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Dr Upneet Kaur |47 Answers |Ask -Follow
Marriage counsellor - Answered on Jun 20, 2025
Hello Ma'am, I have been married for almost 14 years and have a 10 year old. A few months ago my husband found some intimate chats of mine with someone else. I am extremely remorseful of my actions. Honestly those chats happened because my husband never showed me any love or concern. However I know that's not excuse to have those chats. After seeing those chats he got extremely angry and threw me out of the house. It's been more than 3 months. He is not willing to forgive me. He wants separation and he has told our daughter also that we are separated. I am so heartbroken that because of my blunder I lost my husband and daughter. Is there any way I can get back with my husband
Ans: Hello mam. I understand that you are in a bad situation where your kid is also involved. You can convince your husband by requesting him to trust you one last time and let me take you back and your daughter needs you in every way now. She is 10 and will have hormonal changes soon which only a mother will be able to make a daughter understand. She will feel more comfortable with you. Try to convince your husband that you will be a good wife. Try this and plz tell me your feedback.
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Jun 20, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Jun 06, 2025
I'm a 41-year-old businessman. I live in Ahmedabad with my wife and two kids, aged 12 and 8. Whenever I come home from a trip, my wife starts blaming me for everything that happened during the week. I call her every day and all I get to hear is I am a bad husband and father. She expects me to be home by 7 every day. She knows I am a businessman and my work timings are never fixed. I travel for work and meetings so I make up once a week by spending time with the kids. She feels it's not enough. We have hired maids to help my wife but she never takes responsibility. She never appreciates my hard work or how I struggle to give them a good life. She is always been complaining about something. Is this emotional manipulation or just bad communication?
Ans: Hello sir. I understand your situation. For a businessman, these things are very normal. They have to balance both the things. Your wife may be facing same issues. She is also handling house and kids. And she needs your time also. Try to manage your time in an efficient way and try to spend some more time with your family. They need you and so as your business. If you can give some of your business work to your wife, that may also help. I hope this solves your problem.
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Jun 20, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Jun 19, 2025
I never had the courage to share this with anyone, but after watching a lot of recent movies, I feel I must share this with someone.
I've been married to my wonderful wife for 8 years. We have two young kids, 6 and 4. A few years ago, I had a one-time affair with a colleague during an office offsite. It was an emotionally charged moment, but the affair was a brief one. I got a bit too carried away.
It's been 2 years and 3 months. We work in the same office, and I'm overwhelmed with guilt. I haven't told anyone. She is single, and we go out on casual dates, even harmless flirting, but never discussing the event. She asked me if I would ever confess this to my wife. I said No, because she is very close to my family now. I'm scared of losing my family, but at the same time, I feel like a fraud every day. This guilt is not letting me sleep. But if I confess, I don't know how my wife will respond. Things may not go back to normal.
Isn't it better to silently carry the guilt? Please suggest what to do.
Ans: Hello sir.. carrying guilt within you is such a big burden that slowly and slowly your mind will be full of it and you may start thinking more of that moment. There are two options either you completely forget it and move ahead or the second option is that you take your wife out to some good place and then confess this. Accept it that it was a mistake and you are actually sorry about it. This will have two benefits. One that colleague will never had a chance to blackmail you and secondly your wife will start trusting you more and you will live a guilt free life. You will be more happy.
Just try to convince your wife that now i am not involved in anything otherwise i wouldn't have tell you. I hope you will make the right choice.
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Just try to convince your wife that now i am not involved in anything otherwise i wouldn't have tell you. I hope you will make the right choice.
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Ravi Mittal |602 Answers |Ask -Follow
Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jun 19, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Jun 19, 2025
Why do men ghost after sex? I met this amazing guy on Hinge. He was 27, well-mannered, and worked in a data firm in Mumbai. We spoke daily for three months and had amazing chemistry. From music to food, we discussed everything under the sun. We went on a couple of dates to get to know each other. When we got comfortable, we got intimate and eventually had consensual s** at his friend's house party. One week after we got intimate, he just vanished. No replies, no calls. It was my first time, so I kept wondering if I had done something wrong to upset him.
My friend says it could be post-intimacy guilt. But I feel embarrassed, ashamed. I can't shake off the shame. Did I move too fast? Is this how dating works now? How can I go back to feeling normal again?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am really sorry you are going through this. What happened is just as confusing as it is hurtful. Let’s get one thing straight, you did nothing wrong. You are not at fault here. Nothing you could’ve done or said should or could cause this reaction.
Coming to your first question, it is very difficult to answer it without generalizing all men. But some of the most reasons for this could be:
He got what he wanted. It sounds crass but in most cases, this is the truth. He had no intentions of being more than just that.
He might be avoiding responsibility. He didn’t want more, and the mature thing would have been to sit down and have that discussion with you. But, maturity isn’t easy and he chose the easy route, that is to ghost. His decision to disappear is a reflection of his nature, not yours.
Coming to what your friend said, it could be that too, but the chances are slim. Some men do feel overwhelmed but disappearing for over a week is a stretch. Again, it’s his unreadiness to feel so many emotions, not yours.
Now, I want to gently nudge you towards one thing: you said you feel ashamed. Shame creeps in when you hold yourself accountable for someone else’s actions. And also due to societal prejudice. Keep both aside, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Did you move too fast? To be honest, there is no fast or slow in these things. There’s no set timeline. You did what you felt was right in the moment. And you were ready to step up, but he went MIA. The entire unfortunate turnout is not because of your pace but his lack of respect. Even if he comes up with a good enough reason for this disappearing act, I still want you to remember that not even for a second, you had anything to create this situation.
I hope this helps.
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I am really sorry you are going through this. What happened is just as confusing as it is hurtful. Let’s get one thing straight, you did nothing wrong. You are not at fault here. Nothing you could’ve done or said should or could cause this reaction.
Coming to your first question, it is very difficult to answer it without generalizing all men. But some of the most reasons for this could be:
He got what he wanted. It sounds crass but in most cases, this is the truth. He had no intentions of being more than just that.
He might be avoiding responsibility. He didn’t want more, and the mature thing would have been to sit down and have that discussion with you. But, maturity isn’t easy and he chose the easy route, that is to ghost. His decision to disappear is a reflection of his nature, not yours.
Coming to what your friend said, it could be that too, but the chances are slim. Some men do feel overwhelmed but disappearing for over a week is a stretch. Again, it’s his unreadiness to feel so many emotions, not yours.
Now, I want to gently nudge you towards one thing: you said you feel ashamed. Shame creeps in when you hold yourself accountable for someone else’s actions. And also due to societal prejudice. Keep both aside, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Did you move too fast? To be honest, there is no fast or slow in these things. There’s no set timeline. You did what you felt was right in the moment. And you were ready to step up, but he went MIA. The entire unfortunate turnout is not because of your pace but his lack of respect. Even if he comes up with a good enough reason for this disappearing act, I still want you to remember that not even for a second, you had anything to create this situation.
I hope this helps.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jun 16, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Jun 14, 2025
Hi I am a divorced women and very recently a married handsome colleague approached me and we started flirting soon we got little intimate , now I have developed feelings for him where as he is a Casanova and open about the fact that he has multiple physical incidents outside his marriage, he love is wife and do it for fun with no emotional baggage or connect. I am not able to detach myself from him now, his behaviour towards me keeps on changing and very recently he has started flirting with other girls in front of me and ignoring me . I feel emotionally drained and weak , I cry and feel hurt, what should I do
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that it must be tough to see someone you like, flirting with another person in front of you. But, as you said, your colleague often does this and he has been upfront about this. Now, you need to understand that your feelings are valid even if you knew about his nature. But having said that, I don’t think there’s much you can do about him. The best thing is to slowly distance yourself from him and end his chapter here. The more you get involved and look for answers the more you will get hurt. Try spending more time with friends and people who truly appreciate you.
Best wishes.
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I understand that it must be tough to see someone you like, flirting with another person in front of you. But, as you said, your colleague often does this and he has been upfront about this. Now, you need to understand that your feelings are valid even if you knew about his nature. But having said that, I don’t think there’s much you can do about him. The best thing is to slowly distance yourself from him and end his chapter here. The more you get involved and look for answers the more you will get hurt. Try spending more time with friends and people who truly appreciate you.
Best wishes.
Anu Krishna |1622 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 16, 2025
Hlo mam my name is harpreet kaur and I love the person whos name is ArjunSehgal we are intercaste i m in big tension will our parents aggree for marriage
Ans: Dear Akanshi,
Now, how your parents will agree, whether they will agree or not is something you have to find out. If you know that they will not agree, then imagine the entire situation and talk to your partner about it...together come up with a plan on how you both are going to handle the situation and what you will be presenting as an argument to your parents. Plan and then bring the topic up with your parents.
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Now, how your parents will agree, whether they will agree or not is something you have to find out. If you know that they will not agree, then imagine the entire situation and talk to your partner about it...together come up with a plan on how you both are going to handle the situation and what you will be presenting as an argument to your parents. Plan and then bring the topic up with your parents.
All the best!
