I'm 62, quite active socially. My problem is this that the people who are stronger than me emotionally or physically or even weaker than me, I always agree with them or keep mum. But keep on cribbing inside.
This is, because, I don't want to make them angry or lose them.
I can't express my feelings or show my anger even if someone owe's me a big amount of money in millions of rupees (which is true).
And always fear and keep on brooding, visualising them fighting with me and insulting me. I also visualise them refusing to pay my money back to me.
I worked my whole life and earned and saved few millions in my lifetime.
People knew that I have money and people started asking me for loan on one pretext or other. Some included me in their business without a legal paper work and asked me to invest money in their business by becoming their partner.
They looted me with both hands and now are refusing to return my money.
My fears came true. I have already suffered two major heart attacks and my health is deteriorating every day and has made me almost bedridden.
Very less amount has been left with me which is insufficient for the survival of my family.
I keep thinking, fearing and getting more sick. Kindly advise, how I can overcome this situation.
Ans: Dear AS, what you focus on grows bigger with time as your mind has been trained to magnify it beyond what it truly is.
You constantly worried about what you would lose rather than what you have. And in the bargain, trying to please people so that wouldn’t lose them, you ended up getting cheated due your poor decisions.
Let bygones be bygones.
How about at this very moment as you are reading this, think exactly how you had managed to make those millions of rupees?
There is something wise in the way you managed your work/business/network to create that wealth, isn’t it?
So what is it?
Take out a diary and jot it down.
We have a lot of inner resources to bank on that we give ourselves credit for. And if you have done it once before, you truly know how to do this once more.
Just that, your health and loss of money are making you believe otherwise.
Start with:
1. Planning household expenses statement. Right now, only priorities will count. Anything extra will be out till you have disposable income on hand.
2. If you are planning to start something new, do that with the same confidence from the time you were financially abundant and. If you are employed some place, do what you would do with your skills in every project and enjoy the fruits of labour.
3. Take care of your health. Ask your doctor, what exercises can be done by you to keep your health well so that you can work happily
Do remember, nothing is worth worrying so much; your family loves you and want you around them for a long time.
So, look into their eyes and know that the stress that you are carrying around like a special baggage needs to be dropped down this very instant.
Take care and be happy always!
