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Girls reject me because I am not so tall and handsome. I am 41, single. I have a 9 to 6 job earning 12 lakhs per annum. I lost my dad and live with my mother. My younger sister is married and has two kids. Somehow I have not been lucky with online dating. Girls reject me beause I am average in looks and salary. I am 5 ft 1 inch. I don't have any special talent or passion. I have tried to take up singing, art, dance, gym but it's not working for me. I go to temples with my mom, I do social work on weekends to keep myself positive and busy. When it comes to dating and marriage, it is disappointing sometimes. I am afraid to express myself to girls now. I don't judge anyone but how do I find someone who understands me, beyond my looks and salary. My mother is 64, I also need a companion. Is it too much to expect?

I had a woman colleague whom I was very close with her.I had lots of interactions with her daily lunch outing lunch etc..but we both are in early 40s both r married and having kids.We had a special liking don't know beyond it.I was crazy on her and always thinking of her.She resigned and got relieved gave her gifts etc..I used to pick her drop her etc..But after resigned I was in constant touch with her and she never told me where she joined.One day I called her and she didn't pick the call and when I wrote hope ur busy she wrote a nasty message stating I was searching her where she went and didn't che k with her and I will show this message to entire world etc ..she wrote ..I tried to convince them topic changed but this hurt me very very badly with sleepless nights.I have done lots lots and help to her during her tenure but she was selfish and threw me with bad intentions.Then after few days I also wrote ur a opportunity,selfish and then I helped u etc and we had a complete split she returned my gift amount and I paid for her charity which she collects for the year.But anyways not able to move away from our thoughts even though we have completely split and both blocked out numbers etc..Let me know how to come out from this iam so depressed not in a mood to do anything..

My partner wants an open relationship. I don't know what that means. He says we can get married but we can continue to date other people. Means he can date another girl and I can date someone else. What is the point of getting married then? I found it very confusing. Why would anyone agree to this? I have known him for 5 years now but this clause is making me doubt his intentions. What should I do?

Why does my girlfriend always tell me that other boys flirt with her? We are in a relationship, and I really love her, but I don’t understand why she keeps bringing this up. It makes me feel uncomfortable and sometimes insecure. Is she trying to make me jealous, get attention, or test my feelings? What should I do in this situation?

Sir my ex is reinter in my life

Hi Sir, My married life has been a complete disaster its been 1.8 yrs. Before marriage, I had only one past relationship. My husband repeatedly asked if I had any physical relationship before marriage. I denied it initially, and when I asked him about his past, he vaguely said he had dated three women for about three months each. Whenever I asked directly about physical involvement or even something as simple as kissing, he avoided the topic or changed the subject. On the first day of our arranged marriage, after intimacy, he said something that confused me. I was already scared and anxious. Later, when he asked me to share something I had never told anyone, I told him the truth—that my past relationship involved physical intimacy, and that it was forced, not by my choice. After that, his behavior completely changed. He stopped talking to me, even during our honeymoon. We were intimate only twice, but emotionally he was completely absent. I cried constantly. After returning home, he started avoiding me, leaving the house despite working from home. He verbally abused me, made derogatory comments about my character, and threatened to tell my parents and divorce me, accusing me of hiding my past. He even went on a Europe trip alone for 15 days, barely contacting me, which made me fear he was cheating. Due to constant fights and emotional abuse, I started looking into his past and discovered disturbing things—multiple physical relationships (8–9), emails linked to prostitutes, a banned Tinder account he tried to restore even after our engagement, and trips with an ex just days before our engagement. He called her “just a friend,” but the evidence said otherwise. I also found intimate photos and videos of his exes saved on his hard disk, even though they were many years old. Despite all this, he continued to accuse and defame me in front of his parents, saying I lied about my past, while he had never disclosed his own. What I saw and experienced has deeply scarred me, and I feel he never had any emotional attachment to me from the beginning. Ever since I told him the truth, he has shown no care, no empathy, and no love. I am left questioning—was I wrong to look into his past when I was being emotionally abused and accused? Or is he simply not the right person for me, someone who lacks emotional maturity, honesty, and compassion?