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Kanchan Rai |607 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 14, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Jun 10, 2025
Mere sath kuch time se aisa ho rha hai ki mai logo se milne unse baat krne me apne aap meri puri body kaapne lagti jise mai bhut control karne ki kosish karti hu but kar ni paati hu jiske wajah se mai kisi se even apni family se bhi baat ni kr paa ri hu mujhe kahi bhi jaane se darr lagne laga hai. khushi me mauke me bhi khush ni ho paati but aisa ni h ki mai hona chahti, mai hona chahti hu but wo mere control me bilkul bhi ni hota hai. ye chize meri social life ko bhut effect daal ri hai. sometimes to aisa hota hai ki meri heartbeat bhut fast ho jati hu, chest me pain hone lgta hai. mujhe meri problem hi samajh ni aa rahi. Meri sleep schedule and khana bhi sb proper hai but fr bhi ye mere sath kyu ho rha mujhe bilkul bhi smajh ni aa rha h. mai kiske paas jau kisse help lu mujhe kuch bhi samajh ni aa raha please help me
Ans: Jo symptoms aap bata rahi hain — logon se milne par kaanpna, control na rehna, heartbeat ka fast hona, chest pain, khushi ke maukon par bhi khush na ho paana — yeh anxiety disorder ke clear signs ho sakte hain, khaaskar social anxiety disorder ya panic attacks.
Sabse pehle, aapko yeh samajhna hoga ki aap ki problem real hai, serious hai, lekin treatable hai. Aap weak nahi hain. Aap ek aisi psychological condition ka samna kar rahi hain jiska proper treatment possible hai — aur aapne sabse pehla aur bahadur kadam le liya hai: apni feelings ko articulate karna.
Aapko iss waqt ek clinical psychologist ya psychiatrist se consult karna chahiye. Psychiatrist agar zarurat samjhe to mild medication bhi de sakte hain jo aapke nervous system ko calm karne mein help karega. Psychologist ke through aapko CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) jaise tools milenge jo aapko apni anxiety ko samajhne, manage karne aur dheere-dheere control mein laane mein help karenge.
Sabse pehle, aapko yeh samajhna hoga ki aap ki problem real hai, serious hai, lekin treatable hai. Aap weak nahi hain. Aap ek aisi psychological condition ka samna kar rahi hain jiska proper treatment possible hai — aur aapne sabse pehla aur bahadur kadam le liya hai: apni feelings ko articulate karna.
Aapko iss waqt ek clinical psychologist ya psychiatrist se consult karna chahiye. Psychiatrist agar zarurat samjhe to mild medication bhi de sakte hain jo aapke nervous system ko calm karne mein help karega. Psychologist ke through aapko CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) jaise tools milenge jo aapko apni anxiety ko samajhne, manage karne aur dheere-dheere control mein laane mein help karenge.
Asked on - Jun 16, 2025 | Answered on Jun 17, 2025
Mam kya aap kisi ko suggest ko kar sakti hai jo meri problem thik kar sake kyuki jaha mai rehti hu wo town bhut chhota h yha phychologist ni milenge. Kyuki mujhe kuch bhi smajh ni aa rha mai kisse baat karu.
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Kanchan Rai |607 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 14, 2025
Mera LVH mild aaya hai.age 42..tension aor depression rahta hai ..kaam m man nai lagta hai..
Ans: Aapko is waqt do cheezon ki zarurat hai: ek achha cardiologist jo aapki heart condition ko manage kare — ho sakta hai lifestyle changes aur kuch medicines ke zariye. Aur ek therapist ya emotional wellbeing expert, jo aapke tension aur mood-related issues ko samjhe aur heal karne mein madad kare.
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Jun 13, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Jun 05, 2025
Hello gurus..
I have a friend who has been married for 10 years and with 2 kids one 8 yr old daughter and a two year old son. His wife whom he loved and trusted so much had cheated on him with one of her friends for almost 3 years which he came to know about last year. Though he could not digest that and thought of divorcing her but thinking about his children's future he changed his mind and told her to end all communication with him in order to save this marriage .She too had agreed . He hadn't told about this to anyone except me including her parents whom he respected a lot and hence didn't want to hurt them ... But after 3 months he came to know that she was still in contact with her friend using another phone without his knowledge and her affair also had not stopped . This time he couldn't tolerate and told this to her parents and told them that he would be filing for divorce. Her parents literally begged with him not to do so and requested him to give one last chance as they would mend her this time . He told them that even after giving her a chance to mend herself she has cheated again and broken his trust and that he couldn't live with her without trust . So he had decided to move on but his wife and her mother threatened him that they will have no other choice but to commit suicide if he doesnt forgive his wife. He was also worried about his children's future without their mother .. Based on some elders and friends (including mine )advice he gave her one last chance but on condition that there should not be any communication with her affair partner in future and if he comes to know about them being in any kind of contact he would be filing for divorce . His wife and her parents agreed to this and he took her back though not wholeheartedly but due to circumstances. Though they lived under one roof they did not live a harmonious life and lived like strangers and there used to be quarrels very frequently between them . This sometimes had gone physical and on many occasions his wife had threatened him with suicide... And in March this year he came to know that she was in contact with her affair partner secretly using another phone. When confronted she told they were just talking and nothing else...Though there may not be any physical contact this time my friend is very upset and adamant that he wouldn't live with her and want a mutual divorce ...His wife is not agreeing for it and threatening that she would write his name and end her life if he goes for a contested divorce. My friend is too worried about the legal complications if such a thing happens . He is also concerned about his kids especially his daughters future if he goes for a contested divorce based on adultery , the impact it would have on his daughter s future ..He doesn't want to spoil his daughters future ..At the same time he says he cannot imagine living with his wife again after being cheated on twice... Kindly advice what should I advise him ...
Ans: Hello sir. I understand the situation. The prime thing in this is that your friend should go directly to police station and should file a report that if anything of this sort happens, including harm to his in laws or wife then he will not be responsible and that they are regularly threatening him. This will make your friend legally safe and then he can take a mutual divorce if he wants telling his wife and in laws that he has already filed a complaint.
This is the primary step. Once done you can message again.
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This is the primary step. Once done you can message again.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 11, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Jun 04, 2025
Hello Anu Mam,
I have a friend who has been married for 10 years and with 2 kids one 8 yr old daughter and a two year old son. His wife whom he loved and trusted so much had cheated on him with one of her friends for almost 3 years which he came to know about last year. Though he could not digest that and thought of divorcing her but thinking about his children's future he changed his mind and told her to end all communication with him in order to save this marriage .She too had agreed . He hadn't told about this to anyone except me including her parents whom he respected a lot and hence didn't want to hurt them ...
But after 3 months he came to know that she was still in contact with her friend using another phone without his knowledge and her affair also had not stopped . This time he couldn't tolerate and told this to her parents and told them that he would be filing for divorce. Her parents literally begged with him not to do so and requested him to give one last chance as they would mend her this time . He told them that even after giving her a chance to mend herself she has cheated again and broken his trust and that he couldn't live with her without trust .
So he had decided to move on but his wife and her mother threatened him that they will have no other choice but to commit suicide if he doesnt forgive his wife. He was also worried about his children's future without their mother ..
Based on some elders and friends (including mine )advice he gave her one last chance but on condition that there should not be any communication with her affair partner in future and if he comes to know about them being in any kind of contact he would be filing for divorce . His wife and her parents agreed to this and he took her back though not wholeheartedly but due to circumstances. Though they lived under one roof they did not live a harmonious life and lived like strangers and there used to be quarrels very frequently between them . This sometimes had gone physical and on many occasions his wife had threatened him with suicide...
And in March this year he came to know that she was in contact with her affair partner secretly using another phone. When confronted she told they were just talking and nothing else...Though there may not be any physical contact this time my friend is very upset and adamant that he wouldn't live with her and want a mutual divorce ...His wife is not agreeing for it and threatening that she would write his name and end her life if he goes for a contested divorce.
My friend is too worried about the legal complications if such a thing happens . He is also concerned about his kids especially his daughters future if he goes for a contested divorce based on adultery , the impact it would have on his daughter s future ..He doesn't want to spoil his daughters future ..At the same time he says he cannot imagine living with his wife again after being cheated on twice...
Kindly advice what should I advise him ...
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I don't agree with the 'cheating' part, but has your friend bothered to understand what makes his wife step out of marriage again and again?
How is their marriage? Is it compatible? Emotionally are they connected? How is their sex life? These are the ones that can help put their marriage together. These need to be addressed. Honestly, ask your friend to work with his wife on their marriage.
Threats and fights are not going to solve anything. Even if she comes back, the root cause of the marriage breakdown will drive her out of the marriage again...
All the best!
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I don't agree with the 'cheating' part, but has your friend bothered to understand what makes his wife step out of marriage again and again?
How is their marriage? Is it compatible? Emotionally are they connected? How is their sex life? These are the ones that can help put their marriage together. These need to be addressed. Honestly, ask your friend to work with his wife on their marriage.
Threats and fights are not going to solve anything. Even if she comes back, the root cause of the marriage breakdown will drive her out of the marriage again...
