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Mayank Rautela is the group chief human resources officer at Care Hospitals.
A management graduate from the Symbiosis Institute of Management Studies with a master's degree in labour laws from Pune University, Rautela has over 20 years of experience in general management, strategic human resources, global mergers and integrations and change management.... more
Anonymous Question by Anonymous on Sep 29, 2021Hindi
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Dear Sir,
I had a good friend at work but, due to the pandemic and some professional disagreements, we are not talking to each other as friends.
We are still working together and talking there but it is very awkward.
I feel we can be friends again.
If not friends, we can have a professional cordial relationship.
I am finding it difficult to work like this.
I have been trying to talk, but the other person does not want to talk, let alone compromise.
If we are in this organisation, we have to work together.
At the moment, I cannot leave and neither can he.
Please advise how to handle this situation.
Thank you.
Name withheld on request.

Ans:

Personal relationships do come in the way of our professional interactions, so it's important to have good personal relationships.

But, sometimes, if the other person does not respond, then it becomes a challenge.

You can have a candid discussion and try and resolve the issues. Else, you can approach your manager to intervene and help both of you to iron out the issues.

Talk to your friend about the good old days.

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