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Child and Parenting Counsellor - Answered on Sep 23, 2024

Aruna Agarwal is a qualified child psychologist and behaviour therapist with over 20 years of experience.
She has a master’s degree in psychology with a specialisation in behaviour analysis. She focuses on children between the ages of 2-10 years who face challenges related to behaviour, language development or attention issues and providing them with the right life skills.
Agarwal is the owner of Kidzee, a pre-primary school, and Mount Litera Zee School that caters to primary students.... more
Saba Question by Saba on Sep 23, 2024
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Hello my son a has autism , he is regularly tearing the pages , throwing the things in front of him and screaming. Please suggest some ways to distract/ deviate his feelings

Ans: When a child has a language delay and Autism , any behaviour he does is a communication he wants to do with you. You need to figure out what is he looking for,if it is to get your attention,then give him attention when he is productively engaged. When he tearing the pages , you have to be calm and without any verbal communication with him that time , can take him around for some task completion like watering plants etc.
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1. Visual Schedule and Choice Board - Create a visual schedule and choice board for your son. This will provide a clear structure and routine for him, reducing anxiety and the need for escape behaviors. Include preferred activities and breaks in the schedule to motivate him. When he shows signs of wanting to throw something out of the window, redirect his attention to the visual schedule or choice board, allowing him to make a choice of what activity he would like to engage in.

2. Sensory Breaks - Provide him with sensory breaks throughout the day. This can include using sensory tools such as fidget toys, stress balls, or sensory bins. These sensory breaks can help the child to regulate his sensory needs and reduce the urge to throw things out of the window. Teach him to use these sensory tools as a replacement behavior when he feels the need to throw something.

3. Social Stories - Create and use social stories to teach your child appropriate behavior and alternatives to throwing things out of the window. The social stories should include visuals and simple language to explain why throwing things out of the window is not safe and the consequences it may have. Reinforce positive behavior and provide praise when your son chooses an appropriate alternative behavior, such as asking for help or using a sensory tool.

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Kudos for holding judicious blend of assets in equity(stocks and MFs), real estate, EPF.

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