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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on May 13, 2025

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Kookigirl Question by Kookigirl on May 13, 2025
Relationship

Hi mam My bf warning me after our breakup he have my vedios and photo is leaked dont blame him.. What should i do and i don't want to invove my family into this..

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am really sorry you are going through such a tough time. What your ex is doing is emotional abuse and threatening to leak someone’s private pictures without their consent is also a criminal offense. I am assuming you do not want to involve your family in this matter yet– in that case, you must learn how to protect yourself. First of all, keep evidence of the threats he is making- screenshots, call records, etc. Second, let him know that in India, this is a criminal offense and you are ready to go all out if he decides to leak anything without your consent. You can also either report to cyber crime confidentially or at the very least, tell him that you are considering doing the same. Next, make sure to sever all ties. In most cases, these are empty threats to keep people under control. If he can’t contact you, he can’t threaten you. Lastly, consider informing someone you trust. And most importantly, do not ever think you are helpless. You might fear involving family, but in your worst times, family is the biggest pillar of strength. If things go too far, consider informing your family as well.

Hope these help.

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 29, 2024
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Hi mam please help me. My ex boyfriend nd i were in a long distance relationship. He lives in canada nd we used to vc but one day that vc turned out something else as you can understand he told me that he'll not take any screenshot or screen record anything but he still did that and now after breakup he's sending me those screenshots nd screen recording ???? nd telling me that he'll not share with anyone but i still don't trust him now ???? what should i do .. due to this pressure I'm simply going down day by day
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand that it is a difficult situation for you. I would suggest a few ways you can protect yourself-
If you think he will not share the pictures unless provoked, do not engage with him any further. Avoid responding and try not to give him control over the situation.

Keep screenshots of his messages where he discusses the pictures. In case he starts threatening you, you can let him know that you are not afraid to approach the authorities with valid proof against him. This way, you will have control over the situation.

Let him know that in both India and Canada, distributing images without consent is illegal.

Speak to your trusted friends and family members. Remember, as scared as you might be, you can always share things with your parents. They would be more worried about your mental health and safety than be disappointed over the matter. Understand that you can always reach out to them, especially when you have your back against the wall.

After you have gathered all the evidence you need to prove that he has been harassing you with non-consented pictures, block him. Engaging with him will allow this person to manipulate you or make him believe he has the upper hand.

Lastly, don't be afraid. He might think he is doing this out of love, but he is, essentially, a bully. Do not give him the power to play with your mental peace.

Hope everything works out soon.

Best Wishes.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 23, 2025
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I am 42 years and My husband is 45, We both are running a Sofa manufacturing factory.We have 2 kids 1 is in grade 6 and another is 3.5 years old. We don't have any EMI,I have saved money to both of my children 6 lakhs each in FD. Myself and my husband have saved around 30 lakhs which we have kept in FD, we have health insurance and 5 lakhs I have invested in ICICI mutual funds. We have our own house, car which are EMI free. Since too much competition in Sofa industry gradually business has gone down . If we decide to close our factory how much money should I have in my account to lead happy and tension free retirement life or what should we do know to have a good life.
Ans: Dear Friend,
You're in a strong financial position—no EMIs, own home, and decent savings. At 42 and 45, with two young children, you still have 10–15 years to earn and build wealth for a peaceful retirement actively.
You're financially stable with ?30L in FDs, ?12L saved for kids, and ?5L in mutual funds. But if you plan to close your factory, assess alternate income sources or part-time work. To retire comfortably, aim to build a corpus of ?3–4 crore over the next 15 years through a mix of equity mutual funds (SIP ?50–70k/month), PPF, and targeted investments for your kids' higher education. Keep 1–2 years of expenses in liquid funds. Since you’re debt-free, focus on maximising savings and generating passive income to ensure a tension-free retired life.
Regards, Nitin Narkhede -Founder, Prosperity Lifestyle Hub,
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Asked by Anonymous - May 23, 2025
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Hi Financial Guru's I am 32 and my wife 30 years old (no kids) earning 4L/mnth and also we have 1.3L/mnth of rental income , total 5.3L/mnth post taxation We have a home loan of 2.2 cr currently for 29 years old at 7.5% intrest Our goal is to close the home loan and create enough savings to retire at the age of 45 without worrying about the study of a kid. We are expecting to spend 1L/mnth once we reach age of 45, Based on our current spends trend ( also adding the inflation and educational expenses of a kid) Please Advise us the mode and the amount required to save to achieve this target of ours before we reach 45. Currently we don't have any savings of our own in any form.
Ans: Dear Friend,
You have a strong foundation with a combined monthly income of ? 5.3 L and a clear goal to retire by 45. Prioritise building an emergency fund of ?10–15 L first. Then, the monthly surplus (after expenses and EMIs) will be split between aggressive investments (70% in equity mutual funds/SIPs) and moderate options like PPF or NPS (30%). Target building a retirement corpus of ?6–7 crore by 45, which can support ?1L/month inflation-adjusted expenses. Simultaneously, prepay your home loan aggressively—aim to close it in 10–12 years by channeling bonuses/rent. Use term/life insurance and plan for your child’s education via dedicated SIPs. Disciplined investing is key to achieving your goals. Advice is to meet a Financial Advisor and create your life and goal plan.
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Sir i got 96 percentile and iam a girl with general ews category abd i need cse in top universities so please suggest sir
Ans: Yogitha, Here is, How to Predict Your Chances of Admission into NIT or IIIT or GFTI After JEE Main/Advanced Results – A Step-by-Step Guide

Providing precise admission chances for each student can be challenging. Some reputed educational websites offer ‘College Predictor’ tools where you can check possible college options based on your percentile, category, and preferences. However, for a more accurate understanding, here’s a simple yet effective 9-step method using JoSAA’s past-year opening and closing ranks. This approach gives you a fair estimate (though not 100% exact) of your admission chances based on the previous year’s data.

Step-by-Step Guide to Check Your Admission Chances Using JoSAA Data
Step 1: Collect Your Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

Your JEE Main percentile
Your category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if you're open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
Go to Google and type: JoSAA Opening & Closing Ranks 2024
Click on the first search result (official JoSAA website).
You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If you are open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
Avoid selecting ‘ALL’ at once, as it may create confusion.
Step 6: Select Your Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches you are interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
The system will display Opening & Closing Ranks of the selected institute and branch for different categories.
Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch you are interested in.
This will serve as a quick reference during JoSAA counseling.
Step 9: Adjust Your Expectations on a Safer Side
Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
Example Calculation:
If the Opening & Closing Ranks for NIT Delhi | Mechanical Engineering | OPEN Category show 8622 & 26186 (for Home State), consider adjusting them to 8300 & 23000 (on a safer side).
If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.
Follow this approach for Other State candidates and different categories.
Pro Tip: Adjust your expected rank slightly lower than the previous year's cutoffs for realistic expectations during JoSAA counseling.

Can This Method Be Used for JEE April & JEE Advanced?
Yes! You can repeat the same steps after your April JEE Main results to refine your admission possibilities.
You can also follow a similar process for JEE Advanced cutoffs when applying for IITs.

Have some other options also as back-ups instead of relying only on JEE/JoSAA.

Want to Learn More About JoSAA Counseling?
If you want detailed insights on JoSAA counseling, engineering entrance exams, preparation strategies, and engineering career options, check out EduJob360’s 180+ YouTube videos on this topic!

Hope this guide helps! All the best for your admission and a bright future!

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