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Anu Krishna

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Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
She is an executive member of the Indian Association of Adolescent Health.... more

Answered on Jun 27, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 24, 2025Hindi
Relationship
Hi Anu I'm 35, recently widowed. My husband passed away in a road accident. I was in a state of shock when he left me. I took a break from everything and resumed office only six months ago. A young man from my office, whose engagement was cancelled last year, has started showing interest in me. I don't know if he is doing it out of sympathy that I am a widow. But I am beginning to enjoy his company. I am surprised and also worried if it is too soon. I never believed there would be another guy in my life after my husband. Do you think I am feeling lonely? He's 37, gentle and respectful. We haven't kissed or got intimate. No flirting either. We like each other's company and there is an instant spark how we light each others' lives. I don't know if I am open to love, if this relationship will work. I don't know yet but how do I check if I am emotionally vulnerable? My family and in-laws would disapprove if I moved on 'so soon.' Is it wrong to date someone so early? I am feeling guilty too.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am truly sorry for your loss.
And NO, it is not wrong to date someone; early or not is something that is very subjective in nature. It is possible that family and in-law may disapprove of you moving on, but over time when they realize that you are searching for a true companion and if the person is someone that they can trust, there maybe no reason why they will object.

Now, here comes a reality check questions;
- Are you jumping into another relationship after you have healed from your grief and you feel that you are ready for a new journey
OR
- Are you impulsively giving into your feelings of loneliness and this gentleman seems to fit the label of someone who is caring and keeps you distracted from your grief?

If it's the first case, then I am sure you know that it feels right; then it's just a matter of your family understanding it when they can...
But if it's the second case, please exercise caution as it can backfire leaving you feeling more lonely and less fulfilled...

Evaluate it keeping your emotions aside and I am sure you will come to the right decision.

All the best!
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Answered on Jun 26, 2025

Answered on Jun 26, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 19, 2025Hindi
Relationship
Anu, I saw your podcast on Rediff Are you being forced into marriage? My cousin is deeply in love with someone from her college. Both are 21, recently graduated. My uncle has clearly refused to accept them and is planning to send her abroad to live with our great uncle in Canada. We are a conservative family. Once she reaches Canada they plan to marry her off because she is being emotionally manipulated by our family. I know because I went through something similar. I couldn't contact my boyfriend and he was sent away to another city to look for a job. I waited for him but we couldn't communicate. Thankfully my husband understood and gave me time to accept him. I don't want to take that risk for my sister. I really want to help my cousin as her Canadian visa has already arrived. The boy belongs to a poor family and doesn't have a job yet. He has two elder sisters who are also dependent on him. He is a loving, hard working guy but they will need a few years to be financially independent. How can I help my sister? Please help.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
At 21, love, marriage and without financial independence. Very filmy it all seems, right? Sadly those movies don't talk about how to survive without money or how to actually become financially independent.

Kindly guide your sister to get academically strong and find a job, so that she can support herself first. For this, she is going to have to buy time and possibly will be asked by her parents to stay away from her boyfriend as well. So, ask her to buy time now and request her parents to wait until she finishes her studies...it's worth taking that risk, waiting...so that both can be financially sound and then the boy can approach your cousin for marriage. Right now, why do you think the parents will agree! The boy is 21 and does not earn...why would or should your cousin's parents accept him? They are concerned for their daughter; can you blame them?

By being stubborn about this, the parents are only going to get more firm about it and the chances of your cousin being with her boyfriend will be difficult.

All the best!
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Answered on Jun 24, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 11, 2025Hindi
Relationship
Anu mam, my wife and I have been married for 18 months. I have always grown up around girls. My best friends are girls, one is married, another is single. I have two sisters, one elder, one younger, who is not married and lives with us. She is in college and financially dependent on me. Two of my closest friends from office are also women, and nothing's ever happened between us. But now, my wife says it's inappropriate to chat with girls. If I am late from work, or stay up late replying to texts, she accuses me of hiding things but it's not true. The first time she got suspicious, I gave her my password, and even showed her my chat history, but it seems, it's not enough for her to trust. She says if I love her, I should choose her over 'outsiders.' How is this fair? I feel suffocated already. Will this marriage work?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your wife possibly grew up in a family that had strict rules about gender and behavior between genders and maybe it was quite the opposite at you home. Who is right in this? Neither!
You just learn and understand that you both come from different backgrounds and your experiences around hanging out with the other gender were shaped differently.
Sit down and have a conversation around it. On her part, your wife just will need to trust you and your part, hang out with a few guys every once in a while. A good round of Squash with the boys won't hurt you and will keep your marriage going, yeah?

