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My married ex still texts me for comfort. Because of him, I am unable to move on. He makes me feel guilty by saying he got married out of family pressure. His dad is a cardiac patient and mom is being treated for cancer. He comforts me by saying he will get separated soon and we will get married because he only loves me. We have been in a relationship for 14 years and despite everything we tried, his parents refused to accept me, so he chose to get married to someone who understands our situation. I don't know when he will separate from his wife. She knows about us too but she comes from a traditional family. She also confirmed there is no physical intimacy between them. I trust him, but is it worth losing my youth for him? Honestly, I am worried and very confused.

I'm 43 married and I want to date again. After our marriage, my husband shifted to Dubai and has no plans to return to India. Ours was an arranged marriage. I have two daughters, both are in high school. I recently found out that he is cheating on me. I can't get divorced till he returns to India but I don't want to be single and feel guilty or blame my husband. My husband never loved me. I want to feel loved again. I don't know how and where to get started. Can you help?

Hello Sir, I'm really struggling with my family's behavior after my arranged marriage. They pushed me into it, and now they're constantly guilt-tripping me and badmouthing my wife and her family. It's getting really tough to handle, and I'm feeling overwhelmed. Can you please offer some advice on how to deal with this situation? I just want to be happy and have my family's support.

I am also in same but I am 57 yrs old looking for same. Can u suggest such reliable dating apps who are serious

Hi so i was in relation with one girl since one year we met through matrimony site, my family knew about her and her family expect dad evryone met me so we planned evrerything about marriage but now she dont want to marry me because she is like dad wont accept me since our caste is diffrenet and her dad come up with some good aliances with good package so now she dont want me and want to end this but i was fully engagaed in this now my age is also like finding girl will be difgicult so what should i do now I want to take revenge because she suddenly changed decision without good closure Shoul i text her future groom plz advise

My boyfriend did not defend me when his friends made fun of my looks. We were at an engagement and his friends kept teasing me for being too traditional. They called me behenji type. I was wearing a sleeveless top with a dupatta. He laughed along instead of stopping them. He thinks my style is too old. Is this a red flag?

Hello, I am 27. Never had any girlfriend and never ever touched a girl, nor had sex with any sex worker as it was my choice to remain virgin till marriage. I am looking for a partner to marry, but nowadays girls are having past, sexual history and they are always hiding or lying. So I am looking for a girl who has no past relations and is virgin and loyal. These are my preferences and I think they should be. I am not forcing it on others, but for me virginity, loyalty and no past matters the most in life. So what should i do tofind a girl with no past relations, virgin and loyal?

My girlfriend still talks to her ex 'as a friend.' It didn't bother me earlier but now, either they are talking and sharing every detail or I am being more observant. But it’s eating me up. If I enter the room, she hides her chats and says I’m overreacting whenever I bring it up. I don't want to be controlling, I have never been. But I don’t want to look like a fool. How do you know if there is something beyond friendship between them?

Hello there! There is an introverted boy I have liked for over a year now. 5 month ago I asked him out on a date and he rejected me. He said he wasn’t dating anyone at the moment. It is true, he never dated anyone and hasn’t since then. Now he is acting strangely and hangs out with me more, stares at me, seems nervous, has hour long conversations with me about his dreams and goals, and his family. We know each other a lot better now but he is confusing me completely. Is there something i could say to get an answer? It is driving me crazy. There is another guy who likes me and I feel so bad because I like him too but not as much as this other guy!!

Mam boyfriend doesn't take with me. What I can do this time. Only he talk with me when he will be in some problem

Am asking my wife for divorce desperately, as my girl friend wants to marry me. Am persuading her but the problem is my wife's boyfriend is not demanding or hurrying for it. So wife is like ignoring the request, and am fine with all, daughter also can go with her. I want this marriage to end soon. But there is no progress in situation. 14 years of marriage is just for namesake. We both don't like to stay with each other.

