विशेषज्ञ की सलाह चाहिए?हमारे गुरु मदद कर सकते हैं

I have been in a relationship where my partner sometimes makes me feel like I am the most important person in their life, but at other times behaves like I don't matter at all. One day he talk about marriage and a future together, and the next day he says he need space and don't want any commitment. Whenever I try to discuss this, he say I am overthinking. I am finding it difficult to understand what he really want from me. Why do some he give such mixed signals and how can I decide whether to keep trying or walk away?

I am in love with someone who has not studied as much as I have. We understand each other well, but sometimes I worry about how our different educational backgrounds may affect our future, especially when it comes to career, lifestyle and social circles. Am I giving too much importance to education while choosing a life partner?

My partner often makes jokes about my dressing, English-speaking skills and appearance in front of friends and relatives. Everyone laughs, including my partner, but I feel embarrassed. When I complain, I am told that I cannot take a joke. How do I make my partner understand the difference between fun and disrespect?

I have started dating boy who says their previous relationship is over. However, they still talk to their ex occasionally, wish each other on birthdays and sometimes meet because they have common friends. I don't want to appear insecure or ask them to cut off old friendships, but I am worried that their past relationship may still affect our future.

I have been talking to a girl for the last three months. Sometimes she messages me first, asks about my day and shows interest in meeting me. But at other times, she takes days to reply and behaves like we are just friends. I don't want to ask directly and make things awkward. How can I understand whether she is interested in me or just being friendly?

I am in my late 30s and most of my friends are already married or settled with their families. My parents have started putting pressure on me to get married, and I have tried both dating apps and introductions through relatives. But whenever I meet someone, I either don't feel a connection or start worrying about whether I am making the right choice. How can I date with an open mind without feeling that I am running out of time?

Whenever I start dating someone, things seem to go well for the first two or three meetings. We exchange messages, talk about our interests and even discuss meeting again, but eventually the other person says they don't feel a connection. This has happened several times, and I am beginning to wonder whether something is wrong with me. How can I understand what might be going wrong without losing my confidence or changing my personality just to impress someone?

I am not very religious and don’t really enjoy doing puja or praising God, but my wife has a strong belief in religion. She often tells me that I should also take part in prayers and visit temples with her. She feels that if something gives peace of mind and does not harm anyone, there is no reason not to try it. I understand her point, but I don’t want to do something just because I am being told to, especially when I don’t feel the same connection with religion. I respect my wife’s beliefs and don’t want her to think that I am against her faith. At the same time, I want her to respect my way of thinking. How can we handle this difference without arguing or making either of us feel that our beliefs are not being respected?

I am happily married, but sometimes I feel attracted to other women I meet in everyday life. At first, I ignore these feelings, but occasionally I catch myself looking at the same person repeatedly or thinking about her later. I have no intention of cheating on my wife, but I wonder why these attractions happen even when I love my partner. Is this normal, and how can I make sure these feelings don't affect my marriage?

Hi, My sister is 41 years and her husband is 44 years old. She recently shared that she and her husband are no longer able to have sex properly as her husband can’t hold the position long enough to have it. He even used some kind of spray to last it longer but it didn’t work. This happened last 4-5 times and then she told her husband that there is some problem. Her husband ignored her and told her that he is not the one with the problem and blamed my sister instead. He blatantly refused to visit the doctor. How should she go forward and help her husband. Earlier as well, they would get intimate once or twice a year only.

My mother-in-law is a very good cook, and recently I took her alu wadi to my office. Five of my colleagues tasted it and liked it so much that they asked if she could prepare it for them regularly as a tiffin service. I feel this could be a nice opportunity for her to earn some extra money from her cooking skills. However, I am not sure how to bring up the idea with her. I don’t want her to feel that I am treating her cooking like a business or putting pressure on her to cook for others.

One day my son studing in 4th grade suddenly asked me, ‘If you got three wishes, what would you ask for? I told him my three wishes would be to finish my home loan as soon as possible, open my own cafe someday, and become successful in life. Then I asked him what his wishes would be. His answer completely caught me off guard. He said, 'I want bubbles above my friends heads with percentages written on them, so I can know how much they really love and care about me and which friendships are fake. I honestly didn’t expect such an emotional answer from him. It made me wonder whether children at this age already think so deeply about friendship, acceptance and whether people genuinely like them. Is this just a child being imaginative and curious, or can such answers sometimes tell us something about what a child is feeling socially?

