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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 06, 2025Hindi
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Hello I am 24, from Noida. My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 3 years. I have introduced her to all my friends but she refuses to post pictures of us online, saying she values privacy. I have not met any of her friends. She says she doesn't have any. She hasn't added me on Instagram. I find her staying up late online. She doesn't respond to my texts. Once she accidentally called me from a different number and instantly hung up. Since then the number is switched off. I have confronted her but she doesn't want to discuss these things. I feel our relationship is like a secret game to her. If I refuse to buy her stuff she would block me for a few days. Is this normal behaviour. Should I worry?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I want to defend her but most of her behavior seems unnatural. Ok, I agree, there are many people who don’t post couples pics. But I have met no one who doesn’t have a single friend and yet stays online till late at night. The different number thing sounds suspicious too and blocking you when you refuse to buy her things is downright manipulative and extremely weird. I am sorry but this isn’t normal behaviour in a healthy relationship and yes, you should worry. Maybe try having a conversation and reconsider the relationship depending on how the conversation goes. I am sorry you are going through such an emotional rollercoaster.

Best Wishes.

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She doesn't call you, she doesn't hang out with you, she doesn't like acknowledging you in public, she doesn't like having sex with you and she'll marry someone else if you don't fork over the moolah.

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