Hi mam My bf warning me after our breakup he have my vedios and photo is leaked dont blame him.. What should i do and i don't want to invove my family into this..

Ans: Dear Neha,
When it has come to blackmailing, I suggest kindly involve your Dad. He knows how to protect his daughter and he will do so. But if you don't feel comfortable or you feel awkward, confide in a family member who is old enough to deal with this 'creep' who definitely seems to get a kick out of all this. If he is underage, his parents will have to be involved to drive some sense inside of him and if he is an adult, the cops giving him a warning can put him in his place.
DO NOT FEAR. Creeps like these are weak and simply prey on girls who crumble under their pressure. Put up a brave front...Also, do not speak with one-on-one OR meet him alone ever. Keep a record of all your text messages and record any future voice conversations. It will help to push him back and again: DO NOT FEAR...Feeling power within you will reach him and he will think before acting hastily...Involve an elder family member ASAP PLEASE...

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Actually time to involve your parents. They maybe very strict but they are your parents and will be able to help you deal with this situation of blackmail. It has to dealt with very carefully and not with fears and this will require someone older who will be able to think rationally whether to go to the police now or later. Kindly involve your parents ASAP.

All the best!
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand that it is a difficult situation for you. I would suggest a few ways you can protect yourself-
If you think he will not share the pictures unless provoked, do not engage with him any further. Avoid responding and try not to give him control over the situation.

Keep screenshots of his messages where he discusses the pictures. In case he starts threatening you, you can let him know that you are not afraid to approach the authorities with valid proof against him. This way, you will have control over the situation.

Let him know that in both India and Canada, distributing images without consent is illegal.

Speak to your trusted friends and family members. Remember, as scared as you might be, you can always share things with your parents. They would be more worried about your mental health and safety than be disappointed over the matter. Understand that you can always reach out to them, especially when you have your back against the wall.

After you have gathered all the evidence you need to prove that he has been harassing you with non-consented pictures, block him. Engaging with him will allow this person to manipulate you or make him believe he has the upper hand.

Lastly, don't be afraid. He might think he is doing this out of love, but he is, essentially, a bully. Do not give him the power to play with your mental peace.

Hope everything works out soon.

Best Wishes.