My father-in-law is very involved in our family life. He often tells us how we should spend money, take care of our children and even handle small things at home. My wife feels that he is only giving advice because he cares about us, but sometimes I feel that he is getting too involved in our personal decisions. I respect him and I don’t want to create any problem with him or make my wife feel that I don’t like her father. But at the same time, I feel that my wife and I should have some space to make our own decisions as a couple. How can I explain this to my wife in a calm way and set some limits without making her feel that I am disrespecting or rejecting her father?

There is a woman who lives near me, and I never really paid much attention to her before. Recently, my wife pointed out that the woman sometimes wears a revealing maxi dress at home and sits near her open door while watching TV. We ended up discussing it, and I admitted to my wife that I also find her appearance attractive. The strange thing is that now I have started noticing her more than before. Sometimes I catch myself wanting to look again and again, and I find myself thinking about it even when she is not around. I know this is only a fantasy, but I am worried that because my wife and I have talked about it openly, I may be encouraging these thoughts instead of letting them pass. Why has something I barely noticed before suddenly become so interesting to me, and how can I understand whether this is just a harmless attraction or something I should be concerned about in my relationship?

My girlfriend is very sweet, caring, and serious about our relationship, and both our families are also positive about us getting married in the future. The only thing is, whenever we have romantic moments and I try to get physically close or intimate, she becomes comfortable very quickly and doesn’t really show much hesitation or shyness. Somewhere I enjoy the emotional connection, but at the same time I also like the slow build-up, teasing, nervousness, and cute shy reactions that make romantic moments feel more exciting and memorable. I don’t want to force her to behave differently, but I’m wondering - is it normal to want that kind of slower emotional chemistry and playful tension in a relationship?

I have a friend with whom I share a good relationship, but I have noticed something over the years. Whenever he is going through a difficult time, he calls me, shares his problems and expects me to be available. I listen to him and try to help whenever I can. But when something good happens in my life or I need someone to talk to, he is often busy or doesn’t show the same interest. Still, whenever we meet, he behaves like nothing has changed between us. I sometimes wonder whether he genuinely values our friendship or just likes having someone available whenever he needs support.

I’m facing a small but recurring issue with my wife when it comes to money. I’m naturally more of a saving person—I like keeping some money aside for future expenses, emergencies, children’s needs and other things that may come up unexpectedly. My wife, on the other hand, feels that if we can comfortably afford something now, there is no point in always postponing it just to save more. It’s not that either of us is irresponsible with money, and thankfully we don’t have any major financial problems, but this difference in our thinking keeps coming up every few weeks. Sometimes it starts with something as simple as buying something for the house or planning a holiday and then turns into a discussion about our overall spending habits. I don’t want her to feel that I’m controlling how she spends her money, and at the same time, I don’t want to feel guilty for wanting to save. How can couples with very different financial habits find a middle ground and decide together how much to spend, save and keep aside for the future without making money become a regular source of tension in the marriage?

I sometimes get upset because my wife remembers small things I said during an argument months ago, while I usually forget them once the disagreement is over. She says those words still affect how she feels about me, whereas I feel we should be able to move on after apologising. Why do one can remember the same argument so differently, and how to stop old disagreements from repeatedly coming back into new ones?

I’m a little confused about how I should handle situations involving my husband and his parents. Whenever they have an argument or disagreement, I usually prefer to stay quiet because I feel that if I get involved, the situation could become even more complicated. I don’t want his parents to feel that I’m trying to create a distance between them, and I also don’t want to say something in the heat of the moment that I may regret later. But after the argument is over, my husband sometimes tells me that he expected me to support him because I’m his wife. From my point of view, supporting him doesn’t necessarily mean agreeing with him or taking his side every time, especially when I don’t know the complete context of their disagreement. At the same time, I can understand why he may feel hurt if he thinks I’m simply standing by and watching when he needs me. How should to handle these situations when disagreements with in-laws keep creating tension in the marriage? Is there a healthy way for a spouse to show support without automatically taking sides or disrespecting the other family members?

I’ve been seeing someone for a few months and things are getting serious. Recently, while we were talking about our college days, she mentioned that she had been in a relationship before me. I didn’t think much of it initially, but later I started wondering how serious they were, why they broke up and whether she still compares certain things between us. I don’t want to keep questioning her or make her feel like she has to justify her past, but at the same time, I find myself getting curious and sometimes insecure about things I know nothing about. How much is it actually reasonable to know about a partner’s past relationship when you’re thinking of a long-term future together?

A friend of mine has been dating his girlfriend for almost a year, and lately money has started becoming a slightly uncomfortable topic between them. In the beginning, he would happily pay for dinners, cabs and small shopping because he wanted to make her feel special. But recently she has started asking him to lend her money for things like bills or unexpected expenses, and he has helped a few times. He doesn’t mind supporting her when there is a genuine need, but he’s now worried that saying no might make her think he has changed or doesn’t care anymore. How should couples handle situations like this? Is it better to set some financial boundaries early, even in a serious relationship, or can that make things feel too formal?

