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6monsth back I started talking to one of my colleague, he is attractive by his nature. Almost everyone likes him. he is intelligent, funny, etc.... In calls he used to tell me about his family, his friends, his thoughts, also about the girl (Aliya) whom he liked a lot for 6years (they belong to same village), but she rejected and told that he is her friend only. He told her that he may get feelings for her if they both remained as friends, so better stop talking. But she insisted that they both need to be friends and continue talking. I felt like may be she needed emotional support that's why she insisted. After coming to Jaipur, Aliya started talking to another man named Jitesh. But my colleague used to feel like a third wheel and started keeping distance. Then also she told that they are just friends and he need not distant himself. She always wanted him to give her the first priority. He also feared that she might get upset if he don't give her 1st priority. They used to talk a lot on phone and share everything. One day he brought her to our bay where we both used to sit and work. that day I really felt like I was a third wheel. I felt very bad.. cried for few days. And decided not to talk to him from then on because I didn't want to cry anymore. But he kept trying to have a talk with me. One day he almost cried because I was ignoring him. I couldn't see him like that and also I felt guilt about my behaviour(my intention was not to hurt him but to save my tears). I couldn't help but starting talking to him. He used to mention to me whenever he used to talk to her. and everytime I used to feel very bad. We started talking a lot after few weeks. Whenever I didn't receive proper response from him I used to become very anxious waiting for his reply and cried a lot. But when he starts talking again I used to feel normal. I never wanted to get into relationships, so everytime I used to tell him directly or indirectly about it. But still he continued to talk to me. One day he called me and said that Aliya is in love with Jitesh. He said being a friend he is very happy for her but after sometime he also said that if you also love someone I will stop talking with you also. I understand that he is little sad that he cannot talk to Aliya as he used to talk before because she is in love with someone else. We continued to talk and kept talking a lot. One day I felt like I am too much emotionally getting connected to him and felt like these long talks need to stop. So I asked him saying that I didn't get clarity. Then he opened up and proposed me. I thought for a day and I felt he is also a good person and said yes to him. Then on he became my world. Then on he started talking little less with other girls. One day Aliya called him saying that Jitesh had an incident where everyone thought he was drowned but he came back safely. She needed emotional support and asked him to come to office. She also said she that one of her colleagues didn't bring lunch and she don't have enough food to give her so she asked my colleague to prepare some food and bring it to office. At first my colleague said no thinking of me but Aliya convinced him emotionally saying that will you leave friends if you get a girlfriend and so he prepared lunch and took it to office. That day when he told me all these I felt devastated, I felt really insecured and cried a lot that is our first fight regarding her. He told me that if you say no I will stop talking to her. She again called and asked my colleague that what was my reaction for all these... he kept silent she guessed what might have happened and told that I understand how she might have felt and will not ask him to bring food to office anytime. Then on fights started increasing between us regarding her. whenever we three had a conversation i felt like thirdwheel and felt he is showing more attention towards her, more care towards her. again a fight. Like that fights started increasing. At first he used to listen to me, but after some days he started saying like my thinking is wrong. I even told him how much I cried but he didn't bothered. I never wanted to break their friendship so I never wanted to ask him to stop talking(even though he gave me that option). I only wanted him to give me my importance but I still feel he shows equal care to both of us. Then how am I different? Later on in our every fight, he started supporting her this gave me more pain. One day he said If I leave her for you, then I may leave you for someone else, that is not my character( this is contrary to what he said previously 'I will stop talking to her if i don't want to'). I cried a lot, I don't have much friends I couldn't share this with anyone.... every moment he is only coming to my thoughts and whenever fights happen due to Aliya, I get disturbed a lot... unable to concentrate on my work... not getting interest to do anything. One day out of anger I said just stop talking to her then his expressions totally changed he became hesistant , he became very sad and said I need sometime and don't know how much( his expression is contrary to what he said 'It doesn't bother me much If I don't talk to Aliya' ). He is that much emotionally connected to her. After 5mins I pinged him saying that I am feeling very guilt about the decision and ask him not to stop talking to her. I understood finally that he still thinks I am wrong and I am tired of fighting. One day when I was very emotional I told him that I will no more bring Aliya topic in our discussion and asked him to do whatever he wants. After this, Whenever Aliya calls him or he call her he used to tell me... sometimes I felt very bad... sometimes I tried to ignore as if it didn't bothered me but didn't start any argument with him. After few days he even stopped telling me if she called him or not also. When he was not telling about Aliya's conversations I thought he understood my feelings and reduced talking with her. but one time accidently my colleague's friend told about the small conversation that my colleague and Aliya had, that's how I came to know that they had a conversation but he didn't tell me. I felt very bad, really very bad... again unable to concentrate on work feel like crying all the time... I can't ask him to stop talking to her because I don't like to do so and also afraid of having negative impression on me in my colleague's mind. at the same time, I feel very very bad whenever they meet or have a call or does something together. I cannot discuss with him about this anymore. what shall i do, this is bothering me a lot and also having effect on my career, peace and life. please suggest. I am ready to correct myself if there is anything wrong from my end. And I can surely say that If i have a boy bestfriend then he would definitely not feel comfortable and will get upset.

