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I don't fee normal, I don't live my life to the fullest; actually I feel like I am just living half of my life i.e. I am not the same person on all days I mood swings repeatedly. One day i am someone & another day a completely other person& it happens regularly I can't stop it.

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Hello sir I got seat in vit ap CSE which I don’t like . I am asking for drop but my parents are not accepting for it plz help what can I do for convince them I am so depressed for them

Iam willing to take educational counselling for for my son who is pursuing 1puc science

I'm taking a drop because I got a very low percentile in jee mains. What advice you can give because I am doing same mistakes as I did in my past and I am really demotivated to study unable to study and I get distracted easily please help!!!

My son studying 5 th standard in a CBSE school. He is not showing any interest in writing... But he is very active able to understands the concepts well and he can answer orally very well. But not willing to write anything so he is scoring very low marks and his handwriting also not good. How do I make my son get interest in writing and to write neatly and fastly kindly suggest if any counselling can be given or any classes he can go like mid brain activation or handwriting.

I face very much difficulty in remembering thing and I procrastinate a lot please provide any advice so that it will be beneficial for me because I am student too

Does tratak increase attention span?

Hello sir I am a class 12th student preparing for jee but from few days I can't make myself to study. Not like I don't intend to study but somehow I am just unable to study and can't make myself to study. So can you help me with this issue by suggesting some advisable suggestions

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Hello sir Now My son is studying 9th standard and he is behaving aggressively to parents Kindly help me in this regard

Is it my fault that my sensitivity leads me to adopt a nonchalant demeanor in social situations, which my parents perceive as arrogance and irresponsibility? Is it my fault that I tend to remember negative experiences and words more vividly than positive ones, given their rarity? Is it my fault that I struggle to be affectionate with my parents after they scold me, as they expect, despite considering it a form of tough love? They feel that they're giving me valuable life lessons and I should be grateful to them and how bad my life would've been if someone else were my parents. They feel that they're so kind, generous and loving for tolerating me and my attitude and how disappointing I'm for disregarding their good wishes and how it's gonna make my future life so bad that I'll be wishing that I had listened to them. How alone I would be in my future due to my bad attitude and nobody would be there to celebrate my successes or share my sorrows. When I talk with them, we would all act like a happy family but after sometime they would tell me that how my this and that remark hurt them but to keep the vibe going they didn't stop me? How are they expecting me to continue talking with them when I feel that conversing with them is like walking around landmines? And if I don't talk, they feel like I'm a freeloader who is taking them for granted and treating their home as a hotel and them as waiters? Is it my fault that I feel uncomfortable conversing with my parents due to their tendency to highlight my faults and hurtful remarks, creating a tense atmosphere? Is it my fault that my parents make me feel guilty for envisioning my own future, independent of them, and accuse me of being heartless and ungrateful? Is it my fault that I struggle to make friends due to the constant comparison to others by my parents, which undermines my self-esteem? Is it my fault that I can't forget them calling be the karma of their bad actions in their previous lives and how it's better to have been childless? Is it my fault that I am petty and I can't make friends with those who my parents always compare me with in terms of their sensibility, responsibility and love towards their family and me being clueless of things in my house and not treating them lovingly, politely and properly and disregarding them? Is it my fault that I crave comfort and affection, longing for someone to understand and support me emotionally, especially in the absence of loving gestures from my parents? Is it my fault that I hesitate to confide in my parents about my deepest feelings due to fear of judgment and their tendency to use past mistakes as lessons against me? Is it my fault that I believe in the validity of subjective truths, yet my parents fail to acknowledge the possibility of their own fallibility? Is it my fault that my parents see me as a disappointment, only capable of goodness when I seek forgiveness or favor, rather than recognizing my genuine efforts? Is it my fault that I feel trapped in a dependent relationship with my parents, unable to assert my independence due to financial reliance and lack of alternative support? Is it my fault that my attempts to express my emotional distress are dismissed as self-victimization by my parents, while they themselves engage in guilt-tripping behavior? When faced with overwhelming emotions and a sense of detachment from myself and my responsibilities, I recognize the potential danger of suppressing these feelings. If I continue to bottle them up, I fear that I may reach a breaking point and act impulsively, leading to regrettable consequences. This state of mind has left me feeling demotivated, pessimistic, and disconnected from activities I once enjoyed and obligations I should fulfill for my future. Despite this, I acknowledge the love and support of my parents. However, I realize the urgency of addressing these feelings and seeking help to regain control over my emotions and motivation for self-care and responsibility. What should I do?

