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Roopashree Sharma  |112 Answers  |Ask -

Yoga, Naturopathy Expert - Answered on Mar 23, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 20, 2023
Health
Hi Gurus! I am 40 yr old MAN and I have never been regular at gym or exercising. I am 5 kg overweight as per my recent BMI and heart age of 52 yrs (not sure how reliable those results are but they definitely indicate something needs to be fixed) but no other serious health issues 🤞. However, I do perform some form of stretching, push-ups etc once in a couple of weeks which my physiotherapist advised as I had sciatica related pain in past. I do get back pain due to sedimentary lifestyle. Basically, I have not been taking my body and fitness seriously so far in my life. Now, I want to consciously start working out and get more active (my 40th B’day resolution 😊 ) and hence need your help with following (probably silly) situation: - I always wake-up hungry (~ 7:30 AM) and end up having a filling breakfast e.g 2 parathas or 5-6 cookies or 3-4 slices of toast & butter with mug full of chai with enough sugar and hence not able to exercise in the morning. Starting my day with red cross (❌) mark against a task (exercising) doesn’t set a good precedence either. In past I tried starting my day with glass of lukewarm water and lemon / honey etc but in just matter or 20-30 mins, I would feel extremely hungry, and I end up overeating, feeling more guilty ☹. Even after stuffing so much, I am again super hungry by ~13:00 ish for Lunch. TBH, I don’t see people around me eating so much ☹ -I cannot exercise in the evening as there is not fixed time when I would end my day. Also, I want to keep my evenings free for other imp things in my life 😉 Please guide how can I address my above issue so that either I don’t wake up hungry or I can eat something and still exercise. I googled my symptoms, and it says it’s a sign of PMS (?)
Ans: :) It looks like you have identified your problem, now the only thing left is to take steps in the right direction. If you are having dinner by 8PM or so, it is ok to feel hungry in the morning. It is good to take plain lukewarm water in the morning (3-4 glasses is also ok), you can eat if you feel hungry within half hour or so. To find the right time for exercise, start your day early by 06AM, so that you can have water and exercise by 07AM and still have your breakfast at 8AM.
Considering your current lifestyle, start with 15-20 mins of moderate walking, don't start with rigorous exercise as it may lead to muscle cramping. Ideally, you should go out for walking, but if you can't find time then find innovative ways like - spot walking, using your balcony or any free area near you. After a month you can gradually start with slow surya namaskar (if you havent practiced earlier, learn from a professional yoga practitioner and don't follow random online videos. Even 10-11 rounds are enough for the day, you can increase gradually as your stamina increases.
In your diet, replace cookies and biscuits with heathier options - get good quality home made, oats or whole wheat cookies, with jaggery, instead of white sugar and preservatives. Just to rule out any ailments, you can get a full body check-up including 2-3 Echo under prescription from a physician. Hope you can continue with your evening routine with your health routine...
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Kanchan

Kanchan Rai  |10 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 23, 2023

Relationship
I am in toxcis relationship how to get uot
Ans: Dear Jyoti,

I know it's a hard to break relationship where you have invested so much, and deciding to leave the toxicity is the first step that you have already taken and should be proud of.


Cut Off Contact

It will be crucial for you to cut off contact with your ex once the relationship has ended. Keeping in contact with your ex opens the door to getting back together. Toxic people can be emotionally manipulative and may use emotional blackmail to lure you back in. When you decide to leave your partner, end any form of communication with them unless you share children and need to co-parent. If this is the case, only communicate about the children.

Unfollow Them on Social Media

Seeing your ex across social media will keep the memory of the relationship fresh, so it’s crucial that you block them on your phone and find ways to avoid running into them in person. These actions will set a clear boundary that the toxic relationship is over, and help you stop thinking about them altogether.



Know That You Deserve Better

Months or years of being verbally abused or told you will never find anyone better can wear a person down, and you might start to believe it. But this is not true. Tearing down self-esteem and self-worth is the technique toxic partners use to keep their partner trapped in the relationship. Let “I deserve better!” become your daily mantra, by replacing negative beliefs about your self-worth with positive, affirming ones. You need to move forward for your own mental and emotional well-being.

Seek Professional Help From a Therapist

Depending on the level of seriousness, leaving a toxic relationship can require help in creating a game plan. Confiding in friends and family or finding a therapist ;to speak with can be helpful as well. A good therapist can help you cope, rebuild your sense of self-worth, and address any safety issues. A therapist can be an unbiased resource to guide you and hold you accountable for creating goals and sticking to them.