Meri gf ki sagai ho gai hai ab mere se km baat karti hai jis ladke ke sath sagai hue usse jyada bat krti hai mai dukhi hu is baat se ab mujhe kya Krna chahiye plese

I am 48 year old man divorced 3 years back after 22 years marriage. My ex-wife got custody of children and I pay maintenance. Now I met wonderful lady age 41 who is also divorced. We both want to marry but my children aged 20 and 17 are completely against it. They say if I marry I will lose them forever. Should I choose my happiness or my children?

It is always me who initiats a conversation in my relationship but when ever I do I receive a response with equal intensity and will does it matter who calls first or it matters how is the response to the call

I am a 58 year old widower my wife passed away 18 months back. I have 2 sons aged 28 years and 20 years. I am constantly approached by a 43 years old lady who is a divorcee and have 18 year old son with marriage proposal. We are known to each other for several years. Before her proposal I have never thought of remarriage. She is a very good human being and very attractive and now I am unsure how to handle the proposal. Requesting you help that how should I handle this.

The guy I'm dating screenshots our personal chats and sometimes even shares them with his friends as jokes. It’s making me very uncomfortable and self-conscious whenever I talk to him. I like him, but this behaviour feels like a breach of trust. How should I confront him about this without sounding insecure or controlling?

Hello, Im in my 40s and single. I need a life partner,who is respondible and similar to my culture. How should I approach people. I have tried matrimonial sites I do wish to settle down. Thankyou

I am a 49 year old widower,have 2 daughters, and looking for my remarriage.Six months back i contacted one lady, through one matrimonial site ,divorcee,47 yrs old from Mumbai who faced Domestic violence in her first marriage and has one son.since then we have been chatting on whatsapp daily,talked few times on phone and met once 4 months back she is good looking and i have expressed my feelings for her.she says she has no such feelings for me but needs time as she is talking with other proposals at the same time and asked me too to do the same.one problem with me ,as she says ,is i am too tall for her height as the height difference is almost 10 inches and other problem is i am well placed job wise but in a good city in other state.she has very good other proposals also but chats with me dailly everyday for last 6 months where we had talked casually and friendly too .i am confused now and apprehensive also about what final decision she would take a about me.

Dear Sir/Madam, I am 45YO working in GCC and She is 45YO working in India govt banking sector. We met through matrimonial site in 2009. We liked each other and decided to get marry. But due to some arrogent way of talking of her and her mother with my mother, which I didn't like at all. So before gettting finalising and engagement, I decided to go away from her without hurting and it took 5 month in Feb 2010. Actually I AM AGAINST HURTING ANYBODY'D'S HEART. So I made a situaton like that she rejected me. While meeting we both decided, even though, if we are not getting married with other we will be as friends in future. So I got married in 2011 and She got married in 2012. After our marriage we got busy in our married life and we were not able to contact with other for several years. But in second half of 2019 we again came into to contact over phone WA. Once she demanded make-up box and some chocolates from GCC, so I provided through courier. Then her demand increased with mobile recharge, Sani-pads, U/garment, gifts through Amezon, Flipkaut, Zamato, Swiggu etc etc.. One day she told she want to marry me, because there were physical quarrel with the husband and MIL, So she want to get divorse due to dosmetic violence between them. I avoided this topic as I am happy with my married life. Then 1 day she had some gmeil problem she was not receving email so she shared password. So I cleared all the promotions and unuseful stuff from her gmeil account. But I was shocked when I saw that she had saved all communication of having extramarital affair chats of WA with her office 2 different colleagues and, 1 Garage mechanic and College friend all were vulgar chats and different-different years. Especially all vulgar words and arrangement and planning made by her to meet in different room location. There I came to know why her husband is so physical quarrel with her. She had mentioned about husband activity of beating to her. And so both of them want to get divorse. But this all thing I kept it confidential with me from her. Let she admit some day. But I am still waiting. Now after 2021 all this has stopped because I convinced her and made her feel what she was doing after meeting her. She admitted her mistake and she promised that she will not go in wrong path. She also said it happened unknowingly she went with the flow. But She pleaded me and wants my Love and want to marry me privately and for her happiness, she in under divorce process. She proposed me for marriage in 2021 till now I have avoided with some excuses. Coming to the main topic, since 2021 to 2025, whenever I visit India, we meet each other, as I too have soft-corner for her and Love her as we were first Love of each other in 2009. Everytime when I inform her that I am coming to India, her dreams flies in sky and tells me come soon, I want to marry with You. And every time she ask something or the other gift as mentioned above. How should I get rid of this burden of over-expenses. Due to this it is difficult to manage my monthly expenses, means "The snake has to be killed and the stick should remain intact". Everytime I tells her this month not possible next month for sure, but again after 2-3 days she comes with new demand. And I am sure, if I broke this relationship she will again go to wrong path as she is getting divorce. Pls give some tips how to reply her to stop these expenses from me.

