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Ravi Mittal

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Ravi Mittal is an expert on dating and relationships.
He founded QuackQuack, an online dating platform, in 2010 with just two people. Today, it has over 20 million users in India.... more

Answered on Sep 29, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 28, 2023

I applied to get best friendship through social media like facebook and tweet?I didn't get any specific reply? I didn't get best friend? Can you suggest dating someone like partner ? Please

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

From what I understood, you did not find satisfactory results after trying to find friends on social media. If that's the case, then you have to understand that you are not alone. A lot of people face the same problem. These are not designed specifically for building genuine friendships or serious romantic relationships. Dating apps, on the other hand, are experts in this field. I recommend using a dating and friendship app to find a genuine friendship or to find the perfect partner. Please mention what you are looking for in your Bio section- whether it's friendship or a relationship- and don't forget to mention if you want casual stuff or the serious kind, write about yourself and your preferences, and in no time you will find matches that align with your liking.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Sep 26, 2023

Question by Ahmed - Sep 24, 2023

Hello ..I was in a relationship for 4 years and our relationship was very much strong enough. Suddenly she started talking less and ignoring me a lot. She stopped calling me. It's been 6 months today. Did she come back? And what would be the reason for it?

Ans: Dear Ahmed,

I am sorry to hear that. I don't think she is coming back. It is unfair, but this happens to more people than you can think of; people just stop feeling the same emotions slowly, and they drift away. The best course of action is to accept that your relationship is over and work on moving on. You have to understand that it is not your fault; it was her decision to end things without even discussing it as a mature adult. You deserve more than that. I understand that you did not even get closure but sometimes things end abruptly and without reason and all we can do is heal one day at a time. Focus on yourself. Stay busy, explore your passions, surround yourself with people who love you and are there for you, talk to a friend or family member because talking about pain can help in the healing process and please don't contact her because you deserve real love, not the kind that leaves without any explanation.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Sep 22, 2023

Question by anil - Sep 20, 2023

i have been trying to find a suitable match for my son 29 years old btech/mba . got registrations done at prepaid matrimonial sites from the past 1 year. suggest what could be the reason .seek ur advice

Ans: Dear Anil,

There could be an N number of reasons why you might not be getting the perfect match. For starters, your idea of perfect probably does not align with your son's idea of perfect. It is also possible that you are only looking at the match's biodata instead of looking into the person. You can ask your son to handle his own profile so that he might choose a person of his liking, instead of yours, because ultimately, he'll be the one marrying her and committing to live the rest of their lives together.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Sep 06, 2023

Question by Ankush - Sep 05, 2023

mujhe koi v ladki pyar nahi karti kyu ?

Ans: Dear Ankush,

I understand that you feel no one loves you but the right person will come along and you will never have to feel this way again. Please be patient and focus on the positive things in life. Work on yourself, hang out with your friends and family.

I suggest you try an online dating app and find a person with similar tastes and preferences. It will not only keep you occupied and help with your loneliness, but you might actually find the love of your life.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Sep 04, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 02, 2023

I am 42 years old fall in love with 38 years lady in corona period.it was long distance relationship end after 8 months. near about 2 years are gone but still we miss each other and have same attraction .both of we have very good life partner but still ? what to do ?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand you are in a tricky situation but since you have already settled down with someone else in life, it is best to focus on that relationship instead of remembering things left behind. The right thing to do is put more effort into your present relationship and build a deeper and more meaningful connection. Let your past be in the past.

If you still are in contact with your ex, severing ties can help. You both deserve a happy life and reminiscing won't do either of you any good.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Sep 01, 2023

Question by Sankar - Aug 31, 2023

Hi, i am 47 yrs, married & blessed with twin babies. Off late, my relationship with my wife is not good. She started avoiding me and very often blames, fights with me with misguidance of her mother. I advised my MIL too not to do so as you are playing with her life and my life too. She acts very innocent. Coz of this, i started feeling very lonely and stressed. No happiness or peace of mind in life. Now, i started to get attracted to my subordinate colleague who is 37 yrs not married, who is very caring, always watching me, following me. Now we communicate very freely. I sense that she likes me a lot but very afraid to express coz 1. i am her boss. 2. I am married with twin babies..... I am also very attached to her. I feel i started to love her. but practically, i cannot express as i know my limits. Kindly advise what to do. I don't want to lose my colleague also....

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

If you think your wife has been acting mean because of the misguidance of her mother, the right course of action is to have a clear-cut discussion with both your wife and her mother. Getting attached to a colleague is not a solution, nor is it absolutely ethical. Moreover, there is a good possibility that your wife is bothered about something else, or maybe handling two kids of the same age is taking a toll on her. If you did not discuss these with her yet, then it's high time you do so. Also, try to spend more time together, not just as parents of your babies, but as a couple. In any case, starting to develop feelings, whether it is in your control or not, is never the answer.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Aug 29, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 28, 2023

Hi gurus, I am 24, have been in a relationship with a woman for the past one and a half years, out of which 7 months have been long distance, as she has gone to Canada for higher studies. In the meantime, I fell in love with another woman in my office, and she loves me back too, knowing my situation. I confessed about this to my girlfriend and asked to break the relationship as the card of loyalty has been broken already. She insisted that we try and come out of this mess, and that she was not ready to leave me. I had already told the other woman to not get over involved with me as I formally am in a relationship with another woman. Both of them are refusing to leave or move on. I am in a dilemma and feel guilty sometimes for messing two lives up. What should I do further?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Sounds like you are in quite a fix. I suggest you have a clear discussion with both the women in your life, and request them to let you quit the relationship because it's not ideal. Especially since neither one of you agreed to polyamory. And feeling guilty is human.

