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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Aug 06, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 25, 2025Hindi
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Hi actually there is this guy whose proposal came for my elder sister he's a nice guy my sister is not interested in marriage but i don't know why i liked him alot and messaged him he replied and strted having nrml convo he is 28 and i am 24 what should i do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
And what exactly made you reach out to this guy? Are you interested in marriage?
Let your sister first say NO to the marriage very clearly and then you can share with your elders that you like this guy. Do not go create a mess for yourself and others by making moves when there still hasn't been any closure with your sister and this guy. Makes sense?

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I am sorry to hear that you are facing such an issue. It isn't fair to put so much weight on your shoulders, especially at such a young age. But simultaneously I understand where your parents' concerns stem from; it is indeed a tough situation. Managing conflicting desires, especially with parents, is difficult.

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My boyfriend's mom is very possessive. Whenever we are together she finds a reason to interrupt or call him away from me. When we go out, she constantly checks on where he is, what we are doing, and how long we will be together. I feel like there is too much interference. He is 31, I am 27. We are both financially independent. But there is no space for us to build our relationship without his mom being involved in our lives. I understand her concern as a mother, but this level of control makes me feel invisible and sidelined. I'm worried how this will affect our relationship if we continue and take it to the future?
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I am planning to invest approximately ₹20,000 per month to meet my short- and medium-term financial goals. My primary objectives include funding my marriage in four years and my sister’s marriage in two years. In addition, I would like to plan for my long-term retirement goals and can invest ₹5,000 per month for the next 15 years or more. I request your guidance on suitable mutual fund options for both goals, preferably with exposure to equity and index funds, to optimize returns while aligning with my investment horizon and risk profile. Also i can increase year on year approx 10 %. Kindly suggest an appropriate investment strategy and mutual fund schemes for the above requirements. regards Shiju
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» Understanding your goals and time frames
– Sister’s marriage is a short-term goal of around 2 years
– Your own marriage is a medium-term goal of around 4 years
– Retirement is a long-term goal of 15 years or more
– Monthly investment capacity is Rs 20,000 for short and medium term goals
– Monthly investment capacity is Rs 5,000 for long-term retirement
– You are comfortable with gradual increase every year

» Right asset approach for short-term goal (2 years)
– Capital protection is more important than high return here
– Equity exposure should be limited because market ups and downs can hurt the goal
– Focus should be on stability and liquidity
– Use low-risk mutual fund categories with limited equity exposure
– Avoid pure equity funds for this goal
– Start moving money to safer options as the goal date comes closer

» Right asset approach for medium-term goal (4 years)
– This goal allows some equity exposure but not aggressive risk
– Balanced approach works better than full equity
– Equity portion should reduce as you reach the 4th year
– Gradual shift from equity-oriented funds to safer funds is important
– This protects the money when the goal is near

» Why index funds are not suitable for your goals
– Index funds only copy the market and cannot protect you in falling markets
– There is no fund manager decision to control risk during bad times
– In short and medium-term goals, market falls can delay marriages or force loans
– Actively managed funds try to control downside risk
– Fund managers can move between sectors and stocks based on market conditions
– This flexibility helps in protecting capital and improving consistency

» Long-term retirement planning approach (15 years or more)
– This is where equity should play a bigger role
– Long-term goals can handle market ups and downs
– Actively managed equity funds suit this horizon well
– Consistent investing and annual step-up will build strong wealth over time
– Avoid chasing last year’s top-performing funds
– Stick to quality funds with stable management

» Why regular mutual funds through a Certified Financial Planner help
– Regular funds give you ongoing monitoring and rebalancing support
– Behaviour control is very important during market corrections
– Many investors exit at wrong times without guidance
– A Certified Financial Planner helps align investments with life goals
– Cost difference is small, but guidance value is very high

» How to use the 10 percent annual increase wisely
– Increase SIP amount every year after salary revision
– First priority should be retirement SIP increase
– Next priority is medium-term marriage goal
– This keeps long-term wealth creation on track

» Tax awareness for your planning
– Equity mutual funds sold within one year attract higher short-term tax
– Selling after one year is more tax efficient for long-term goals
– Plan redemptions carefully near goal dates
– Do not redeem entire amount in one shot unless needed

» Final Insights
– You are on the right path by separating goals clearly
– Avoid index funds and focus on actively managed funds for better control
– Match risk level strictly with goal time frame
– Annual step-up will quietly do the heavy lifting
– With discipline and timely review, all three goals can be met without stress

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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i have jeevan anad policy 149 for 21 yrs,started in 2006 for 3 lac sum assured what will; be final amount in 2027- date of maturity
Ans: You have shown good discipline by continuing this long-term policy from 2006 till maturity. Staying invested for the full term in such policies needs patience, and that itself deserves appreciation.

» Policy snapshot in simple words
– Policy start year: 2006
– Policy term: 21 years
– Maturity year: 2027
– Sum assured: Rs 3,00,000
– Type: Traditional life insurance with savings and yearly bonuses

» How the maturity amount is generally built
– The final amount at maturity is mainly made of two parts
– First part is the basic sum assured, which is Rs 3,00,000
– Second part is the accumulated simple reversionary bonuses added every year
– Some years may also have a small final bonus, depending on overall performance

» Expected maturity value by 2027
– For policies started around 2006 with a 21-year term, the bonus rates were relatively stable for many years
– Over the full policy term, the total maturity amount usually becomes around 2 times the sum assured, sometimes slightly more
– In practical terms, your maturity amount in 2027 is likely to be in the range of
– Around Rs 5.75 lakh to Rs 6.50 lakh
– The exact figure will depend on the final bonus declared in the year of maturity

» What this amount means for you financially
– The maturity value is safe and tax-free under current rules
– It works well as a lump-sum support fund rather than a high-growth investment
– The returns are steady but modest when compared to long-term inflation
– The policy also continues to provide life cover even after maturity, which adds emotional comfort

» Important planning observations
– This policy has already done its job by giving safety and forced savings
– Since maturity is close, it is wise to plan how this amount will be used before 2027
– Options can include debt reduction, children’s education support, or building a stable low-risk allocation
– Avoid keeping the entire maturity amount idle in savings for too long

» Final Insights
– Your discipline over 21 years is the biggest strength here
– Expect a maturity amount close to Rs 6 lakh, give or take
– The value lies more in certainty and peace than in high returns
– With proper reinvestment planning after maturity, this amount can still play a meaningful role in your overall financial picture

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