Dear Ma'am, I have a child who studies in 9th Class.He has developed addiction for Mobile Games.He has not much interest in Study.He does not prefer to go tuition classes also and even finds fault with his teachers.He never obeys me and rather talks me back.It seems he has gone out of my control.He gets up late in the morning and awake late light.He prefers to play out with his friends and not ready to name study and always demands one thing or the other. What to do to mend his ways ? I am even running out of funds to support his study in Pvt School. Regards,

Ans: What if the real issue isn’t the fights themselves, but the pattern they keep following? Every argument seems to have the same players, the same reactions, and the same outcome. But if nothing changes, where does that leave you? When emotions take over, who holds the power in the conversation - you or the reaction? If external voices are shaping your marriage, how much space is left for your own voice?
You can’t control how others behave, but you do control how you respond. If the same approach keeps leading to conflict, what would happen if you changed the way you engage? Would setting boundaries feel different if they came from a place of clarity rather than frustration? Would communication shift if the goal was to understand rather than to win?
The question isn’t just how to stop the fights - it’s how to break the cycle. Where do you start?
Wishing you success,
Aamish Dhingra
ICF-PCC Certified Life Coach
Co-Founder, Cocoweave Coaching International, Delhi