Aruna Agarwal

Answered on Mar 27, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 27, 2024Hindi

My child often misbehaves in public, throws a tantrum. He is fine at home. I don't know how to handle it gently. I feel like a failed parent. How can I be stern?

Ans: You can show some visuals of how to be behaving before going out with your child. Give some rules before and reinforce the right behaviour by verbal praises.Normally one try to manage the behaviour after its occurred but one need to do before it's going to occur. Use Visuals to explain if needed.

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Answered on Mar 27, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 19, 2024Hindi

Hello ma'am, we are parents of 4 years old baby girl. We as parents are having difficult time since a year about handling our daughter's anger issues. As she's growing up her temper tantrums are becoming strong and she is slowly becoming stubborn,not listening to us. Is it normal for her age group or we should involve some tricks for her behaviour. Can suggest and advise on this issue. Thank you

Ans: We need to understand her function of the behaviour tantrums. How is her speech? You can give her some calming sensory Activities to regulate. We need to have a proper analysis to understand the deep rooted causes.

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Answered on Mar 07, 2024

Question by Deepak - Feb 22, 2024Hindi

Hello Aruna Madam, My daughter 12 years old she is studying in 7th stanard, she doesnt focus on her study, also her hand writing is poor, i try to motivae her daily, but she doesnt care, sometime i think i leave her on his own way, she goes to school irregularly also she said, i am not co-up with school, she is not talk properly with her same age girls/boys, she is comfortable with younger children's. she is interested in drawings, is there any school for drawings

Ans: If the child is telling you about not being able to cope up with school, things you can check can be social skills, academic skills and if there is some kind of lack in comprehension of language. There can be various reasons for this and hence you can check the skill set she has currently.

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Answered on Feb 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 01, 2023Hindi

Hi I am Geetha Sethumadhavan..based out of Bangalore...My son Anirudh is diagnosed with ADHD in school. We have done some therapies.. But have not got any help.. He is jn his final year ( semester) Mcom.. doing from CMR University... Worried if he will get a job.... Want him to be independent.. Be proactive. He is always with his ipad and mobile.. He is 23 years old.. Please help...

Ans: Try to give him sports as an option, he can have his skill set devloped. What are his interest he can choose out of them. You can sit with him and talk to find out.

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Answered on Feb 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 17, 2023Hindi

My son(3rd grade) good at most of the things studies, sports etc.. but little agressive so beats and fights at school. He tells they do something to me so I do. I do not want to suppress him by beating or scaring him. What could be the best way I can handle him. Currently I am talking to him by telling consequences of doing such things...

Ans: Check if he is able to accept No and have waiting skills. Incase not, you can first work on it. Give him but delay it and give him what he wants immediately. If he is not able to adjust to a group it can be due to various reasons,we need to check that.

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Answered on Feb 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 01, 2023Hindi

My wife is very pushy towards my daughter who is 10 years. She believes in extreme discipline and even a small mistake means my daughter has to face lot of scolding and sometimes even beating. I have tried to counsel her but she is not ready to listen and says she has been brought up like that. My daughter looses her confidence and I am scared it hurting her mentally. Spoke to her family members but nothing is helping.

Ans: You can sit with your daughter and wife to setup clear rules according to your wife ,tell them to monitor this. You can ask her to token for right behaviours and take away if she any inappropriate behaviour. This is going to help both of them.

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Answered on Feb 21, 2024

Question by Nethra - Jan 24, 2024Hindi

Hi ma'am, my son is in 4th grade, he can understand the chapter very well, orally he is good but when it comes to writing part in the exam he is not at all doing well, he is forgetting the answers. Kindly help him.

Ans: We need to check his attention skills and comprehension skills when it comes to writing. You can give him small questions to write first and then can build up with long questions . This needs a proper analysis. Also can check his screen time, please reduce incase it is more.

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Answered on Feb 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 12, 2024Hindi

My 10 year old child is autistic. We have put him in normal school. But its very difficult for him to manage independently even though he has no abnormal behaviours or aggression. Currently my wife goes with him to school. Therefore is home shooling a better option for such kids? How to do about home schooling. Please share some links.

Ans: Are you taking any therapies for the child.
You can do ABA therapy for your child if it is available in your City. NIOS is also an option. Incase ABA is not available in your city you can take online options as it will help the child to move in a proper direction by setting goals according to his current level.