Best Wishes.

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Answered on Aug 29, 2023

Question by Abhishek - Aug 27, 2023

What is relationship

Ans: Dear Abhishek,

Relationships can be anything- it can be a romantic connection or it can be friendship or mere acquaintance. It depends on the context and also the feelings involved in the relationship.

Hope that helps.

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Answered on Aug 28, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 26, 2023

I have a GF who wanted to get intimate with me within the first week of our relation, though taken aback,I finally gave in. Such encounters became regular. But over time I realized that she gets intimate with many other male friends of her as well.I even caught her in middle of one such act .I confronted her and she partially admitted it and told that she wouldn't repeat it. But ever since I have lost trust with her. I plan to unilaterally break the relationship. But Since I am emotionally still stuck with guilt, not sure if it is the right thing to do. Please advise.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Trust is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. What she did was cheating and not being able to trust her anymore is completely natural. If you want to break the relationship because you can no longer trust your girlfriend, it is okay. There is a hint of guilt because you are human, but there's no need for the same. You are not in the wrong here. She broke your trust and now you want to part ways. It's your choice, same as it was her's to cheat.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Aug 24, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 24, 2023

What are the warning signs that your partner is a toxic one?

Ans: A- Dear Anonymous,

It is tricky to identify if your partner is toxic, or to recognize toxic traits but here are some behaviors that are considered toxic in most cases, but these too depend on the context.

• Jealousy- If your partner seems jealous every time you speak to the opposite sex or even of your success, it is ideally considered a toxic trait.
• Controlling- Trying to control how you carry yourself, whom you meet or even your social circle is a clear red flag. In every possible scenario, this is toxic.
• Keeping score- Yesterday you fought, so today your partner feels they are entitled to start a fight, or last week they sorted a fight so this week you should or the ball is in their court. If this is how your partner handles every situation and brings in a sense of competition in your relationship, it can be easily defined as an unhealthy relationship.
• Drama- Does your partner thrive on drama? No amount of love is worth it.
• Cheating- It goes without saying that cheating is a red flag. Not only if your partner has been physically involved with someone else but also if they are building a romantic emotional connection with someone.
• Trust issues- It can happen to the best of us, but if someone is suffering from trust issues, the onus is on them to sort it out instead of doubting their partner's every move.

If your partner exhibits one or all of these traits, it is best you have a clear discussion and point out the habits that are bothering you. But remember, some of these can be harmless based on the situation.

Best Wishes.

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Answered on Aug 21, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 21, 2023

If your husband asks you to wipe off your lipstick or doesn't hold your hand in public, how is it a sign of toxic behaviour? Is there something for us to learn from celeb couple behaviour that applies to our lives?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It entirely depends on the context. It's not always black or white. It can be interpreted in various ways depending on other factors in the relationship. To determine whether it is toxic, it is important to look at the broader pattern of behavior in the relationship, like if there's always a lack of respect or if one partner's wants and needs are always overshadowed by another's. It could be a sign of issues in a relationship or it might be a harmless request or preference. Or, it can even be that the person is an introvert and is not comfortable with public displays of affection.

It wouldn't be fair to make comments or pass judgment based on a few snippets of someone's life.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Aug 09, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 09, 2023

I am 38 married with no kids. I love my wife a lot but I have started having feelings for an office colleague. She's committedas well but we both feel attracted to each other and love to spend time together. I am unable to understand why i am falling for her.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Emotions are unruly sometimes. The thing is that life, especially a long, happy married life, can start to feel too routine and mundane. Maybe that's why you are developing these feelings. Nevertheless, this is not ethical nor acceptable in a marriage that is exclusive. If you indeed love your wife, you should either make sure to keep your feelings for this other woman in check and never act on it, or you have to come clean to your wife about how you have been feeling lately. I suppose you are merely looking for some excitement, and you can easily get that with your long-term partner if you put in some effort.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Aug 08, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 07, 2023

Hello Gurus! I am 40 yr divorced NRI man in the UK. I have a 10 yr old son and he lives with his mum in a different country. I have visitation rights and I meet him regularly. I have been divorced for 6 years now. I have been trying to date since last 5 years and it has been quite a frustrating experience. I do not want to jump to Matrimonial Sites as I would prefer to date someone to know them better before deciding to settle in a committed relationship. Also, there are many frauds on the Matrimonial Sites. My challenge is that most of the single women in the age range of 36 – 42 that I have met in last 5 yrs is that either they have unstable career and looking for someone to depend upon or if they have a career, they are arrogant and unruly. Though I look decent, I don’t have looks as a criteria. I worry sometimes if will I ever find love and affection in my life. Apart from the dating apps, where else do you suggest I could try to meet decent and normal woman?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I hear your concern but I don't think it has anything to do with the mode of dating. Online or IRL, rude people will continue to be rude everywhere. Also, not everyone with a stable career is arrogant and unruly, men and women alike.

Apart from dating apps, you can try finding love IRL. You can try going to clubs, cafes, or social gatherings to meet like-minded women. Or you can ask your friends to set you up with someone who matches your criteria. You can join some activity of your liking to find women who prefer the same things as you. Start with a HI and see where it goes.

You can find a decent human being even in a dating app. It is a matter of patience, a pinch of luck, and primarily a good amount of effort from your end. To get better results, try mentioning your intents in your bio; for instance, you want to date and then move on to marriage- mention the same in your bio to attract the right kind of people.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Aug 07, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 05, 2023

Hi Sir, Thanks for your Aug 4 response abt my girlfriend. I have one query about your response. How did you arrive that there is repeated pattern of cheating. Please clarify. It helps me a lot.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Cheating in a relationship is not only about getting physically involved with someone. Getting emotionally involved and developing crushes is also considered cheating; at least most people consider it so.