All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 11, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 30, 2025
When I was in MBA first year . I had a boyfriend from ma graduation and now we have completed 9 year happy and we decided that we will say it to your Parents but when I was in MBA 1 YEAR we went to water park and we had some normal photo and video and after 3 year some today spread ot all our my village. Because of that my father took me home and told me to leave job and he want me to marry the one I don't like and he thinks more about the other people. He says me that I have to do what he want Because I love other more than me. And now he is forcing me to stay home and my uncle is harrasing me badly but still my father support him. I tried to took help to police but my father has lots of money do he is not afraid of than.
Now what to do can someone help me
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There is little that I can suggest as this is not related to the mind and how you can manage your emotions. You are in a situation that has become bad and even complaining to the police has not helped. Try taking the help of an elder member of the family and see if it's possible for them to talk to your father. Maybe things can change then...
All the best!
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There is little that I can suggest as this is not related to the mind and how you can manage your emotions. You are in a situation that has become bad and even complaining to the police has not helped. Try taking the help of an elder member of the family and see if it's possible for them to talk to your father. Maybe things can change then...
All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jun 10, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Jun 07, 2025
So I had breakup I dont know but things happen so drastically he has given commitment to me that he will marry me we was in a relationship for 5.5 years of relationship I was already married to him in my mind we was also physically involved he started his business in partnership of sandwichs I understand he was quite busy but he did not message me for 3 long days I used to remain confused about where he is and what he is doing I ask for clarity to him than he said that he cannot take it anymore and cannot handle me as He was not even messaging me he had ghost me I asked him if he like another girl but he said no the guy once was committed to me suddenly said he cannot take it he ended it and move on , I am in middle of Cat preparation everything just sucks that I lost my virginity too It attacks my confidence I feel my life had ended as because who will accept a girl with past in this "No seal No deal" era I am not a object or product I am a human being My boyfriend move on what I will do stck in there but will I ever endup in happy married life with such past, Can I share this past to anyone or keep it as a hidden secret with me only
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am very sorry you are going through such a tough time. First of all, this ‘no seal no deal’ is the brainchild of extremely insecure people. You should not have to worry about that. If, in the future, you start dating someone, and you decide to tell them about your past and they say something that indicates this mentality, you should reconsider the relationship. Your past is your past. Whatever happened between you and your ex was out of love. And it isn’t a flaw in you. Remember, you deserve as much happiness and love as any other person. Coming to whether you can ever share your past or not- that is entirely up to you. There is no hard and fast rule that you must tell your partner every single detail of your past relationship history. But I strongly suggest focusing on finding someone with whom you can share anything without fear of judgment.
In the end, I’d again like to remind you that the choice to disclose your past is on you. No one can pressure you to talk about it, or not sharing the same doesn’t make you guilty of anything. For now, please stop worrying about all these and focus on keeping yourself happy and moving forward. You deserve someone who will love you every day and for everything you are.
Hope this helps.
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I am very sorry you are going through such a tough time. First of all, this ‘no seal no deal’ is the brainchild of extremely insecure people. You should not have to worry about that. If, in the future, you start dating someone, and you decide to tell them about your past and they say something that indicates this mentality, you should reconsider the relationship. Your past is your past. Whatever happened between you and your ex was out of love. And it isn’t a flaw in you. Remember, you deserve as much happiness and love as any other person. Coming to whether you can ever share your past or not- that is entirely up to you. There is no hard and fast rule that you must tell your partner every single detail of your past relationship history. But I strongly suggest focusing on finding someone with whom you can share anything without fear of judgment.
In the end, I’d again like to remind you that the choice to disclose your past is on you. No one can pressure you to talk about it, or not sharing the same doesn’t make you guilty of anything. For now, please stop worrying about all these and focus on keeping yourself happy and moving forward. You deserve someone who will love you every day and for everything you are.
Hope this helps.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 10, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 29, 2025
Dear Ms Rai, I am dealing with an increasingly toxic dynamic at work. A junior colleague from a top B-school who has recently been hired repeatedly challenges me in front of my team. Though it's all subtle, it's compromising my authority. I feel increasingly stressed, irritable, and helpless in his presence. I understand he is young and I don't want to retaliate or look insecure, but I'm mentally beginning to wear out. How do I maintain boundaries and self-respect in such situations?
Ans: What you're going through isn’t just about hierarchy; it’s about dignity, mutual respect, and the quiet erosion of psychological safety at work.
When someone subtly undermines you — especially in a professional setting — it can chip away at your confidence and presence in ways that aren’t always easy to name. Your instinct to avoid reacting impulsively or retaliating is wise, but choosing not to react does not mean you must tolerate disrespect or power play.
This dynamic is less about the junior’s credentials and more about a breach of professional decorum. Subtle challenges in meetings, tone policing, or backhanded comments are often masked as confidence or "fresh ideas,” but if the intent or impact is to sideline you or question your authority publicly, it needs addressing — calmly, firmly, and early.
Here’s a way forward. First, document patterns — what’s said, when, in whose presence, and how it impacts the team dynamic. This is not for confrontation, but for clarity and grounding your experience.
Then, create a direct but non-confrontational one-on-one moment. Frame it from a place of collaboration, not accusation. For example, “I’ve noticed a few instances where we seem misaligned in team meetings — I’d like to understand your point of view, and also share how that’s being perceived in the room.” That opens a door rather than slamming one.
At the same time, reinforce your presence in the room — not by competing, but by anchoring in your experience, clarity, and calm authority. Redirect when needed. If the junior interjects or oversteps, acknowledge briefly, and then say, “Let’s circle back to that once I finish.” It’s subtle, professional boundary-setting.
You don’t need to prove your worth — you’ve earned your seat. But you do have the right to protect your space, and even more so, your peace.
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When someone subtly undermines you — especially in a professional setting — it can chip away at your confidence and presence in ways that aren’t always easy to name. Your instinct to avoid reacting impulsively or retaliating is wise, but choosing not to react does not mean you must tolerate disrespect or power play.
This dynamic is less about the junior’s credentials and more about a breach of professional decorum. Subtle challenges in meetings, tone policing, or backhanded comments are often masked as confidence or "fresh ideas,” but if the intent or impact is to sideline you or question your authority publicly, it needs addressing — calmly, firmly, and early.
Here’s a way forward. First, document patterns — what’s said, when, in whose presence, and how it impacts the team dynamic. This is not for confrontation, but for clarity and grounding your experience.
Then, create a direct but non-confrontational one-on-one moment. Frame it from a place of collaboration, not accusation. For example, “I’ve noticed a few instances where we seem misaligned in team meetings — I’d like to understand your point of view, and also share how that’s being perceived in the room.” That opens a door rather than slamming one.
At the same time, reinforce your presence in the room — not by competing, but by anchoring in your experience, clarity, and calm authority. Redirect when needed. If the junior interjects or oversteps, acknowledge briefly, and then say, “Let’s circle back to that once I finish.” It’s subtle, professional boundary-setting.
You don’t need to prove your worth — you’ve earned your seat. But you do have the right to protect your space, and even more so, your peace.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 10, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 29, 2025
Dear Ms Rai, I'm engaged to a guy my parents introduced me through an arranged marriage set up. Initially, everything seemed fine, but over the last few months, I've noticed that my fiance only discusses physical intimacy, which is making me uncomfortable. I have tried to tell him but I don't feel an emotional connection with him. I am hesitant to express this to my family or his. How should I approach this situation?
Ans: What you're experiencing is more common than it seems, and your discomfort is not just valid — it's important. A marriage, especially one that begins through family arrangements, needs far more than surface compatibility or physical interest. You deserve emotional connection, mutual respect, and a safe space to be heard and known deeply — not just desired physically.
The fact that your fiancé focuses primarily on physical intimacy while you’re still seeking emotional grounding raises a significant concern. It’s not about being shy or conservative — it’s about emotional safety and trust, which are foundational. If you're already feeling a disconnect or pressure now, it’s unlikely things will magically fall into place after marriage.
You’re not obligated to silence your discomfort for the sake of avoiding conflict. Start by being honest with yourself: Is this the kind of connection you want for life? If the answer is uncertain, it’s better to pause than to proceed out of pressure.
You don’t have to go straight to your family or his with everything. Start by writing down how you feel and what you’re afraid of. Then, speak to someone you trust — maybe a sibling, cousin, or a therapist — someone who can help you reflect calmly. If you feel strong enough, you can then have a direct and respectful conversation with your fiancé. Ask him what he expects in this relationship beyond the physical, and express clearly that you’re looking for a deeper bond, not just intimacy.
A marriage can be postponed or even reconsidered, but a life spent in silent emotional disconnect can weigh you down. You are not being unreasonable — you’re being honest and self-aware. That’s the best foundation for any life decision.
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The fact that your fiancé focuses primarily on physical intimacy while you’re still seeking emotional grounding raises a significant concern. It’s not about being shy or conservative — it’s about emotional safety and trust, which are foundational. If you're already feeling a disconnect or pressure now, it’s unlikely things will magically fall into place after marriage.
You’re not obligated to silence your discomfort for the sake of avoiding conflict. Start by being honest with yourself: Is this the kind of connection you want for life? If the answer is uncertain, it’s better to pause than to proceed out of pressure.