Build a safety net: If you're thinking of calling it quits, make a plan for how you are going to deal with the transition. Where will you stay? What possessions will you need to bring along? Don’t do this haphazardly. This process should be well thought out.

Set a goal to be independent: If you do not have a career or a way to support yourself, it is time to begin carving this path. Go to school, get training, begin a job (even a low-level or part-time job). Your financial independence is one of the main roads to freedom.

No more secrets. Confide in a family member or friend so that they can help you with the process. If you feel threatened, inform the local authorities that you are going to need help.




Being part of a toxic relationship is extremely detrimental to your self-esteem and mental health. It may take some time before you are ready to be part of another relationship. Don’t rush this. Take time for yourself. To help yourself recover, make time for hobbies. Start working on a pet project or your own business. Take that trip you've always wanted to go on.



Take care of yourself: Getting out of a toxic relationship can be emotionally draining. Take care of yourself by practicing self-care, such as exercise, healthy eating, and getting enough rest. Seek therapy if necessary to work through any emotional trauma from the relationship.

Remember, ending a toxic relationship takes courage, but it's a necessary step towards a happier and healthier life. It's important to recognize your self-worth and prioritize your well-being
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Anu

Anu Krishna  |336 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 23, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 19, 2023
Relationship
Madam, I am 61 years old , retired from Govt service an year ago. I have a problem in my family. Though my wife is a post graduate, she refused to take up any Job and wants all others including her in laws to give her money eternally. Misbehaved with my parents & sent them out of our house for their supposed conservative style and refused to allow my sisters family on a visit and quarreled with me on this ground time & again. She quarrels with me on silly issues loudly infront of kids. She reflects her mother`s attitude in dealing with my parents & relatives. Later She re-started her love affair with her ex lover . Fed up with quarrels at home and keep her away from unwarranted affairs, I decided to go abroad and took her also with me with our 2 daughters. There again, she started another illicit affair with my classmate cum colleague (whom i knew for 2 decades and i treated like a brother and was already married with kids). After 18 months of secret affair , behind me, they finally disclosed and wanted to elope leaving their families behind. Stunned by their ghastly betrayal , I sent my family back to India and also reported the matter to boss, who repatriated that Traitor back. I had to forgive my wife for sake of my Daughters who were aged 12 yrs and 9 yrs then. I am unable to come to terms with their ghastly actions though 2 decades have since passed. We sleep in separate rooms and I have no physical relation with her, ever since as our marriage is over for all purposes. I believe that mutual Trust & respect are the foundations of any marriage. Both are lost in our case. Now my daughters aged 31, 29 are Post graduates but are sitting idle at home wasting time in TV and refuse to do any job as their mother keeps telling them why should women work ?. They refuse to receive any external counselling nor willing to get married nor take up a job nor pursue any studies. They are financially dependent on me. I am now retired and live on Govt Pension. They refuse to understand the reality around them. They have no friend either in Relatives or in their college circles. What to do with their Intransigence? .
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
At 61, you look back and reflect; what choices have you made that has led you to be where you are right now?
Have those choices robbed you of your peace of mind and a better life?
If Yes, it still isn't late to rework and revisit those choices and make better ones.

But for that, this obsession with their ghastly affair must end. The more you are focused on the past, it becomes difficult to create anything beautiful for today and tomorrow. Yes, you felt hurt and were in pain, but to continue to feel the pain is a choice and that is only going to make you more bitter. Consider what is happening with your marriage; you might have to accept that this is the way it will be. If you are not happy with this, then think of what you want to do about it.

It's a good thing that you have begun to focus on your children. They seem to be in need of focus and direction. Since they are adults, it's time you gave them an ultimatum to find a job and move out of home. It sounds cruel, but at times, as a parent you need to do the right thing for your children. So, act NOW and without hesitation.
As for you, as you decide what you want to do with your marriage, involve yourself in social circles and hobbies, travel etc. It will give you a distraction and also a way to calm your mind to take decisions.

All the best!
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Preetam

Preetam Patil  |4 Answers  |Ask -

IIT-JEE, NEET-UG, MH-CET Expert - Answered on Mar 22, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Feb 21, 2023
Career
Dear Mr.Preetam, my son is 10th CBSE (standard maths)now, can he continue in CBSE for 11th and 12th Class or opt for state intermediate board of Telangana, he is opting for JEE and try for IIT
Ans: Welcome to the IIT-JEE Preparation journey. As the most popular and toughest exam, millions of students across India appear for the IIT-JEE every year with the dream of qualifying it.