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Answered on Feb 12, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 11, 2023Hindi

Hello Aruna ji I have 14 year old son currently in class 9th. From last couple of years we observed that he is not good in subjects where lot of memorization required like Social science. He is average in Science and Maths. What we and teacher understand after discussion that he is not able to form his answers and not able to understand what question is asking. We evaluate with physcologist she identifies that he is facing issue in understanding and writing comprehensions. He has a tendency to skip questions if he dont understand or seems difficult. He didnot even try to look for answers or think. Child physcologist said he is good kid and did not has other issues just need to work on weak areas and required no further assessment. How do you think we can improve his comprehensions and learning/memorization abilities ? and what should we can do from here ?

Ans: Comprehension can improve after giving him small paragraphs, which can have multiple questions for him to answer. This is going to help him to comprehend the whole thing better and than he will be able to answer. Before writing he needs to focus more on his listening and reading skills.

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Answered on Feb 12, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 12, 2023Hindi

I want to know how to control aggression of my 18 month old grand daughter with huge mental & physical power ? In which activity her mind can be diverted like sports & learning to make her cool. She has highest level of presence of mind.

Ans: You can make her work on her choice of activities to make her sit for longer duration and give her more sensory Activities like sand play , painting and water activities. She can do activities with more instructional control.

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Answered on Feb 12, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 14, 2023Hindi

Sir/Madam, This is regarding my daughter, she is 20 years and studying first year MBBS and they have give one and half month holidays for final exams and before the one week of exams started crying continuously and we could manage to convince her and got some confidence and we have given liberty to watch tv of her choice, just a day before the day of the exam, on the night starts crying continuously with trembling and says I haven’t studied properly. As we know she is brilliant and got admission in govt. college. We don’t understand why this is happening before the exams or before the internal exams. She thinks so much and her concentration level is very good.Kindly advice.

Ans: Advice her to use mindfulness technique and try to bring herself to the present moments. This is going to give her clarity of thought and make her less anxious thinking about her future.

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Answered on Jan 29, 2024

Question by Manoj - Jan 23, 2024Hindi

My son is 17 years and should write 11th class final exams in feb 2024. He is addicted to mobile & distracted from studies . He roams around with friends till late night. When i get strict , seize his mobile and tell him to study and write exams before getting the mobile back, he black mails me saying he will not write exams, he will discontinue studies, go work and earn etc. what is the solution?

Ans: It's important to understand that how is he faring in his studies.All of a sudden if you reduce he might not be able to adhere to it. But a gradual decrease in any behaviour is recommended. This way you will also not feel disheartened and even he will be able to do with out it for short intervals. He can be praised for the amount of efforts he takes to be without the mobile and doing his studies. Regular praises can act as a reinforcement to increase the probability of right behaviours.

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Answered on Jan 13, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 12, 2024Hindi

My 10 year old son is autistic and hence non-verbal. I want to check his eye sight. Since he will not be able to tell what is written ( alphabets) in the chart in front then how to go about eye check?

Ans: You can tell him to point out and give the alphabet and numbers .

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Answered on Jan 07, 2024

Question by Rajesh - Dec 11, 2023Hindi

I have 14 year old son currently in class 9th. From last couple of years we observed that he is not good in subjects where lot of memorization required like Social science. He is average in Science and Maths. What we and teacher understand after discussion that he is not able to form his answers and not able to understand what question is asking. We evaluate with physcologist she identifies that he is facing issue in understanding and writing comprehensions. If he finds question difficult or difficult to understand he did not even try to think or look for answers and just skip them straightaway. Child physcologist said he is a good kid and did not have other issues, just need to work on weak areas and required no further assessment. He gives lot of times to subjects but not able to get results. How do you think we can improve his comprehensions and learning/memorization abilities ? and what should we can do from here ?

Ans: Develop his reading skills by using lots of visuals initially. He should be breaking up the task given and form small questions to understand what is being written. This will definitely help him to develop his comprehension skills which would help him to go through the question paper with ease.

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Answered on Jan 07, 2024

Question by ajay - Aug 26, 2023Hindi

Hi Sir. My son is in class 9 and he is not interested in making friends and hence no one likes in his class but he is very good in study.I want him to be more social also. pls help me

Ans: Social skills are a very important part of over all development which helps the child to learn emotional growth too. You can invite one or two of his friends for a week and keep introducing him to more people gradually in your presence and fade away your self gradually.