You don’t have to go straight to your family or his with everything. Start by writing down how you feel and what you’re afraid of. Then, speak to someone you trust — maybe a sibling, cousin, or a therapist — someone who can help you reflect calmly. If you feel strong enough, you can then have a direct and respectful conversation with your fiancé. Ask him what he expects in this relationship beyond the physical, and express clearly that you’re looking for a deeper bond, not just intimacy.
A marriage can be postponed or even reconsidered, but a life spent in silent emotional disconnect can weigh you down. You are not being unreasonable — you’re being honest and self-aware. That’s the best foundation for any life decision.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 10, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 28, 2025
My elder brother got married of his own choice past 12 years ago regardless the parents decision and lived by himself, he has two sons aged 10 and 5, after a recent scenario between him and his wife, they both are not into good terms since 8 months which is impacting on the kids and their upbringing. My brother is a field relationship manager in a real estate company and earning his bits, struggling with life and work. He has no financial and family support..as a younger brother I listen to all his struggle and troubles and advice him accordingly. All of these things are draining my mental and physical health . I myself struggling as a lawyer having my mom dad and grandmother with their health issues ..I am not able to make a firm decision on the scenario, should my brother and his wife get seperated? If yes please explain.
Ans: Your brother and his wife have been in conflict for eight months, and the tension is harming the children — that’s the most concerning part. You can offer support, but only they can decide whether this marriage still has life in it or if it’s better for everyone — especially the children — to grow in two calmer homes than one violent or unhappy one.
The only responsible way to move forward is to encourage them to seek professional help — through marriage counselling, family therapy, or at least structured mediation. If after that, they still can't communicate or co-parent peacefully, then separation may be the healthiest path, not just for them, but for the kids and for you.
You, on the other hand, need to draw a boundary. Listening doesn’t mean absorbing. Supporting doesn’t mean sacrificing your own well-being. You’re already managing aging parents, your own legal career, and life’s pressures — this is too much to bear alone. Let your brother know lovingly that you care, but he needs to begin taking decisive steps toward either mending or ending this — and get professional input.
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The only responsible way to move forward is to encourage them to seek professional help — through marriage counselling, family therapy, or at least structured mediation. If after that, they still can't communicate or co-parent peacefully, then separation may be the healthiest path, not just for them, but for the kids and for you.
You, on the other hand, need to draw a boundary. Listening doesn’t mean absorbing. Supporting doesn’t mean sacrificing your own well-being. You’re already managing aging parents, your own legal career, and life’s pressures — this is too much to bear alone. Let your brother know lovingly that you care, but he needs to begin taking decisive steps toward either mending or ending this — and get professional input.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 10, 2025
madm i m 50 y old from mumbai with my 2 son and wife, after my younger son complete his computer engi i advice him for ms from usa its full family agree so we areange fund near 1 crore and today after he complete his ms got job with big company with crores pakcage now he is planning his future and if a told hin and its his recponsbilty family and my secound son then stoped takling with me madam what shoud i do i m very disturb because i spent my all fund and loan also and mentel peice also how can i handle this
Ans: This kind of heartbreak is not just about money. It’s about feeling disrespected and discarded after building the foundation on which his success stands. And it’s also natural that you feel disturbed — you are not being selfish or weak. You are a father who feels betrayed.
But let’s take a breath and think clearly. At this stage, don’t chase, don’t plead. Pause. Sometimes when children get a sudden rise in success or independence, they feel overwhelmed and confused — not necessarily cruel, but emotionally distant and unprepared to carry responsibility. Give him some space, but keep your dignity. Let him understand that while you’re proud of him, you are also deeply hurt — not because you need his money, but because you expected respect and gratitude.
Try writing him a heartfelt message, calmly, without blame. Share your disappointment, but also the truth: that you stood by him without hesitation, and what you expected wasn’t repayment — but a bond that didn’t break with success.
At the same time, you must protect your own peace now. Don’t let your health and well-being fall apart over this. Start having a serious financial plan for your future — with or without his help.
You have done your duty. Now, let’s make sure you don’t lose yourself in someone else’s silence.
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But let’s take a breath and think clearly. At this stage, don’t chase, don’t plead. Pause. Sometimes when children get a sudden rise in success or independence, they feel overwhelmed and confused — not necessarily cruel, but emotionally distant and unprepared to carry responsibility. Give him some space, but keep your dignity. Let him understand that while you’re proud of him, you are also deeply hurt — not because you need his money, but because you expected respect and gratitude.
Try writing him a heartfelt message, calmly, without blame. Share your disappointment, but also the truth: that you stood by him without hesitation, and what you expected wasn’t repayment — but a bond that didn’t break with success.
At the same time, you must protect your own peace now. Don’t let your health and well-being fall apart over this. Start having a serious financial plan for your future — with or without his help.
You have done your duty. Now, let’s make sure you don’t lose yourself in someone else’s silence.
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Jun 09, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2025
Hello mam, I'm 31 and married for 4 years. My husband wants to know where I am all the time. He checks my phone, and even questions why I spoke to a male colleague. He says it's because he loves me. But I feel suffocated. I can't even meet my own friends without causing a drama at home. Is this normal? Or am I just being over-sensitive?
Ans: Hello mam. Mam, the behaviour you are telling me is not normal. It is over possessiveness. Let him be confident that you are with him only. Explain softly that you also have some needs and you also may have to meet someone or talk to someone. You make him sure that you also love him but you are not over possessive about him. So love should not be a hindrance in personal space. I hope this solves your problem.
Take care!
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Jun 06, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2025
I am 28 and I have been married for 8 months. We live with my husband's parents, and I feel constantly scrutinised for how I dress, what I cook, even how I talk. My husband avoids taking sides and asks me to 'adjust' and understand. I am starting to feel anxious and isolated. How do I maintain my mental peace?
Ans: Hello mam. In indian society people's mind set are such that they expect their daughter in law to be dressed according to them and to talk and behave also like thier in laws do. But they should understand that this is not possible. Coz girls had a life before marriage also and they were raised by their parents in a very decent manner. Its ok. Dont get stressed. Ur husband still doesn't know how to maintain balance between parents and wife like most indian boys. Dont destroy your mental peace. Stay calm. Try to make a bond with your in laws by asking them the recipies and how they cook. Some things can be learnt but some things are natural and can't be changed. I am sure they ll understand you and things will be normal soon. Take care !
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jun 04, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2025
Sir, I am 24, I have recently started using dating apps, and I'm already bored. Most guys just want casual chatting or they disappear after talking for a few days. First they say I really like you, then they ignore me. I get my hopes up and end up feeling used.
My parents have started looking for rishtas and say I'm wasting time. I want a real relationship, but I don't want to rush into arranged marriage either. Am I being unrealistic?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your frustration. Finding love on dating apps, just like dating IRL, can sometimes take a little longer. Everyone finds their perfect match in their own time. I understand it must be frustrating, but stick on with it. For the time being, have fun interacting with new people. Do not set an intention that you are there just to find true love. It will reduce your experience to a routine. Dating should be fun. And love cannot be rushed. I am sure you will find someone who truly likes you in no time. And no, you are not being unrealistic. Loads of people have found their life partners on dating apps.
Best wishes.
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I understand your frustration. Finding love on dating apps, just like dating IRL, can sometimes take a little longer. Everyone finds their perfect match in their own time. I understand it must be frustrating, but stick on with it. For the time being, have fun interacting with new people. Do not set an intention that you are there just to find true love. It will reduce your experience to a routine. Dating should be fun. And love cannot be rushed. I am sure you will find someone who truly likes you in no time. And no, you are not being unrealistic. Loads of people have found their life partners on dating apps.
Best wishes.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jun 04, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2025
Ravi Sir, I've been dating this girl for over 3 years now. I have done everything for her, supported her when she changed her job, dealt with her family drama, and emotional breakdowns. Our parents and friends know about us too. She is now in a better job and mental space. I am 34, she is 31. Last week, I took her on a date. She was looking beautiful and I thought we should discuss our future. She simply ignored. When I asked again she said 'I'm not ready for anything serious now.' I was so hurt and betrayed. I felt like she used me during her bad time. She just continued to eat and drink through the rest of the conversation while I was trying to control my emotions. She didn't even text me after I dropped her home. Was I just a temporary comfort? It's been five days. She is online but hasn't texted me. I want some clarity, because I loved her whole heartedly.
Ans: Dear anonymous,
I understand how hurtful it must have been. I am sorry you were made to feel this way. No one deserves it, and least of all, you, who has been there for her at all times. I can’t tell if you were only temporary comfort for her, but I can tell that her behavior was not normal for someone in love. I would suggest waiting a little longer and if she still does not contact you, text her and let her know that you want to have a clear discussion with her about your future. If she still ignores the topic, you can directly ask her about her intentions. A direct approach is what’s needed right now. Let her know that you will not be dragged without purpose. See where things go from there. No one should be kept on the hook like this. You deserve better treatment.
