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Anonymous Question by Anonymous on Oct 12, 2022Hindi
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Dear Mayank,
In my office my boss who is a woman is making out with her junior who is married.
It would not be my concern if it wasn't happening in front of us and it is distracting and I feel that maybe he was pressured into having an affair with my boss.
Isn't that wrong?
Should I complain to the management or a Vishaka committee? But Vishaka committees are for only women. What about harassment that can occur of men in the workplace?

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Hi.

PoSH (Prevention of Sexual Harassment at Workplace Act of India) or the Vishaka Committee is meant for both men and women.

However, you cannot complain on behalf of your colleague.

You can advise him that, if he is under any pressure, then he can complain to the internal complaints committee.

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I understand we are not always in control of who we fall for, but getting into a relationship with your boss is never a good idea. It can lead to several complications because of the power dynamics involved. But now that it's done, let's talk damage control. I would normally suggest an open conversation, but given the nature of your relationship at work and your fear that it might affect your job, I would suggest removing yourself from the relationship and considering this a breakup. If he is not showing any more interest in you, I recommend doing the same with him. I know it hurts, but it's better to hold your head high and deal with it than reach out for an explanation from someone who ditches one love interest for another. If he comes back to you after a while, casually let him know that this relationship was over the day he started flirting with his other colleague.

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