My boyfriend does not have a stable job, but he wants me to move in with him. We have been in a relationship for two years, and because he travels frequently for work, he feels living together will help us spend more time as a couple. He works as a freelance product photographer and regularly travels to cities like Pune, Delhi, Bangalore, Ahmedabad, and Chennai. I’m unsure whether moving in with an unstable partner is a practical decision or if finances and career stability should come first. Should I agree to live together in this situation, or wait until he has a more secure job?

I want to create a personal gift for my husband on Valentine's Day. His birthday is also coming up in two weeks. He loves beer and football. Ours was an arranged marriage and we have a 3 year old son. I want to invite his friends over for his birthday. What do you think I can gift him for Valentine's?

I started dating someone just six weeks ago. Valentine’s Day is around the corner and I'm confused about Valentine gift ideas. I don’t want to look too eager, but I also don’t want to seem like I don't care or pamper enough. Can you suggest some safe Valentine gifting tips for a new relationship?

I am a college student with a monthly pocket money of Rs 500. My girlfriend is secretly expecting a big Valentine gift, but I can't afford expensive things. She doesn't like roses or chocolates. Can you suggest some meaningful Valentine gifting ideas that look and feel big but are within my budget. I can spend up to Rs 800, not more.

My gf doubts me a lot. Earlier I used to clarify very innocently. Now I hesitate because she uses it against me all the time. I cannot meet my friends or go out without an argument. I don't understand why she is behaving like this. My friends also face similar issue and that's why they don't tell the truth when they are stepping out. Is this true?

A friend from my past wants to reconnect romantically, but I’m now married. I have feelings too but I don't to regret later. What should I do?

The boy I like is dating another girl. But he is giving me mixed signals. I am afraid if I ask him now I might lose any chance of knowing him and asking him at the right time. I am 22, he is 26. What should I do?

My family is pressurising me to get married to a girl I am not interested in. I am 36 and the girl is 28. I am traditional, old school and she looks younger, the partying, late night kinds. She is very active on social media. In fact, she was very judgemental about my clothes and totally non-committed about relationships when we spoke in our first meeting. I can say with confidence that our vibes don't match but my parents don't seem to understand my expectations. There was no formal engagement but my parents are proceeding with the marriage formalities because our parents are business partners. They feel I am overthinking and overreacting. I feel like no one is listening to me, what I want, including my grandparents. What should I do? I want to run away from all this drama.

Hello. I am currently in my second year of Engineering. I have been studying in a boarding school since 8th standard. Till 7th, there was a girl whom I didn't like much. But, after seeing her after almost 1.5 year, in 9th, I was literally shocked. I got a deep crush for her. But the biggest problem has raised because my family shifted to a city far away from the previous one in my 10th standard. I can't even find her anywhere, not on Instagram or anywhere on social media. Her father might be there in contact list of my dad's phone. But I am very much afraid to inform regarding this to my family. What should I do ?