Hope this helps
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I understand how hurtful it must have been. I am sorry you were made to feel this way. No one deserves it, and least of all, you, who has been there for her at all times. I can’t tell if you were only temporary comfort for her, but I can tell that her behavior was not normal for someone in love. I would suggest waiting a little longer and if she still does not contact you, text her and let her know that you want to have a clear discussion with her about your future. If she still ignores the topic, you can directly ask her about her intentions. A direct approach is what’s needed right now. Let her know that you will not be dragged without purpose. See where things go from there. No one should be kept on the hook like this. You deserve better treatment.
Hope this helps
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jun 04, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2025
Hello coach. I am dating a 42 yr old man who is almost perfect for marriage. He is kind, successful, and we have a great chemistry. But there is a problem. He says he never wants kids.
The thing is I want to be a mother someday.
I feel so bad about this. Everything else is so right. Should I give up on him or continue the relationship hoping that he will change his mind?
Ans: Dear anonymous,
I understand your dilemma. It is difficult to find the perfect man, but it’s even worse when you find him but it also means you are losing a part of yourself. The choice you are talking about here is very personal, but I will suggest that you think long and hard about it. People rarely change their mind and neither you, nor him, are likely to change your minds about kids. And neither of you should have to. Now, it is only a matter of what is more important to you. But I would also recommend that you think about the future. Today, he might seem like the most important thing in your life. And right now, he might seem enough. But if you rush into choosing him, there’s a good chance you will resent him in the future. Have an honest conversation with him and come to a decision. You might as well ask him if there’s any chance he will ever change his mind. This way you will have better clarity.
Hope this helps.
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I understand your dilemma. It is difficult to find the perfect man, but it’s even worse when you find him but it also means you are losing a part of yourself. The choice you are talking about here is very personal, but I will suggest that you think long and hard about it. People rarely change their mind and neither you, nor him, are likely to change your minds about kids. And neither of you should have to. Now, it is only a matter of what is more important to you. But I would also recommend that you think about the future. Today, he might seem like the most important thing in your life. And right now, he might seem enough. But if you rush into choosing him, there’s a good chance you will resent him in the future. Have an honest conversation with him and come to a decision. You might as well ask him if there’s any chance he will ever change his mind. This way you will have better clarity.
Hope this helps.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jun 04, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2025
I am 42 yrs old holding a senior position in an organization. I am married with 11 yrs old son. I am attracted toward my colleague who is also of my age and holding same position. She also expects complement from me like how is she looking in a particular dress and new hairstyle. She discusses very personal things like her gynic issues etc. Whenever she sits near me, she sits very close almost touching my body. I dont know whether she is also attracted towards me. I am in dilemma, should I express my feelings or not. Sometimes i think that I should totally ignore her and let these feelings die. I ignored her for 2 months but became more restless and ultimately started talking to her. Please help me how to come out of this situation
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I believe I have already answered your question once.
Hope that helped.
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I believe I have already answered your question once.
Hope that helped.
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Jun 02, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Jun 02, 2025English
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मेरे एलडीआर और कैरियर लक्ष्य में टकराव: क्या मुझे चुनना होगा?
Ans: नमस्ते मैम, मैं समझती हूँ कि आजकल करियर जीवन का बहुत महत्वपूर्ण पहलू है। और आजकल कुछ लोग रिलेशनशिप से ज़्यादा करियर को प्राथमिकता देते हैं जो पूरी तरह से गलत नहीं है। अगर आप रोहित के लिए प्रतिबद्ध हैं और आपको लगता है कि उसके बिना जीवन अधूरा होगा, तो बस एक ब्रेक लें और उस जगह पर जाएँ जहाँ वह रहता है। उसके साथ कुछ क्वालिटी टाइम बिताएँ और उससे बात करने की कोशिश करें। अगर वह वहाँ बेहतर तरीके से सेटल है और वहाँ से नहीं जा सकता है, तो आप उसके घर जाकर नौकरी ढूँढ़ने या ट्रांसफर या घर से काम करने के बारे में बात कर सकती हैं।
देखिए, यह एक महत्वपूर्ण कदम है, और इसे बिना अहंकार के उठाया जाना चाहिए। आपको यह नहीं सोचना चाहिए कि मुझे शिफ्ट होना है या मुझे समझौता करना है, एक समझौता और आपको अपने जीवन का प्यार मिल जाएगा। मुझे उम्मीद है कि इससे आपकी समस्या हल हो जाएगी।
कृपया मुझे अपनी आगे की योजना बताएँ।
अपना ख्याल रखें!
सादर
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देखिए, यह एक महत्वपूर्ण कदम है, और इसे बिना अहंकार के उठाया जाना चाहिए। आपको यह नहीं सोचना चाहिए कि मुझे शिफ्ट होना है या मुझे समझौता करना है, एक समझौता और आपको अपने जीवन का प्यार मिल जाएगा। मुझे उम्मीद है कि इससे आपकी समस्या हल हो जाएगी।
कृपया मुझे अपनी आगे की योजना बताएँ।
अपना ख्याल रखें!
सादर
डॉ. उपनीत कौर
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 02, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Jun 01, 2025English
मेरे हिंदू BF की चेतावनी: मेरे ईसाई माता-पिता मना करते हैं। मदद करें?
Ans: ईमानदारी से कहें तो आपके बॉयफ्रेंड ने एक गंभीर गलती की जब उसने गुस्से में आपकी माँ को वह संदेश भेजा - खास तौर पर एक निजी वीडियो क्लिप के साथ। भले ही उसने बाद में माफ़ी मांगी हो, लेकिन उस पल ने आपके माता-पिता के भरोसे को ही नहीं बल्कि उससे भी ज़्यादा नुकसान पहुँचाया - यह दर्शाता है कि दबाव में, वह आवेगपूर्ण तरीके से और आपकी गरिमा की रक्षा किए बिना काम कर सकता है। अब, जब आपको चाहिए कि वह मज़बूत, ईमानदार हो और एक ऐसे आदमी की तरह आगे आए जो आपसे शादी करने के लिए वाकई तैयार हो, तो वह पीछे हट रहा है और आपसे अकेले अपने परिवार को मनाने के लिए कह रहा है। यह कार्रवाई द्वारा समर्थित प्रेम नहीं है - यह ज़िम्मेदारी से बचने की उम्मीद करने वाला प्रेम है।
दूसरी तरफ, आपके माता-पिता अनुचित नहीं हैं। वे बुनियादी जवाबदेही की माँग कर रहे हैं - कि वह ज़िम्मेदारी ले, कि उन्हें पता चले कि वह कौन है और किस तरह के परिवार से आता है। वे आपको कोई धर्म चुनने के लिए मजबूर नहीं कर रहे हैं या आपको किसी और से शादी करने के लिए मजबूर नहीं कर रहे हैं - वे सम्मान और स्पष्टता की मांग कर रहे हैं, जो कि वैध है, खासकर जो कुछ हुआ उसके बाद। वे आपकी रक्षा करने की भी कोशिश कर रहे हैं क्योंकि उन्होंने उसे एक बार पहले ही अस्थिर तरीके से प्रतिक्रिया करते देखा है।
अब आप भावनात्मक भार को संभाल रहे हैं, दो पक्षों के बीच एक पुल बनाने की कोशिश कर रहे हैं जो आधे रास्ते में मिलने को तैयार नहीं हैं।
यहाँ सच्चाई है: आप अकेले रिश्ता नहीं रख सकते। अगर वह आपको चाहता है, वास्तव में आपसे शादी करना चाहता है, तो उसे आपके माता-पिता से मिलने, अपनी गलती की जिम्मेदारी लेने और अपने परिवार के इरादों को समझाने के लिए परिपक्वता और साहस दिखाना चाहिए। अगर वह इतना भी डरता है या ऐसा करने को तैयार नहीं है, तो आपके पास आपका जवाब है।
आपको अभी कोई निर्णय लेने की आवश्यकता नहीं है। लेकिन खुद से पूछें: क्या यह वह समर्थन और साहस है जो आप अपने जीवनसाथी में चाहते हैं? न केवल कोई ऐसा व्यक्ति जो कहता है कि वह आपसे प्यार करता है, बल्कि कोई ऐसा व्यक्ति जो मुश्किल समय में आपके लिए खड़ा हो। अब तक तो ऐसा लग रहा है कि आपने ही सारा काम खड़े होकर किया है।
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दूसरी तरफ, आपके माता-पिता अनुचित नहीं हैं। वे बुनियादी जवाबदेही की माँग कर रहे हैं - कि वह ज़िम्मेदारी ले, कि उन्हें पता चले कि वह कौन है और किस तरह के परिवार से आता है। वे आपको कोई धर्म चुनने के लिए मजबूर नहीं कर रहे हैं या आपको किसी और से शादी करने के लिए मजबूर नहीं कर रहे हैं - वे सम्मान और स्पष्टता की मांग कर रहे हैं, जो कि वैध है, खासकर जो कुछ हुआ उसके बाद। वे आपकी रक्षा करने की भी कोशिश कर रहे हैं क्योंकि उन्होंने उसे एक बार पहले ही अस्थिर तरीके से प्रतिक्रिया करते देखा है।
अब आप भावनात्मक भार को संभाल रहे हैं, दो पक्षों के बीच एक पुल बनाने की कोशिश कर रहे हैं जो आधे रास्ते में मिलने को तैयार नहीं हैं।
यहाँ सच्चाई है: आप अकेले रिश्ता नहीं रख सकते। अगर वह आपको चाहता है, वास्तव में आपसे शादी करना चाहता है, तो उसे आपके माता-पिता से मिलने, अपनी गलती की जिम्मेदारी लेने और अपने परिवार के इरादों को समझाने के लिए परिपक्वता और साहस दिखाना चाहिए। अगर वह इतना भी डरता है या ऐसा करने को तैयार नहीं है, तो आपके पास आपका जवाब है।
आपको अभी कोई निर्णय लेने की आवश्यकता नहीं है। लेकिन खुद से पूछें: क्या यह वह समर्थन और साहस है जो आप अपने जीवनसाथी में चाहते हैं? न केवल कोई ऐसा व्यक्ति जो कहता है कि वह आपसे प्यार करता है, बल्कि कोई ऐसा व्यक्ति जो मुश्किल समय में आपके लिए खड़ा हो। अब तक तो ऐसा लग रहा है कि आपने ही सारा काम खड़े होकर किया है।
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 02, 2025English
मेरी सास ने हमारे प्रेम विवाह को अस्वीकार कर दिया और मुझे धमकी दी। अब क्या होगा?