Here are some examples of what people consider cheating or toxic behavior in a relationship- *My GF of last 2 years gets attracted to men, She developed feelings for a guy, She has a crush another guy on insta and she plans to meet.* All of these are from your previous question. That's how I arrived at the "repeated pattern of cheating" conclusion.

But at the end of the day, it is your decision what falls within your idea of cheating.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Aug 04, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 03, 2023

Hi, My GF of last 2 years gets attracted to men and shares her feelings with me as well. She developed feelings for a guy and he kissed her once when they were drunk. Later they had a talk and she informed me that they chose to be friends, they are still talk to each other so are other male friends of her. I always say she has the freedom to move on any given day but she can't cheat. After hours of discussion and me scolding her and she trying to justify her mental state, she promised me she will draw a circle which I am in and wont let anybody into that circle. She is in her early 30s. She has a crush another guy on insta and she plans to meet but she promised , he would just be friend. I tried to move on from relationship 2-3 times because of her above trait but she talked me back into relationship. Can I trust her?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Like you told your partner, she has the freedom to get out of the relationship and see any number of guys she wants to, but cheating is not an option. From how you described your relationship, the repeated pattern of cheating does not sound healthy at all. And there's nothing called almost cheating. As for trusting her, it depends on if she has always told you the truth. But then again, you also have to consider how her truth has made you feel.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Aug 04, 2023

Question by sivakumar - Jul 31, 2023

i need a life partner. my age is 57 and now i am alone and employed in private company in hyderabad

Ans: Dear Sivakumar,

You can try any dating app to find a life partner. More and more people from metros and smaller cities are using online dating platforms to find the perfect match for marriage. Make sure to mention that you want a serious relationship that will lead to marriage in your bio. This way you will attract people who want the same thing as you and avoid wasting time with people who are in it for casual relationships. Another important tip- please find a suitable dating app that mostly caters to people wanting exclusive relationships.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Aug 01, 2023

Question by Praveen - Jul 30, 2023

I am 50 year old man. Got divorced about 9 years back. I don't have kids. I live with my mom. No body to depend upon except a few good friends , but they have limitations too. I don't know what to do and feel very lonely. Just got laid off from my job too a few days back. I somehow don't feel like getting into a relationship all over again. What are my options

Ans: Dear Praveen,

There's no rush to get into a relationship if you don't feel like it. Take your time and come to terms with all that you have lost in this short span of time. I understand that it must be very difficult. But life goes on. While you should pause a moment and allow yourself to grieve, you also have to prepare to start moving. Work on yourself. Look for a new job. Look for love if and when you are ready for it, or else that does not have to be at the top of your current priorities. You can try and make more friends. Dating apps are not just for dating, you know. People use it often to make new and genuine friends. Spend more time with people who have your back and people who make you feel happy even in these difficult times. And most importantly, remember that everything passes. This too shall pass. It is a moment and a very overwhelmingly difficult moment, but it is not forever.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 31, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 13, 2023

how to get a date of my choice with whom i can interact

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Here are some tips to find the date of your choice-

• For your bio, use the 70-30 method. Use 70% of the space to write about yourself, giving people a good look at who you are and what you have to offer. The remaining 30% should be about what you are looking for in your partner. This way, you will only attract people whose requirements and intentions are aligned with yours.
• Be very clear about your relationship preference from the very beginning. If you want a casual relationship, mention that. Or if you are interested in a serious and long-term relationship, be sure to tell your match the same in case that's not something they want.
• Be curious. If you don't put an effort into getting to know your match properly, you will never know if they are the right choice for you.
• Be genuine. If you are pretending to be someone else to impress your match, you will never find a genuine connection.

As for interaction, when you have the right match, the interaction goes seamlessly. The two go hand-in-hand.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 31, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 29, 2023

I do understand your suggestion, what if my kids are also adaptable and have no problem accepting her into our family - I know my vision is out of the blue but still look forward to your advice ?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand that your wife and kids are okay with your relationship and they might even be okay with bringing her in as a member of your family. But whatever you decide to do, or however you might want to proceed with your relationship, be careful and speak to your family every step of the way. Have a very clear and open discussion with your wife and children and leave nothing for assumptions. It is important that all of you are on the same page.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 28, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 28, 2023

Dear Ravi , I am 40 year old guy married with 2 kids leading quite a happily married life. I did love marriage 14 years back and till date both of us have similar respect for each other. Since last 1 year I have fallen in love with my colleague and both of us love and respect each other very much and very difficult for both of us to leave each other. My wife knows about my relationship and she respects my feelings and says that Love is natural and can happen. Inspite of this we lead same bonding, love, respect, physical relationship i.e. everything for a normal husband wife. My question is there any any way by which I can make my new love a part of my family with due respect as a second wife, although I know being a Hindu the same is not possible, can you help me with your valuable advice. Is there any way out so that we all can live together. Regards, Anonynous.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand you are in a loving relationship with your wife, and simultaneously, you are in love with another woman. Ideally, this would be a very tricky situation, but your wife seems to understand your situation. Well, I can't advise you on how to keep two wives at once, but what I can say is that tread carefully and make sure to think about your kids and how your decisions might affect them before taking any step at all. You and your wife are mature adults, and you might understand the complexities of human emotions, but kids are impressionable and vulnerable. I hope you figure out the rest.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 27, 2023

Question by Ramtirath - Jul 25, 2023

how to approach any lady friend...