Dear Sir, I am 45YO working in GCC and She is 45YO working in India govt banking sector. We met through matrimonial site in 2009. We liked each other and decided to get marry. But due to some arrogent way of talking of her and her mother with my mother, which I didn't like at all. So before gettting finalising and engagement, I decided to go away from her without hurting and it took 5 month in Feb 2010. Actually I AM AGAINST HURTING ANYBODY'D'S HEART. So I made a situaton like that she rejected me. While meeting we both decided, even though, if we are not getting married with other we will be as friends in future. So I got married in 2011 and She got married in 2012. After our marriage we got busy in our married life and we were not able to contact with other for several years. But in second half of 2019 we again came into to contact over phone WA. Once she demanded make-up box and some chocolates from GCC, so I provided through courier. Then her demand increased with mobile recharge, Sani-pads, U/garment, sometime cakes on birthdays for her and for her 2 daughters, for late father's, own mother even though her mother stays in different city, gifts through Amezon, Flipkaut, Zamato, Swiggu etc etc.. One day she told she want to marry me, because there were physical quarrel with the husband and MIL, So she want to get divorse due to dosmetic violence between them. I avoided this topic as I am happy with my married life. Then 1 day she had some gmeil problem she was not receving email so she shared password. So I cleared all the promotions and unuseful stuff from her gmeil account. But I was shocked when I saw that she had saved all communication of having extramarital affair chats of WA with her office 2 different colleagues and, 1 Garage mechanic and College friend all were vulgar chats and different-different years. Especially all vulgar words and arrangement and planning made by her to meet in different room location. There I came to know why her husband is so physical quarrel with her. She had mentioned about husband activity of beating to her. And so both of them want to get divorse. But this all thing I kept it confidential with me from her. Let she admit some day. But I am still waiting. Now after 2021 all this has stopped because I convinced her and made her feel what she was doing after meeting her. She admitted her mistake and she promised that she will not go in wrong path. She also said it happened unknowingly she went with the flow. But She pleaded me and wants my Love and want to marry me privately and for her happiness, she in under divorce process. She proposed me for marriage in 2021 till now I have avoided with some excuses. Coming to the main topic, since 2021 to 2025, whenever I visit India, we meet each other, as I too have soft-corner for her and Love her as we were first Love of each other in 2009. Everytime when I inform her that I am coming to India, her dreams flies in sky and tells me come soon, I want to marry with You. And every time she ask something or the other gift as mentioned above. How should I get rid of this burden of over-expenses. Due to this it is difficult to manage my monthly expenses, means "The snake has to be killed and the stick should remain intact". Everytime I tells her this month not possible next month for sure, but again after 2-3 days she comes with new demand. And I am sure, if I broke this relationship she will again go to wrong path as she is getting divorce. Pls give some tips how to reply her to stop these expenses from me.

My son a corporate lawyer is 27, he is seeing a girl since covid 19 ended, the girl is well educated, courteous,rightly placed but very independent minded. they both want to marry and myself and my wife do not have any objection to it, infact we have agreed that they can live independently post wedding to hav desired privacy subject to uphlding indian values. they both understand it very well. Now the issue is the girls parents appear to have objection to her wedding wince they think they are rich and if the girl marries our son she will have to face regular constraint for money and will need to live like middile class families. Their point is well undertood by us and respected by us i.e. myself my wife and my son. Issue is 1. we the parents never knew that they were very socalled rich, 2. we never thought that the the couple will marry as my son had told us multiple times that they dont haveany such plan. 3. we as parents are ok with they not marryiing or marrying, only this is the cancellatin of marriage will scar our son for ever emotionally as he had said that if she does not marry him he will not marry again. Kindly advise how do we support this situation to avoid damage to everyone.

Hello Dr, I am married for 24 years. Our was love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had leave my fathers house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have 2 son who now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelors status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife is also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In Dec'2024 I lost my job and came back to mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically We both are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like to reconnect with her physically and emotionally. But dont know she is a changed person. She doesnt have emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how should I handle this situation. I want her back in my life.

Hi RediffGurus, I’m a 30M (CTC : 30LPA) and currently in serious marriage discussions with a woman (28F ; CTC : 25LPA) I met through Shaadi.com. Some context: We’ve met 5+ times one-on-one Our families have met twice Conversations have been deep and transparent on values, marriage expectations, kids, finances, lifestyle We even went as far as sharing ITR, CIBIL scores, investment details We both did and shared full body health checkups, including fertility, STDs, and thalassemia In our 2nd meet, we discussed past relationships. She told me she had one relationship. In the last meet a few days ago, she herself brought up physical intimacy (I did not bring this up out of nowhere). I honestly shared that I’m a Virgin. She explicitly said she is a Virgin too. After that, we got formally engaged with the Blessings of both Families & continued meeting up with each other, occassionally. Then during one of our recent meets, out of nowhere, she confessed that she is NOT a Virgin and that she had been physical with her ex. Her explanation was that at the time the topic came up earlier, she wasn’t comfortable sharing and ended up giving an incorrect answer. She said she fumbled her response to her own question. Now I’m struggling with something deeper than just the V-card aspect. Because: This was explicitly discussed, not assumed She had multiple chances to correct it earlier We were already at a stage of extreme transparency in other sensitive areas. Now I’m questioning other things we’ve discussed that I can’t independently verify. Like views on cheating, open marriage, long-term expectations, etc. I don’t know: Whether this is a forgivable lapse due to fear/discomfort? Or a red flag about honesty? Or what, realistically, she can do now to rebuild trust? I don’t want to overreact, but I also don’t want to ignore this. How should I proceed in this situation? What questions should I ask myself or her before deciding whether to move forward or walk away?

