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MADHURRYA Question by MADHURRYA on Oct 11, 2024Hindi
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I was the first boy in my school before the covid 19 started. But due to lockdown, our school took Online Exams and everyone gave their exams sitting at their home. I am vey honest in life so I didn't cheat like the three boys who repeatedly claimed the top three positions for the last three years. But now, one boy has slipped off from the top 10 positions due to extreme poor in study. But two boys still comes 1st and 2nd respectively. I was back few positions during covid and now I came Fifth this time. One boy named (---) who used to come second, came third this time, is very rude and jealous of my success and literally threatens me. From then, I decided to cross him from his place and show them who I was and I am. I have been trying my best at my studies to be at a better position this time. So, I request for more suggestions from you to improve myself and be better this time. Thank You.

Ans: Dear Madhurrya!!

You have a nice and unique name.. it sounds so good!! I like that fact that you are honest, it's a strength, let this not change because of cheating students. Good people don't change because of bad people. All the best on staying honest always , remember it is your strength.

Coming to your question..it's nice to have ppl competing with others and upping their game. If it is a respectful way, then go ahead and compete and become better, just like Rafal Nadal and Roger Federer, they became good at what they were doing by competing with each other.
Forget about that boy who threatens you...don't give him any space in your head, stay away from him and be strong enough to defend yourself when he tries to harm you, take help of elders if he physically harms you. Don't get into any verbal duels, he is not worth your time and attention. BE SAFE.

Let's now look into you getting better marks and upping your score..
1. discipline and consistency is what will help you score well
2. the power to score better lies in not just regular studies but in your revision. After you study a chapter, revise it within 10 mins , once in 24 hrs and then after 07 days. This way the learning gets absorbed completely.. try it out, maintain a diary for to plan every chapter's revision .. let me explain.. supposing you study chapter 09 in Science, then you revise the concepts for 10 mins after you finish studying it. Revise it the next day( 24 hrs).. and then mark in the diary to revise it after 07 days, revise it on that day. Your retention and reproducing the learning goes up by 80%.
3. Get enough sleep, eat good balanced diet, get 20 mins of physical activity and meditate for 10 mins. The simplest meditation is to sit in a quiet place, relax, close your eyes and observe your breath going in and out. Don't fret if you lose focus, just get back to observing the breath.
4. you keep working on your studies and yourself. You focus on becoming better, forget about all else and do not compare yourself with anyone.

All the very best!!
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