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Answered on Jan 07, 2024

Question by Gautam - Nov 07, 2023Hindi

Hi Dr Aarti, I had written earlier about my 2 year old son regarding his screaming which has now subsided so thanks for the advice then. Over the last year my son's not gained any weight and this largely has been contributed by his habit of NOT eating. We'v tried different tips and tricks but they don't seem to work anymore and we have to subject to the TV at times for meal times only. However lately TV or No TV he just isn't interested in eating anymore. Although we've tried a variety of items from sweet to savory to traditional home made food, he's moody and generally dismissive of anything presented to him (apart from French Toast at times). I do understand as he gets older and more conscious this won't be a problem but for now how do we as parents tackle this to ensure he's invested in eating?

Ans: You can make him feel the different texture and aromas of food. Let him taste it by pairing with his choice of food. The non preferred food can be in very little quantity as good as a size of grain initially.
I am glad my first strategy worked for you. You can try this too. I am sure it will work for your little one to get healthy food habits.

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Answered on Dec 26, 2023

Question by anonymous - Dec 23, 2023Hindi

i have a 12.5 year old daughter who is crazy behind a guy ... i have access to her chats but am unable to confront her thinking about the repercussions ... do we just leave this situation to time thinking she is just 12 years old and give her that space ... or you think i should go and talk to the guys parents in a polite way that we need to handle this situation. A bit worried to share this to the guys parents thinking what if the message spreads like fire in her school .. she will be shattered and will be low on confidence. I just need a solution to this ... she is too young to get into all these things ... we tried talking to her not on this subject but pressurizing her the importance of studies etc ... but nothing seems to work. Do you suggest to disconnect the internet? she has no personal mobile phone nor do we intend to give her till she is 15-16.

Ans: You can gently talk to her about her feelings and emotions. How she feels about her classmates and talk about boys as being friends. When you talk to her from a non judgemental space, she will be more open to receive from you.

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Answered on Dec 20, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 20, 2023Hindi

Good morning Madam, my son is 14 years old. He is in 9th std. He is not studying well. Even though he is good in other works he don't work hard in studies. Always he studies on the previous day before exams. And also his handwriting is not good. He is much interested in doing business as I'm into business. I own a shop. All my relatives, friends, neighbors are high educated. I really want him to pursue a good degree. When I scold him he starts weeping. What should i do to motivate him? And how should I handle this? My wife can't teach him as she's not so educated and i can teach but don't have time.

Ans: How has been with studies,where is he lacking in understanding his subjects. Check what is making him procrastinate the task. To develop his interest get him extra support for his subjects he doesn't understand. Get him counselled if required.

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Answered on Dec 18, 2023

Question by GANESH - Dec 18, 2023Hindi

My son is regular practice in math's, but still concept is not clear, due to this his marks are getting very poor, can you give the suggestion how to better improvement and better understanding, please suggest.

Ans: How old is he?
Set up clear and concise goals to reach the desired outcome. Check if his basic foundational knowledge is clear.

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Answered on Dec 09, 2023

Question by Mukesh - Oct 11, 2023Hindi

Hello Aruna ji, my child is 2 years and 6 months old. we feel gradually he is being attracted by mobile screen. how to control it. what is maximum time to give him screen time including tv?

Ans: You can involve the child in alternative activities and keep him engaged. There can be various sensory Activities like sand Play, water play etc. which will be equally or more reinforcing and this will help you to reduce the screen time.You should avoid giving screen time and it should not be more than 15 to 20 min in a day.

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Answered on Dec 09, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 08, 2023Hindi

Hello Anu, I have 5 year boy who started talking very late around 4 years age, He is now in nursery class learning alphabets and numbers but he developed skill of solving double/triple digit numbers addition and multiplication by his own and his teacher are also confused how he is able to solve addition and small multiplication by himself without counting only thinking and answering in seconds. He is also physically not strong like 5 year boy. Kindly help regarding his behavior.

Ans: He has good cognitive skills and hence he is able to grasp his academic concepts well.
Whereas the delay in other milestone can be due to various reasons. If there are any sort of help required to take care of developmental delays, you should start working on it with early intervention by consulting a child psychologist or developmental paediatrician. It will require proper assessment.

