cheater, a girl who played with his feelings, who got bored of him and a girl who has no respect. After a while he relaised his mistakes. Its been a year now. I still love him and miss hjm so much. I met him randomly once. He looked changed and said my departure has left him so devastated and he wants me back. He says hes changed. I dont kmow if i should go back to him or not. Whenever i talk to him i forget everything, but the moment the contact goes off i get panic attacks, i get reminded of the way he used to touch me wothout my permission and how he used to force me. He said he knows many girls who sends such videos to their bf. He said he confessed he still had those vidoes because he didnt want to lie to me. I suffered a lotbecause of him and i am still not over it. I still dont trust him. But i dont know why my love for hjm is so blind. Did i do the right thng by walking away? He is literally begging for another chance. I used to tell hjm how uncomfortable his touches and desires made me when we were in a relation, gave him many chnaces but he didnt care then. Now after break up he says hes changed a lot, he is more mayure now. And he wont repeat the same mistakes again. And he will gain my trust back. Should i go back to him? He said we will both regret if we dont give each other another chance, but i fear relationships now. My mind says to never trust again but my heart wants him despite what he did to me. Help me. Should i leave or stay? If i stay am i putting my mental health at risk again? Because i have heard rereading the same chapter doesnt change the ending. Help me please. Do i deserve someone better or should i give him a chance again? Is he worth it. I cant go through that pain again. I still feel disgusted about myself, ofhow ilet him crossmy boundaries even when i begged not to. What should i do?

Hi, I am 32M. I never had any relationships in the past...One sided was there but I overcame it and focused on my work. One day in gym i came across a girl 23F, we connected on insta and started chatting. Eventually we fell in love, I know this doesn’t sound good due to the age gap. We dated, had good times and emotionally connected with each other a lot. Now while discussing something, she revealed that she is not a virgin. There was a guy in her society she met around 3 years back (when she was 19) and she was in one sided love with him. They never confessed their love to each other. And she is not in touch with him anymore it was long back. Also she said she had made out with another guy whom she met 1 month back during her classes, prior to meeting me. I was really hurt to listen all these. Like how all these things she is doing at this age. I accepted her and then we had good 2 months again. After 2 months, I got to know she was following the first guy on insta. When confronted she said she used to like to see him and his girlfriend together. She was really not in touch with the guy but she was just following him. It was hurtful to me. We had a big fight on this. They used to share intimate pics with each other too. After forcing her to tell everything about her past, she told that she used to flirt with lot of boys. First in junior college with best friend she shared intimate pics, then met with the guy she lost virginity with, then she met another friend she shared pics with. Then in last year, in classes she shared pics with friend, then again with someone and then she had a crush on some guy with whom she made out. She was connected with them on insta. Like no talks but she was following them and they followed her too. There were almost 6-7 guys she used to talk as friend and has shared intimate pics and she called it flirting. I was shocked to hear all these. I am still shocked. This is out of my mind. It is very difficult to accept that few boys have intimate pics of my girlfriend. She has been very very loyal to me since we are together. She never got this kind of love in her life. She is really super happy in this relationship. We are emotionally connected a lot. I have treated her like a child and I love her a lot. She comes from a good family. She says she has been in wrong circle and all her friends are like this only. She cried a lot and she regrets it deeply like what she has done and she wants to get out of all these. But if feel, a persons character never changes. There will be so cold moments in relationships In future, will she be able to manage herself and stay honest. I really doubt a lot. She is really good at heart like a family girl but her past is really really terrible I feel. I feel, even though I love her will I be able to accept her past. Do I deserve this ? Do my family deserve this ? But again I think of risking it all because she is really invested in this relationship and I feel very bad to break her heart. I come from a very traditional background and believe in sacred and pure form of love. But I feel I got trapped in something which I can’t leave and can’t have whole heartedly. I am not able to focus on my work and everything. It’s hurting me a lot. Should I accept her ac she is or moving on will be better for both of us, even though it might break her heart.

I’m in a bit of an emotional storm and could use some honest, empathetic advice. I recently got engaged through an arranged setup. She’s everything I had hoped for—mature, innocent in her demeanor, beautiful, and emotionally grounded. From the moment we met, I felt like I’d found the right person to build a future with. I was genuinely happy and excited for the life ahead. But about 10 days after our engagement, she opened up to me about her past. She told me she had been in a physical relationship with someone before. She said she was scared to share it earlier, unsure of how I’d react, and that she didn’t want to lose me. She assured me that it’s completely over, that she’s emotionally detached from that chapter, and that she’s fully mine now. I appreciate her honesty, but I’m struggling. I feel discomfort, even a sense of betrayal—not because she had a past, but because I wasn’t told earlier. It’s hard to reconcile the image I had in my mind with this new reality. From what she shared, her previous relationship wasn’t healthy—the guy seemed to have used her emotionally and physically. That adds another layer of pain for me. I feel protective but also conflicted. I know she’s loyal now. I know she’s the right person for me in so many ways. But I’m stuck between my heart and my thoughts. I don’t want to punish her for her past, but I also don’t want to ignore my own feelings. Has anyone been through something similar? How do you move forward with love when the past feels heavy? Is this discomfort something that fades with time and trust? Any advice or perspective would mean a lot.