Hi, I am 32 year old male. I have contentment in all major aspects of life such as job, money, friends, family, fun etc. But everytime I try to bring a girl into my life everything just turns in to chaos. There is a lot of pressure from from family, friends and almost everyone that I know for me to get married. But I cannot accept just anyone in my life through matrimony sites or references. I am afraid that the hard work that I have put in all these years to make my life comfortable will be shaken up by marriage. I cannot choose people by their attributes but have to just develop a liking for them. Similarly I have no interest in how a girl looks, what job she does or any material aspects. I am happy with someone who choses me completely and is committed to me. Unfortunately I couldn't find anyone such and I am in the phase of saying no to marriage completely as life is good as it is. I had a girlfriend when I was 25 and she left me after 5 years of relationship because her parents did not accept which I respected. Could connect with anyone else until this year who also left me after an year because her parents will not agree as my parents are not rich enough. I cannot connect with anyone else physically or emotionally. I think it's injustice to the woman I marry if I marry her just for the sake of society. I am completely confused, could you please share your expertise on this. Thanks in advance!

Hi Gurus, recently I had a weird experience wherein a female sent a request to me on a popular professional platform and she being from the medical field I accepted it without much of a thought, we then exchanged contact details and then she dropped a text saying she wanted to talk, as I was in the office I asked her to call in the evening as I was busy, then she called back and said she wanted to talk romantically and wanted to do a video call, I panicked and refused to accept the video call, I further blocked her as I didn't expect the behaviour from a person of her stature, but I am having mixed feelings about the incident as I really don't know her intentions. Yours Truly P

Please advice on reliable dating apps as I want to explore some romance outside my work place. I m male 35 years old , single does nt want to marry . Some healthy flirting looking for

I'm 27F, planning on doing Masters in the US to better my career. By the time the course begins I'll be 28+. It'll take me 2 years to complete the degree and settle down, I'll be 30+ by then. Parents have already found a good guy for my marriage here in India, I like the prospect too, but if I marry I'll have to drop my masters and try something else for my career here in India which will be tougher and also I'm worried that I might not get such a suitable match later on. What should I do?

My girlfriend's parents snatched her phone as they were having a doubt on her , they catched my whatsapp chats . They beated her very much and told her not to go to college. After some days they allowed her to appear in exams .she calls me everyday from her aunt's phone. When will her parents give her phone back to her

I met someone in highschool in my neighborhood and we used to chat a lot and were in love. I went on my first date with him without telling my parents and since I was young I didn't want to do that and I ghosted him. I think I never really not loved him and hence didn't date and got busy with life. He got in a relationship and was busy with his academics too but used to text me on my birthday. I knew about it and never really responded much. Last year, I was really depressed and since I had cut ties with my friends too, I decided to start talking him to again. Got to know about his breakup an year back and now we are dating. He has cheered me up, he is very honest too. But I keep thinking I don't find him handsome or that I feel guilty for no reason. Basically I think I only am with him because I was feeling extremely low. Should I continue this?

