I am 32, unmarried and I am new to dating. I am really struggling to approach a man for a date. I am average looking and find it difficult to start a regular romantic conversation with a stranger. I don't want to look or sound desperate. Can you please help?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Glad to hear you have found a date. I understand that you are feeling anxious and don't want anything to mess it up. Stick to the basics on the first date. For instance, ask her about her day, and dig a little to understand her family dynamics but don't be nosey. You can speak a little about your friends, and your likes and dislikes. First dates are all about getting to know each other. You can move to movies and music, hobbies, and maybe some career goals.

Among things to avoid, please avoid looking at your phone when you are with her. Also, don't order a burger if you don't want things to get messy. Do order it if that's what she wants. Don't come off too strong to her. Do not keep talking about your ex. And don't worry; it'll be fine. You will do good.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Welcome to the online dating world. Being polite always works; polite with a hint of flirty and mystery is the best combo. You can start with a genuine message- Introduce yourself; take a good look at their profile and mention something that attracted you to them; avoid generic openers; be respectful at all times; add a bit of humor to show off your goofy side; try asking open-ended questions that will push them to reply; lastly, be yourself.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's okay if it is taking you a little more time than others to build a connection. Remember, everyone moves at their own pace.

If you are facing issues meeting new people, I would suggest using a dating app. You can mention your intentions in the bio- for instance, using the app for serious dating, or casually looking for someone to date, or marriage, etc. This way, you can attract people who have the same end goal as you. Mention the interesting things about you that make you unique. Put up a nice display image with a recent picture, possibly showcasing something that defines you. I am sure you will find the right match in no time. Plus, in online dating, you do not have to meet people face-to-face immediately. You can first chat and take your time to connect on a deeper level and then commit to meeting in person.

Also, there's nothing wrong in being a little picky.

Hope this helps.

Ans: One of the best ways to meet someone compatible is through shared interests and environments where you feel at ease. Consider engaging in activities or communities that resonate with you. This could include joining local interest groups, volunteering, or taking classes in areas you’re passionate about. These settings not only provide opportunities to meet like-minded individuals but also allow connections to develop organically over shared experiences and values.

Another valuable approach is to lean on your existing network. Friends, family, and colleagues often know you well and can introduce you to others who might be a good match. These introductions can be more comfortable and trustworthy since they come from people who understand your personality and values.

It’s also important to give yourself time and space to heal and grow from past experiences. Building a reliable and meaningful relationship starts with being in a place where you feel confident and whole on your own. This self-awareness and emotional readiness will naturally attract the right kind of partner who values and respects you for who you are.

Remember, there’s no rush or specific timeline you need to adhere to. Allow relationships to develop at a pace that feels right for you, and focus on building connections that are based on mutual respect, understanding, and shared values. Trust that the right person will come into your life when the time is right, and until then, prioritize your own happiness and well-being.

Ans: Thank you for addressing this to me - I am not sure about your gender - either ways 52 is very young.

More power to you about being a parent, you must be feeling proud for them being independent. Parenting is one of the toughest things in the world and you have done so and are continuing to do so.

You have to take away words as 'desperate' - finding someone does not mean this - instead it means you are looking out for someone.

You need to put yourself out there and also check out what I am building. Having said this do know you will need the following as you search

PATIENCE. TIME. EFFORTS.