Hi im 27 year old girl. My parents are looking for an alliance and liked a profile through matrimony. The guy also liked mine and asked for my no. He did chat well on the first day but then it felt like i was aksing majority of the questions and he was just responding to that. It has been a week. He just starts everyday with good morning or good noon. He doesn't ask anything else about me. Thing is im an intorvert but im trying hard to continue the conversation and understand him. Since his family is busy with some function they said they will fix first meetup in mid of the month with both families. He also asked for my insta. He doesnt seem to have much followers the no. Is in single digit. When asked he said he just opened recently and he doesnt use insta much. And he is also following these couple pages filled with wierd makeout videos. Im losing interest in him and also doubt his character. I dont know what to do.

My partner and I want to explore an open relationship. We are both creative artistes in our early 30s, switching between Goa and Bangalore for work. We have been in a live-in relationship for five years, but since we are not married, we'd like to explore the possibility of an open relationship where we are not mutually exclusive to each other. The idea is exciting because it will mean more freedom for both of us. I am an introvert and he likes to flirt casually. But honestly, deep down, I'm terrified. I've had flashes of intense jealousy just imagining him with someone else, and the thought of emotional hurt is paralysing. How do we even begin to set truly healthy boundaries and clear communication rules to ensure our primary relationship remains strong, and that we protect each other from unnecessary pain? What are the biggest mistakes couples make when venturing into non-monogamy, and how do I know if I can genuinely handle the emotional complexities of this journey without losing myself?

My girlfriend is too clingy and constantly wants to text or call me even when I’m at work. I love her, but I feel suffocated. How do I create space in the relationship without hurting her feelings?

I am Brahmin working in bank and he is Jat working in airforce. We are together for almost 5 years and we discussed about our marriage with family, but both sides denied and my mother threatens to lodge fir against them and then they threaten to kill me and boy and my mother if we marry against their consent. I think that they are just playing game to secure themselves. They have fixed his marriage along with his brother in December forcefully. We want to marry each other . We are so stressed and depressed Thse days, our family have made us so weak. We are looking for some way to convince them. Please suggest some thing to easy the process of convincing .

Hii , I am career oriented female and just 23 years old. I have certain aspirations and dreams to fulfill before getting married. I have a boyfriend who is a very genuine guy, but he insists on getting married early in next two - three years. However I want to take sometime to get settled in my career, explore about myself, my career so that I don’t regret settling later in years. The problem is that I need time and my boyfriend can’t wait due to certain family issues. I will be on a crossroad after two years, please suggest.

Am 39 years I failed to get someone to get married to what should I do

My self Manish from Aggarwal family widower my age 59 ,my wife expired on Jan 2020, then after 2 years I marry with 52 year lady she stay 1.5 years then she go back due to she not feeling comfortable with my Daughter in law, so know I feel very lonely what can I do sometime feel now I don't get marry again I stay alone at home and find some committed relation with someone from Ludhiana itself. What can I do please suggest Manish

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I am in a relationship with two men. One is an old friend who has been with me since my school days. I always thought of him as my friend but he recently proposed marriage. The other guy is my former colleague who I truly love but his parents do not agree to our marriage because he is a Catholic and I am a Jain. I tried breaking up with him but my heart refuses to let him go. He supports me but says that I will have to adjust after marriage. Meanwhile, my school friend is aware of my feelings and has been with me despite knowing about my past relationships. My family thinks I should choose him over my boyfriend. I am honestly confused and I am not able to decide what and who is right for me. Can you please help? Both are equally loving and care for me.