Ans: Dear Ramtirath,

It is pretty simple. Start with a Hi and a small but attractive introduction about yourself. The tough part is to make the first move like sending the first message. If your vibes match, the rest will flow easily.

Here are some more tips-

• Compliment her but go easy. For instance, you can say, "I love your smile." But don't go ahead and tell her, "Your lips are beautiful." It can sound vulgar. The key is to balance it.
• Be yourself. Never pretend to impress someone.
• If you are approaching her IRL, make eye contact. It exudes confidence.

Most importantly, if she does not reciprocate or says no, move on. It is crucial to understand that a No does not mean you should convince her some more.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 26, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 26, 2023

Ravi sir what is the meaning of friendzone? Does it mean the girl only wants to be a friend? But what if she is also flirting with me and joining for a date, movie etc? Is she taking me for granted? Am I like an option? I can't understand what is going on in her mind.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Friendzone is typically when one person has romantic feelings but the other person does not reciprocate the same. But if your "friend" is flirting with you and also going on dates, it won't be typically considered friendzoning. If she is also making you feel taken for granted, it will fall in the category of "leading on" or "breadcrumbing," where someone throws enough crumbs to keep you hooked but never the entire bread, bread being commitment in this scenario.

It is best to have a direct discussion about it with her. Voice your feelings clearly and make her understand that you don't appreciate how she is treating you. Clear communication can do a lot more than you can imagine.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 26, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 26, 2023

I am single and love chatting with a girl I met online. We shared a lot of personal things and matters. A few months later when I requested her to meet, she disappeared on me. In 6 months, she hasn't even shared her photo or videos although I have shared so much details about me. I don't know if she has trust issues or if she is simply avoiding me. I am really concerned and want to contact her. Now her number is unreachable. What should I do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I get your concerns. While it is not okay, people sometimes disappear for no reason, for reasons unknown to us. The most likely scenario is that she is no longer interested, or she did not want to move the relationship to the real world. As for sharing pictures and details, it is not uncommon for female users to hold back from exchanging images owing to safety concerns.

If she is unreachable in every possible way, it can be an indication that she does not want to pursue the relationship anymore, or might have issues in her life that are forcing her to end it abruptly. In either ways, it is best to focus on yourself and move on with your life.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 26, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 26, 2023

How to stay away from scammers on dating apps? There are so many men posing as women with beautiful pictures on their profile. It is tempting but also misleading. Is there any way to track or identify if someone is pranking or fooling with you? Pls help

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand your concerns with catfishing but let me assure you that dating apps work tirelessly to keep their platform clear of miscreants that pose as someone they are not. But even with airtight security, some scammers might make it through to the apps. Here is where user awareness comes in. Treading with caution and having your wits about you can help in such situations.

Here are some ways to identify a scammer-

• No bio. Genuine users always have a bio.
• No photo. Most users will upload two or more pictures for better chances.
• During the chatting phase, if you see your match, especially females, being too eager to share their number, it's most likely a scammer. Women usually are not keen to share personal details during the initial phase.
• Trying to steer conversations toward finances is also a red flag.

Most importantly, trust your instinct. If something feels off, unmatch. If you see suspicious activities, please report the profile. Most dating apps take reports seriously.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 26, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 25, 2023

Hi Ravi ji, I have been just dumped by someone. I am looking to settle down now. Is Dating App a safe option than Marriage websites? Is it fine to meet anyone from Dating App for Marital purpose?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand your concern. More and more people are using dating apps to look for a partner to get married to; it gives people the chance of having a brief dating life before settling down with the person. You can try it without a doubt. I only advise you to make it obvious from the beginning itself that you are looking for a serious relationship that finally leads to marriage. It will help you attract the right kind of people.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 26, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 25, 2023

I'm 40 recently divorced well settled professionally. Im looking for geniuine love. Cam dating sites help at this age and with a divorcee tag? If yes how should i go about it???

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Online dating will be perfect for you. Most dating apps encourage people to take a second chance at love. And divorce is not the end. There are plenty of divorcees looking for real connections. And, let me assure you, "at this age" is not an issue in virtual dating. It comes without the burden of judgment. You can and should absolutely try dating apps to find genuine love. My advice would be to be clear about your divorce status; do not hide it. Second, when you set up your profile, mention your requirements and intentions in the bio. For instance, you want to find love. If you write it in your bio, only people who want the same will connect with you, helping both you and your match save time and effort on the wrong person. Third, even if you are rejected a few times in the beginning, don't give up. The right match can be right around the corner. Finally, find a dating app that caters to your need. For instance, some apps cater to users generally interested in long-term and serious relationships and then there are apps that focus more on casual relationships. Based on your preference, pick the right dating app to get better results.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 26, 2023

Question by deepak - Jul 25, 2023

i am poor in friendship with girl, now i am 40 plus, unmarried, please help me or guide to me for friendship or long relationship which ends in marrige deepak bhutale mumbai

Ans: Hello Deepak,

I understand your concerns. You can always try dating apps, since they are known to help with making friends and finding love, and makes the process much easier and seamless. Make sure to mention that you want a long-term relationship when you set up your profile, in order to wasting your time on meaningless connections. When you meet a woman, I suggest you tell her about your intentions to get married at the very beginning. In case, she only wants a relationship, you both can save your time and energy.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 26, 2023

Question by Prashant - Jul 25, 2023

I am 60 years old man. Can I find a partner on a dating app?