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Answered on Sep 29, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 26, 2023Hindi

Hello Anu, I have a 12 year old daughter. She is also a tennis player. She is also pretty good at studies as well as sports. However, she has very low self esteem. I have tried my best to boost her mental confidence to convince her to believe that she is indeed a very good player. But, when some of her friends or other players makes negative comments on her playing skills, she takes it very seriously. This has affected her matches as well. Kindly suggest what I should do regarding this.

Ans: You can set small goals for her to reach the ultimate goal. Every step and goal she achieved can be a benchmark and motivation for reaching for the next one. Smaller goals to reach the bigger goal will be easier and will be a motivation for her.

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Answered on Sep 29, 2023

Question by Flora - Sep 27, 2023Hindi

Hello My son is addictive to scree in form of videos, web series or games. I tried many things like make him understand or by giving treats if he reduced screen time or sometimes scolding but nothing is working. He is like habitual and whenever he gets chance he just grab a mobile, tab or remote of telivision. Please guide me how to change his habit. I am really worried as this is affecting his health and study. Thank you in advance.

Ans: Coming out of screen addiction is hard but with your consistency and resilience it can be done.
You can take a note of entire number of hours been spent on the screen.
After this try to reduce it by each day or two only half an hour to hour and praise the effort taken to do that. Motivate your child to have some fun times together with you by going for walks and starting participation in some sort of games together. It's going to be a gradual process then it will not be overwhelming for both of you.

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Answered on Sep 25, 2023

Question by Utpal - Sep 25, 2023Hindi

Madam, My son is in class 12 preparing for JEE Main 2024. He was doing very good till 11th although we never ever put any pressure on him. But suddenly from about 3-4 months ago, he is losing interest in his study. He himself says that. Now only 3 months left for his exam, how can we motivate him to study hard so that he fulfills his dream?

Ans: Talk to him about what is bothering him.
Do open ended discussion with him and let him only come out with the solutions. You can just give him some options so that he can choose out of it , rather than imposing your decisions on him. Help him to take small breaks from his monotonous routine and rejuvenate.

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Answered on Sep 23, 2023

Question by Pardeep - Sep 05, 2023Hindi

Dear Ma'am, I have a child who studies in 9th Class.He has developed addiction for Mobile Games.He has not much interest in Study.He does not prefer to go tuition classes also and even finds fault with his teachers.He never obeys me and rather talks me back.It seems he has gone out of my control.He gets up late in the morning and awake late light.He prefers to play out with his friends and not ready to name study and always demands one thing or the other. What to do to mend his ways ? I am even running out of funds to support his study in Pvt School. Regards,

Ans: Put him on self awareness and control using some token strategy.
Every right behaviour get him a token and negative behaviour token can be kept back.
When using this strategy, you need to be mindful by giving token only for right behaviour. He can collect it and exchange the same to get a reward from you.

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Answered on Sep 23, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 28, 2023Hindi

Regarding my niece, she does 300 words. Her major issue is she does not sit still at all and she wants to keep talking and unable to stay quiet for long. What should be done.

Ans: Involve her in her choice of activities to build up on her sitting tolerance and work on her attention skills to get better. This will help her to redirect her attention to other things by giving her more options to engage productively.

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Answered on Sep 08, 2023

Question by Madhuri - Sep 06, 2023Hindi

Hello Doctor, My daughter presently is in Std. 10th, she is a responsible person, she studies and scores around 75% and the same in 9th Std. The first unit test of Std.10th was not so good to her as she scored less marks in two subjects (around 6 and 7 out of 20). I asked her what is going in her mind the she opened up stating that she has the fear of obtaining good marks while writing the paper. I told her that don't think of the marks, if you study, revise well and calmly answer the paper without any hurry then definitely you will score good. However, nowadays, my husband always scolds her to study, study or talk to her that there is no use of studying you, what will happen to you, all negativity and she is in depression and told me that I feel to die. I convinced her not to think like that and to ignore her father talks and concentrate on your studies and told that I am there with you always. I require your guidance how can I keep her positive in her minds with positive vibes as she gets irritated with the situation my husband creates. Thanking you Regards, MS

Ans: The fear of failure during exams might be not letting her perform in the exam.
You can convince her and explain that it's not important how much she scores ,it's about evolving herself each day and do better than what she did previously.

