Hi. I am 42 year old single but once think about marriage I am getting angry. I didn't interested in marriage before once I think for marriage the age is passed nearly 40. I am controlling my mind on this situation because sometimes negative impacts coming in real and in dream. I also touch with one lady which she is widow but not much qualified we speak friendly. Shall I wait to get girl which she will be qualified and working. Please let me know.

Ans: Dear Shashank,

If you have been straightforward about your feelings for this woman and expressed the same and yet she has never reciprocated it even once so far, it might be because she does not feel the same about it. I'd suggest you talk to her about this. Instead of leaving it open-ended, like "I like you," and letting her react to it, be direct. For instance, "I like you. What about you? Do you like me?" Being direct would definitively fetch you some real answers. If she replies to your question, there you go; you have your answer. If she ignores it still, you can safely assume that she doesn't feel the same way as you do. Don't delay this; ask her as soon as possible. Stretching a relationship that ultimately leads to a dead-end will harm your peace and happiness in the longer run.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The traditional ways of finding a match may happen for a few people given a lot of factors falling in place at the right time. When that does not work, find other ways...
Join local communities that meet regularly over the weekends, a gym, or perhaps if you are someone who like adventure, then there are trekking, hiking, camping groups...
Put yourself out there and you might just end up meeting a like-minded person and things can progress thereon...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: first off 33 is young, you can be 43 or 53 and still feel young. Keep looking if you do wish to find someone special. Even if you meet someone with intent, start as friends, like friends with intent, take it slow or a pace you both would wish to gauge the kind of person. As for staying single or not is personal - I personally see a pro in being with someone special and I also believe love can be found more than once.

Ans: It’s completely okay to have taken time figuring out what you wanted in life. Sometimes we don’t move forward simply because we weren’t ready, or we lacked the clarity or emotional support needed at the time. But that doesn't mean you're behind. Everyone’s timeline is different, and yours is still very much unfolding.

Now that you're feeling ready for a serious relationship, here are a few steps you can take to approach this new chapter with confidence and self-awareness.

Start with clarity. Reflect on what kind of partner you're looking for—not just in terms of age or background, but emotionally and mentally. What values matter to you? What kind of connection are you seeking? Are you open to someone who has been married before? Children? When you’re clear, it becomes easier to recognize the right person when they appear.

At the same time, look inward. Do some emotional housekeeping. Ask yourself: What kind of partner do I want to be? Am I emotionally available? Am I still carrying regret, fear, or pressure about being “late” to marriage? Because entering a relationship out of guilt or urgency often leads to settling. But entering it from a place of self-respect and genuine desire creates something meaningful.

Since you're actively searching, it’s okay to use all tools at your disposal—matrimonial sites, family networks, friends, or even a good matchmaker if culturally appropriate. But be patient and realistic. Finding someone who is also ready, aligned with your values, and emotionally compatible can take time.

Also, try not to let pressure—internal or external—rush you. You don’t need a "perfect" partner; you need someone who sees you, respects you, and is willing to grow with you.

And here’s something to hold on to: many people find love in their 40s, 50s, even later—and those relationships are often more conscious, mature, and fulfilling, because they’re built on real-life experience and emotional wisdom, not just youthful impulse.