Seeking advice to help my brother move on after failed love/marriage Hi Sir/Madam, My brother was in a relationship with a girl who is 14 years younger than him. They had been in love for more than 10 years. The girl’s family was aware of their relationship, but our family was not. After nearly 10 years, my brother informed us that he wanted to marry her. This came as a shock to our family, and we initially did not agree to the marriage. None of us in the family (my parents, my sister, or I) approved of his choice for several reasons. For two years, we tried to convince him not to go ahead with the marriage, but he was firm in his decision. Eventually, we accepted his choice, and the marriage took place. However, after the marriage, they never stayed together even for a single day. The girl left soon after for her exam preparation, which lasted about 8 months. Later, she expressed that she no longer wanted to live with him, saying she had lost all feelings for him and wanted a divorce. My brother still loves her deeply and wants to live with her. He is even ready to accept all her conditions, including her wish to work. But the girl continues to reject him and insists on getting a divorce. We are trying to convince my brother to accept the reality, let go of the past, and start a new life. However, he remains emotionally attached to her and is unable to move on. Our aged parents are deeply distressed, as he is not listening to anyone’s advice. He is now 39 years old, and we are worried that he is losing precious time and peace of mind. Please suggest how we can help him overcome this difficult phase and begin a new chapter in his life.

Sir, I used to teach a girl. After a year, we both fell in love with each other. But then I suffered from a serious mental illness, and during that time, I asked her to tie a rakhi (sacred thread symbolizing a brother-sister relationship). Now that I’ve recovered, I still have feelings of love for her. What should I do?

I'm 21M, 2year cllg student. I'm attracted towards 3year senior girl. She is very pretty, and very beautiful n attractive. I see her with respect and wanted to talk n meet but never able to do it.. I just notice her and my mind kinda start observing her.. I liked her social nature, very passionate speaker and good dancer and have a bold voice. Her vibe is chilling and funny. But here is me fantasizing about her, meeting her and smiles, giggles in thinking. As I'm bit insecure and ambivert but I tried to be open n social by joining club and spreading connection but my due to my nature all same. It's going to be 10 month of her being my crush but ... Tell me the RIGHT path.. forget her(which I can't) or confess her( which I'm not able to)..

Hello... I don’t know what to do here or am I playing with my life or what..! I am a woman making my career As CMA which will be done within 4 years as i have already cleared half of the exams and after that my family has said that they will wait for 4 years max and then i need to marry cus i have two more sisters younger than me on the other side i wanna marry my bf but he is not settled yet and said he need time to settle his dreams are also big like setting multiple business and has to set 5 business like gym+sanitary+electrical equipments+ home decor+tiles and said he also wanna buy a car due to this he can’t focus on marriage and said “in sab ke alawa mujhe kuch nahi sujhta” but also said that “if he was doing something he would definitely marry me cus he need a life partner “ but these business will take time like many years...I am getting too much proposals right now cus it is my prime age for this. I am too confused what should I do as my bf said that he can’t even do engagement before those things and my family will pressure me in 4th year

Hi I am married for 24 years. Our was a love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had to leave my father's house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have two sons who are now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelor status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife was also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In December 2024 I lost my job and came back to Mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically both of us are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like reconnecting with her physically and emotionally. But I feel like she is a changed person. She doesnt have any emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how to handle this situation. I want her back in my life.