I am in a relationship for 5 years now. My bf has never been academically and financially stable but I have always supported him and given him time to focus on his career. But now my parents are looking for a guy for my marriage. My family is a very decent and well educated family. But my boyfriend's family status is a matter of concern for my family. Plus my boyfriend doesn't earn anything and says that he won't be able to do and earn what parents look for their daughter's marriage. What should I do?

I met a girl online who is my friend of friend. we were talking since 1.5 years and I love to talk with her for an hours. I used to make her laugh on my funny jokes and one day she confessed a feelings for me and I also told her I do like her. It's been 5 months now after confession we haven't met yet and she is doing job and right now I am currently preparing for GATE exam and likely to pursue Mtech in future. She madly in deep attachment with me, sometimes I don't know how can you love a person which you haven't met yet. She keep asking sometimes about marriage and I keep saying "we haven't met yet so plz be patient till the time!". Is early commitment without seeing/spending time with the one is fair? and does getting into relationship is mean to commitment :) I really scare sometime as I haven't experienced it before

hi, I m well settled professional aged 45 having two childrens and married life. after 20 years, since and due to covid 19 I meet my first but undisclosed love of before marriage. She is also married and have one kid and cool life. we never went physical but are very attached emotionally. the relationship empower and delight both of us. we never tried to meet or any other kind of advantage. Just a few message daily and occasional phone call. She some time hit this relationship as wrong, is this wrong? should we try to discountine this? please guide

hi, i am navin 33 years old never had a girl friend still date. let me tell you about my self. i am 5.45 ft 164 cm and with shoes close to 5.5 ft. i am obese will come to it later. i am a ba hons graduate in game design and hold two post graduate diplomas one in game programming and one in digital marketing. I have my own video game studio where i make video games. my mom owns two business one is a advertising agency in chennai and one is a imported teak furniture store in bangalore. my dad after his retirement working in an different advertising agency helps my mom in her furniture store. since i live with my parents i do investing and options trading as well. my mom is a malyali and dad is a telgu. even though obese and i am brown/fair compared to others in india. i am on matrimony and on dating, dating been there for a long time and matrimony from October 2021. still now i haven't gotten a single proper match when i send a request its a immediate reject for all the reasons above i can handle the rejection that doesn't bother me but there are times people immediately block me on what's app or my profile on matrimony or dating. it is frustrating and sad what should i do? how should i move on

We met through matrimony, she was quite fun to talk to and we use to talk 2-3 hrs a day, but her dad died recently (its been 2 months now) , she is not returning my msg or calls , we live afar but i have regularly msg/call her first 2 weeks of the mishap, but now its been 2 months and still she is not returning msgs, i have also given her time and didnt msg call her past 2-3 weeks (thinking she might need some time). yesterday i left her a msg that i want to talk to you, she didnt reply(but saw) , should i move on ???

I am 40 year old man. Having psychological problems after coronavirus shutdown .Problem is that I am not able to talk to others looking at their eyes..even If i try to , it's just for few seconds and eyes starts to wander..to stop that , nowadays If I sense that my eyes going off contact, I look at somewhere and talk..I am feeling very guilt and making very discomfort to others or at least I think they feel discomfort .. While talking to woman, mainly making sure I should not look at theirs.. I am married and my sexual relationship is not great..every time its like forceful because my wife never shows interest and I stopped it. searching for some other options to fulfill my desire .I think this also contributes to my problem.. please advise how do I overcome my problem and be confident while talking to others.

I am in relationship from last 4 year , my boyfriend’s family is against our relationship as it’s intercaste , we tried all our ways to convince them, need help ? What to do now ??

