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Child and Parenting Counsellor - Answered on Sep 23, 2023

Aruna Agarwal is a qualified child psychologist and behaviour therapist with over 20 years of experience.
She has a master’s degree in psychology with a specialisation in behaviour analysis. She focuses on children between the ages of 2-10 years who face challenges related to behaviour, language development or attention issues and providing them with the right life skills.
Agarwal is the owner of Kidzee, a pre-primary school, and Mount Litera Zee School that caters to primary students.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Aug 28, 2023Hindi
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Regarding my niece, she does 300 words. Her major issue is she does not sit still at all and she wants to keep talking and unable to stay quiet for long. What should be done.

Ans: Involve her in her choice of activities to build up on her sitting tolerance and work on her attention skills to get better. This will help her to redirect her attention to other things by giving her more options to engage productively.
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It could be possible that she is under some sort of anxiety to get things right while explaining it.
Even a small incident from childhood where she was stopped when she was explaining and felt conscious, can trigger the same event later in life as well.
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