I am around 59, I was never married, possibly no luck or rue my past chances when I was young and attractive, I am still in good looks, hit the gym everyday; I like one girl who is single, 29 years old and am seriously interested in her, she is quiet and works in sales-telecom, her english is not so eloquent but I find her very attractive, I am interested to marry her, I met her in th past, she likes my dressing, personality, finds me attractive but never reciprocated to me, she is altogether conservative, I did not have her telephone number and email but got her coordinates from a known person to both, I like her very much. I sent her messages on her email - no obscene messages but like "I adore you", "I like you" etc in hindi; I quietly saw the reciepant in her email "+1" - but cannot fathom this "+1" receipant, so was scared maybe she connected me to her HR or to police but I am a a smart and intelligent bloke; maybe she could put me into police?? -but I never would write anything obscene to her; but whenever I send her message I always write the first line - "please do not complain" - how to improvise ?? My body functions very fine, my productivity I assume is good because I exercise regularly and before I was a long distance runner; I am definately going to tell her that - I wish to marry her and that "I like you intensely" !! please advise ?? - dreams need to be attempted !! regards

I met a boy in arrange marriage meeting one week ago he said that he had no drinking habit then tomorrow we meet again then he admitted he drinking occasionally what should I do now

Hi. We are a family of 4, my husband aged 45 years, myself of 44 years and 2 kids, a son aged 3 years and a daughter aged 15 years. I have been feeling lonely since last 4-5 years and since my husband used to get angry over me for small reasons, I only discuss only if it feels absolutely necessary. Our emotional and physical connect was also entirely missing. Recently I found my husband cheating with another woman and when asked for he admitted of cheating me with multiple different women over last 6 years. Although he admits his mistake and it feels as if he is trying to improve and give more attention to me, however i fear that he may cheat again which has resulted in sleepless nights filled with fear for me even when he sleeps besides me. It seems that I have 3 options. Option 1 - To continue my life and let him do whatever he wants. Option 2 - Give him a chance assuming that he will not cheat, Option 3 - Seperate from him, assuming that he is definitely going to cheat. I have read on multiple forums that on ce a male starts cheating he never stops. Pls guide on which option I should take.

Is 16 too young to date? I am in first year of college, and I like meeting someone during weekends. He's my childhood friend who has known me since I was 7. But my parents believe that relationships are a distraction and should only happen after marriage. Because of this, I hide things from them, which makes me feel guilty and stressed too. I want honesty but I know how my parents will react if I tell them who I meet. How should I deal with my relationship while living with parents? Is it a crime to meet and share your feelings?

Shadi se pahle wife ka past malum ho gya to kya karu

I am in a physical relationship with a younger neighbour. He recently told me that he has a girlfriend but he doesn't want to get married to her. They have been childhood friends so she is seeing me as competition. She feels that I am the reason for their breakup. I don't know how to handle this.

I have a huge crush on my college professor. He is 41, tall, looks smart and teaches management in two other colleges. Lot of girls like him but he has never taken advantage of that, at least not that I know of. I even found out that he got divorced two years ago. My friend told me that she saw his profile on a dating app. Ever since then, I've been wanting to tell him how I feel. I don't want to have an affair in college, but I just want to tell him how much I admire him. I am 19 and this is the first time I have felt this way about any guy. My friends think I am crazy, this is just hormones. How to find out if this is real?

My married ex still texts me for comfort. Because of him, I am unable to move on. He makes me feel guilty by saying he got married out of family pressure. His dad is a cardiac patient and mom is being treated for cancer. He comforts me by saying he will get separated soon and we will get married because he only loves me. We have been in a relationship for 14 years and despite everything we tried, his parents refused to accept me, so he chose to get married to someone who understands our situation. I don't know when he will separate from his wife. She knows about us too but she comes from a traditional family. She also confirmed there is no physical intimacy between them. I trust him, but is it worth losing my youth for him? Honestly, I am worried and very confused.