My wife's sister's husband has become very friendly with me over the last few years. We meet often at family functions and sometimes talk separately about our personal lives. In the beginning, I was comfortable sharing things with him because I thought we had a good understanding. But slowly, I feel he has started asking too many questions about my marriage and my relationship with my wife. He sometimes asks about our arguments, our private matters and how we handle things at home. At the same time, he also shares many personal details about his own marriage with me, including problems and things that I feel are too private. Sometimes I don’t know how to respond, because I don’t want to encourage him to discuss such personal matters, but I also don’t want him to feel that I am avoiding him or judging him. Because we are family, I am worried that if I suddenly create distance or tell him directly to stop asking personal questions, it could create awkwardness between both families. I also don’t want my wife to feel that I am hiding something from her or that there is some problem between us.

I once told a relative something personal about my marriage related to sex because I trusted them. Later, I found out that the same information was discussed with other family members. Should I confront the person about breaking my trust, or is it better to quietly stop sharing personal matters with them?

Why I haven't atleast one girlfriend still?

I am in love with a married woman who has a two-year-old daughter. She doesn't look at me, but I try to catch a glimpse of her and constantly wait for her to step out of the house. Please help me.

Hlo msg me relationship

My wife and I are both 45, and we have a 10-year-old daughter. We are financially comfortable and, from a practical point of view, we could afford to have a second child. Sometimes we feel that our daughter would love having a sibling, and the thought of expanding our family is exciting. We also feel that having another child could bring a different kind of happiness and experience into our lives. At the same time, we have been a family of three for the last 10 years and have become comfortable with our routine and lifestyle. Starting again with a newborn at this stage of our lives feels like a huge responsibility. We worry about whether we have the same energy, patience and emotional readiness that we had when we became parents the first time. There is also the reality that we would be much older when the child reaches important stages of life. We find ourselves going back and forth between wanting another child and wondering whether we are simply feeling that our daughter should have a sibling. We don’t want to make such a life-changing decision out of guilt, social expectations or fear of future regret. How can we honestly assess whether we genuinely want another child, or whether we are just attracted to the idea of giving our daughter a sibling?

My husband doesn't trust me at all. Ours was an arranged marriage. After our son was born, we stopped being intimate as we got busy in our lives. He used to travel for work and I was managing everything alone. When he was home I would step out to meet my friends or stay up working late thinking he will take care of our son. However, he started doubting me and start following up, stalking me. He would pass comments about the dress I am wearing, the people I meet at work, the clothes I wear etc. At one point it got dirty and disgusting. It's been over a year since we went out or had a sit down conversation. I don't feel like talking to him any more because every conversation leads to arguments like these. He thinks I am having an affair with every guy I meet. What should I do?

A close friend of mine started treating another friend’s wife as his “sister,” but over time his behaviour became uncomfortable. He would make jokes with her, hug her frequently and touch her casually, almost as if calling her a “sister” gave him the right to cross normal personal boundaries. My wife noticed this behaviour and brought it to my attention, which made me look at the situation differently. Now I’m confused about how I should react. I don’t want to judge my friend or create unnecessary problems based only on what I have observed, but at the same time, I don’t want to ignore behaviour that makes my wife or me uncomfortable.

A close friend recently got married and now spends almost all his free time with his wife. He has gradually stopped meeting his old friends and even avoids family plans because he feels guilty leaving her alone. His wife hasn’t specifically asked him to do this. How do you maintain a healthy relationship while still keeping your own friendships and individual life?

Can being too available actually create problems in a relationship? I’m talking about someone who immediately replies to every message, always changes their plans for their partner and is constantly available whenever the other person needs them. They’re doing it out of love, but could this eventually lead to losing personal boundaries or taking each other for granted?

My partner and I don’t really fight, but lately we’ve started feeling more like roommates. We talk about bills, work, groceries and family responsibilities, but hardly have proper conversations anymore. Nothing dramatic has happened between us, so how do couples recognise when emotional distance is quietly developing?

Hi, I have been living in posh sector of NOIDA for 36 years with my family including my wife, daughter, son and my parents in a nice huge house of around 12 bed rooms. Three bed room set we have rented out. Now my kids have started working and due to their job profile, are not living with us. Me and my wife live separately in the same house although my kids have their rooms with my parents. Now only we four i.e. parents , me and my wife live in the huge house. My wife purchase a new 2 BHK flat nearby and wants me to move out with her. How can I leave my parents, who are in their 80's now, with whom I have been living for last 57 years since my birth. Neither can I let my wife live all alone. Kindly suggest.