Hello Sir. I am 29 female. I met a guy from matrimony who is a doctor and when I asked about his age he told me he is 32 years old and when I do some research and found his registration number and I got to know he is 36 years old. I asked him why did you lie to me , he said it’s because I fear if you reject me. Now he is blaming me because I crossed check him behind his back. I have known this guy since one month. Now I am afraid what if other details he told me about his life and all was lies. Is it a red flag? Please advise as marriage is a very big decision

Hi Mam.. I'm 44 yrs female widow resides with my 2 children and my MIL. In the year 2022 i lost my husband due to heart attack and currently working in state government education department. Last year i joined a social media group and interact with a person. He is a married man but we both agreed to this relationship. This is our anniversary year and since from starting of this month he is acting differently. No calls, no messages, only does when it is suitable to his time frame. There were difference of options and fights included which we both denying. Earlier it was not like this. We met thrice in a year. Since I'm emotionally committed to the person I can't forget him and don't even want to move on but it seems there is nothing left between this relationship anymore, especially my intuition sensing the future. Kindly help me and suggest what I can do to overcome this. TIA.

Hello Mam, I am 42 male , met a woman 33 for a marriage discussion through parents arranged marriage set up. We started talking and after talking though there were some aspects we admired about each other and found that both of were totally complementary to each other - strengths of one was the weakness of the other. But we both have different life perspectives as well. However, she seems to have been hurt deeply from the previous marriage and has animosity and anger towards certain people type and towards certain situations. She goes into extreme uncontrolled anger when those topics are discussed, her trust on people seem to be too low. after 1 month she said this relationship cannot be taken to marriage citing my past medical history as a high risk factor. I said fine and was happy to move on.. she says though it is a NO, she has invested emotionally and needs time to move on , so until then I should continue to talk to her as a friend. So i continued talking ( over phone only) ..after few months when I got scolded during her regular outbursts.. i decided to stop and move on.. but she pleaded and told me that i should help her by being her friend and motivate her until she finds back a job, which she has resigned 6 months back to heal from depression. I am in dilemma if i should continue to support her or it is best to move on with no contact though it may be painful to her.

Hi, I 29 female, met a guy from matrimony who is a doctor. When I asked about his age, he told he is 32 years old. He sometimes talk to me well and sometimes he just left me seen and doesn’t reply. When I asked, he always told ki he was busy as he is a doctor. After meeting 5 times one day I told him I like him. Then he told He has some other aspects too. But he told he will tell me the day when he will feel I can compromise some points about him. I got curious and happened to get his registration number and then I found his real age which was 36 years. Then I asked why you lied, he told it’s because fear of rejection. Now He is blaming me as i cross checked him behind his back. And he rejected me saying I have a doubtful nature. Should I blame myself? I really liked that guy. Please advise

Hi, Me and my cousin sister(same age) are best friends from younger age and have very good bonding with each other, when im around 20, I Kissed and Hugged my cousin mutliple times she allowed me to do it, now she is in love with me what to do? Im not sure whether i love on her or i feel i love her because of her caring. she wants us to move away from family and start new life somewhere together. but i dont want to leave my family. what to do please help

Hello maam , I am 23 year old male . I met a girl online , instantly our vibe matched, we got attached and went into relationship. I broke up with her because I was not sure is this girl right for me or not. She is not much spritual, she is not much aspirational,I don't know I like her but there are things which are preventing me to take further steps. I think she will not be able to adjust with my family as we are from village area and she is from urban city and wealthy family and I am financially struggling now . I am a sole earner and have many responsibilities. Not sure what to do in this case. I broke up with her on February but I still misses her , she also misses me and she called me yesterday saying come again please. What should I do? I am confused

My boyfriend got a new job, and he doesn't give me time like before, evn if i talk it is annoying to him. but i miss the old days, what should i do

Hi, actually I am little confused there are 100's of thoughts coming in my mind about my situation right now, so what happened is my girlfriend's sister is going to get married and I assumed that she would invite me as a friend of her because her sister knows me, but my girlfriend said that are you mad or what I won't introduce you to my parents unless you get a job she says I would not introduce you as a friend but as a boyfriend, I know it seems right but its not like I am not able to find job I am already an engineer it's just I am preparing for the civil service exam so I didn't opted for the Job. So does that mean she is not confident about me being her future partner or its just parents fear or maybe something else

I am introvert 19age unmarried adult how can I take step for making female friends

Hi I am 40 yrs old and married for 20 yrs.Our marriage was a love marriage after 2 yrs of dating each other.I have 2 kids one is 16 yrs and other one is 11 yrs old.Recently I had an STD I visited doctor and they said it's because of having multiple partners I am a housewife I don't have any partner other than my husband.but it was suspicious for me so I repeatedly asked my husband and he confessed he used to visit escorts in past.i was in a shock an tremendous pain I didn't expected from him to hide such things.i never expected that he is involved in such acts?I feel cheated now what do to can't understand ?