Am 39 years I failed to get a man what should I do

Hi I am facing a situation I don't understand well I have been dating with this girl for over 3yrs but in those 3yrs we used to chat only once a week then things changed in an instant so we lived in different areas we didn't speak to each other again until this year 2025 after 1 year I approached her I told her I still love her she said she loves me too and we kissed now when ever I see her she doesn't come to me everytime I have to go to her I think it's her friend making her do this to me

Me and my ex were in a relation for almost 2 years. At first everything was alright. We were so happy, then he started demading private videos of me but when i denied he used to get angry and wouodnt talk unless i agreed. I trusted him blindly and sent a few as he promised he would delete them at once. Months kater when i randomly asked if he still got those videoshe confessedhe never deleted them. I was shattered and my trust was instantly broken. But i loved him so blindly i still didnt have the courage to leave. I couldnt face my parents after that. I felt i failed them. The vakues they taught me. I forgit everything for his happiness. When i finally got the courage i broke up but then he started calling me a cheater, a girl who played with his feelings, who got bored of him and a girl who has no respect. After a while he relaised his mistakes. Its been a year now. I still love him and miss hjm so much. I met him randomly once. He looked changed and said my departure has left him so devastated and he wants me back. He says hes changed. I dont kmow if i should go back to him or not. Whenever i talk to him i forget everything, but the moment the contact goes off i get panic attacks, i get reminded of the way he used to touch me wothout my permission and how he used to force me. He said he knows many girls who sends such videos to their bf. He said he confessed he still had those vidoes because he didnt want to lie to me. I suffered a lotbecause of him and i am still not over it. I still dont trust him. But i dont know why my love for hjm is so blind. Did i do the right thng by walking away? He is literally begging for another chance. I used to tell hjm how uncomfortable his touches and desires made me when we were in a relation, gave him many chnaces but he didnt care then. Now after break up he says hes changed a lot, he is more mayure now. And he wont repeat the same mistakes again. And he will gain my trust back. Should i go back to him? He said we will both regret if we dont give each other another chance, but i fear relationships now. My mind says to never trust again but my heart wants him despite what he did to me. Help me. Should i leave or stay? If i stay am i putting my mental health at risk again? Because i have heard rereading the same chapter doesnt change the ending. Help me please. Do i deserve someone better or should i give him a chance again? Is he worth it. I cant go through that pain again. I still feel disgusted about myself, ofhow ilet him crossmy boundaries even when i begged not to. What should i do?