Afterv20 uears of marriage i came to about my husband is in contact with his ex girlfriend

I have a friend who takes hours to reply to messages and then immediately starts wondering whether the other person is upset with her. She checks the last-seen status, rereads messages and sometimes sends another text just to get a response. She knows she is overthinking, but she can’t seem to stop. How can someone break this kind of relationship anxiety?

Is being in sexless marriage worth it ?????? This year no sex at all. Just we are becoming people who are staying together just for heck of it or for social security!!!!! I am telling y wife better we sleep separate as we don't have that feelings towards each other. Please advice.

My parents are being unreasonable after my marriage. They are 56 and 63 but they behave like kids. After marriage, for every festival, my parents expect me to come home and spend time with them. If I celebrate a festival with my husband or his family, they become upset and accuse me of forgetting my own parents after marriage. They also expect me to visit them frequently and feel hurt if I cannot meet their expectations. I understand that they miss me and that it may be difficult for them to accept the changes that come after a daughter's marriage. However, I now have my own home, husband and responsibilities too. I am pregnant and now the fight is between who does what and where I will stay after my pregnancy. Whenever I try to explain this to them, they become emotional and say that I have changed since getting married. I love my parents and don't want to hurt them, but I also don't want to feel guilty every time I make plans with my husband or his family. What should I do? Please help.

I recently met a couple who have been married for more than 20 years, and honestly, at first I thought they were siblings because their facial features and even their expressions looked surprisingly similar. Is it possible for couples to actually start looking alike after spending so many years together, or do we just begin to notice similarities because we already know they belong together?

Hello Anu, Me and my wife are hardly having sex and being felt intimated from past 7 months. We have no intimacy connection now, we are just with each other with zero sex with marriage of 15 years long. Don't know what to do with it. We don't even talk of why we have so low sex drive. What can be done?

I love my cousin she is my mother sister doughter and we want to marry each other family is not accpeting our relation saying kill all relationship with or find us dead they emotionally blackmailing her and im not able to anything she is 17 year old im 27 literally i feel like dying because right now i am not able to do anything our talk also stop what shoud i do pls help me

I was looking for a girl and recently went to see one through a family friend she seemed good looking nice had good convo, her parents also liked me , but after a few days they told that she is not agreeing, and rejected me for a petty reason which was laughable later i enquired about her through social media i got to know she is in a relationship with a guy , dont know how serious they are but i was heartbroken as i had fallen for her everything matched and just because of this guy all those efforts gone in vain , now i am confused and have lost confidence in seeing girls i had started loving her and thought maybe she had some misunderstanding, so i need your help how to cope up with this and forget her

For the question: "My parents are looking for grooms who are 10 years elder to me. I don't connect with the person at all. How to convince parents I am not interested in marrying a random stranger simply because he is well settled, has a good job and parents. I am 24, I want to work, travel, have my own experiences. my parents dont want me to date anyone, just get married. How is this fair? Am I asking something wrong?", One very important point you missed adding is that whether the person wants to marry at all. There are increasingly women who want to not marry and unsettle themselves. And it is her choice. Parents cannot force marriage on her. If they do, it can become a police case too of forced marriage.

My mother-in-law gets involved in almost every aspect of my married life. She has moved in with us and tells me how to manage our home and children. She has a problem -- she has an opinion on everything I do. When my husband is around, she acts innocent to get his love and attention. She is a frequent liar and this has led to frequent arguments between us. My husband is finding it difficult to balance his relationship with both of us. How can I save my marriage?

I was looking for a girl and recently went to see one through a family friend she seemed good looking nice had good convo, her parents also liked me , but after a few days they told that she is not agreeing, and rejected me for a petty reason which was laughable later i enquired about her through social media i got to know she is in a relationship with a guy , dont know how serious they are but i was heartbroken as i had fallen for her everything matched and just because of this guy all those efforts gone in vain , now i am confused and have lost confidence in seeing girls i had started loving her and thought maybe she had some misunderstanding, so i need your help how to cope up with this and forget her

