Goodmorning I am working in PSU. I exposed a fraud in my company few years ago. Nothing happened to culprits. Rather they continued to gain elevations and reached to top management. Well as anticipated, I am being regularly victimized, my career for promotions got spoiled and now working disgracefully. I suffered heart attack in my office due to such disgraceful treatment in workplace. I even filed a law suit against my no promotion but all this take years and said culprits after enjoying time are retiring or hv retired recently. Suggest me to overcome this situation which many may be facing as consequences of honesty in our country. How can I use these people for mental harrassment and loss of time and money in career and life. I am male 57 yrs old and left with 3 years of service. Thanks.

You constantly worried about what you would lose rather than what you have. And in the bargain, trying to please people so that wouldn’t lose them, you ended up getting cheated due your poor decisions.

Let bygones be bygones.

How about at this very moment as you are reading this, think exactly how you had managed to make those millions of rupees?

There is something wise in the way you managed your work/business/network to create that wealth, isn’t it?

So what is it?

Take out a diary and jot it down.

We have a lot of inner resources to bank on that we give ourselves credit for. And if you have done it once before, you truly know how to do this once more.

Just that, your health and loss of money are making you believe otherwise.

Start with:
1. Planning household expenses statement. Right now, only priorities will count. Anything extra will be out till you have disposable income on hand.
2. If you are planning to start something new, do that with the same confidence from the time you were financially abundant and. If you are employed some place, do what you would do with your skills in every project and enjoy the fruits of labour.
3. Take care of your health. Ask your doctor, what exercises can be done by you to keep your health well so that you can work happily

Do remember, nothing is worth worrying so much; your family loves you and want you around them for a long time.

So, look into their eyes and know that the stress that you are carrying around like a special baggage needs to be dropped down this very instant.

Take care and be happy always!

Hi Rushilesh.

The best advice is ‘Ignore Them’.

It is human tendency to be jealous and that's what your colleagues are feeling.

Since they can't compete with you on skills, they are using these unethical means to distract you.

Remain focused on your job and don't let your good performance slip.

Keep your manager in the loop about the office politics so that s/he can back you if things get worse.

Dear KK,

The reason why people bend backwards to do things for people and have trouble saying NO is because they worry not being loved by others or getting their attention.

Maybe they also worry about being alone because others might reject them if a boundary is drawn.

So, find out why you have been allowing these people (family and friends) take advantage of you.

When will you find the strength to respect and value yourself?

Once you do, others will do that as well and not complain about you standing up for yourself. And there is no need to hold onto people by being nice to them by loaning money. Are they going to lie you for the money or for who you are?

Work with the person who has prescribed medicines for your depression on the deep-rooted cause for your poor self-esteem which makes you depend on others to make you feel good or feel anger when you see them.

Till you work on these, your connection with your family will be a struggle. So, help yourself first by taking care of your emotional health.

All the best!