Hi, I am 32M. I never had any relationships in the past...One sided was there but I overcame it and focused on my work. One day in gym i came across a girl 23F, we connected on insta and started chatting. Eventually we fell in love, I know this doesn’t sound good due to the age gap. We dated, had good times and emotionally connected with each other a lot. Now while discussing something, she revealed that she is not a virgin. There was a guy in her society she met around 3 years back (when she was 19) and she was in one sided love with him. They never confessed their love to each other. And she is not in touch with him anymore it was long back. Also she said she had made out with another guy whom she met 1 month back during her classes, prior to meeting me. I was really hurt to listen all these. Like how all these things she is doing at this age. I accepted her and then we had good 2 months again. After 2 months, I got to know she was following the first guy on insta. When confronted she said she used to like to see him and his girlfriend together. She was really not in touch with the guy but she was just following him. It was hurtful to me. We had a big fight on this. They used to share intimate pics with each other too. After forcing her to tell everything about her past, she told that she used to flirt with lot of boys. First in junior college with best friend she shared intimate pics, then met with the guy she lost virginity with, then she met another friend she shared pics with. Then in last year, in classes she shared pics with friend, then again with someone and then she had a crush on some guy with whom she made out. She was connected with them on insta. Like no talks but she was following them and they followed her too. There were almost 6-7 guys she used to talk as friend and has shared intimate pics and she called it flirting. I was shocked to hear all these. I am still shocked. This is out of my mind. It is very difficult to accept that few boys have intimate pics of my girlfriend. She has been very very loyal to me since we are together. She never got this kind of love in her life. She is really super happy in this relationship. We are emotionally connected a lot. I have treated her like a child and I love her a lot. She comes from a good family. She says she has been in wrong circle and all her friends are like this only. She cried a lot and she regrets it deeply like what she has done and she wants to get out of all these. But if feel, a persons character never changes. There will be so cold moments in relationships In future, will she be able to manage herself and stay honest. I really doubt a lot. She is really good at heart like a family girl but her past is really really terrible I feel. I feel, even though I love her will I be able to accept her past. Do I deserve this ? Do my family deserve this ? But again I think of risking it all because she is really invested in this relationship and I feel very bad to break her heart. I come from a very traditional background and believe in sacred and pure form of love. But I feel I got trapped in something which I can’t leave and can’t have whole heartedly. I am not able to focus on my work and everything. It’s hurting me a lot. Should I accept her ac she is or moving on will be better for both of us, even though it might break her heart.

I’m in a bit of an emotional storm and could use some honest, empathetic advice. I recently got engaged through an arranged setup. She’s everything I had hoped for—mature, innocent in her demeanor, beautiful, and emotionally grounded. From the moment we met, I felt like I’d found the right person to build a future with. I was genuinely happy and excited for the life ahead. But about 10 days after our engagement, she opened up to me about her past. She told me she had been in a physical relationship with someone before. She said she was scared to share it earlier, unsure of how I’d react, and that she didn’t want to lose me. She assured me that it’s completely over, that she’s emotionally detached from that chapter, and that she’s fully mine now. I appreciate her honesty, but I’m struggling. I feel discomfort, even a sense of betrayal—not because she had a past, but because I wasn’t told earlier. It’s hard to reconcile the image I had in my mind with this new reality. From what she shared, her previous relationship wasn’t healthy—the guy seemed to have used her emotionally and physically. That adds another layer of pain for me. I feel protective but also conflicted. I know she’s loyal now. I know she’s the right person for me in so many ways. But I’m stuck between my heart and my thoughts. I don’t want to punish her for her past, but I also don’t want to ignore my own feelings. Has anyone been through something similar? How do you move forward with love when the past feels heavy? Is this discomfort something that fades with time and trust? Any advice or perspective would mean a lot.

Main relationship mein thi kisi ke sath aur Maine use cheat Kiya mujhe abhi Marne ka man kar raha hai main kya Karun

Mam tell me about my relationship

Um... Hello .. I'm currently a dropper student and had been in a relationship for 1.5 years.. I liked her first. But we broke up. Before breaking up, we had fight on a topic for about 1 week. She is studying in a coaching institute and I'm self studying because of distance problem. But I got to know that a boy was always looking at her and he used to get jealous if she talked to anyone. But she didn't react and when I asked , she said that she knew that he liked her but she didn't say anything to him because he didn't propose to her. But until recently, she doesn't have time to spare with me but she talked with that guy for 8-9 hours . Even on my birthday , I asked her to give me time but she couldn't and she would talk to that guy for 9 hours straight .I used to wait for her for 12 hours straight when she was in coaching, but after she returned I hardly could get 20 mins but she used to talk to him for 3-4 hours. When I asked her, she gave the same excuse that the boy didn't propose yet so she will continue talking to the boy. And , when I take too much stress, my body gets sick , like nosebleed and suffocation and all, but she now treats my behaviour as mental torture as I share my insecurity and my worsening body condition. But last day when I asked the boy, the boy said that the girl(my girlfriend )was responsible for all this And when I said that I contacted the boy. She broke up. I tried to get in contact with her in every way possible but was blocked from every where. And she said that I didn't deserve love or friendship because I was being insecure about her that friend. Can you please.. please tell me where did I do wrong? Or what should I do?