Ans: Dear Prashant,

Yes, of course, you can find a partner on a dating app. In fact, we are seeing a surge in the number of senior citizens using dating apps to take another shot at love. There's no age to find the right match.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 25, 2023

Question by Russles - Jul 07, 2023

My son is in class 10, he is infatuated by a girl of his class, both of them want to do medical in higher classes, the girl is brilliant in studies and he also scores around 80%, but i want him to focus on education than girls this time, can you help

Ans: Dear Russles,

Infatuations are a part of growing up. There's nothing to worry about it. As a parent, the best you can do is be your child's friend, so when he gets his heart broken, which is inevitable, he has someone to confide in. Moreover, have an open discussion about his studies, and speak in his language. Tough love might not work on every kid. Let him know how studies and careers will wait for none, while love- if it's true, will be there even after years. Whether you believe in it or not, it is important that you let your child believe in the concept of true love. It is a substantial part of growing up. Let him understand through his own experience that most love stories don't end in a happy ending.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 25, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 19, 2023

I have started liking a girl enough. I didn't have such feeling. But slowly I have become quite attached to him. Her name is Vaishnavi Singh. Vaishnavi was born on 11 August 2003. My name is Ajit Kumar and I was born on 17 October 1999. We both used to talk a lot, used to talk on calls till 3 in the morning, but suddenly she started keeping distance from me and now she has blocked me from everywhere. It is not even that she has gone in relation with any boy. Can we both get into a relationship?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand you are having a tough time. Sometimes, people just choose to leave. It can be difficult to accept it but when someone blocks you from everywhere, it is a pretty clear indication that they don't want to be in touch with you. I know it hurts right now, but this will pass. Right now you might not realize it, but you don't want to be with someone who does not reciprocates the same feeling as you.

Even if she isn't in a relationship with another person, she is free to leave. It isn't fair, but that's life. Work on yourself. Hold your head high and move on. And so far as getting into a relationship with her is concerned, that isn't a possibility. She has made that clear. The best course of action here is to give yourself time to accept the situation and move on with your life.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 17, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 17, 2023

Ravi isn't it awkward when a girl brings along her bestie on the first date? I was quite annoyed actually. I casually tried to bring it up but she brushed it off saying her best friend knows everything. Is this very normal or does it mean the girl is not serious? I can't seem to understand what it means

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

You are not wrong; it is absolutely awkward if someone brings a plus one on the first date. As a matter of fact, it is weird if someone brings a plus one to any date, be it the first one or the last.

Whether she pulled this off because she isn't serious about you is debatable; it is also possible that she asked her best friend to tag along and assess you because she is serious or maybe because of previous mistakes, but even then, it isn't okay to bring a friend on a date, especially if that's something you two never agreed upon.

It’s best if you have a clear discussion about the same and let her know that you did not appreciate bringing her friend on your first date.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 12, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 11, 2023

I am 21 and I want to go on a date with a cute girl I met on a dating app. I am nervous but excited and I don't want to goof up. What are some the best ways to start a conversation without making her uncomfortable? Also, what are the things I should absolutely avoid?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Glad to hear you have found a date. I understand that you are feeling anxious and don't want anything to mess it up. Stick to the basics on the first date. For instance, ask her about her day, and dig a little to understand her family dynamics but don't be nosey. You can speak a little about your friends, and your likes and dislikes. First dates are all about getting to know each other. You can move to movies and music, hobbies, and maybe some career goals.

Among things to avoid, please avoid looking at your phone when you are with her. Also, don't order a burger if you don't want things to get messy. Do order it if that's what she wants. Don't come off too strong to her. Do not keep talking about your ex. And don't worry; it'll be fine. You will do good.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jul 11, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 10, 2023

Mr Ravi Mittal, how do I know if my love interest is genuinely interested in me?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

There are no hard and fast rules or specific ways of telling if someone is genuinely interested in you. It's more of a sense you get from them. For instance, does your love interest keep talking to you, even about the most trivial things? Do they listen to your mundane talks with utmost interest? Do they often go out of their way to make you feel happy or make time, even during their busiest days, for a quick meet-up? If so, yes, they are genuinely interested in you. People who are genuinely interested in one another also tend to discuss a future together, plan on introducing each other to their friends and family, and so on. Their general body language exudes their interest in you. Keep a look out for these signs.

Best wishes!

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Answered on Jun 16, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 15, 2023

I am the one with the colleague issue. We started as good friends.Before the intimate episode,he left no stone unturned to talk with me. He always interacted everytime we met during the office hours. Even though he already mentioned he not wanted to be in a romantic relationship in general and i respect his decision and supported him since he already had a bad breakup.But after the moment,as i mentioned already,he hardly interacts with me and freely talks with other colleagues. Earlier he used to call me his solace/sukoon. He used to feel relief with me according to him.and now i hardly exist. What did i do wrong? I am not trying to be clingy.However he kind of guessed that i am upset with this present behaviour.But flirting in front of me and ignoring me all of a sudden.why this behavior ?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

You did nothing wrong. There's really no answer to why he is acting this way. Some people are like that. Since he did not commit to you, you can not blame him directly, but if you really want closure, you can directly ask him about his sudden shift in behavior. If he denies it, let it be. You cannot force someone to accept their mistakes.