Ans: अगर आपका पति आपसे सच्चा प्यार करता है और इस शादी के लिए प्रतिबद्ध है, तो अब यह उसकी जिम्मेदारी है कि वह आपके लिए खड़ा हो और अपने परिवार के साथ सीमाएँ तय करे। अपनी माँ के नियंत्रण के कारण शादी के बाद अलग रहना टिकाऊ नहीं है, और यह आपके साथ अन्याय है।
साथ ही, अगर धमकियाँ दी जा रही हैं - खासकर नुकसान पहुँचाने या अवैध कार्यों से जुड़ी - तो यह एक कानूनी मामला है। ऐसी सभी धमकियों (संदेश, कॉल, गवाह) का दस्तावेजीकरण करें, और अगर आप असुरक्षित महसूस करते हैं, तो वकील से परामर्श करने में संकोच न करें और ज़रूरत पड़ने पर पुलिस शिकायत दर्ज करें। भावनात्मक दुर्व्यवहार और जीवन या विवाह के लिए धमकियाँ न केवल नैतिक रूप से गलत हैं - उन्हें कानूनी रूप से चुनौती दी जा सकती है।
अगर आपका पति अपराधबोध या डर में फँसा हुआ है, तो आप दोनों को पेशेवर विवाह परामर्श या किसी तटस्थ मध्यस्थ से हस्तक्षेप से लाभ हो सकता है, जिसका उसके परिवार द्वारा सम्मान किया जा सकता है। अगर यह संभव नहीं है, तो उसे यह तय करना होगा कि वह नियंत्रण में रहना चाहता है या ईमानदारी से जीना चाहता है - एक पति के रूप में जो आपके साथ भविष्य बनाने के लिए प्रतिबद्ध है। आपको अपनी ओर से मानसिक रूप से मजबूत रहने की आवश्यकता है। खुद को अलग-थलग न करें। किसी भरोसेमंद दोस्त, काउंसलर या महिला सहायता समूह से बात करें। आपने प्यार के लिए खड़े होकर साहस दिखाया है - अब आपको अपनी गरिमा की रक्षा करने और रिश्ते में अपना उचित स्थान पाने के लिए उस साहस की आवश्यकता है।
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साथ ही, अगर धमकियाँ दी जा रही हैं - खासकर नुकसान पहुँचाने या अवैध कार्यों से जुड़ी - तो यह एक कानूनी मामला है। ऐसी सभी धमकियों (संदेश, कॉल, गवाह) का दस्तावेजीकरण करें, और अगर आप असुरक्षित महसूस करते हैं, तो वकील से परामर्श करने में संकोच न करें और ज़रूरत पड़ने पर पुलिस शिकायत दर्ज करें। भावनात्मक दुर्व्यवहार और जीवन या विवाह के लिए धमकियाँ न केवल नैतिक रूप से गलत हैं - उन्हें कानूनी रूप से चुनौती दी जा सकती है।
अगर आपका पति अपराधबोध या डर में फँसा हुआ है, तो आप दोनों को पेशेवर विवाह परामर्श या किसी तटस्थ मध्यस्थ से हस्तक्षेप से लाभ हो सकता है, जिसका उसके परिवार द्वारा सम्मान किया जा सकता है। अगर यह संभव नहीं है, तो उसे यह तय करना होगा कि वह नियंत्रण में रहना चाहता है या ईमानदारी से जीना चाहता है - एक पति के रूप में जो आपके साथ भविष्य बनाने के लिए प्रतिबद्ध है। आपको अपनी ओर से मानसिक रूप से मजबूत रहने की आवश्यकता है। खुद को अलग-थलग न करें। किसी भरोसेमंद दोस्त, काउंसलर या महिला सहायता समूह से बात करें। आपने प्यार के लिए खड़े होकर साहस दिखाया है - अब आपको अपनी गरिमा की रक्षा करने और रिश्ते में अपना उचित स्थान पाने के लिए उस साहस की आवश्यकता है।
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 02, 2025
I was in online relationship and my ex is blackmailing me with my private pics
Ans: Dear Anjali,
Kindly go to the cops; they will advise you accordingly!
All the best!
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Kindly go to the cops; they will advise you accordingly!
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 02, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 26, 2025
My daughter just passed cbse 10, we are OK with her marks as she never studies but still scored decent marks, the issue is she doesn't listen, disrespect and always on phone playing free fire and talking on phone with boys
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The virtual world is very exciting as it does not need any direct interactions with other humans and anyone can lose their way in this maze.
So, if you want her to be off gadgets, see that she is focused on sports or anything that will keep her active...as a family go on picnics, treks/hikes so that she realizes that being off the phone need not be boring and can be interesting as well..,
Having said that, she's at that age where her hormones can be all over the place, so talk to her more and listen to her more...she will possibly also talk to you about boys and learn from you on how to safely interact with them. Be open with your communication, you will see a change slowly!
All the best!
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The virtual world is very exciting as it does not need any direct interactions with other humans and anyone can lose their way in this maze.
So, if you want her to be off gadgets, see that she is focused on sports or anything that will keep her active...as a family go on picnics, treks/hikes so that she realizes that being off the phone need not be boring and can be interesting as well..,
Having said that, she's at that age where her hormones can be all over the place, so talk to her more and listen to her more...she will possibly also talk to you about boys and learn from you on how to safely interact with them. Be open with your communication, you will see a change slowly!
All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 02, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 23, 2025
I've been married for 19 years. We live in a joint family with my husband and in-laws. Since last year, my father has recently become bedridden and needs constant care. Since he lives in another city, I have been travelling constantly to take turns to attend him. I want to bring him to our home, but my mother-in-law strongly objects saying they will lose their privacy. My husband tries to mediate but often ends up siding with his mother, saying she's getting old too. I am not able to decide being a daughter and a daughter-in-law. Is it unfair of me to expect support for my father, or am I compromising too much in this marriage?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You surely are walking on a thin rope trying to balance both sides...it seems unfair, yes!
What I can suggest to you is: Find out what exactly is your mother-in-law's concern? What does she mean by 'lose their privacy'?
Usually, these statements are just reactionary to a much deeper concern. Try to address what bothers her; it could be as simple as your attention moving away from home and other responsibilities...she may possibly feel awkward being around your father...all these facts get masked under broad statements which to you may seem like excuses...so instead of playing this dance being the daughter and daughter-in-law, dig out more information, so that you can address concerns and not the reactions from them.
All the best!
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You surely are walking on a thin rope trying to balance both sides...it seems unfair, yes!
What I can suggest to you is: Find out what exactly is your mother-in-law's concern? What does she mean by 'lose their privacy'?
Usually, these statements are just reactionary to a much deeper concern. Try to address what bothers her; it could be as simple as your attention moving away from home and other responsibilities...she may possibly feel awkward being around your father...all these facts get masked under broad statements which to you may seem like excuses...so instead of playing this dance being the daughter and daughter-in-law, dig out more information, so that you can address concerns and not the reactions from them.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 01, 2025
Hi I am 34 year old male and want to settle down but also in doubt that the marriage will take my independence. I started looking for bride with arrange marriage option. I am taking to a girl for last 3-4 months 2 time a week. I never had any serious relationship before and don't know what exactly to lookout in marriage. The girl I am seeing has average looks and physique but she okay with conversation and little shy and majority of the conversation I have only started. Her weight or BMI is very low around 19 and my BMI is overweight above 26. There is different in 45-50 kgs in weight. Am I working too much about physical appearance and should I interact with other prospects also. I have meet with her family along with my parent two times and little worried that more meeting will led to frustration if marriage didn't materialize. I have also left my current job and taking some break before joining new one. Will this career break will impact my marriage prospects. Also sometimes I feel that I may have set my standards very high as I am well educated from good institute and I can explore many options before choosing one. Is this leading me to non commitment as I may find some fault to not commit to marriage.
