Hi Anu I'm 35, recently widowed. My husband passed away in a road accident. I was in a state of shock when he left me. I took a break from everything and resumed office only six months ago. A young man from my office, whose engagement was cancelled last year, has started showing interest in me. I don't know if he is doing it out of sympathy that I am a widow. But I am beginning to enjoy his company. I am surprised and also worried if it is too soon. I never believed there would be another guy in my life after my husband. Do you think I am feeling lonely? He's 37, gentle and respectful. We haven't kissed or got intimate. No flirting either. We like each other's company and there is an instant spark how we light each others' lives. I don't know if I am open to love, if this relationship will work. I don't know yet but how do I check if I am emotionally vulnerable? My family and in-laws would disapprove if I moved on 'so soon.' Is it wrong to date someone so early? I am feeling guilty too.

Hi Shalini, I am 57 , teaching in a college. Separated from my wife and the father a 26year old boy , an art critic. I have bought him a flat and given him financial independence. There is no jois de vivre in my life. I feel like having a relationship. Am I wrong ? Is it possible ?

I met someone in highschool in my neighborhood and we used to chat a lot and were in love. I went on my first date with him without telling my parents and since I was young I didn't want to do that and I ghosted him. I think I never really not loved him and hence didn't date and got busy with life. He got in a relationship and was busy with his academics too but used to text me on my birthday. I knew about it and never really responded much. Last year, I was really depressed and since I had cut ties with my friends too, I decided to start talking him to again. Got to know about his breakup an year back and now we are dating. He has cheered me up, he is very honest too. But I keep thinking I don't find him handsome or that I feel guilty for no reason. Basically I think I only am with him because I was feeling extremely low. Should I continue this?

Hi I'm a 40, widow, mother of 3. I'm in a relationship with a man who is 10 yrs older to me. He is married, has his wife and kids. We are seeing eachother for the last 2 years. He is a 100% family man. He is very helpful in nature, he will do all he can to help anyone. The same way he is always there for me.. I ask him for opinions and suggestions, and he readily helps. We get cozy with eachother. He says that he has feelings for me and I too have feelings for him. It pains me when we do not talk or meet due to his busy schedule. But he calls every day. He loves his family very much. But what is our relationship?

Hi i am a married woman aged 45 years, i am happily married and have a loving husband. My husband travels a lot due to work and my son is studying in college in Pune. Everything was going fine in my life, but few months back a MBA graduate boy 23 years joined our office in my team. He had to report to me, and our company send us for sales corporatemeetings to Mumbai and other cities often. Gradually we became close and he confessed he had a crush on me. I was falttered but told him i am much older and married. Although i was very flattered that he found me attractive. I am tall 5ft 7 inches and kept myself very fit and always men keep hitting on me but i always ignore them. On our last trip together we went for a meal and had a few drinks together. Then i told him i was sleepy and needed to go to my room. He accompanied to my room and had a coffee. I had a bavk ache and he said he can massage me for 5 mins. I hesitantly agreed during the massage one thing led to another and we had sex and since then we have started having sex whenever we travel togther often. He says he truly loves me but for next 5 years he cannot marry anyone. I have now started loving him a lot i often fight with my husband. I want to continue this affair but am afraid if my husband finds out or if people in office come to know. Strangely another young man in office has starterd showing interest in me and asked me out for a coffee. He also says he likes me a lot anf is caring, I am confused shall i also go for a simple coffee. what if my husband or younger boyfriend find out. Is what i am doing wrong, i just want to live my life fully am i wrong ???

I am 36, female earning Rs 2 lakh per month, but I am single. I had my first relationship when I was 23 and we broke up pretty bad when I was 27. He moved on due to family pressure but I could not. I don't have a father figure or anyone in my family who would support my relationship. So I worked hard and rebuilt myself. I have dated several boys but I don't want to commit. I have a mental image of the boy I want to marry. And it is mostly related to my first love. Though we are not in touch, I find myself drawn towards men who are compassionate and soft spoken like him. Last year I got attracted to my married co-worker who reminded me of my first love. We both know we can't take it forward but there is an instant spark and connection between us that we cannot dismiss. He says he misses me when he is at home. When I realised he was distracted in his marriage, I took a step back and moved to another job to help him save his marriage. Now we are both broken and can't move forward. I have signed up for therapy but I don't think there is anything wrong in wanting to love someone who is kind and protective. My therapist says I could be looking for a father figure in my future partner.