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Ravi Mittal |676 Answers |Ask -Follow

Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jun 04, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2025

Relationship

Hello coach. I am dating a 42 yr old man who is almost perfect for marriage. He is kind, successful, and we have a great chemistry. But there is a problem. He says he never wants kids. The thing is I want to be a mother someday. I feel so bad about this. Everything else is so right. Should I give up on him or continue the relationship hoping that he will change his mind?

Ans: Dear anonymous,
I understand your dilemma. It is difficult to find the perfect man, but it’s even worse when you find him but it also means you are losing a part of yourself. The choice you are talking about here is very personal, but I will suggest that you think long and hard about it. People rarely change their mind and neither you, nor him, are likely to change your minds about kids. And neither of you should have to. Now, it is only a matter of what is more important to you. But I would also recommend that you think about the future. Today, he might seem like the most important thing in your life. And right now, he might seem enough. But if you rush into choosing him, there’s a good chance you will resent him in the future. Have an honest conversation with him and come to a decision. You might as well ask him if there’s any chance he will ever change his mind. This way you will have better clarity.
Hope this helps.

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your concerns and they are absolutely valid. Have you communicated these worries with your partner? I mean, does he know how much this is bothering you? If not, I would suggest you start there. Open up to him. Let him know that his not telling his parents about you raises a lot of questions in your mind. He should understand that you are a person with dreams and desires and also a mom with responsibilities. If his intentions are to continue dating you, and that is not what you want, he should clear it out right now, before it's too late. It's important for couples to be on the same page when it comes to relationship goals.

Talk to him. I am sure you will get a lot of clarity.

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Ans: Raising someone else’s children is not something that comes naturally to everyone, and that doesn’t make you selfish—it makes you honest. You already know how challenging it is to raise one child, and now you’re expected to step into a role where you’ll be managing more, including an aggressive teenage boy. If this idea is already suffocating you now, imagine how it might feel once you’re actually living in that environment every day.

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You don’t have to force yourself into something that doesn’t feel right just because you’re afraid of ending up alone. Loneliness is difficult, but so is being in a marriage where you feel unseen, unheard, and overwhelmed. The best decision is the one that allows you to live with peace and confidence in your future.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 19, 2025Hindi

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Let me ask you one thing, if you knew a plane was going to crash, would you still get on it because you are worried you will reach your destination late? No, right? Similarly, if you know this marriage could be really tough on you, with the added responsibilities of a teenager and another soon-to-be teenager, do you still want to go ahead with it, just because you might have to stay alone for a while longer?

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Start attending weekend events or any social gathering in the city/town that you live in; even a smile or a hi, hello can be start to a good association when you can further discuss and chat on mutual interests and hobbies.
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