Hi I am a divorced women and very recently a married handsome colleague approached me and we started flirting soon we got little intimate , now I have developed feelings for him where as he is a Casanova and open about the fact that he has multiple physical incidents outside his marriage, he love is wife and do it for fun with no emotional baggage or connect. I am not able to detach myself from him now, his behaviour towards me keeps on changing and very recently he has started flirting with other girls in front of me and ignoring me . I feel emotionally drained and weak , I cry and feel hurt, what should I do

Dear Love Guru, I was in a serious relationship with a senior student during my college days. We broke off due to his overtly flirtatious nature with other girls. This was my first relationship and pained me a lot when it ended abruptly. Fast forward, the company I just joined has the same guy working in a senior position. He is married now and from what I know has a kid too.  I shrugged off the past and graciously met him within our professional boundaries, but he started hitting on me with mushy comments about my appearance. The other day, I received a text from him asking me to go out for dinner with him. His behaviour is really affecting my mental and emotional state. How do I tackle this situation? 

I am married working women .supportive hubby & my lovely children complete my family . I have been feeling intense infatuation with one of my married collegue.he used to help me a lot in office related issues. He used to complement me a lot for very normal things in front of others, not for looks but my working & way oc handling things. I was uneasy about that initially but started enjoying the attention later. But I dont know when I started liking him & Always wanted to be around ...He is younger to me and I am fully aware that nothing can happen between us. Than one day He bypassed me and for his own fault at work , he manipulated things and asked a favor for me from our team leader showing he is helping me...While in same situation when he was wrong I once sorted things on my own and did not make conplaint to team leader. Now i am feeling cheated and while working I have to see him everyday. What to do? How to remain and look normal. I feel weak in front of him and I dont want to keep any relation with him. But I still feel good & comfortable when he is around. its so weird.

I met a guy who was my realtor trying to sell me a property.the property was shortly purchased. Later on he took my personal number and started texting me in that. It was just a hi hello daily kind of thing. Soon it turned into 1hr calls at his office time and the calls happened every three days. He asked me to on a vacation with him and i agreed since both of us had a compatible thinking. Our conversations were casually flirty whenever it happened. Everytime i went to seey property he used to be there since it was his office too and made sure i was well taken care of. From few days i had started reciprocating his care for me. Recenty during a conversation i asked him to come to my city as our relationship status was not defined and i thought he wanted to spend some time with me as the vacation we were planning was postponed after a month. Yesterday during a conversation he told me he is married and i was shocked since he never talked about it and knew everything about me at this point from my family members. Now he says i did not want to hurt me and we are friends, we were taking the vacation as friends. But truth is i am hurt since i had just started reciprocating his flirtiness. I dont know what to do further as i know he has hurt me and he should not have flirted with me and should have told me he was married from beginning. He just said it never came in any conversations. I just confronted him as to why he did want to go on vacation with me when he has a wife. He just said he meant as friends and his marriage is complicated. Should i continue talking to him or end the so called friendship, because at one point i was sure he liked me, he praised me, called me beautiful, used yo stare at me when i was not looking.

Hi Anu, I am 49 years old married with kids ( 19 and 14) ..have good relations with wife throughout 21 years of marri d life. I was always a bi and with age that part has taken prominance..I have been meeting guys whenever I travel. Thisbwas till manageable but I have fallen in love ( which never happened even when I was unmarried ) with a colleague aged 32 ..he is aware about my orientation. He flirts with me verbally..when we meet or go for vacation we drink, smoke and even share cuddles , pecks on cheek, neck but nothing like a proper physical relationship. He is getting married now..while he says he will always be my friend and will be there for me whenever I need him..I want to distract myself away from him, not sure how. I tried not speaking to him but then he msgs like if I am angry or upset with him...and then I again fell for him..needless to say my intimacy with wife has taken a toll since I have fallen for him. I am not able to handle ..please suggest