All the best!
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Answered on Jun 24, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 10, 2025Hindi
Relationship
, I have been married for almost 14 years and have a 10 year old. A few months ago my husband found some intimate chats of mine with someone else. I am extremely remorseful of my actions. Honestly those chats happened because my husband never showed me any love or concern. However I know that's not excuse to have those chats. After seeing those chats he got extremely angry and threw me out of the house. It's been more than 3 months. He is not willing to forgive me. He wants separation and he has told our daughter also that we are separated. I am so heartbroken that because of my blunder I lost my husband and daughter. Is there any way I can get back with my husband
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There are always going to be reasons to do something or not do something and there is no point mulling over it.
For your husband, his trust has been broken!
Now, is it hard to bring back that trust? Yes, especially with the way your husband has reacted on it. He does seem sensitive about the whole thing and understand that it has possibly hit the pride of a man who is meant to keep his family happy and safe. Suddenly, the world that he had protected is encroached upon by another man. Your husband is bound to feel 'less', 'inadequate' and 'worthless'. That is why he has opted to separate as he finds it difficult to reconcile or even think of why he could not take care of his family.
Now, rather than beating yourself up for it, gather the courage to talk to your husband requesting him for a one on one chat with you. If you want this marriage to work, even your husband needs to work with you...no point acting on it the way he has and not take the responsibility of connecting with you emotionally that could possibly have been one of the reasons that you sought comfort elsewhere. An expert intervention will help provided your husband is also willing.

All the best!
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Answered on Jun 24, 2025