Ans: too many questions...in summary - education and being in a relationship are 2 different things - for a detailed conversation you may google me and schedule an interaction to discuss.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 29, 2025
Hi Dr Kaur, my wife and I have been married for a decade. We have two kids, 8 and 6 and live with my parents. Our conversations are often turning into arguments. We barely communicate without stress or worry. I fear this is affecting our children. With parents around, it becomes difficult to have an honest chat. How can we restore our connection and improve our communication?
Ans: Hello sir. As our relationship ages and the kids get old this is one of the most common problem couples face. Communication issues. This can be due to many reasons:
1. Responsibility of kids are increasing and so we get less time to self care and for ourselves. Due to which communication hampers
2. Our parents are getting old and the medical bills and medical problems both increase which creates stress within you and then in turn you are not able to communicate properly.
3. Your age is also increasing and capacity is decreasing due to which you may get irritated.
The solution to this is that you and your wife should take out just half an hour for yourselves specially in the morning for meditation and exercise. This will increase your patience level and happy hormones and your capacity to handle stress and problems will increase. Try this out and share your experience.
Take care !
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1. Responsibility of kids are increasing and so we get less time to self care and for ourselves. Due to which communication hampers
2. Our parents are getting old and the medical bills and medical problems both increase which creates stress within you and then in turn you are not able to communicate properly.
3. Your age is also increasing and capacity is decreasing due to which you may get irritated.
The solution to this is that you and your wife should take out just half an hour for yourselves specially in the morning for meditation and exercise. This will increase your patience level and happy hormones and your capacity to handle stress and problems will increase. Try this out and share your experience.
Take care !
Regards
Dr Upneet kaur
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on May 29, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 28, 2025
I am 42 yrs old holding a senior position in an organization. I am married with 11 yrs old son. I am attracted toward my colleague who is also of my age and holding same position. She also expects complement from me like how is she looking in a particular dress and new hairstyle. She discusses very personal things like her gynic issues etc. Whenever she sits near me, she sits very close almost touching my body. I dont know whether she is also attracted towards me. I am in dilemma, should I express my feelings or not. Sometimes i think that I should totally ignore her and let these feelings die. I ignored her for 2 months but became more restless and ultimately started talking to her. Please help me how to come out of this situation. I am very very confused.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am assuming you are still married and if that’s the case, the thing that you should focus on is not your feelings for this colleague. It’s your feelings towards your wife. Does your wife know, or are you in an open setup? I need more details before I can help you any further.
Best Wishes
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I am assuming you are still married and if that’s the case, the thing that you should focus on is not your feelings for this colleague. It’s your feelings towards your wife. Does your wife know, or are you in an open setup? I need more details before I can help you any further.
Best Wishes
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on May 28, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 26, 2025
does looks matter in relationship?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I’d be lying if I say it doesn’t matter at all. Should it matter? No. But does it matter? Yes. But here’s the good news- it is only for superficial attraction. Looks don’t carry a relationship to its end goal; personality and effort does. And the best news? Looks will fade with time, but the other two won’t.
But I also want you to remember, ‘Looks matter’ isn’t the universal truth. There are always exceptions, and for those people, it is usually kindness, emotional intelligence, and the other traits that matter more.
Hope this helps.
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I’d be lying if I say it doesn’t matter at all. Should it matter? No. But does it matter? Yes. But here’s the good news- it is only for superficial attraction. Looks don’t carry a relationship to its end goal; personality and effort does. And the best news? Looks will fade with time, but the other two won’t.
But I also want you to remember, ‘Looks matter’ isn’t the universal truth. There are always exceptions, and for those people, it is usually kindness, emotional intelligence, and the other traits that matter more.
Hope this helps.
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Dating Coach - Answered on May 26, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 06, 2025
Hi Shalini! While travelling from city A to city B in India, I met this young girl. I say young because I am 44 and single. She seemed much younger. It was basically on the airport bus from the airport to city center. She was the one to initiate conversation and once it started, 2 hrs just went by in a breeze. I really enjoyed the conversation. It seemed like a proper date! :D So, while boarding off the bus, I asked her if she would join me and my friends (2 boys) for a get together the next day. (I was in the city only for a very short time). She said shez fine with it and exchanged nos. But next day she very politely refused to meet me/us. She also said 'next time'. I agreed and thanked her. That's it. No more interaction. She also seemed to like my reply as she put a heart on it. However, later in the day she blocked me on whatsapp! :D Then a couple of days later, I sent her a text/SMS that it was a nice surprise to see me blocked on whatsapp! She read it and never replied. Issue is I think I have fallen for her and would like to at least squeeze 1 date with her. What do I do now? I don't think messaging her on SMS is cool as she never responded the last time. How do I let her know that I want to meet her without any stress for her. Shez in Bangalore.
Ans: I read this a few times and here are my views
1) you both got along and spoke for 2 hours does not make it a date as you imagine it to be.
2) you are overthinking too much and making a lot of assumption based on her response sent over text message.
3) how do you she was single- just because she is not married does not make her single.
4) if she has blocked you - it shows she is not keen to interact with you - respect it by giving her the space.
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1) you both got along and spoke for 2 hours does not make it a date as you imagine it to be.
2) you are overthinking too much and making a lot of assumption based on her response sent over text message.
3) how do you she was single- just because she is not married does not make her single.
4) if she has blocked you - it shows she is not keen to interact with you - respect it by giving her the space.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 26, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 23, 2025
After my retirement, my wife and I moved in with our elder son and daughter-in-law, who offered to take care of us. But ever since my younger son got married, he barely calls or visits. Recently, he told my sister that my presence in his brother's house is the reason he avoids coming over. He feels suffocated and says we didn't give him equal attention growing up. I'm confused and hurt. My wife says we should give him space, but I feel emotionally abandoned by him. Have I failed as a father, or is this a common phase in families with grown children?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Yes, your wife is right...when you are unprovoked, it gives out a message to the other person that you are not dependent on them. Why place your happiness in what you son does or does not do? You will continue to feel like a puppet and feel abandonment, isolation, insecurities and more...why don't you try just being unbothered and see how this goes out as a message to him...who knows that might possibly make him have a change of heart?
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Yes, your wife is right...when you are unprovoked, it gives out a message to the other person that you are not dependent on them. Why place your happiness in what you son does or does not do? You will continue to feel like a puppet and feel abandonment, isolation, insecurities and more...why don't you try just being unbothered and see how this goes out as a message to him...who knows that might possibly make him have a change of heart?
All the best!
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 26, 2025
For the past few months, I spend a lot of time in the social media scrolling. I took 3 days leave from the office to fix this. Yet, those 3 days went by scrolling the social media. Help me please.
Ans: Dear Sri,
You can take as many days leave of absence, you are going to fall prey to your addiction; yes!
To quit, first give the phone to someone...it's going to be really difficult, but that's a start...set a plan to first distract yourself by spending time with friends and family...
Distraction is just exactly what it is; temporary...so to make a close to a permanent change, you will have to set yourself up with larger than life goals and start to dull your past behaviors that were not useful and became addictive. Obviously scrolling gives you something, what is it? Stress reliever? Boredom reliever? Can these not find a better way that social media? Find what can relieve stress or boredom or whatever it is that you are trying to do...New behaviors have to be learned to replace the old ones!
If this is seeming difficult, go to a therapist who can actually help you in a few sessions.
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You can take as many days leave of absence, you are going to fall prey to your addiction; yes!
To quit, first give the phone to someone...it's going to be really difficult, but that's a start...set a plan to first distract yourself by spending time with friends and family...
Distraction is just exactly what it is; temporary...so to make a close to a permanent change, you will have to set yourself up with larger than life goals and start to dull your past behaviors that were not useful and became addictive. Obviously scrolling gives you something, what is it? Stress reliever? Boredom reliever? Can these not find a better way that social media? Find what can relieve stress or boredom or whatever it is that you are trying to do...New behaviors have to be learned to replace the old ones!
If this is seeming difficult, go to a therapist who can actually help you in a few sessions.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 26, 2025
I am very behind of everybody in life, whether in relationships, study, career. How can i gear up and compete with people of my age.
Ans: Dear Anuj,
Why compare yourself with anyone especially when it's not going to motivate you to do anything about it? Instead to thrive in a competitive space, build yourself towards growing...focus on your goals and keep a check on your progress...start with the simplest of goals! And slowly keep making it bigger and brighter so that it motivates you...so, stop comparing...
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Why compare yourself with anyone especially when it's not going to motivate you to do anything about it? Instead to thrive in a competitive space, build yourself towards growing...focus on your goals and keep a check on your progress...start with the simplest of goals! And slowly keep making it bigger and brighter so that it motivates you...so, stop comparing...
All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 22, 2025
I am a single mother working from home. My job requires a lot of focus and uninterrupted time. Lately, a married man, someone I know either through work or socially, has been interrupting me quite often during my working hours. At first, I didn't think much of it. His messages or calls seemed casual and friendly, sometimes even about work. But now, it is becoming too frequent, and honestly, it's starting to feel intrusive.