My daughter haa behavioural issues and her ages is 14 years and does véry naughty things

I have difficulty reading in mind any book I am reading.How should I cope up ?

My wife is a special educator. I have a special child and she is taking all his therapies at home. Can i pay her the therapy charges

I'm a 53 year old father. My son is 17 yrs, I'm very disciplined, I expect the same from him. He his not neat. I keep telling him to eat properly, sit erect. But he hardly listens He is mostly interested in playing with phone. Some times I loose temper and scold him, in the flow I criticise him . Pls, suggest how to correct him without hurting. I'm I wrong?

Not getting any interest in studies .What should I do ?

I am writing to express my concerns about my daughter, who is 10 years old. Over the past six months, she has been experiencing difficulties at school due to bullying from one of her classmates. This classmate has been isolating her from her other friends and has been making her feel uncomfortable. Consequently, her grades have started to decline, and she has been expressing a reluctance to attend school. My daughter has confided in me about this issue, and she is desperate to distance herself from this classmate. However, she is feeling scared and lacks the confidence to do so. Additionally, I have observed changes in her behavior at home. She has become more irritable, moody, and adamant. I believe this may be due to feelings of being neglected in comparison to her younger brother, who is three years old. While she loves her brother dearly, she sometimes feels that I give him more attention due to his age. As a parent, I am trying my best to support and reassure her, but I feel that I may not be providing enough help. I am seeking your guidance and assistance in addressing these issues and helping my daughter navigate through this challenging time.

My child often misbehaves in public, throws a tantrum. He is fine at home. I don't know how to handle it gently. I feel like a failed parent. How can I be stern?

Hello ma'am, we are parents of 4 years old baby girl. We as parents are having difficult time since a year about handling our daughter's anger issues. As she's growing up her temper tantrums are becoming strong and she is slowly becoming stubborn,not listening to us. Is it normal for her age group or we should involve some tricks for her behaviour. Can suggest and advise on this issue. Thank you

Hello Aruna Madam, My daughter 12 years old she is studying in 7th stanard, she doesnt focus on her study, also her hand writing is poor, i try to motivae her daily, but she doesnt care, sometime i think i leave her on his own way, she goes to school irregularly also she said, i am not co-up with school, she is not talk properly with her same age girls/boys, she is comfortable with younger children's. she is interested in drawings, is there any school for drawings

Hi I am Geetha Sethumadhavan..based out of Bangalore...My son Anirudh is diagnosed with ADHD in school. We have done some therapies.. But have not got any help.. He is jn his final year ( semester) Mcom.. doing from CMR University... Worried if he will get a job.... Want him to be independent.. Be proactive. He is always with his ipad and mobile.. He is 23 years old.. Please help...

My son(3rd grade) good at most of the things studies, sports etc.. but little agressive so beats and fights at school. He tells they do something to me so I do. I do not want to suppress him by beating or scaring him. What could be the best way I can handle him. Currently I am talking to him by telling consequences of doing such things...

My wife is very pushy towards my daughter who is 10 years. She believes in extreme discipline and even a small mistake means my daughter has to face lot of scolding and sometimes even beating. I have tried to counsel her but she is not ready to listen and says she has been brought up like that. My daughter looses her confidence and I am scared it hurting her mentally. Spoke to her family members but nothing is helping.

Hi ma'am, my son is in 4th grade, he can understand the chapter very well, orally he is good but when it comes to writing part in the exam he is not at all doing well, he is forgetting the answers. Kindly help him.

My 10 year old child is autistic. We have put him in normal school. But its very difficult for him to manage independently even though he has no abnormal behaviours or aggression. Currently my wife goes with him to school. Therefore is home shooling a better option for such kids? How to do about home schooling. Please share some links.