I want a relationship my age 26 and I love

Hi we got intimate on our 2nd date and met few times after that, she was all about dating me and not time pass since after 2nd date she didn’t get fully intimate and wanted to be sure of me, showing all the interest but she had come out of a relationship 3 months back and now suddenly she ignores and ditches to meet, i don’t know what could be the reason, she found someone else or she wants me to try hard for her

I've been on and off with this girl i really love , she never committed fully but has always been exclusive.. she broke off in may but due to some problems with her family, I helped her which made us very close .. I asked her if this will happen again she said it won't .. 2 months passed and now she has broken up again saying she wants to focus on CAT exam which she has taken drop year for .. I helped her family, her in everything financially and emotionally but she left again even after seeing I am in love with her .. after all I've done she keeps leaving, saying she needs to focus on exam and isn't sure about me even now or in future ... Should I wait or just give up on her totally

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How to interact or start relationship with a coursemate girl in college??

Hii I am 34 years women .I have a relationship with another person he is 39 years old .we meet and we fell in love together coz we both r not happy in our marital life .and we both are in love actually now we are not in relationship with her wife and my husband but I think he is cheating me he have also a relation with her wife .I ask him clearly many times but he dny every time .plz guide me what I will do

What does an adult relationship look like. I am 21 year old and the guy whom i am talking to only text me at night where we talk for 1 hr before I sleep. I talked to him and he said that is the only time I'll be able to give. You should see this as an adult relationship. I have just come out of college and don't know what this is. I crave to talk to him but he only talks to me at night. Is this normal and how much time is enough for 2 people in long distance to talk in a day.

I am writing to seek advice on a personal matter that has been weighing heavily on me. Several years ago, I became close to a neighbor who was in a very difficult situation. She was married at a very young age (around 14) and has a young child (now 6 years old). Her husband, who is much older (34 years old), was abusive, often drinking and mistreating her in front of others. She lost all her freedom and was unable to express her pain to him. As her neighbor, I witnessed these daily struggles and tried to support her whenever her husband was not around. Over time, we developed a deep connection, and she expressed that she wanted only two things in life: her child and me. We have been in a relationship for almost five years. To help her, I arranged for her to stay with her parents in a distant village, far from her husband. Despite the distance and the challenges, I supported her financially and emotionally. She eventually filed for divorce, and I assisted her throughout the legal process. After the divorce, she moved to a different location, and our communication ceased. I later learned that she was trying to enjoy the freedom she had missed, engaging in activities like visiting beauty parlors and socializing. Currently, she is not responding to my calls and has disconnected from me entirely. She is living with her child and relying on her parents for financial support. My attempts to meet or communicate with her have been unsuccessful, and I am deeply troubled by this situation. I am struggling with her memories and the sudden distance she has created between us. Now, I face pressure from my parents and relatives to get married, but I am conflicted. I care deeply for her and worry about her future, especially since she has no stable income. I am unsure how to proceed, as I do not want her to suffer, but I also cannot ignore my family's wishes. I am reaching out to you for guidance. How should I navigate this difficult situation? I want to make a decision that is best for both of us, but I am struggling to find the right path. Thank you for your time and understanding.

Sir I am 39 year old and man I am searching a girls or women to friendship but how to search guenine women in this situation? And where to search it so please help me I am alone

Hello sir, I'm aspiring data analyst and i want to pursue my career. I'm 25 yr old. As I don't want to waste my time in preparing any other exam but my parents pressurize me for marriage and say leave everything and get marriage. I always prioritize my career. Because of this I'm very stressed. Help me out to get out of this situation. Thank you

Hi,Guru, I lived in Chennai, my neighborhood all are living for away from myself. Particularly I have No bestie and best friends in Chennai. I tried own Business, its needed personal partner. I feel better too find dating for myself. Can you suggest it's OK or wrong? Hopefully too wish to better solution to my Business energy. Awaiting for your valuable answers. Good night.