What if I don't receive his call anymore.Will he regret or not? Will he miss me or not?

Hi I am a female in late 30. My parents are looking for arranged marriage set up currently and we connected a guy who is from same city but works in different city. His parents are in the same place as mine, saw me and are ok to fix the date for marriage. We had a video call in between with the guy and they are ok to make a final call with it. However, me and the guy have not met in person which is stopping me from saying yes. His family wants me to fly to his city and meet him which also seem little annoying to me. Another reason of annoyance few days back his parents proposed that we fly to a 3rd City and set the meeting which we declined. I would also like my parents( not only myself) to meet him in person if we are just meeting once and before we make a final call. Am I being illogical?

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I was in a relationship with a girl for 4 years. I tried many times to leave her, but ultimately I couldn't. Around April-May, I started distancing myself from her emotionally. I told her that if I ever marry her, I would also have to marry someone of my parents' choice - essentially saying I'd have two marriages. I started ignoring her intentionally. At that time, she got a job where she met a new guy - her team lead. He proposed marriage to her directly, introduced her to his parents via video call, and even had her meet his sister. I didn't know about this initially. But on the very day I found out, she was meeting his mother. That day, I directly went there, confronted her, got very angry, even broke her phone, and warned the guy as well - told him that if he truly wanted to marry her, he should talk to her family properly and bring a formal proposal. After that, I went to my hometown for 6 days. During that time, I asked the guy: "Why do you want to marry someone who is already in a sexual relationship with me?" Despite knowing everything, he was still interested in her. I realized he was probably just trying to use her and would eventually leave. Eventually, she understood this and blocked him. However, while I was away, they started talking again secretly. After I came back, they stopped meeting, and she acted as if she was fully committed to me. But 15 days later, she met him again and had sex with him twice on the same day. That same night, she had sex with me as well - which made me suspicious. I tried to confirm it with the guy, and eventually, he confessed. Later, she also admitted it and said it was a mistake, and that she thought he would marry her - but he ended up leaving her. I tried to reach him for 2 days after that, but he had disappeared, was unreachable through anyone. Later, I ended up marrying her. Now it's been about a month since the marriage. We have also filed an FIR against that guy. But even now, I cannot mentally move past what happened. I'm constantly disturbed. I started smoking again - I had quit 2 years ago. But now it's gone from 1-2 cigarettes to 5-6 daily. I feel lost. My mind says I should marry someone else, someone of my family's choice - because everything I thought was special between me and her, she ended up doing with someone else. And even now, after 2 months of marriage, she doesn't seem to show any regret or guilt. She still behaves like she did back then - nothing has changed. I thought she would improve after marriage, but it's the same daily fights, arguments, and instability. I don't know what to do. I feel stuck, mentally exhausted, betrayed, and confused.

This happened when I was 14-15 yrs old, I got attracted to my own aunt and we got physical 6-7 times but didn't f**k , this continued till 2-3 yrs then it stopped, i understood this, but this made attracted to elderly females. I got married at 24, wife was 27, lv marriage it was, marriage is 13 yrs as of now and we share good intimacy, 4-5 times a week we have. But the problem of getting attracted to elderly females is not going. What should I do as I fear I may fall, how to curb this s*x drive? Plz suggest something

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Hi, I am mister anonymous I just want to know what to do it a very close friend of mine and started having trust issues and now want to normally stay with me. He had helped me a lot in the past and also was with me in my difficult time. He had always cared a lot for me. Now i just feel single in this planet and even want him to be with me like before. I am not getting what to do whether to leave him like that or else just try to approach him and speak with him once

Hi i am recently struggling alot i feel like i cheated on my bf

My BF is still paying his ex's shopping bills. I just found out through his credit card statement. I asked him and he says she is a friend so sometimes she asks him to pay his rent or shopping bills when she is going through a bad time. I mean, if you are poor, you won't ask your ex to pay for your shopping, right? Isn't this also a form of cheating? He says No. He is just being kind and helping a friend. Should I confront her instead?