Hello Aruna ji I have 14 year old son currently in class 9th. From last couple of years we observed that he is not good in subjects where lot of memorization required like Social science. He is average in Science and Maths. What we and teacher understand after discussion that he is not able to form his answers and not able to understand what question is asking. We evaluate with physcologist she identifies that he is facing issue in understanding and writing comprehensions. He has a tendency to skip questions if he dont understand or seems difficult. He didnot even try to look for answers or think. Child physcologist said he is good kid and did not has other issues just need to work on weak areas and required no further assessment. How do you think we can improve his comprehensions and learning/memorization abilities ? and what should we can do from here ?

I want to know how to control aggression of my 18 month old grand daughter with huge mental & physical power ? In which activity her mind can be diverted like sports & learning to make her cool. She has highest level of presence of mind.

Sir/Madam, This is regarding my daughter, she is 20 years and studying first year MBBS and they have give one and half month holidays for final exams and before the one week of exams started crying continuously and we could manage to convince her and got some confidence and we have given liberty to watch tv of her choice, just a day before the day of the exam, on the night starts crying continuously with trembling and says I haven’t studied properly. As we know she is brilliant and got admission in govt. college. We don’t understand why this is happening before the exams or before the internal exams. She thinks so much and her concentration level is very good.Kindly advice.

My son is 17 years and should write 11th class final exams in feb 2024. He is addicted to mobile & distracted from studies . He roams around with friends till late night. When i get strict , seize his mobile and tell him to study and write exams before getting the mobile back, he black mails me saying he will not write exams, he will discontinue studies, go work and earn etc. what is the solution?

My 10 year old son is autistic and hence non-verbal. I want to check his eye sight. Since he will not be able to tell what is written ( alphabets) in the chart in front then how to go about eye check?

I have 14 year old son currently in class 9th. From last couple of years we observed that he is not good in subjects where lot of memorization required like Social science. He is average in Science and Maths. What we and teacher understand after discussion that he is not able to form his answers and not able to understand what question is asking. We evaluate with physcologist she identifies that he is facing issue in understanding and writing comprehensions. If he finds question difficult or difficult to understand he did not even try to think or look for answers and just skip them straightaway. Child physcologist said he is a good kid and did not have other issues, just need to work on weak areas and required no further assessment. He gives lot of times to subjects but not able to get results. How do you think we can improve his comprehensions and learning/memorization abilities ? and what should we can do from here ?

Hi Sir. My son is in class 9 and he is not interested in making friends and hence no one likes in his class but he is very good in study.I want him to be more social also. pls help me

Hi Dr Aarti, I had written earlier about my 2 year old son regarding his screaming which has now subsided so thanks for the advice then. Over the last year my son's not gained any weight and this largely has been contributed by his habit of NOT eating. We'v tried different tips and tricks but they don't seem to work anymore and we have to subject to the TV at times for meal times only. However lately TV or No TV he just isn't interested in eating anymore. Although we've tried a variety of items from sweet to savory to traditional home made food, he's moody and generally dismissive of anything presented to him (apart from French Toast at times). I do understand as he gets older and more conscious this won't be a problem but for now how do we as parents tackle this to ensure he's invested in eating?

i have a 12.5 year old daughter who is crazy behind a guy ... i have access to her chats but am unable to confront her thinking about the repercussions ... do we just leave this situation to time thinking she is just 12 years old and give her that space ... or you think i should go and talk to the guys parents in a polite way that we need to handle this situation. A bit worried to share this to the guys parents thinking what if the message spreads like fire in her school .. she will be shattered and will be low on confidence. I just need a solution to this ... she is too young to get into all these things ... we tried talking to her not on this subject but pressurizing her the importance of studies etc ... but nothing seems to work. Do you suggest to disconnect the internet? she has no personal mobile phone nor do we intend to give her till she is 15-16.

Good morning Madam, my son is 14 years old. He is in 9th std. He is not studying well. Even though he is good in other works he don't work hard in studies. Always he studies on the previous day before exams. And also his handwriting is not good. He is much interested in doing business as I'm into business. I own a shop. All my relatives, friends, neighbors are high educated. I really want him to pursue a good degree. When I scold him he starts weeping. What should i do to motivate him? And how should I handle this? My wife can't teach him as she's not so educated and i can teach but don't have time.