I'm 43 married and I want to date again. After our marriage, my husband shifted to Dubai and has no plans to return to India. Ours was an arranged marriage. I have two daughters, both are in high school. I recently found out that he is cheating on me. I can't get divorced till he returns to India but I don't want to be single and feel guilty or blame my husband. My husband never loved me. I want to feel loved again. I don't know how and where to get started. Can you help?

Hello Sir, I'm really struggling with my family's behavior after my arranged marriage. They pushed me into it, and now they're constantly guilt-tripping me and badmouthing my wife and her family. It's getting really tough to handle, and I'm feeling overwhelmed. Can you please offer some advice on how to deal with this situation? I just want to be happy and have my family's support.

I am also in same but I am 57 yrs old looking for same. Can u suggest such reliable dating apps who are serious

Hi so i was in relation with one girl since one year we met through matrimony site, my family knew about her and her family expect dad evryone met me so we planned evrerything about marriage but now she dont want to marry me because she is like dad wont accept me since our caste is diffrenet and her dad come up with some good aliances with good package so now she dont want me and want to end this but i was fully engagaed in this now my age is also like finding girl will be difgicult so what should i do now I want to take revenge because she suddenly changed decision without good closure Shoul i text her future groom plz advise

My boyfriend did not defend me when his friends made fun of my looks. We were at an engagement and his friends kept teasing me for being too traditional. They called me behenji type. I was wearing a sleeveless top with a dupatta. He laughed along instead of stopping them. He thinks my style is too old. Is this a red flag?

Hello, I am 27. Never had any girlfriend and never ever touched a girl, nor had sex with any sex worker as it was my choice to remain virgin till marriage. I am looking for a partner to marry, but nowadays girls are having past, sexual history and they are always hiding or lying. So I am looking for a girl who has no past relations and is virgin and loyal. These are my preferences and I think they should be. I am not forcing it on others, but for me virginity, loyalty and no past matters the most in life. So what should i do tofind a girl with no past relations, virgin and loyal?

My girlfriend still talks to her ex 'as a friend.' It didn't bother me earlier but now, either they are talking and sharing every detail or I am being more observant. But it’s eating me up. If I enter the room, she hides her chats and says I’m overreacting whenever I bring it up. I don't want to be controlling, I have never been. But I don’t want to look like a fool. How do you know if there is something beyond friendship between them?

Hello there! There is an introverted boy I have liked for over a year now. 5 month ago I asked him out on a date and he rejected me. He said he wasn’t dating anyone at the moment. It is true, he never dated anyone and hasn’t since then. Now he is acting strangely and hangs out with me more, stares at me, seems nervous, has hour long conversations with me about his dreams and goals, and his family. We know each other a lot better now but he is confusing me completely. Is there something i could say to get an answer? It is driving me crazy. There is another guy who likes me and I feel so bad because I like him too but not as much as this other guy!!

Mam boyfriend doesn't take with me. What I can do this time. Only he talk with me when he will be in some problem

Am asking my wife for divorce desperately, as my girl friend wants to marry me. Am persuading her but the problem is my wife's boyfriend is not demanding or hurrying for it. So wife is like ignoring the request, and am fine with all, daughter also can go with her. I want this marriage to end soon. But there is no progress in situation. 14 years of marriage is just for namesake. We both don't like to stay with each other.

Meri gf ki sagai ho gai hai ab mere se km baat karti hai jis ladke ke sath sagai hue usse jyada bat krti hai mai dukhi hu is baat se ab mujhe kya Krna chahiye plese

I am 48 year old man divorced 3 years back after 22 years marriage. My ex-wife got custody of children and I pay maintenance. Now I met wonderful lady age 41 who is also divorced. We both want to marry but my children aged 20 and 17 are completely against it. They say if I marry I will lose them forever. Should I choose my happiness or my children?

It is always me who initiats a conversation in my relationship but when ever I do I receive a response with equal intensity and will does it matter who calls first or it matters how is the response to the call

I am a 58 year old widower my wife passed away 18 months back. I have 2 sons aged 28 years and 20 years. I am constantly approached by a 43 years old lady who is a divorcee and have 18 year old son with marriage proposal. We are known to each other for several years. Before her proposal I have never thought of remarriage. She is a very good human being and very attractive and now I am unsure how to handle the proposal. Requesting you help that how should I handle this.