Me and my wife are happily married for 10 years and having a twins 4 years before. This incident happened 8 years ago, when my wife and her cousin visited the home town for a temple function they reconnected with this guy who is their old friend ( a distinct relative also), this person had an interest on my wife before marriage and my wife rejected. Now this person is married and having one kid. when they reconnected my wife's cousin used to do conference calls along with this person and my wife. My wife asked me is it ok to talk. i said yes it is fine but just maintain a healthy boundary. So she wont attend all the calls from them. Attended some conference calls for 5 to 15 min and dropped the call saying my husband don't like me in phone too much. this happened weekly once or twice for 2 month(maximum 10 calls). they also had a watsapp group, in that they had friendly chat between them, mostly between wife's cousin and that person. My wife's reply was very less. but when i was going through the messages they are not flirty messages, there i saw my wife saying very positive about our relationship and her cousin also agreed to that saying they are the best couples. but that person has addressed my wife's cousin and my wife occasionally as honey and dear. but both of them ignored and not asked them to stop calling like that. when i checked this with my wife she said that person calls everyone as honey/dear even her sisters and other cousin. Even he calls my wife's mother sometimes honey (she is very aged 60 years).it is habitual for him so she found no meaning in that and she is not bothered to correct that. this is not even a issue for her that's why she did not discuss this with me. that's why she ignored. i asked her to stop talking to him. My wife told she already stopped talking with him as he tried to make personal calls as she did not like it. that time the wats group also not active so she exited from the group and blocked his number. Recently we came to know that one of the relative girl got into affair with this person and this person got divorced due to that. 1. Does the words like honey can be used in friendly way. i have many friends in other gender i never used honey even though i used 'dear' occasionally. As he used this word with my wife, Does this make my wife less pure than other women. Is this cheating ? 2. I cant come in to terms with the fact my wife talked to a person who is a womanizer. does this affect my wife's reputation in the society. they never met in person other than this temple function reconnect.

my bf wants to talk to his very complicated and angry mother about our relationship. for context, she is from a very conservative rajasthani background. his father already rejected our relationship. please give some tips on how to proceed. i belong to a different background. i come from a very liberal family whereas he does not. what to do? he cannot go against his family at all

Why is marriage on my mind always?am I in love with the idea of it or with my future partner's money,looks,etc.?

I was in a relationship few months back during my 12 th we were having a nice time for a long period and I was preparing for my exams of clat so i told my girlfriend to let me focus during the evening time and I told her to have conversations with me during the afternoon she agreed to it to But after some months we had some arguments and she used to ignore me a lot after that I asked her for forgiveness from my side if from me she got hurt But one day This happened.... after college I decided that whatever happens but I will try to improve our relationship,But that day in afternoon I went to her to talk A boy came on a bike and when I had to talk to her Without saying nothing she went with him. And when I asked them about that person they told it's her new Boyfriend I felt cheated, finished, depressed for many months after that when I had my clat exams I failed in it and I decided never to have conversations again with her so the question to you is should I love someone again deeply?

i am in relationship with women. i asked once weather u talk with another men. she replied no. i am really fealing guilty. she is also feeling very bad, as she never expect me to ask such question. i tried to convinvice that i hv no bad intention for you, but in due course of time , i thought u will be taking to someone. she is very apset and so do i. how can i get retain my original relationship. we are are a very good friend who shares every minute details with each other.