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Hi ma'am I'm 25 years old and my relationship with my parents is getting sour since a very long time they always want me to do everything that makes them happy and think about their happiness if I ever think about my happiness or do anything that makes me happy then they fight with me and portray me as a bad daughter and my dad has always said that if she will ever think about her happiness or do anything that makes her happy then I'm gonna leave everything and go so does my mom she also threatened to cut ties with me if I ever do anything that makes me happy my parents never supported me for anything they never ask me who I wanna get married to who I'll b happy with what profession i wanna take nothing but it's always about them in my family there are 16 members who have had love marriage and inter religion marriages my grandmother stays 15kms away from my house she has 3 kids 2 of her daughters had a love marriage one to a muslim one to a hindu her one daughter ran and got married to a hindu guy at that time my mom dad and her mom didn't even say a word but accepted him with open arms and my grandmother got her 2nd daughter married to her boyfriend who is a muslim during Covid 2020 without informing any of our relatives when my parents got to know about her daughters marriage they invited her for lunch at my place they didn't even say a word or opposed that marriage but accepted him with open arms and showered them with love When I fell in love with a hindu guy my mom started to seperate me from him and she is telling everyone to brainwash me to leave the person person I love and find a suitable Christian guy for me when ever we go to my grandmother's house my mom always brings up my boyfriend's topic and start fighting with me infront of them we went there 3 times and all the 3 times she fighted with me and told everyone to brainwash me my mom always support my grandmother's children if anything happens to them she will call them 10 times and ask how they are and when my grandmother was ill treating me my mom didn't even take a stand for me or raised her voice for me but she was watching everything as a movie is going on when I was crying after we came back to my house my mom didn't even ask me what am I going through she always support my grandmother who did bad with me if they will say not to let her work and get her married my mom will listen to her and her daughters and my grandmother also started forcing me that I should also listen to her and get married to a guy who they choose and i should not at all think about my happiness and what makes me happy in my life and i should think about her and my parents happiness and my uncle who lives in Hyderabad he also started to get interfere in my personal life since the time he got to know I fell in love with a hindu guy he also started to seperate me from him and forcefully get me marriage to a guy of his choice my uncle's wife has been expired 15 years back and this age he has a girlfriend who lives in banglore she is a divorcee and her daughter is also a divorcee who he met in Facebook i didn't interfere in anyone's personal life or seperated them from their boyfriend or girlfriend and everyone who have had love marriages in my family and everyone are happy with their partners when it comes to me my parents uncle my grandmother and her daughters who have had love marriage always try to seperate me from my boyfriend and forcefully get me married to a Christian guy if anyone in my family will fall in love with a inter religion person then he/she is a good guy/girl according to them if I fall in love they seperate me from him and forcefully get me Married to a Christian guy i told my parents many times to talk to him and know him but they are like no we don't like him and they always say he is not a good person and always judge my boyfriend even without talking or knowing him once but for others even without talking to their partners they say he is a good person and they will accept him with open arms and also invite them for lunch and everything and will always stay at their place during trips but if I do they will mentally harass me to leave the person I love and get married to a guy of their choice recently we went to Bangalore for my sister's marriage who also had a love marriage at that time my uncle had come to the wedding and he was asking my mom did u brainwash her to leave him and get her married to someone else and my mom was saying yes I did with my aunt's daughter who also had love marriage I don't understand why they always try to seperate me from the person I love and forcefully get me married to someone else who I'm not at all interested in when I'm telling them about him they are not ready to listen to me at all plus they are mentally harassing me to leave him if I take help of any of my relatives who had love marriages in this matter they will not listen to me but force me to listen to my parents and do as they say what should I do ma'am I'm shattered
Ans: Dear Niveditha,
I gather that many members of your family are against your relationship and interfering in a way that will keep you away from him. My question to you is: Are you financially independent? If Yes, it helps you stand up for yourself. But is NO, then this will make you vulnerable to their decisions...
Now another question: why are they so against this boy? Is he younger to you or not working and financially sound? I mean, what is the reason according to you that they have chosen to be against this when they are okay with others in the family doing the same?
There is surely something that they are not comfortable when it comes to the boy that you are in love with. Find out what that is; it's the question of you life, so don't be so floored by love that you miss out on a red flag. Also, it will help if you stop comparing your situation to others and indulge in so much self-pity. Focus on what exactly is going on, ask your parents as a mature adult on why they dislike the boy and understand if it's real or not and act accordingly. so much of blame game and self-pity will only take your focus out and you will end up more miserable and not do what's the right thing for yourself.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Answered on Jun 11, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 04, 2025
