Workplace Anxiety: How Can I Deal With Blame Culture?

Ans: Hi Priyank,

Hope you are doing well.

Apology for the delay in replying.

It's natural to feel angry at times, but it's how you respond to and manage that anger that matters in a professional setting. It's important to decode the emotion (in this case it is anger). For example- when you get angry- ask yourself what is the reason behind. Is it because someone is not listening to you, is it because you are not ok with the idea been shared or is there any other reason. Here, you need to work on yourself in understanding different perspectives of the given situation.

Few simple gateways -
Recognize your triggers- Identify the situations or factors that trigger your anger. This could be a difficult colleague, a heavy workload, or tight deadlines. Awareness is the first step in control.

Take a Break: When you feel anger building, step away from the situation, if possible. A short break can help you cool down and gain perspective.

Use "I" Statements (this is a game changer): When discussing a problem with a colleague or anyone, use "I" statements to express your feelings and needs without blaming or accusing. For example, say, "I feel frustrated when..." instead of "You always..."

Problem-Solve: Instead of focusing on the problem itself, shift your attention to finding solutions. This can help you feel more in control.

These are few navigations which you can start to practice. I will be keen to know your progress.

Until then Be You. Be Confident.

To Your Success
Ashwini Dasgupta
Author of Confidence Decoded- is it a skill or attitude?

Ans: it's crucial to understand and address the root of your fear. Reflect on the specific behaviors or situations involving your father or uncle that trigger your anxiety. Journaling can be a valuable tool in this process, allowing you to articulate your feelings and gain insight into the nature of your fear. Recognizing these triggers is essential for developing a plan to manage them.

Developing coping strategies is the next step. Techniques like deep breathing and mindfulness can help you remain calm in stressful situations. When you start feeling overwhelmed, take a moment to focus on your breathing—inhale slowly through your nose, hold briefly, and then exhale through your mouth. This practice can help ground you and reduce immediate anxiety.

Building a supportive network outside of your family can also provide significant relief. Surround yourself with friends, mentors, or a counselor who can offer guidance and a safe space to express your feelings. Talking to someone you trust about your fears can help you gain perspective and reassurance.

It’s also important to gradually build your confidence in handling interactions with your family. Start by setting small, manageable boundaries and practicing assertiveness in low-stakes situations. This can help you develop the skills needed to address more challenging situations when they arise.

If addressing these fears directly with your family feels too daunting, consider seeking professional help. A therapist can provide strategies to manage your fear and work through any underlying issues. They can also assist in developing communication skills and coping mechanisms tailored to your specific needs.

Ultimately, facing your fears is about building resilience and self-awareness. By taking these proactive steps, you can gradually shift from feeling overwhelmed to feeling more in control and empowered in your interactions with your family. Remember, it’s a process, and being patient with yourself as you work through these challenges is key.