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Answered on Sep 08, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 08, 2023Hindi

Good Evening Madam. My son Is always disobeys her mother. He needs only Mobile. During the time school has a holiday; he only watches mobile and disobey parents. Not ready to get-up early morning. Not interested in Studies at all. Ruthless Boy ages 11 years. Regards Neeraj Singhal

Ans: Most of the time when they have screen addiction,it's difficult for them to develop intrest in the alternative skills or studies. This can be due to less attention skills due to screen time. See what is he interested in apart from the screen addiction, help him develop hobbies which are of his interest and it can be sports too. This will help him to focus better on his studies too.

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Answered on Aug 27, 2023

Question by SANTANU - Aug 10, 2023Hindi

Hi, madam I Sanatnu Majumder, age - 49 yrs. my son subhojit majumder passed 12 th com. in this year, but he passed in complementary in Economins. he try to admission in LPU punjab in BBA IT., But her percentage is not 50%. he got 45%. Now my son very sad, he told i am faliure , In future i could not study. what can i do mam, I have very tence........?

Ans: Marks are not the end of the world.
You can explore various other option which can be of his interest. Tell him to explore his hobbies which can be made into career,by taking professional courses.

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Answered on Aug 21, 2023

Question by RASHESH - Aug 21, 2023Hindi

hi my daughter is 11 year and she is having the tetralogy of Fallot. she is very slow in her study . she is unbale to remember her study . once she study she remember but next day she again forget. Is there any medicine to overcome this problem regarding study. i have apply for l.d. for for betterment for her future

Ans: Do an assessment for her to check and rule out ADHD or L.D. You can start with some kind of attention related activities that can give her more focus.
For medicine, you can contact developmental pediatrician after the test.

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Answered on Aug 20, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 17, 2023Hindi

Respected madam My neice is 5 yrs old. She is diagnosed as having autism. She has issues with concentration and speech related too. How can we have her concentration increased. Pls help us with her so we can further ease her troubles.

Ans: You need to get her assesment done for the current level of skill set developed.
Check out for her strengths and start simple her choice of activities to build up on her sitting tolerance. She should be able to get a vocabulary of 300-500 words at this age atleast labelling of things to be able to speak. She can point out or ask for things if she knows that receptively.

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Answered on Aug 02, 2023

Question by Vilas - Aug 02, 2023Hindi

MY son is studying in 3rd year BE, preparing GRE, attending online courses, also doing JYM regularly, college hours more than 8 hrs, managing time schedule is difficult, pls guide on time schedule.

Ans: Time management is the key to success.
Productivity is not through number of hours but through quality of time to be spent at each course.Smart study hours along with continuous schedules should help. Be consistent in the efforts and maintain a log for understanding how he has planned vs spent his day.

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Answered on Jul 25, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 25, 2023Hindi

Hello Anu my son is reading is Class VI, he has many friends. But one of his friends wants that my son should not talk or play with others. Relating to this quarel and fighting starts. what to do.

Ans: In a very casual conversation, talk to his friend and understand how and why he feels.
Children when do not like to share,there is a hidden emotion of belongingness or being comfortable only with one child and they don't know how to deal with it.You can ask your son to make him also a part of the play when he is doing with his other peers and the child can be involved in group activities. When he learns to enjoy in a bigger group,he will be okay.

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Answered on Jul 20, 2023

Question by Varkala - Jul 12, 2023Hindi

hi madam my son age is 4years 4 months and he got open heart surgery at the age 13days, now the issues that he will speak but not completely, a few word pronounce correctly and rest all we can not understand apart from this he will not undertand the beside environment he always in his world and play, so kindly help us.

Ans: Kindly consult a developmental pediatrician and immediately start with therapies for early intervention is the best way to deal with speech delay and developmental delays. Speech delay also causes behaviour issues most of the times.

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Answered on Jul 20, 2023

Question by Manjiri - Jul 15, 2023Hindi

My daughter 15 years old , just passed out 10 th , we can not change her seelping time she sleep 2-3 am and get up late .she not talk with us. skip her lunch also , that is not good for health .she don't like talk with me because i am angry of her schedule.last 2 month not talk with me. please guide

Ans: Your child is a teenager and would have been going through her own issues which she probably doesn't want to discuss.
Some time as parents when we are too judgmental about things and are busy correcting them and their behaviours ,this issue may happen. I will like you to be more like a friend not only with your child but also with her friends. Take them out together,in this way you will also get to know her friends .
After you have paired up well with her and her peers you can talk about benefits of yoga, exercises but it can be like a candid discussion. In this way, some time you might be able to find out what is the issue she is going through. Don't react if you get to know about any thing, just act.