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Hello Anu Mam, I have a friend who has been married for 10 years and with 2 kids one 8 yr old daughter and a two year old son. His wife whom he loved and trusted so much had cheated on him with one of her friends for almost 3 years which he came to know about last year. Though he could not digest that and thought of divorcing her but thinking about his children's future he changed his mind and told her to end all communication with him in order to save this marriage .She too had agreed . He hadn't told about this to anyone except me including her parents whom he respected a lot and hence didn't want to hurt them ... But after 3 months he came to know that she was still in contact with her friend using another phone without his knowledge and her affair also had not stopped . This time he couldn't tolerate and told this to her parents and told them that he would be filing for divorce. Her parents literally begged with him not to do so and requested him to give one last chance as they would mend her this time . He told them that even after giving her a chance to mend herself she has cheated again and broken his trust and that he couldn't live with her without trust . So he had decided to move on but his wife and her mother threatened him that they will have no other choice but to commit suicide if he doesnt forgive his wife. He was also worried about his children's future without their mother .. Based on some elders and friends (including mine )advice he gave her one last chance but on condition that there should not be any communication with her affair partner in future and if he comes to know about them being in any kind of contact he would be filing for divorce . His wife and her parents agreed to this and he took her back though not wholeheartedly but due to circumstances. Though they lived under one roof they did not live a harmonious life and lived like strangers and there used to be quarrels very frequently between them . This sometimes had gone physical and on many occasions his wife had threatened him with suicide... And in March this year he came to know that she was in contact with her affair partner secretly using another phone. When confronted she told they were just talking and nothing else...Though there may not be any physical contact this time my friend is very upset and adamant that he wouldn't live with her and want a mutual divorce ...His wife is not agreeing for it and threatening that she would write his name and end her life if he goes for a contested divorce. My friend is too worried about the legal complications if such a thing happens . He is also concerned about his kids especially his daughters future if he goes for a contested divorce based on adultery , the impact it would have on his daughter s future ..He doesn't want to spoil his daughters future ..At the same time he says he cannot imagine living with his wife again after being cheated on twice... Kindly advice what should I advise him ...
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I don't agree with the 'cheating' part, but has your friend bothered to understand what makes his wife step out of marriage again and again?
How is their marriage? Is it compatible? Emotionally are they connected? How is their sex life? These are the ones that can help put their marriage together. These need to be addressed. Honestly, ask your friend to work with his wife on their marriage.
Threats and fights are not going to solve anything. Even if she comes back, the root cause of the marriage breakdown will drive her out of the marriage again...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Answered on Jun 02, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - May 23, 2025
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I've been married for 19 years. We live in a joint family with my husband and in-laws. Since last year, my father has recently become bedridden and needs constant care. Since he lives in another city, I have been travelling constantly to take turns to attend him. I want to bring him to our home, but my mother-in-law strongly objects saying they will lose their privacy. My husband tries to mediate but often ends up siding with his mother, saying she's getting old too. I am not able to decide being a daughter and a daughter-in-law. Is it unfair of me to expect support for my father, or am I compromising too much in this marriage?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You surely are walking on a thin rope trying to balance both sides...it seems unfair, yes!
What I can suggest to you is: Find out what exactly is your mother-in-law's concern? What does she mean by 'lose their privacy'?
Usually, these statements are just reactionary to a much deeper concern. Try to address what bothers her; it could be as simple as your attention moving away from home and other responsibilities...she may possibly feel awkward being around your father...all these facts get masked under broad statements which to you may seem like excuses...so instead of playing this dance being the daughter and daughter-in-law, dig out more information, so that you can address concerns and not the reactions from them.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Answered on May 19, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - May 12, 2025
