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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 24, 2024

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
She is an executive member of the Indian Association of Adolescent Health.... more

Question by Xavier on May 23, 2024Hindi

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Thank you Anu, I have anothre challenge. His work is still at a very nascent stage. We worked together for his growth, I fought at work to get him a comfortable stay. We are still working on project where we need to work together. I had committed earlier that I will be there for your project and help. Also, it is even difficult because his parents helps me out with certain stuff in personal life. I am unable to take him out of my life but unable to stay because of the mind game. How should I tackle this? The project he is working is a career making work, my idea and my hard work...I gave it to him thinking this will help him establish himself. He keeps telling that we are friends and that we can still work together. But I am unable to get over my anxiety and attachments. Please guide! Thank you

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This thing of 'being friends' is possible only when the feelings have gone away completely...
as for your work, maintain strict professional and personal boundaries while working with him AND as for his parents; the more you link to things that are associated with him, the harder it will get for you to move on...
Now, is there a part of you that is still holding onto him? If Yes, then you are inviting this anxiety thru this association and attachment.
So, be clear as to what you want and it is important to take care of your mind space else you will end up playing games with yourself and he will think that 'being friends' zone is happy and comfortable.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Dear Sir,I had a good friend at work but, due to the pandemic and some professional disagreements, we are not talking to each other as friends.We are still working together and talking there but it is very awkward.I feel we can be friends again.If not friends, we can have a professional cordial relationship.I am finding it difficult to work like this.I have been trying to talk, but the other person does not want to talk, let alone compromise.If we are in this organisation, we have to work together.At the moment, I cannot leave and neither can he.Please advise how to handle this situation.Thank you.Name withheld on request.

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Personal relationships do come in the way of our professional interactions, so it's important to have good personal relationships.

But, sometimes, if the other person does not respond, then it becomes a challenge.

You can have a candid discussion and try and resolve the issues. Else, you can approach your manager to intervene and help both of you to iron out the issues.

Talk to your friend about the good old days.

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