I suggest you focus on yourself, and your work, go out with other friends, and put him out of your mind. Again I am reminding you that you deserve better than this. It's better that it ended before you could get even more emotionally attached to a man who does not feel the same way about you.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jun 15, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 15, 2023

Hi I need some clarity. I have a colleague at work. We started off as good friends. Daily chats spending free time as much as possible. It was all good. Healthy flirting,friendly banters and being there for each other. He held my hand a little longer while shaking hands.A week ago,during one evening stroll, we shared a passionate kiss which i sort of visualized.and the next day after work,we got intimate. We spent a lot of time at his place. He took care of me a lot. That every thing was fine. I was also aware of the fact that he will get engrossed in his work since a review meeting of his department is next in line.I respect his work and wait for him for one text. No use. Its always me who is initiating the conversation. I know men feel different after sex. I understand. So i was waiting for him. But yesterday he did something,which made me burst into tears. He came in my department to meet our manager. While waiting,he complimented another female colleague for her lipstick colour. That to in front of me!Is it my overreacting or something else. Because it hurt me a lot! I was like "You are saying that you don't have time for me ,you are too busy in your work. But you got the time to notice the lip colour!" So i wanted to see further,i didn't call or text him,and as predicted he did not call or text me at all. I had hopes from him,he will be by my side. A good friend .a solace. I feel betrayed and i need some clarity for the next steps. I don’t know what to do next?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand you are feeling hurt and confused. Let me start by telling you something that you must already know- a relationship, be it any kind of relationship, is a two-way street. You cannot be the one initiating every conversation in a relationship. Second, any relationship that makes you feel unwanted and keeps you wondering what's going to happen next is not worth your time or effort. Free yourself of such unnecessary burdens.

You two were not exclusive or did not define your relationship at any point in time. At least that's what I understood from your question. Given this, technically he can flirt with others and he can stop wanting to spend time with you. But morally, should he be doing so? No. I'd suggest you spend less time thinking about him and more time taking care of yourself. You deserve better than being treated as discarded. If he decides to come back, you can be civil with him, but being friendly or flirty no longer seems like an ideal option, given how he is treating you now.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jun 09, 2023

Question by Rajesh - Jun 06, 2023

how to improve relation once braked

Ans: Dear Rajesh,

I understand that you have recently had a breakup and you would like to fix it. It is very important to understand why you had the breakup. Was it because of differences in core values or some other serious issues like cheating or abuse in the relationship? If so, I would advise you not to go back or try to fix your relationship.

If your breakup was based on some silly fight, then you can try reaching out to your partner and apologizing if the mistake was on your end. You can ask them to meet you somewhere and have a clear discussion face-to-face. Talk about all that went wrong and how it led to something as serious as a breakup and discuss how that can be changed. You can ask your partner what you can do to fix things from your side and tell them what they can do to fix things from their side.

Now after trying everything, if your partner still does not want to get back together, don't force them into it. Some relationships end and sometimes it's better that way. You have to accept it.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Jun 08, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - May 31, 2023

Can one fall in love in love immediately after a break up? I had a break up with my boyfriend four months ago and now I'm in a relationship.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Love can happen anytime. It does not matter how long you wait to fall in love after a breakup. It's not like you planned to fall for someone else so soon; you just did and you are lucky to have found that person. However, be mindful of this new relationship. Breakups can mess with your emotions and leave you feeling vulnerable. Getting into a relationship immediately after it can sometimes be from the fear of loneliness or feeling the lack of support rather than for love. If you are confident that you are in love, amazing. If not, tread slowly. See where things go and don't commit to anything that can leave you or your partner heartbroken in case this relationship turns out to be a rebound.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on May 31, 2023

Question by samanthana - May 29, 2023

why my crush ignores me

Ans: Dear Samanthana,

If you find your crush ignoring you, it most likely means they don't reciprocate the same feelings for you. Maybe they find it uncomfortable or merely want to make it clear that they are not interested. I know it is hard to hear this, but more often than not, these are the reasons. It's not your fault that they are behaving this way, but in this instance, it isn't their fault either for not sharing the same feelings as you. Yes, it could have been communicated in a better way than ignoring you, but it is what it is.

My advice would be to focus on yourself and move on. You will find people who will be equally interested in you; don't settle for someone who doesn't feel the same for you.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on May 31, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - May 29, 2023

While dating, when someone says 'be yourself' what do they actually mean?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Be Yourself is the best advice anyone can offer. It means to be your authentic self. We all put forward our best selves while meeting new people.

Be yourself primarily means being your core self, showcasing your authentic personality, instead of faking to make yourself more attractive. If you change the way you talk in front of your date, don't do it. Speak the way you speak. If you act dumb to tickle your date's ego, don't do it. Be the wise person you are, unapologetically. If you alter your core values to be with someone, don't. Be vulnerable. Be you; be the best version of you!

Best Wishes!

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Answered on May 30, 2023

Question by TRS - May 29, 2023

I love a girl for 6 months. Now she does not want to continue the relationship. I am in deep love and cannot live without her. What should to do?

Ans: Dear TRS,

She does not want to continue; what you have to do is as clear as day. Move on. It's easier said than done, I know. But I don't see any other option here. When someone says they don't want to do something, there is no point in trying to convince them. First off, no means no. Second, do you consider yourself so unworthy of real connection that you will force one? It doesn't seem like it today, but all these sad feelings will pass soon and you will find yourself thinking what a good idea it was to move on. Anything other than focusing all your energy on moving on will be a waste of time.

Also, we have all been in this "I cannot live without him/her" phase. But here we are, living a happy life, single or committed to the right person. You will too.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on May 30, 2023

Question by TRS - May 29, 2023

This is the first time that i'm having a crush on a boy. He is in my college. For the past few years i am looking him, but never managed to talk to him, i want to talk to him and tell him about my feelings, please help me how do I start?

Ans: Dear TRS,

I am glad to know you are finally thinking of talking to your crush. There is nothing to be worried about; be brave, go up to him, and introduce yourself. Don't start with, "Hey, I like you." Instead say something like, "I have seen you here a couple of times. Which year are you in?" Something that will get the conversation started without making it too obvious that you have a crush on him and yet leave some hint of that being a possibility. Just to be on the safer side, prepare some conversational topics in your mind.