My son is regular practice in math's, but still concept is not clear, due to this his marks are getting very poor, can you give the suggestion how to better improvement and better understanding, please suggest.

Hello Aruna ji, my child is 2 years and 6 months old. we feel gradually he is being attracted by mobile screen. how to control it. what is maximum time to give him screen time including tv?

Hello Anu, I have 5 year boy who started talking very late around 4 years age, He is now in nursery class learning alphabets and numbers but he developed skill of solving double/triple digit numbers addition and multiplication by his own and his teacher are also confused how he is able to solve addition and small multiplication by himself without counting only thinking and answering in seconds. He is also physically not strong like 5 year boy. Kindly help regarding his behavior.

Hello Anu, I have a 12 year old daughter. She is also a tennis player. She is also pretty good at studies as well as sports. However, she has very low self esteem. I have tried my best to boost her mental confidence to convince her to believe that she is indeed a very good player. But, when some of her friends or other players makes negative comments on her playing skills, she takes it very seriously. This has affected her matches as well. Kindly suggest what I should do regarding this.

Hello My son is addictive to scree in form of videos, web series or games. I tried many things like make him understand or by giving treats if he reduced screen time or sometimes scolding but nothing is working. He is like habitual and whenever he gets chance he just grab a mobile, tab or remote of telivision. Please guide me how to change his habit. I am really worried as this is affecting his health and study. Thank you in advance.

Madam, My son is in class 12 preparing for JEE Main 2024. He was doing very good till 11th although we never ever put any pressure on him. But suddenly from about 3-4 months ago, he is losing interest in his study. He himself says that. Now only 3 months left for his exam, how can we motivate him to study hard so that he fulfills his dream?

Dear Ma'am, I have a child who studies in 9th Class.He has developed addiction for Mobile Games.He has not much interest in Study.He does not prefer to go tuition classes also and even finds fault with his teachers.He never obeys me and rather talks me back.It seems he has gone out of my control.He gets up late in the morning and awake late light.He prefers to play out with his friends and not ready to name study and always demands one thing or the other. What to do to mend his ways ? I am even running out of funds to support his study in Pvt School. Regards,

Regarding my niece, she does 300 words. Her major issue is she does not sit still at all and she wants to keep talking and unable to stay quiet for long. What should be done.

Hello Doctor, My daughter presently is in Std. 10th, she is a responsible person, she studies and scores around 75% and the same in 9th Std. The first unit test of Std.10th was not so good to her as she scored less marks in two subjects (around 6 and 7 out of 20). I asked her what is going in her mind the she opened up stating that she has the fear of obtaining good marks while writing the paper. I told her that don't think of the marks, if you study, revise well and calmly answer the paper without any hurry then definitely you will score good. However, nowadays, my husband always scolds her to study, study or talk to her that there is no use of studying you, what will happen to you, all negativity and she is in depression and told me that I feel to die. I convinced her not to think like that and to ignore her father talks and concentrate on your studies and told that I am there with you always. I require your guidance how can I keep her positive in her minds with positive vibes as she gets irritated with the situation my husband creates. Thanking you Regards, MS

Good Evening Madam. My son Is always disobeys her mother. He needs only Mobile. During the time school has a holiday; he only watches mobile and disobey parents. Not ready to get-up early morning. Not interested in Studies at all. Ruthless Boy ages 11 years. Regards Neeraj Singhal

Hi, madam I Sanatnu Majumder, age - 49 yrs. my son subhojit majumder passed 12 th com. in this year, but he passed in complementary in Economins. he try to admission in LPU punjab in BBA IT., But her percentage is not 50%. he got 45%. Now my son very sad, he told i am faliure , In future i could not study. what can i do mam, I have very tence........?

hi my daughter is 11 year and she is having the tetralogy of Fallot. she is very slow in her study . she is unbale to remember her study . once she study she remember but next day she again forget. Is there any medicine to overcome this problem regarding study. i have apply for l.d. for for betterment for her future

Respected madam My neice is 5 yrs old. She is diagnosed as having autism. She has issues with concentration and speech related too. How can we have her concentration increased. Pls help us with her so we can further ease her troubles.