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Aruna Agarwal is a qualified child psychologist and behaviour therapist with over 20 years of experience.
She has a master’s degree in psychology with a specialisation in behaviour analysis. She focuses on children between the ages of 2-10 years who face challenges related to behaviour, language development or attention issues and providing them with the right life skills.
Agarwal is the owner of Kidzee, a pre-primary school, and Mount Litera Zee School that caters to primary students.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Dec 20, 2023Hindi
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Good morning Madam, my son is 14 years old. He is in 9th std. He is not studying well. Even though he is good in other works he don't work hard in studies. Always he studies on the previous day before exams. And also his handwriting is not good. He is much interested in doing business as I'm into business. I own a shop. All my relatives, friends, neighbors are high educated. I really want him to pursue a good degree. When I scold him he starts weeping. What should i do to motivate him? And how should I handle this? My wife can't teach him as she's not so educated and i can teach but don't have time.

Ans: How has been with studies,where is he lacking in understanding his subjects. Check what is making him procrastinate the task. To develop his interest get him extra support for his subjects he doesn't understand. Get him counselled if required.
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I am doing great, thank you for asking, God bless you!

I can totally understand when you say you are worried.

Your son is 12.5, he will soon be a teenager. There will be different challenges, I want you to read up on parenting a teenager and be ready to handle him well.

The problem as I see it is that everyone of you, his teachers included have made studies like a burden for him.... and subjected the young child to a lot of anxiety, he just wants to run away form it....
"Every teacher from his kindergarten days upto now has the same complaint that he is doesn't pay attention in class".... this statement of yours... it is the teacher's duty to ensure the child listens to him/her, how can she start labeling a child like this. From a young age your son has been conditioned to believe that he is not not good in studies, he doesn't focus and he doesn't sit in one place. All my sympathies are with your son...every child comes with immense potential and it's our duty as parents and teachers to nurture the child.

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Sir i have loan of 80 lacs and my monthly emi is 65000. My salary is 2 lacs per month. I have 20 lacs in stocks. I would clear my loan as soon as possible. And also would like to invest for a early retirement. Im currently 35 yrs would be able to work till 45yrs.
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You have an outstanding loan of Rs. 80 lakhs with an EMI of Rs. 65,000.

You possess Rs. 20 lakhs in stocks and aim to retire by 45.

This is a commendable goal, but it requires meticulous planning.

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Understanding Your Loan Structure

Loan Amount: Rs. 80 lakhs

Monthly EMI: Rs. 65,000

Interest Rate: Assuming 8% per annum

Loan Tenure: Assuming 20 years

Given these parameters, your total interest outgo over the loan tenure would be substantial.

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Evaluating Your Stock Investments

Current Stock Portfolio: Rs. 20 lakhs

Nature of Investment: Assuming direct equity

Direct equity investments can be volatile.

It's essential to assess the risk and ensure diversification.

Consider reallocating a portion to less volatile instruments to safeguard your capital.

Monthly Cash Flow Analysis

Monthly Income: Rs. 2 lakhs

EMI Payment: Rs. 65,000

Remaining Income: Rs. 1.35 lakhs

This surplus can be strategically allocated towards investments and additional loan repayments.

Strategizing Loan Repayment

Given the high interest burden, it's advisable to expedite loan repayment.

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Allocate Additional Funds: Utilize a portion of your surplus income to make extra payments towards the loan principal.

Lump Sum Payments: Use bonuses or other windfalls to reduce the loan balance.

Loan Restructuring: Explore options to refinance the loan at a lower interest rate.

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Planning for Early Retirement

To retire by 45, you need to accumulate a substantial corpus.

Assuming your annual expenses post-retirement would be Rs. 12 lakhs, and considering inflation, you would require a corpus of approximately Rs. 3 crores.

Here's how you can approach this:

Monthly Savings: Allocate a significant portion of your surplus income towards retirement savings.

Investment Instruments: Consider diversified mutual funds, PPF, and other long-term investment avenues.

Regular Review: Periodically assess your investment portfolio to ensure it aligns with your retirement goals.

Risk Management

Ensure you have adequate insurance coverage:

Life Insurance: Opt for a term plan with a sum assured of at least 10 times your annual income.

Health Insurance: Secure a comprehensive health insurance policy for yourself and your family.

This will safeguard your financial plan against unforeseen events.

Emergency Fund

Maintain an emergency fund equivalent to 6-12 months of your monthly expenses.

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It acts as a financial cushion during unexpected situations.

Tax Planning

Efficient tax planning can enhance your savings:

Utilize Deductions: Make full use of deductions under sections 80C, 80D, and others.

Invest in Tax-Efficient Instruments: Consider ELSS, PPF, and NPS for tax benefits.

Consult a Professional: Engage with a Certified Financial Planner to optimize your tax strategy.

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