If you feel awkward, understand that it is normal. It's a big step and the important part is that you are ready to take it. You can do a little digging on him and find something common between the two of you and talk about that. Once you notice him reciprocating the same interest in you, you can confess how you have been feeling. But my advice is to talk to him for a while, as a friend, evaluate the guy, and then tell him about your feelings. You have only known him from far away; what if you don't like his personality? Take the time to know him; if he's the right person for you, things will work themselves out.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on May 23, 2023

Question by Radha - May 21, 2023

I am 12th passed student and I had a bf around feb .Everything was perfectly fine in the starting but then somehow our talks got less and i asked him if everything was ok bcoz i felt strange whenever we talked through texts. He said he is tired and doesn't wanna talk and did not know what happened to him ... Plus exams were ongoing so I supported the way I can but i knew something was off ... As the time passed things got worse. I asked how much time u need to be urself .. u are going out with ur friends but don't wanna talk to me neither u asked how i am for past dew weeks or a month . In the last he said leave I am not good enough for you. Everything thing we talked was on snapchat app. I was so depressed plus my exam result were less then expected. I stopped using any social media.. There wasn't a single day i missed him or thought of seeing the snaps but somehow i made myself I understand that If u were imp he wouldn't talk about leaving...ig ... But still I do miss him when everything was started and ended by him... On 14th My frnd texted me asking abt my result and she said she will ask him aswell( she doesn't know abt us dating) ... And after a week i.e today i downloaded the app and i saw that he sent me snaps till 14th and they all were deleted and after that there was nothing. Somehow i feel that there must be some conversations between my frnd and him. But what i feel now is that i regret why i didn't saw his msgs when i missed him. It makes me feel regret and sad . Whenever i think about it i forget all that disrespect but at the same time something stops me . Idk what kind of feeling is this ... All ik that there was a little communication between us that was also gone ... I just wanna overcome but i cant . Its gonna be a month and these emotions are really making me feel depressed. I even start making scenarios and stories in my mind . Idk what is happening to me . Pls help me overcome this what should i do ?

Ans: Dear Radha,

I understand that you are experiencing a rollercoaster of emotions at the moment, but listen to me, this too shall pass. You won't feel this way three months from now. Six months from now, you will find it funny that you even felt this way once, and you might even regret focusing on your ex than your exams. Two years from now, you will even forget how you felt on this day; you will forget the sorrow, you will forget how lonely and helpless you felt. You will move on. Everyone does. Look at the bigger picture and these feelings that you are experiencing today will seem small.

Now, coming to how you can deal with it at present- focus on your studies; everything can wait, but your career won't. Hang out with your friends; tell them how you are feeling. Talking about pain is known to give some kind of relief. No one can take it from you, but having someone to listen to it can help. Focus on your health- mental and physical; workout a bit. It helps. And, in the end, let time do its magic.

P.S. If he says he's not good enough for you, believe it. You deserve better; even your ex thinks so. So why don't you?

Best Wishes!

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Answered on May 23, 2023

Question by yashasvi - Apr 18, 2023

Is it normal for guys to loose interest after dating for 2 months as he was the one who was interested first..

Ans: Dear Yashasvi,

Is it normal? Yes; people, both girls and guys, often lose interest. The initial spark fades and people move on in search of the same spark somewhere else. But is it okay to behave this erratically? No. It is selfish. The early stage spark fades for every couple, but a relationship is a commitment. Couples in a happy and healthy relationship rebuild their own spark every day, instead of bailing once things start to become mundane.

If your guy has left you after mere two months, count yourself lucky. You don't want to date such people; you can do a lot better than him.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on May 23, 2023

Question by SSV - May 19, 2023

Heloo I have been a single mother for the last 10 years. Last year I found a guy to retain he loves me and had a physical relationship with me. Six months it was good. suddenly he realized that he had family and started ignoring me, and stop chatting meeting me. I am waiting for him till date. But in the last four months, I start liking another guy who is married with two children and who also loves me a lot. We had a long-distance relationship. He comes from Pune to meet me. We talk a lot on calls. But still, I am confused about what to do. I cannot forget my first guy and also don't know what I feel for the second guy. but I like to talk to him. Please guide me. I don't want to be alone.

Ans: Dear SSV,

It might help you to take a second and think about what you want. You loved someone and now he is gone. Moving on and finding another person to love is natural. Not being able to forget your ex might not be so much about your ex, as much as it is about you not being ready for another relationship. Allow yourself the time to heal and then look to love and be loved.

Introspection- asking yourself, "Am I really in love?" "Do I need some more time to move on?" "Am I completely healed from the previous breakup?" and so on can help you identify the real problem at hand.

You said, "I don't want to be alone." Are you sure you are not jumping from one relationship to another from the fear of the same? Don't let the fear of loneliness rush you into making moves that you might regret. You can consider stepping back from your current relationship for a heartbeat and figure out what it is that you want without your feelings clouding your judgment. Relationships don't usually work out when you are in two minds about it.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on May 19, 2023

Question by SHASHANK - May 12, 2023

I'm 48 years old never married guy. I once suffered from rare cancer which is cured now. Also hv epilepsy whose treatment will go life long. Doctor says that i should disclose my health issue with whom I'm thinking of getting married but no one takes talks further. I'm infact ready for divorcee or widow too but failed. Some ppl reject me as my salary is mot much, some says that i dont hv my own hm etc but i hv many friens who are getting less salary but are happily married. My whole family if highly educated although I'm also pg but still get rejected. My dad expired n was too worried for my marriage. Now my mother is with me n i dont know what to do. I hv spend approx 35k on matrimonial advertisements but got no success. Im currently in touch with girl for last 1+ year but dont know whether she likes me or not although i hd expressed my feelings to her many times but she never respond n get silent on that. Kindly help whether i should approach this girl or leave her. I like this girl very much. Should i still search for a bride or leave this issue. Kindly help.