My husband deletes our couple pics before posting on Instagram. He is okay with posting pictures of his friends. He says he wants to keep his family life private. I find it very odd. Is this secrecy a red flag? He doesn't smile in our pictures.

Hello Guru. I am a 35 Year old Female looking for marriage prospects.. I am talking to a guy past 3 months when the numbers were exchanged through parents. We have common interests and most of the non negotiables aspects also felt good so I have been positive about this alliance. However the concern with this guy is, he doesnt show much interest himself to start conversation or ask for call or texts me. Although he can see my instagram profile he said he just checked 1 or 2 posts. So not having interest or curiosity to know the person seems odd to me. I expect that he asks me about me ,my hobbies , family , aspirations, he will ask back only when I initiate and ask him the same question. Is this a point to consider ? Is this a indication of a person being full of themselves , will he have space and interest for a partner and her preferences ? He says he is quite flexible and friendly and seems his mother is also same. She spoke to my mom but just talking about their stuff and kind of boasting but not having any consideration to ask my mom about us or our family. He was in my city for 1.5 months but no effort to meet me, only once we met as a formality on the last day before he was leaving. Same with calls, in span of 3 months we hardly spoke for 4-5 times when I asked for. Through his mother got to know that they are interested to go forward and he likes me but I am not feeling doubtful with the above points. Please give me some suggestion on how to understand this kind of personality and whether I should consider confronting the same ? If I confront maybe he will start doing this, but is that worth ?

Hii mam i have done my registered marriage in April 2024 without knowing of my parents and now i m living in my mother's House without telling that i m married ? Now how can i convince my parents. I have told my parents about him but don't even want to talk to him or his parents.. how can i convince my parents?

Dear Ravi, I am a 38 yr old housewife & mother of 1 son who is now 17 yrs old. We are Bengalis but in Pune for the last 12 yrs. About 10 yrs ago I used to regularly pick & drop my son to school then in class 3 , when I met another telegu woman who also used to do the same for his son. They were a close knit business family & sometime her elder jeths son who was then 22-23 yrs old used to come to pick up the kids. Many days I will gossip with him while waiting for the kids. Many a times I used to go to there house to meet his aunt & also talk to him, he was a good man but hardly completed his 10th , had some problems of bad company so his father got him to business. He used to call me aunty & I used to see him as my friends son( being my friend's jeths son). He used to then create problems at home & many a times my friend will ask me to talk to him which I used to do & he used to listen & correct. This gave me a good reputation in his family, this continued for 7-8 yrs before we changed our son's school . We were in touch initially then it became a very occasional call eventually loosing her phone number also. About 3 months back I met my friend in a mall by co-incident & started gossiping I told her of being single now. I enquired about her nephew & told me that they are not able to get a girl for him mainly because of his medical condition he will never be able to become a father, so they are now open for girls with kids. After a few days she called me to there house for a puja which I visited & also met with her family. After 2 days she & her sister in law suddenly came to my place with her jeths son, after an informal talk her jeths son took my son out & they asked me if I will be open to marry him. I am in a delima, I have seen this man always as a friends son& behaved accordingly but can I change my relationship with him to a husband wife. On this my friend she is saying that she is married to her mama as is acceptable in south , she gives her own story that she knew her husband for 20 yrs before marriage proposal & used to even play with him as her mama. It hardly took her time to change the relationship. Many of my friends talk about similar change of relationship. He & his family is very keen on this marriage. Can you help me to first decide if it is possible to change the relationship from friend's son to husband, if yes how to go about. I am also worried that in a few mnth my son will go to hostel for his engg & I will be alone

My cousin sister ( shikha ) married 2 years ago arrange marriage, every thing is ok ok in marriage. But she is living away from her husband since 1 year . Now she feels that she is not connecting emotionally with her husband due to living away . Now she is going to settle down with her husband.but it seems like a burden. Her husband is not romantic, not childish, a boring character, every time he is talking about work n future plans like old man . How she handle this situation.