The guy I'm dating screenshots our personal chats and sometimes even shares them with his friends as jokes. It’s making me very uncomfortable and self-conscious whenever I talk to him. I like him, but this behaviour feels like a breach of trust. How should I confront him about this without sounding insecure or controlling?

Hello, Im in my 40s and single. I need a life partner,who is respondible and similar to my culture. How should I approach people. I have tried matrimonial sites I do wish to settle down. Thankyou

I am a 49 year old widower,have 2 daughters, and looking for my remarriage.Six months back i contacted one lady, through one matrimonial site ,divorcee,47 yrs old from Mumbai who faced Domestic violence in her first marriage and has one son.since then we have been chatting on whatsapp daily,talked few times on phone and met once 4 months back she is good looking and i have expressed my feelings for her.she says she has no such feelings for me but needs time as she is talking with other proposals at the same time and asked me too to do the same.one problem with me ,as she says ,is i am too tall for her height as the height difference is almost 10 inches and other problem is i am well placed job wise but in a good city in other state.she has very good other proposals also but chats with me dailly everyday for last 6 months where we had talked casually and friendly too .i am confused now and apprehensive also about what final decision she would take a about me.

Dear Sir/Madam, I am 45YO working in GCC and She is 45YO working in India govt banking sector. We met through matrimonial site in 2009. We liked each other and decided to get marry. But due to some arrogent way of talking of her and her mother with my mother, which I didn't like at all. So before gettting finalising and engagement, I decided to go away from her without hurting and it took 5 month in Feb 2010. Actually I AM AGAINST HURTING ANYBODY'D'S HEART. So I made a situaton like that she rejected me. While meeting we both decided, even though, if we are not getting married with other we will be as friends in future. So I got married in 2011 and She got married in 2012. After our marriage we got busy in our married life and we were not able to contact with other for several years. But in second half of 2019 we again came into to contact over phone WA. Once she demanded make-up box and some chocolates from GCC, so I provided through courier. Then her demand increased with mobile recharge, Sani-pads, U/garment, gifts through Amezon, Flipkaut, Zamato, Swiggu etc etc.. One day she told she want to marry me, because there were physical quarrel with the husband and MIL, So she want to get divorse due to dosmetic violence between them. I avoided this topic as I am happy with my married life. Then 1 day she had some gmeil problem she was not receving email so she shared password. So I cleared all the promotions and unuseful stuff from her gmeil account. But I was shocked when I saw that she had saved all communication of having extramarital affair chats of WA with her office 2 different colleagues and, 1 Garage mechanic and College friend all were vulgar chats and different-different years. Especially all vulgar words and arrangement and planning made by her to meet in different room location. There I came to know why her husband is so physical quarrel with her. She had mentioned about husband activity of beating to her. And so both of them want to get divorse. But this all thing I kept it confidential with me from her. Let she admit some day. But I am still waiting. Now after 2021 all this has stopped because I convinced her and made her feel what she was doing after meeting her. She admitted her mistake and she promised that she will not go in wrong path. She also said it happened unknowingly she went with the flow. But She pleaded me and wants my Love and want to marry me privately and for her happiness, she in under divorce process. She proposed me for marriage in 2021 till now I have avoided with some excuses. Coming to the main topic, since 2021 to 2025, whenever I visit India, we meet each other, as I too have soft-corner for her and Love her as we were first Love of each other in 2009. Everytime when I inform her that I am coming to India, her dreams flies in sky and tells me come soon, I want to marry with You. And every time she ask something or the other gift as mentioned above. How should I get rid of this burden of over-expenses. Due to this it is difficult to manage my monthly expenses, means "The snake has to be killed and the stick should remain intact". Everytime I tells her this month not possible next month for sure, but again after 2-3 days she comes with new demand. And I am sure, if I broke this relationship she will again go to wrong path as she is getting divorce. Pls give some tips how to reply her to stop these expenses from me.