Ans: Dear Shashank,

If you have been straightforward about your feelings for this woman and expressed the same and yet she has never reciprocated it even once so far, it might be because she does not feel the same about it. I'd suggest you talk to her about this. Instead of leaving it open-ended, like "I like you," and letting her react to it, be direct. For instance, "I like you. What about you? Do you like me?" Being direct would definitively fetch you some real answers. If she replies to your question, there you go; you have your answer. If she ignores it still, you can safely assume that she doesn't feel the same way as you do. Don't delay this; ask her as soon as possible. Stretching a relationship that ultimately leads to a dead-end will harm your peace and happiness in the longer run.

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Answered on May 19, 2023

Question by Srija - Apr 12, 2023

I love my best friend but he thinks he love other girl but i think he also love me

Ans: Dear Srija,

The best thing to do in your situation is to sit down with him and have a clear discussion about the same. Assuming that he loves you, or he loves someone else will do you no good. Your assumptions might be right, but then again, what if it's wrong? You will be setting up unnecessary expectations, hoping that your best friend loves you. It might lead to heartbreak, just in case you are wrong about it. Talk to him. He is your best friend; there's a good chance he will be truthful about his feelings and not lead you on.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on May 12, 2023

Question by Sid - May 01, 2023

I was in a relationship for 3 months but the girl never reciprocated in the same way as i did.There was no initiative from her side but when I used to ask her why is this happening only i m trying to build but you aren't, she used to say that i was unable to see anything she is doing for me.To be very honest and being impartial if i was at level 10 she was at 1.One day on this very topic some arguments happened and she walked away.After that no message no call and she used to tell me that she loved me but she never ever tried to reach out to me.Now its been one month.I literally am feeling really gloomy.Now she is putting status and showing that to me that i was not ready to build with her i uttered wrong words to her.But honestly i am telling you that I loved her very much and tried all the ways to build with her but she never reciprocated.I still miss her a lot but she seems to moved on so easily that's hurting me too much simultaneously she is putting these statuses too What to do?

Ans: Dear Sid,

If you, even for one moment, felt that you have been putting more work into the relationship than your partner, there must have been reason to believe so. Do not doubt your concerns just because your ex tried to pin the blame on you by minimizing your worries. It's a clear sign of gaslighting. As for the statuses, some people take pleasure in making others feel unnecessarily guilty, even if the fault lies on their part. My advice would be to not pay attention to any of it. If necessary, delete her contact; a clean break might help you move on. Don't do it to show her that you have moved on, but try to move on in reality. You deserve more than half-hearted efforts.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on May 08, 2023

Question by ashok - May 05, 2023

Pl tell me the procedure of dating with someone

Ans: Dear Ashok,

There's no hard and fast rule or a fixed procedure to date someone. But for your better understanding, I am listing 5 steps to date successfully-

1) The Initial Attraction- This is when two individuals who are attracted to one another realize and then assess everything that suggests that admitting their emotions for one another is the best next step.

2) The analyzing phase- Now, you will figure out the right time to make the move, should you be making it first or should you wait for it- basically you will analyze every step to make sure when there is a proposal, it succeeds.

3) Presentation- Make sure to put forward the right foot and make a perfect impression. This step is important- this is where you can make the most effort to pique your crush's interest in you and seal the upcoming deal.

4) Build connection- Talk to them as much as possible, get to know them, and help them get to know you. Find the similarities and stress on them to make your crush see the two of you as an ideal pair. Communicate to find the connection that goes beyond the initial attraction.

5) Confess- This is the last stage; confess your feelings when the timing is perfect and propose that the two of you start dating. If they say yes, congratulations, you are now dating. If not, don't worry, repeat the process when you find another perfect match.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Apr 27, 2023

Question by Sanket - Apr 26, 2023

girls are speaking to me but they are not getting ready for marriage

Ans: Dear Sanket,

I understand it can be frustrating but they might have their reasons to be not ready to get married yet. Marriage is a big deal, and it is best to go slow than rush into it.

My advice would be to make your intentions clear right from the beginning. As soon as you start chatting with someone, let her know that you intend to get married and you are looking for a woman who is on the same page as you. This might help you from wasting time and energy on people who are looking for something more casual.

Best Wishes!

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Answered on Apr 24, 2023

Question by Pspk - Apr 12, 2023

I love someone (one side love)...one day i want to communicate with him i start chating with him..but some days i came to know that he has bad habits like drinking smoking..so i want to stop talking with him and want to leave my love..but he was messaged me..i replied to his messages..but now i want to talk with but he ignoring me..he reading my messages but not replying..i want to forgot him but i cant he is ignoring me what can i do

Ans: Dear Pspk,

Smoking and drinking are bad habits, but if they aren't highly addicted to them, breaking up might have been a bit extreme. But I understand that it might have been unacceptable for you at the moment.

Coming to the present issue in hand, if he is ignoring your texts, there is a chance that he has moved on, or maybe he is still angry with your decision. Give it some time; if he still does not contact you on his own or replies to your message, it might be time to accept the reality- he doesn't want to patch up. Like you decided to leave when you did not like his habits, and he respected it, you have to respect his choice to remain separated. Not all relationships are meant to work.

Focus on yourself; hang out with your friends; talk to people close to you. And most importantly, give it some time. One more small tip, if you happen to get back together, please discuss his smoking and drinking habits and how the two of you will deal with them. Neither of you should have to settle for the other. Find a middle ground.

Best Wishes!

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