Despite putting in their best efforts, many students still fail to crack the exam and miss the opportunity of entering their dream college. If you are one of them and looking for a way to increase your chances of cracking the IIT-JEE, then here we have a suggestion for you - go for dummy non-attending school.

Dummy non-attending school provides an effective way to prepare for IIT-JEE. All you need to do is just focus on your IIT-JEE preparation.

You can select any board which suits you best, but remember that scoring eligible marks is of utmost importance to crack the exam.
You can also get in touch with professional IIT-JEE preparation mentors who will provide you with detailed study plans and tips to crack the IIT-JEE. In addition, they can also assess your progress and help you in overcoming any obstacles that you may face during your preparation journey.

On top of that you can attend IIT Foundation Courses conducted by various institutes and IIT-JEE Coaching centres which provide guidance from experienced professionals and teachers. These courses will help you understand the concepts better and develop a good foundation in the topics which are important for cracking the exam.

Let’s consider the Telangana Board. This board is a regional entity which follows the syllabus prescribed by the state government. It offers students the chance to study with teachers and resources that are tailored to their needs. It also offers an intimate learning experience, with small classes, allowing students to gain a deep understanding of the topics they are studying. In addition, it also gives students the chance to explore their interests and prepare for many extracurricular activities.

Now let’s look at the CBSE Board. This board has gained a lot of credibility in recent years due to its recognized status as one of the leading school examination boards in India. It has a national recognition, and its syllabus is set by the Indian Ministry of Education. It offers students a more comprehensive coverage of various topics than the Telangana Board, including subjects such as science and mathematics, which are essential for IIT JEE preparation. In addition, studying for the CBSE examinations gives students the chance to practice with questions of higher difficulty and complexity than those available on the Telangana Board.

So which board should students opt for when preparing for the IIT JEE? Both boards have their advantages and disadvantages, and it really depends on each student’s specific needs and interests.

At last, we would like to remind you that hard work and dedication are both very important for cracking the IIT-JEE. So with a right approach and right resources, you can certainly qualify the exam.

I wish you all the best in your IIT-JEE preparation journey and best of luck!
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Preetam

Preetam Patil  |4 Answers  |Ask -

IIT-JEE, NEET-UG, MH-CET Expert - Answered on Mar 22, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Feb 06, 2023
Career
Hi Preetam, How do I strengthen my maths for IIT-JEE?
Ans: Math is a crucial component of preparing for the JEE entrance examinations and plays a significant role in determining the success of any aspiring student. It is important to understand what areas of improvement should be addressed before beginning any preparation.

The first area of improvement is learning basic concepts. Many JEE-level questions are based on basics, so students should have a deep understanding of fundamental concepts, such as arithmetic, algebra, geometry and trigonometry. A student needs to have a good grip on these principles to be successful in the examination. The second area of improvement is mastering the techniques for solving problems. The time available for the examination is limited and mastering techniques such as substitution, elimination and factorisation can help you solve problems quickly and efficiently.

The third area of improvement is developing problem solving skills. A student must be able to think critically and come up with creative solutions to challenging problems. The ability to identify patterns and apply key principles can lead to more successful problem-solving. And finally, focus and perseverance are essential traits for successful math performance. Practicing math problems regularly and regularly studying the topics will help students understand the subject better, so they can attempt tougher questions efficiently.

In conclusion, strong math skills are extremely important for success in the JEE. In order to achieve success in the examination, students must focus on mastering basic concepts, practicing techniques for solving problems and developing problem-solving skills. It is also important to practice math problems regularly so you can become comfortable answering challenging questions on the day of the exam.
Understand JEE Mains Exam Pattern
First of all, understand the JEE Mains exam pattern. Knowledge of JEE Mains exam pattern will help you understand the exam mode, marking scheme, syllabus, time duration, weightage etc. In addition, you will get to know the most important topics and will plan your studies accordingly. Going very deep in low weightage topics is not essential, but the minimum level of preparation should be moderate, so try to cover every topic.
Prepare With Right JEE Books
Start with NCERT textbooks for maths, try to read the concepts first and then solve the examples. Moreover, don't miss to solve the miscellaneous questions at the end of each chapter.

Once you have completed the NCERT book, then practice with good practice books.
Give Attention to High Weightage Topics
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