Hi, I am 58 Yr old Male with 29 yrs into arranged marriage. I have 2 daughters. I am being treated like a stranger in my own house. My wife does not give respect, no value, no love and affection care. Always negatives talking about me for everything. Not listen to any thing regarding family or personal matters. I am not earning much. I am doing my best doing business services. For everything I need basic amount to manage my business until it develops. There is no support for this from my family. Instead of supporting and motivating me, She is always negative about me. She knows I am not earning enough and unable to meet major transactions. She has come from a wealthy family were as I am not. She has helped in providing financial support many times. Now past 3-4 yrs, her behavior has changed. She taunts and blames me for she providing the financial support. Whatever she has provided is always used for family. she knows that. I am unable to focus on my business development. She's gives negative feedback about me to my daughters and they also behave same with me, Instead of supporting and motivating me. There is no intimacy or sex past 1 year. Hardly 1 once in a month earlier, after I force (make positive effort) her lovingly. I love her very much. But this is making me lose that love & affection on her. In our 29 yrs of marriage, she never initiated intimacy, love. Always I been doing it. She never shows interest in getting physical right from 1st day. She has not kissed me even once or hugged me voluntarily in these 29 yrs. I initiate everything. I am romantic. She is not. She gives one or the other reason and avoids. She avoids kissing. She never liked gifts i bought for her. I want her to wear different dresses, but she rejects. Though we sleep on same bed, she just sleeps off. When i go to her, either she pushes or says she has to wake up early sleep now. Even with so many days gap, when I initiate intimacy after 1-3 months, but she taunts saying I only want that from her. I have been hugging, kissing and showing love, affection care on her right from the 1st day of marriage. The same thing is missing from her. I have tried many times talking to her in polite way, trying to woo her, but of no use. I have approached many times we can have one on one talk and sort out any issues she has with me, but she avoids coming into talking terms. I have tried to talk saying lets understand whats going wrong. If I start generally talking, she starts arguing, negative talking and avoids the main discussion that forces me to shut my mouth. when we go out on a 2-3 day trip, she enjoys outing seeing places, food & sleep. Doesn't behave romantically, lovingly. It's just like same as at home. Even I know I am not earning much and trying best to do well. She always keep telling about her money and financial support and her parental house with arrogance & attitude. She has been good with her parental side, but not my side. I believe both husband and wife should take care of family together irrespective of who is more financially strong. Just because I am not earning well, this type of treatment I don't understand. If it was recent few yrs I can understand. But right from day one I have been facing this. Now I've stopped talking much and in silence going through loneliness.

Hi Madam, I am from Jaipur. My daughter is married in well off joint family having a baby of 2 years. My daughter is facing the following problem/s. 1. In their family, she has mother-in-law, her two sons (daughter is married to the elder son), the other son is also married with a working wife. My daughter is also working in a reputed multinational company. 2. We have raised our daughter with good values viz. always respect elders whether or not they reciprocate with love, keep good relations with all (elders and younger), to take care of home. 3. The problem is her mother-in-law is totally in favour of her younger daughter-in-law as she is from their caste. She gives more importance to the younger bahu than my daughter. No matter how much my daughter does for her mom-in-law and others in the family, she always finds fault with her. On the other hand, the younger daughter-in-law is very clever and shrewd and finds ways to butter mother-in-law and the sister-in-law (who is also married having 2 children, living separately). She does very less household work and still manages to get praise from all because of her shrewdness. My daughter doesn’t like doing buttering, lip-service. 4. My daughter is therefore continuously facing physical and mental stress due to all this. She shares her sufferings with me and I try to console her and advise her to tactfully handle situations as they arrive. Don’t take too much stress but I understand her situation. 5. My son-in-law though loves his wife but care more for his ageing mother and therefore doesn’t confront his mother, his bhabhi or his younger brother (who is also totally in favour of his wife i.e. younger daughter-in-law). He supports my daughter in private but doesn’t confront his mother whenever my daughter complains about her, saying mom might feel hurt. 6. The biggest problem is due to all this; my daughter is in great stress. Sometimes unable to cope with extreme situations surrounding her. She keeps sharing her thoughts and problems with me and I give her advice according to best my knowledge and experience. I request for your expert advice on what action should we take so that my daughter can lead a normal, dignified life. Thanks.

Hello Ma'am, My Son is 16 y/o and studing in class 10. He is in love with one of girl studing in his class, she also like my son and already reciprocated her feeleing. We both are working parents and as he lives alone all day at home, we have provided him Mobile, WiFi , Cable TV etc... Now we are worried as this can effect his studies as well as that girl too. WE as a parents tried our best to convyence him(my son) to stop all these things and focus on studies. Pls advice how to resolve this issue..?

Hello Mam/Sir I’m in relationship with my cousin and we both want to get married . How should I convince my parents as in Northern India. Our both parents completely against it but we can't live without each other what should i do pls help me Right now im not able to do anything

my daughter 28+ feels that she should be married to a boy of same age or at the most 3 years old, does it make any difference if she marries a person who is 5 years senior to me