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I am a 41 yr old man. Married for the last 17 yrs, my wife is now 37 yrs old. w are Bengalis but now due t my work stay in Bengaluru. we had an arranged marriage but soon after the marriage I found her to be very irresponsible, she had the mentality that her husband has to be responsible for all her whims & fancies without any expectation from her. Though her family was more like ours middle class & financially poorer then us Initially I thought that she will mature with time. Within 1 yr we had our 1st kid who is 16 yrs old & in 11th now. Thinking she will now be responsible as mother but found very little change & I had to force/push her to do maternal duties while I managed the other things despite myself working as an engineer in an mnc & she being a housewife. next year we had our 2nd kid. This pressure was reflected in my office & my performance suffered, anyway I managed to stay afloat. Giving her any family task always resulted in her doing a coverup job & when things went wrong I had to set it right as the family or there will be monetary loss. Obviously I used to tell her about all this, then she will be OK for 1-2 weeks then again back to same. Even taking care of the children there studies soon became my responsibility. One thing was good was our sexual life which what I understand she is good & this gave me somewhat something to bear her Though other factor like middle class mentality that parents should not move out for the kids sake kept me somewhat tied to her & tried to make myself happy.Last year around June she told me that she will like to leave me as she wants to marry one of her telegu friend's brother who works in Dubai now, given my above reason I was not very upset on hearing this but was worried about our kids the eldest then gave his 10th exam & younger was promoted to class 10. After some talks & persuasion she agreed that she will wait for 3 yrs ie the younger kid to complete her schooling & going to college, & also keep the whole things secret with only 4-5 people knowing it, this she has responsibly done. Now its 1 year & I am in a very bad situation & need your support first she is now completely without any responsibility of the kids or family, she just cooks the meals sees that the maids work & even if I tell her to look into what the kids are studying or take the small responsibility like waking them up or minor things like go to the shop etc , she simply declines & always she is busy browsing or chatting, in Feb her to be husband came to Bangalore & she spend 2 nights with him in a resort. I did not want the kids to know about all this as it will mentally disturb them so I had to make stories to them about there mom going to a friend's marriage etc. He is again coming in mid July & they are planning to go out again.. My delima is I can bear the whole thing with a glimmer of hope that our separation maybe avoided which makes a somewhat social negativeness for me my parents & my kids but am I doing the right thing or being desperate is what I should be? The second point is something which I am feeling very uneasy to write, though we have decided to separate & she is having sex with this guy but we are still have sex, I dont want to really worry that she having sex with me is cheating with her to be husband but as I told you before it is really relaxing & gives me the strength to bear all this... Please suggest what I should do, immediately leave her which will end the story though I am not really ready if I & the kids will be able to take the social slur or wait for another 2 years with the hope that maybe things will change
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What are you hanging around for? She's clearly move on...
You are perhaps citing the excuse of children and hoping that something would turn around. In fact, a dysfunctional environment affects children more than the truth.
So, take a decision that you feel will keep your children protected emotionally and physically. And most importantly, what makes you want to continue punishing yourself like this?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Answered on May 19, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - May 08, 2025
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I was only 23 when my mother left this world. Me & my father were alone after that. My father was asking me for marriage, so that a girl can come in our home & manage household chores. I wanted to focus on my career for at least 6 more years. That's why I denied. We somehow managed for 1 year after my mother left us, but after that my father started pressuring me to marriage. I was still not ready when I became 24. So, my father found a girl for himself. Co-incidence was that the girl was just 1 year elder than me. My father's master plan was that he will make us pretend that it's my wife in front of the world. I liked the idea & the girl was also ready. Don't know how that girl was convinced to marry my father. She is from decent family. Even her parents don't know that my father is her real husband. So, my father made me married to her in front of all. We managed everything excellently from all the rituals to our relatives. We acted well. In front of the world & in papers, she was my wife, but biologically she became my step mother. They got 2 children within 6-8 years, but I got stuck without marriage because according to everyone, I am married. Now, I am 39 now & my father also left this world last year. I am unmarried & she (step mother) is a widow. I & her both are feeling alone in this world without a partner. My step mother suggested if she can become my real wife. We both like each other's company but I don't know if there will be any consequences in the future. Nobody will say anything because nobody knows the truth except both of us. Divorce is not a good option because there are children. What do you suggest ??
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Nice circus within the house, yeah?
How did you even agree to get yourself manipulated by your father? He's just played you and you got played...years have gone by and now you wonder where all those years have gone by...
Move out of this entire arrangement otherwise you spend the rest of your life living a life that's not yours and being a person that is not you.
Who you are is what you need to bring up for yourself and that's not to play someone's husband when you are not. And look how it has confused the children...Your father needs a lesson on taking responsibility for his actions. He's just happy with his lust getting its due without having to play the husband to the outside world. All in all, you have got the raw end of all this...
First move out of this situation so that you have the time to get back to being YOU. It will give you enough clarity on what is to be done next and it will teach your father and his wife, that they have to now look after the family that they created without using you as an 'actor'.