He often reaches out for non-urgent reasons, just to chat or share random things. Even when I delay my replies or hint that I'm busy, he keeps coming back. I've started to feel a bit uncomfortable -- not just because it's affecting my work and focus, but because I'm not sure what his real intentions are. He is married, and sometimes the tone of his messages or the need for emotional connection feels... a bit much.
I don't want to overreact or misjudge the situation, but I also don't want to encourage something that feels inappropriate. I am torn between keeping things cordial and professional, and protecting my peace and boundaries. I don't want to create awkwardness, especially if I'll have to interact with him again in the future.
Ans: Tell him very politely that you cannot entertain calls during your work hours. And stop answering the calls and messages during those hours — end of. He’ll get the message.
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Hello! Ma'am,
I'm 39yrs old guy from Delhi. I never ever been into a relationship with a woman. Neither, i dated, nor i approached someone due to my own flaws, career setbacks, self hatred thoughts about my own personality and more. Once, a girl said that I am boring. It's not like i don't like women or i don't respect them. I love them and can do things to make a woman happy. But, now some women are greedy and hungry for a man's money, property. To, get this she uses fake cases against the man and his family. Since, i have no experience in the dating. So, marriage is bit scary and the fear is real. Government of india and the law. All are against the men. Also, I'm an ADHD guy. So, this creates more messed in life and career. I don't know whether I should try it or not. Being a woman. Please guide and kindly, share your thoughts?
Ans: I think, Sumit, that you are thinking too much about all this. Let life happen naturally — women are not all opportunists! That’s like saying all men are misogynistic and it’s far from true. Yes, in our country we need laws like we have because of the patriarchal system and mindset. You just live your life and if you meet someone interesting, who’s also interested in you, pursue it and see where it goes. Love is not something we deliberate upon and decide to opt for — it just happens.
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 23, 2025
I am 46 years old male married for the past 17 years. I have one son. My wife loves me very much. She is highly possessive about me since our marriage. I fell in love with my colleague who is a widow and 25 years of age with a seven years daughter. She only started communicating and talking to me a lot. I was not having any kind of feelings towards her as I was overloaded with work. Then, I got transferred to other place. There work pressure is not much as in the earlier section.
Now, I am in love with that widow. I told this to my wife also but not told about this to that widow. After hearing this my wife was shocked. After hue and cry, now my wife is back to normal and warned me to stay away from that girl. But I am not able to forget that girl. I called her over phone four to five times. When I was with her, I never confessed that I love her. Now when I got transferred, I am keeping whats app statuses which are visible only to her. When ever I put up sad and love break up messages only that time she will respond by keeping whatsapp status otherwise she will be neutral. Whenever, I called her she replied and we spoke casually. Now, she also knows that I am loving her but not responding. I have deleted her mobile number but I remember it. Daily after leaving the house and before reaching the house I delete the number. I dont want to cheat my wife and at the same time not able to forget that girl also. Please suggest me what to do.
Ans: Time heals all wounds. And in this case, you definitely should let it. The girl is half your age and not interested in you. Be practical and value what you have — a wonderful family and loving wife who continues to tolerate you even after you confessed falling for someone else! This is not love my dear, it’s just a midlife crisis — an infatuation, nothing more.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 23, 2025
on divorce, can the wife claim money that is MIL name? (in the form of equity) and only son.
Ans: You need to speak to a lawyer on this one my friend — I don’t think she can claim it, but if she can prove that it is the partner’s share deliberately put on the MIL’s name to prevent her claim, then I think she can make her case before a judge.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 16, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 09, 2025
Hello
I have terrible stress due not having proper job and marriage getting delayed .what need to do on this situation
Ans: You will have worse stress if you enter into a marriage in haste! I know of enough people who settled for the first person who came along because all their other friends had settled down and they felt left behind — all ended in divorce! Focus on your career first, settle into it well and then think of wedding bells!
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I am 23 years old. I am in relationship from 8 years. I am Hindu brahmin and He is Sikh . so its inter-religion . my mother and brother accept my relationship. but my father is so conservative. wo kidhar aur rishta dekh rhe hai mera .and he is like usko bhi mar duga aur tumko bhi. but itte door aake i can't loose him. we seriously love each other. but bhagna bhi nahi chahte dono. what should I do ? how to convince my father?
Ans: You need not run…maybe just stand your ground and get married? Tell your father that if he loves and respects you, he has to respect your choices in life too. Even if it’s a mistake according to him, it is your mistake to make! You have the support of the rest of your family, maybe they should show it overtly so he knows he’s in the minority. And any threats to your life etc — if you feel the least bit like he will follow through on his threats of violence — lodge a police complaint. You are an adult and so is your partner — he cannot bully you like this.
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 04, 2025
Hi....my mother in law is interfering a lot ...she is not going anywhere even once in a day...she is going out with me and my husband...she will do brain wash of my husband...my married life is fully disturbed because of my mother in law...pls suggest someone...what should i do ??
Ans: Are you worried about what she will do, or what she is doing? If you get along well with her at present, maybe just tactfully suggest to your husband that you also need alone time with each other and to socialise as a couple with other people, not having her in tow all the time. Set a schedule of maybe taking her out with you once a week or every couple of weeks, so she doesn’t feel frozen out? And if it is downright unbearable for you, maybe consider moving out? Living with your inlaws is usually a mistake!
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 26, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2025
Hi, I'm 44, never married. I have been on several dating apps and matrimonial sites. Every time I start talking to someone or go on a few dates, my family finds out and starts interfering. My mom would ask questions, judge what I am wearing. Worse, she will investigate the guy on his social media. She has sent friendship requests to so many strangers just to get access into their account.
I am tired of being treated like a teenager. I want to explore relationships at my own pace without being shamed or forced to explain every choice.
How do I draw the line?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are 44! Take your life in your own hands and is it necessary for you to tell your mother what you are up to?
If you are tired of being treated like a teenager, why are living under the same roof like a teenager does? - This should answer most of your questions and give you a way forward.
All the best!
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You are 44! Take your life in your own hands and is it necessary for you to tell your mother what you are up to?
If you are tired of being treated like a teenager, why are living under the same roof like a teenager does? - This should answer most of your questions and give you a way forward.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 26, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2025
I'm 37, successful in my career, live in my own flat. I am financially secure. But everyone around me keeps saying, 'you've become too independent, that's why you're still single.'
Most men I meet either feel intimidated or want me to adjust my lifestyle to fit into theirs. What if I don't want to change myself to make someone else comfortable? Do strong, emotionally mature men exist? Or do I need to compromise to avoid being alone forever?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You give some, you take some...it's a game of mutual give and take...now if people comment, either they are seeing you through their own filters or they are making an observation. Whatever it maybe, look into how your life is panning out...if you are happy the way things are, then lead it the way you have been so far...but if there are things that seem amiss and you feel that it could be better especially in relationships, then take a hard look at what's happening and if you can loosen the reins a bit...
Yes, emotionally, strong men do exist; it's just that they get put off by so-called strong women who push their agenda under the garb of women's empowerment...it's a mutual little game at the end, right?
All the best!
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You give some, you take some...it's a game of mutual give and take...now if people comment, either they are seeing you through their own filters or they are making an observation. Whatever it maybe, look into how your life is panning out...if you are happy the way things are, then lead it the way you have been so far...but if there are things that seem amiss and you feel that it could be better especially in relationships, then take a hard look at what's happening and if you can loosen the reins a bit...
Yes, emotionally, strong men do exist; it's just that they get put off by so-called strong women who push their agenda under the garb of women's empowerment...it's a mutual little game at the end, right?
All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 26, 2025
How to Develop a Habit of getting up early in Morning at a fixed time ?
Ans: Dear Sumukh,
When you can attach a strong enough reason/goal that depends on your waking up early, it's likely to become a habit over a period of time.
All the best!
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When you can attach a strong enough reason/goal that depends on your waking up early, it's likely to become a habit over a period of time.
All the best!
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 26, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - May 18, 2025
Gurus, My father passed away when I was 27 years old, I was not employed before that, now I am employed in a field I don't know much about and the work is giving me anxiety and depression, also I need to stay away from my wife and child. Do many people go through these feelings ? I feel as I was shielded from people and work environment i am finding the work grind too harsh and feel like giving up, i have accepted my situation but can't find guts to work against these feelings What should I do ?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sure there might be others in a similar situation feeling the way that you do. Life does not go according to a fixed plan and when it doesn't, how soon you bounce back and take charge of changing the way things are will define how well you can adapt.
Speak with a mentor within the office who can take you under their fold and groom you into the new role. If this does not seem possible, request your peers to help you out so that you can come up to speed.
As far as your family goes, is there not a possibility of them moving in with you? Or could you visit them over weekends?
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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I am sure there might be others in a similar situation feeling the way that you do. Life does not go according to a fixed plan and when it doesn't, how soon you bounce back and take charge of changing the way things are will define how well you can adapt.
Speak with a mentor within the office who can take you under their fold and groom you into the new role. If this does not seem possible, request your peers to help you out so that you can come up to speed.
As far as your family goes, is there not a possibility of them moving in with you? Or could you visit them over weekends?
All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
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