Good morning Madam, my son is 14 years old. He is in 9th std. He is not studying well. Even though he is good in other works he don't work hard in studies. Always he studies on the previous day before exams. And also his handwriting is not good. He is much interested in doing business as I'm into business. I own a shop. All my relatives, friends, neighbors are high educated. I really want him to pursue a good degree. When I scold him he starts weeping. What should i do to motivate him? And how should I handle this? My wife can't teach him as she's not so educated and i can teach but don't have time.

Ans: Hi George, You need to explain to him that formal education is a must and coding could just be a hobby and will not get him any worth while job. For example you may be a good actor but people like Anupam kher and Manoj Bajpai too went to National school of Drams -NSD to learn the craft and get some formal training. In films you can still manage but in engineering and management you cannot do without formal education. If you know any education counselor you can seek help or some one senior in the industry. Psychologist will further confuse and complicate the issue i feel.

Ans: I'm sorry to hear that your son is struggling in school. It's great that you and your wife are trying to help him. Here are some tips that may help:

1. Encourage healthy habits: Eating a balanced diet, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly can help improve focus and concentration.

2. Create a study-friendly environment: Make sure your son has a quiet, well-lit space to study. Remove any distractions, such as TV or mobile phones, during study time.

3. Set goals: Work with your son to set achievable goals for his studies. Break down larger goals into smaller, more manageable tasks.

4. Reward progress: Celebrate your son's successes, no matter how small. Rewards can be as simple as a favorite meal or activity.

5. Encourage active learning: Encourage your son to take an active role in his learning. This can include asking questions, taking notes, and summarizing what he's learned.

6. Get support: Consider enlisting the help of a tutor or academic coach. They can provide additional support and guidance to help your son succeed.

Remember, every child learns differently, so it may take some time to find what works best for your son. Be patient and supportive, and don't hesitate to seek professional help if needed.

Ans: Pravin Sir,

Addition to electronic gadgets is one of the problems, some parents face nowadays.

First of all, approach a good Professional / Qualified Student Counsellor along with your son in your locality. Make sure, the Counsellor has Psychology Background also. There might be some changes. If needed, you can approach a Psychologist, having specialised knowledge in Counselling the children of your son's age.

Follow-up counselling sessions with the counsellors are also important until he changes his attitude.

If possible, visit his college and request for couselling your son. Almost all colleges have counsellors who can help.

Some other tips:

1) Tell him, he also can become YouTuber. But ask him what plans he has to become a YouTuber?
2) Switching off WiFi & being authoritarian will not work.
3) Communicate or interact with him politely whenever possible.
4) Tell him he can use his mobile but, at the same time should focus on his studies as well.
5) Make sure, atmosophere at home is good. Such as, parents also should avoid spending too much time on Electronic Gadgets. Most of the children imitate only their parents.
6) If possible, tell him to participate in physical activities as well.

All the BEST for Your Bright Future.

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