Hello Aruna Madam, My daughter 12 years old she is studying in 7th stanard, she doesnt focus on her study, also her hand writing is poor, i try to motivae her daily, but she doesnt care, sometime i think i leave her on his own way, she goes to school irregularly also she said, i am not co-up with school, she is not talk properly with her same age girls/boys, she is comfortable with younger children's. she is interested in drawings, is there any school for drawings

Ans: Hello!!
The addiction to mobile after COVID is a menace every parent is facing. The good part is she is aware about her exams and studies at least one week before her exams.

The rude behaviour, lack of focus on studies is all stemming from the mobile games. They are highly addictive and the thrill they give is beyond imagination. Slowly but surely you have to take away the mobile from her, that's the only way to help her look for other sources to keep her busy .Friends, new skills and studies will get her attention only when the mobile is away.

Allocate time for food, sleep, studies, play time and also mobile time( can't just take away the mobile, has to be weaned away from it gradually), in a day. Set a timer for the mobile usage, she has to return the mobile as soon as the timer bell rings.

Pls remember you are the adult here, she is just a child. Guide her, lead her towards better and interesting things to do. You all as a family have to stop sitting with the mobile, start reading books ,play board games , learn a new skill, sing songs, cook together, bake together, you make everything at home an interesting activity, joyful activity, why will a child sit on the mobile?
It is a going to be lot of hard work for you and if the end result of this is seeing your daughter away from the mobile, laughing and talking to her friends, playing around, studying well.....then this is worth all the effort.

Ans: Hi!!
A working mother, husband working abroad, there is only so much you can do. Spend quality time with your daughter, bond with her on stuff other than studies, that brings happiness to both of you.
If you as a mother know your child's potential then, this should be good. You are saying she is an average student then set a certain percentage that she can score, when she scores that much then celebrate it. Let her live a balanced life, right amount of time spent on studies and other skills. Expose her to other skills like, music, sports, debating, story telling... she will soon discover something where she excels!!

Set a time for studies, let her study during that time and rest of the time don't keep talking about studies, discuss and do something else. Explain to her why studying is important, make gaining knowledge, studying a rewarding experience. Every child comes with their set of strengths and success. As a mother cherish your child and enjoy your time together. Your child is unique, do not compare her with anyone else.
Inspire her to be happy, healthy and knowledgeable by you being so!!

Happy Parenting! Best wishes

Ans: First and foremost, you ensure that (1) your communication channel is open with her and that you spend at least thirty minutes with her daily. (2) The atmosphere at home is serene, and (3) she does not have a significant addiction to electronic gadgets. (4) Meet with your daughter's school teacher or any counselor at least once every two weeks, or at the absolute least once a month, in order to learn the reasons behind her poor academic performance. (5) If it is at all possible, chat with her classmates at school to find out if your daughter has any additional problems that she does not want to divulge to you. (6) Make an effort to determine the underlying cause of her lack of interest in her studies. (7) Make an effort to stimulate her by recognizing her for her minor accomplishments. (8) She should also make time for hobbies and relaxation in her routine. (8) To ensure that she has a thorough understanding of her interests, aptitude, attitude, orientation, and personality, it is recommended that she takes any psychometric test at the time that she will be on vacation during the month of December. (9) Determine her path after she completes her 10th grade. (10) You should select the appropriate path for her to take depending on the results of the psychometric test. Some options include the arts and humanities, commerce with arts, vocational courses, and skill-based programs. (10) She should also make a decision by the time she is in the 10th grade as to which stream is the most appropriate for her in order to prepare her for the entrance exams (by enrolling in online or offline coaching programs) to get admission into any undergraduate program that is suited for her. All the Best for your Daughter's bright future.

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