Me and my boyfriend are in long distance relationship from past 6 months, I told him about my past in almost starting of it that I had 2 friends with benefits in past and one of that person was my classmate as well as friend, and he used to still contact me, and when I came in relationship also, he called me during that time and I told regarding my relationship status, and I also informed my boyfriend that I talked with him but this thing happened before he knows that I had physical intimacy with him, then when he asked me to block, I suddenly question "what is the point of blocking him" which I regret the most, but I blocked him later by myself, now my boyfriend is sayine me that I have cheated him and he won't trust me till his death, but I told everything in past happened to him. I love him a lot but he is not giving to work together in this relationship and saying that he won't stay loyal to me anymore, he won't trust be ever, as per him I have cheated him, but my intentions were not wrong at all, tho that guy was in contact but I never initiate any conversation with him while I came into relationship, is it really a cheat, is it that he should not trust me anymore? Please guide

Hi, I am 31 yr old girl and in relationship from last 7 months. My bf is not talking to me over call or messages. On my messages he is replying only once or twice in a day. Is it okay? When I want to know the reason for the same every time his answer is he was busy in study or job? What should I do ? Is I am overthinking on him?

I'm 77 years old, male retired from sevice. I'm staying in an old age home after my wife refused to have intimate living. I suffer from diabetes and hypertension. I control them with diet, medicines and walking. I still have some libido left in me. Please suggest me some means to get rid off libido

My boyfriend have insecurities which is affecting our relationship. He compare his family financial status with mine. He thinks that he dont deserves me. He thinks that my family wont accept him. So he is slowly pulling away so that I find someone better. However, he is making efforts too to improve his financial status. But this will take time. Meanwhile my family is searching for a groom. I have made efforts to make my boyfriend realise that his financial status wont be an issue for my family. And at end of the day my family will look at his nature. But he is not convinced. How should I help him to remove his insecurities? Should I wait for him to resolve it himself? I am scared that by the time he improve his financial status, I will be married off to someone else.

m in love with my boyfriend since 18 years. I waited till he gets his first job to tell my parents abut him. When the time came we both informed in our family that we want to get married. His father said yes initially and asked my family to meet at a common place. Later once I family agreed and came and called to inform his family, his mother denied saying his father is against this marriage. My parents called my boyfriend and asked whether he wants to marry me without his father approval and he said obviously!!! Why wouldn’t I? Then me and my boyfriend set a date and informed both our family that we are getting married on this date on july. My family has been always supportive and they support me here as well. But his family reacted differently saying we can’t allow you to marry on this date as this month is his birth month (some silly excuses) and they informed we can assure you we will get you married to your girlfriend in November or December. That time my boyfriend also agreed with his mother knowing that all wedding venues were booked and I have paid some kind of advance amount as well. And NOW!! My family went wild over him saying howcome he called of this marriage?? My boyfriend is asking me please give me a second chance that I will convince my parents to marry you in November or December. If they disagree i will move out and marry you only. How can I trust him this time? SHOULD I?

Hi I am 29 year old F dating a 27 year old M. I have always been very conservative and emotional with respect to love. Before him, i never dated anyone, nor allowed anyone to touch me because I wanted only one man in my life. We both have failed to crack a gov job. He has lost all hopes in life and somehow wants to fix his career. On the other hand, My family is pressurising me to get married and even I think that I have reached that stage where I should get married in a year or two. Meanwhile his parents too wants him to get married by next year. However, he refuses to give me any commitment unless he has a stable career i.e government job. And if he failed to do so, then he will marry any girl whom his parents choses because without a gov job, he won't be able to take a stand for me. I his mind he thinks that my family is of high standards than his. (which is partially true) I want some form of commitment from him, but all he says that he wants to marry me, and wants me to stay with him as friend untill he is ready. He has also not given me the tag of a gf, he says that because of that tag I will be emotionally attached to him and if things didnt worked out than I will be devastated. He had also not made any sexual advances towards me. He asked for 6 months to fix everything. However, this undefined relationship without a commitment is emotionally exhausting me. Because of my family pressure, I am in delema whether I should look for someone else or believe someone who has not yet defined anything? I dont want to look for anyone else becase than it is against my personal ideology of being with only one man. Yet, I am scared. What if I ended up being with no one. What should I do?

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My boyfriend and his family is not good for my long term because they have mentally abuses me yet because situations are so dire that I am financially dependent on him for a year,I have thought of returning all the money to him after I get a job.I feel v bad about this situation and sometimes he forces me to marry him,but I don't feel it's good to yet I feel he will label me as gold digger in future, although because of him I am in such a situation where I am helpless and dependent for a year or so.

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