All the best!
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Answered on May 12, 2025

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I am 23 years old. I am in relationship from 8 years. I am Hindu brahmin and He is Sikh . so its inter-religion . my mother and brother accept my relationship. but my father is so conservative. wo kidhar aur rishta dekh rhe hai mera .and he is like usko bhi mar duga aur tumko bhi. but itte door aake i can't loose him. we seriously love each other. but bhagna bhi nahi chahte dono. what should I do ? how to convince my father?
Ans: Dear Kanak,
Convince nahin balki apne papa ko yeh ehsaas dilaane ki koshish karo ki is ladke mein tumhe kaunse gun nazar aate hain jise tum pyaar karne lagi.
You can't convince him but you can definitely try and make him experience your point of view.

All the best!
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Answered on Apr 09, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 02, 2025Hindi
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My Daughter-in-Law Refuses to Have Children: Should We Seek Separation or Legal Help?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This may sound a bit rude to you; my apologies if it does but someone needs to say it aloud...

Why exactly are you getting into the middle of all of this? They are two grown people who need to sort this out for themselves. If your daughter-in-law is not prepared to be a mother, there's obviously a reason for this and this is between the couple. Let them talk about it If your son is coming to you with his issues with his wife, should you not actually ask him to take it up on his own?
And how did the talk of separation come about? Is this question from you son or are you suggesting it by yourself?
Let them sort out their issues without any intervention from you or anyone in the family and this so-called dream of family lineage and depriving you of becoming grandparents is sounding like an agenda.
Their marriage, their way of living! And that's how it must be! Please push your son to be a husband first and then a dutiful son otherwise he will lose his marriage.
Once all of you back off from all your expectations, it's possible that the relationship between the two of them starts to get better
and she may feel like even thinking of an idea of starting a family. And as for unpleasantness created in your larger family; they have no say in your son's marriage.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Answered on Apr 09, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 01, 2025Hindi
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Worried About Friend's Uncharacteristic Behavior After Father's Death
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Thanks you for your kind words of acknowledgement!

It's nice to know that you care a lot. Just be with him as any friend would...let him have the time to grieve and instead of putting a time to how quickly he must normalize, just let him be...That would really help him more than you wanting to see him better due to your anxiety. This is more about him than you. Step in to intervene only if there are drastic and detrimental changes in his behavior.

All the best!
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Answered on Apr 01, 2025

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Arranged Marriage Pressure: Girlfriend's Family Ignoring My Job Prospects and Caste
Ans: Dear solar,
In sab ke beech, aapke girlfriend ka kya kehna hai? Woh aapne bataaya nahin. Kya woh apne parents ko tall sakegi aur kitni der kar paayegi? Kya woh aapke jon lagne tak intezzar karna chahti hai? Aisa lag raha hai ki is rishte ka wazan aap leke ghoom rake ho...thoda apne girlfriend ke saath baithkar plan kijiye taaki woh bhi aapke saath is samasya ka hal dhoond sake.
Ek baat toh hai ki uske parents ko manaana mushkil hoga aur jab tak aapki job nahin lagti woh is rishte ke liye raazi nahin honge. Toh plan yeh karna ki jab tak aapki naukri lage, tab tak aap dono is baat ko aur is samasaya ko aur uske parents ko kaise sambhalenge. Joh bhi ho saath mein milke plan karna.

All the best!
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Asked on - Apr 09, 2025 | Answered on Apr 11, 2025
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I am 26 and she is 25…but tbh maam mujhe lgta hai uske parents pr jada influence unke rishtedaro ka hai..vo unko force krte hai ki jldi shadi krdeni chaiye..uski nani bolte hai mere jeetey ji shadi krwa do m dkhlungi …thoda emotional blackmail type krte hai..or sirf phla hi rishta dekha tha unhone or 1 baar milne pr hi haan b krdiya sayad ladke valo ki family ko…pr mujhe esa b lgta hai ki koi bhi parents itne to strict nhi hote hongi ki bacho ki bilkul hi na sune …sayad ladki ko itni jldi himat nhi harni chaiye usko or efforts krne chaiye thats what i think…mujhe smjh nhi ara m kisko blame kru khud b krta hu ki kash jldi job leleta to ye din na dkhna pdhta pr ek mn me khyal ata hai ki tb b to caste differences hote tb bhi to himat dikhani pdhti khud ke liye fight krna pdhta tb kya vo kr pati? Vo pandit hai unme caste society kya sochegi ye chij sbse phle dekhi jati h…usne to mujhe boldiya ki ki usse koi umeed nhi dikhri hai hme move on krna chaiye pr m koi b hope ni chrd para hu mujhe umeed hai pr usko nhi hai or m ..na to pdhai me concentrate kr para hu bilkul bhi stressed hu job ko lekr bhi apne relationship ko lekr bhi future ko soch soch kr bhi ..m sari taraf se fs gya hu …
Ans: Dear solar,
App padhaai pe dhayaan dena pehle and ladki ko bolna ki tab tak woh apne parents ko sambhal le...naukri ki talaask bhi jaari rakhiye taaki exam hote hi aap ladki ke pariwaar se milke shaayd unhe samjhaa sake...
par zaroori yeh hai ki yeh pareeksha sirf aapke liye hi nahin balki ladki ka bhi hai ki kitna aur kis hadd tak woh apne parents ko taal sakti hai...aapka dhyaan ab sirf pareeksha pe hona chahiye.
Uske baad faisla lena ka bhi haq ban jaayega aap logon ka...

All the best!
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