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Answered on Jul 20, 2023

Question by Anand - Jul 20, 2023Hindi

Childern ( one in 12 th class and other in 9th class, elder is boy and younger is girl) quarrel too much. Any remedy to deal with their behaviour.

Ans: Sibling Rivalry is not uncommon.
Lots of emotion they go through when they are together. Kindly check if you are not comparing too much. Some time dealing with the situation needs mindful parenting only.Appreciate your both children whatever they are good at.Understand what emotions they are going through as both children are teenagers so they may have their own issues many times.Talk to them when they are calm and can give them ways to deal with it.

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Answered on Jul 20, 2023

Question by Dr - Jul 19, 2023Hindi

Madam , from which place do you operate ? Do you come to Odisha ? Dr S.C.Khattoi

Ans: Mumbai only.

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Answered on Jul 15, 2023

Question by Mohammed - Jul 14, 2023Hindi

Hi Aruna, My Elder daughter is 15 years old and is behaving very weird. She is fully dependent on us on for her daily routines but there is zero respect towards us. She is not close to anyone in the house. She is never satisfied with what se has and always compares her with other rich kids. We lost all the happiness because of her behaviour. Please advise us how to get her sorted.

Ans: Talk to her with a non judgemental space.
Ask her about how she feels like when with her peers .Start with gratitude journal as a routine in the house for every one,by modelling it your self. Do not do direct talk but can be a indirect way of putting it to her. Give her social praise if she attempts this. The praise can act as a reinforcing thing to get her do better.

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Answered on Jul 15, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 14, 2023Hindi

mam, my daughter is 3 and half yours old and in class pre nursery she is the only child she is well developed and very energetic she likes to go to the school,but the only problem we are facing is she is very stubborn do not listen to her class teachers and often pick up fight with her classmates its a very worrying matter there is always complain from the school

Ans: Understand what is causing the rigid behaviour. In which circumstances, she gets rigid.
After understanding that we can give proper intervention.Incase she gets agitated to share her things with her peers ,we can give her choice and put her on waiting.

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Answered on Jul 11, 2023

Question by A - Jun 23, 2023Hindi

My daughter 11 years age of average IQ reads in class V. We cannot change her sleeping time --evening from 5pm to 8.-9 pm and from 2 am to late morning and for that she finds hardly 2-3 hour time for study. Remaining time she uses our cell phone and other non creative activities like make up/dressing etc .She cannot mingle with the friends and do not open her mouth in school. How to normalize her life style and discipline?.

Ans: Sometimes it's we as parents need to change our ways to deal with our children. Here ,it looks like the child has low self esteem and which can be worked on being in non judgemental space. Make her comfortable with you so that she can discuss any thing with you. Pairing up with your child without judgements ,gradually followed by what you would like her to do is one option.
Try taking her to new environment and not the regular environment and people to get her do more social engagement.

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Answered on Jul 11, 2023

Question by SONA - Jul 03, 2023Hindi

My 12+ old son has gradually become disobedient and does not listens to us. he dont want to study and most of the time wants to play games on mobile or tab. during this covid this habit of playing games has become very strong. he does not want to go to school and tells to his elder brother that his classmates bully him as he is fat. this obesity also he got during covid days , earlier he was very agile. i try to listen to him , talk to him and try to make him understand the importance of study but no heed , in school also his work is pending. we are really worried and upset for his behaviour if your are available offline and help us in this matter. kindly tell your fee as well Sona Punj

Ans: This child needs help to set his routine and incase he is being bullied kindly look into it.Talk to his friends and school mates , teachers to find out what is happening exactly at school.

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Answered on Jul 10, 2023

Question by Nitin - Jul 03, 2023Hindi

If child wants to excel but unable to unfold his/her potential- how to deal with it? How to break those boundaries which one has made around?

Ans: Self regulation of his own behaviours can be done,where you can help him to identify the strength and weakness. Use his strength to set up the target goals and Surely he will be able to achieve what he wants.

