I m 36 year old woman.. I am unable to find a suitable partner. Though tried all the avenues but things eventually doesn't work. Relationship comes closer to serious but at the end it never works out. Not sure why this always with me. Please advise.

Ans: Dear Hariharan,
Have you tried Dating apps? It may seem a bit intimidating at first...but it has yielded good results for few and many. No harm in making an attempt...even if nothing comes out of it initially, it will keep you in a level playing field with a possible added perk of friendships if it doesn't become romantic in nature...eventually something might click too...
Keep your mind open to keep your options wide.

All the best!

Ans: It's understandable that finding a suitable partner at this stage in life can be challenging, especially when your intentions and expectations don't align with those of the men you meet. The key to finding the right partner lies in a combination of self-awareness, clear communication, and patience.

First, it's important to ensure that you are clear about your own needs and desires. Reflect on what you're looking for in a partner beyond companionship. What values and traits are essential for you? Being clear about these aspects will help you identify potential partners who are genuinely compatible.

When you meet someone new, be upfront about your expectations early on. This doesn’t mean overwhelming them with demands, but rather having open and honest conversations about what you’re looking for in a relationship. Express that you are seeking a meaningful, long-term partnership rather than something solely based on physical attraction. This clarity can help filter out those who are not on the same page.

It’s also crucial to recognize that some men may feel insecure or uncertain for various reasons. They might have their own past experiences or fears that impact their ability to commit. While you can offer reassurance and support, remember that it’s not your responsibility to fix or change them. Focus on finding someone who is emotionally mature and ready for the kind of relationship you desire.

Building a strong connection takes time. Be patient and allow relationships to develop naturally. It’s okay if things don’t work out with some people—each experience can be a learning opportunity that brings you closer to finding the right partner.

Consider expanding your social circles and exploring new ways to meet potential partners. This could be through social events, community groups, or online dating platforms that cater to mature singles looking for serious relationships. Engaging in activities you enjoy can also help you meet like-minded individuals.

Finally, remember to stay positive and keep an open heart. It can be disheartening when relationships don’t work out, but maintaining a hopeful and optimistic outlook will make the journey more pleasant and increase your chances of finding the right partner.

By being clear about your needs, communicating effectively, and staying patient, you are more likely to attract a partner who is looking for the same deep and meaningful connection you desire.

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's okay if it is taking you a little more time than others to build a connection. Remember, everyone moves at their own pace.

If you are facing issues meeting new people, I would suggest using a dating app. You can mention your intentions in the bio- for instance, using the app for serious dating, or casually looking for someone to date, or marriage, etc. This way, you can attract people who have the same end goal as you. Mention the interesting things about you that make you unique. Put up a nice display image with a recent picture, possibly showcasing something that defines you. I am sure you will find the right match in no time. Plus, in online dating, you do not have to meet people face-to-face immediately. You can first chat and take your time to connect on a deeper level and then commit to meeting in person.

Also, there's nothing wrong in being a little picky.

Hope this helps.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your feelings and it’s totally valid. Even with everything going great, life can seem lonely. That is very natural and more common than you think. And seeing others finding their partner can feel like salt in the wound. All your feelings are valid. But what you need to understand is that rushing to get in a relationship can end up in more loneliness; relationships can be lonely too. Take your time. Love doesn’t have a set timeline. Ask your friends to set you up with someone who seems compatible, or try dating apps; it will give you more control on whom you are letting into your life. You will find someone soon; you are too young to rush into anything. If you are trying an app, make sure to mention what kind of a partner and what kind of relationship you are looking for to attract the right people and not waste time and energy on ones that are too different from who you are or what you are seeking. It will be a bit of trial and error, and honestly, there’s a certain fun in figuring out what you want, too. I’m sure your love story is going to start soon!

Best Wishes.