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Answered on Jul 10, 2023

Question by Ashutosh - Jun 26, 2023Hindi

My grandson, 7 years , has a fear syndrome in his mind afraid of everything and seems to be introvert. Relation between his parents is not cordial. He sort of hates his father and does not want him around. He will remain aloof from the crowd while playing football, catch hold of my hand and his grandmothers hand while sleeping. He behaves as a matured person and does not seem to be of his age. He is excellent in studies and quite expert in Power-point presentation and video editing which he learnt by himself but does not have interest in outward activities. I am concerned for him and want to know how can he get rid od his fears and can mix with his friends.

Ans: It looks like social anxiety to me. It needs a detailed analysis. To start with you can expose him to different set of children of his age,in the beginning it can be small group of one or two people and gradually to bigger groups. Let him learn the basic rules of games and turn taking activities too. Let him have more his choice of activities where he can be involved and have fun with peers.

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Answered on Jul 10, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 25, 2023Hindi

My grand daughter cannot Sit quite for a minute,whole day ,she jumps,dance ,n Play something randomly, or with mobile u tube games n stories.

Ans: Kindly involve her in games , physical activities more .
Use her energy into some thing more positive like activities .
You can stop giving her the screen time.

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Answered on Jul 10, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 04, 2023Hindi

My son is 12 year old , studing in 8th class. I am single parent father. he is not constrait on his study and see mobile . I am so much worried. kindly suggest solution.

Ans: Get your self involved more with him ,it should be more of quality time when ever you are there around him. Be non judgemental,so that he can confide in you. Plan for some recreational time together so that he doesn't feel the need to be constantly on mobile and screen.

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Answered on Jul 10, 2023

Question by Hari - Jul 05, 2023Hindi

Hi Ma'm I have a son studying in Class 9th except school he was not interest in books he alway want to play that too max time on Mobiles. We are trying to avoid him with mobile. if mobile is not available he is busy with TV, if any scold on him he will leave home and go for play with his friends at ground but he is not showing any interest on studying. can you suggest how to handle this situation Hari Krishna Visakhapatnam (AP)

Ans: When you want him to Stop using mobile or screen,try to first give him equally reinforcing activities or situations where he is more engaged productively. It should not be necessarily academic related things initially. He can take care of daily household chores or some responsibilities which are helping him to be engaged. Appreciate his efforts incase you see him doing that. Some time we need to change our ways of dealing with situation to get them do what you want. You can take him with you for buying things like grocery , in short you can involve him in daily activities ,games etc.
Increase his focus on activities etc and then gradually set his academic goals clear.

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Answered on Jul 10, 2023

Question by Saurabh - Jul 08, 2023Hindi

My son is 6 year old and has speech delay and also he has some symptom of autism. I am from bijnor U.P.. where should i get a good doctor near me.

Ans: You need to visit a good developmental pediatrician, not a regular pediatrician.
You can even go to occupational therapist and speech therapist/ ABA therapist in your area. Incase you can not find, please get in touch with me.

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Answered on May 27, 2023

Question by Gulshan - May 17, 2023Hindi

I have one son who is mentally challenged. I am worried about his future life after my demise. Can you suggest the names of institutions who can take care of such persons. I am ready to pay and deposit more than one crore rupees for his care after my death.

Ans: There are few rehabilitation centre in Mumbai and Bangalore. You can check about it and decide which is going to be best for his needs.
You can look out for various therapies where you can Target his skill based activities to get him to be independent .

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Answered on May 21, 2023

Question by Amit - May 19, 2023Hindi

Kind attention Rediff Gurus : My 2 year old son clearly speaks Mummy and Papa but struggles to talk/utter other things. We are also not able to understand what exactly he wants and then he starts crying badly. Does he need any medical attention. My elder son started talking when he was just 1.5 years old. Kindly suggest

Ans: When the language does not develop in time,the child develops other alternative ways to communicate.
Since the child has a behaviour of crying to get the things, it is a clear indication that child s behaviour is unknowingly getting reinforced by providing the desired items. Start with the labelling of things by giving him appropriate words so that he understands that he can use the words instead of crying.
Also monitor how much screen time is being given to him.
Development of language happens only when the child has the pre-requisites , check that too.

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Answered on May 18, 2023

Question by Kiran - May 18, 2023Hindi

Hi Arun , My 3 yr old (Girl) she always cry for small things for Ex. if we take mobile from hand . if we take any thing from her hand . she cannot walk properly only touch with leg figures while walking. please give me any suggestion for this.

Ans: Has she developed her developmental milestones like speech and walking in time?
I need to know more about her,then can I answer to your question.

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