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Hi Anu, Is it normal for a friend's husband to flirt or make a pass at you despite knowing you are close to his wife? Recently, my friend's husband has been complimenting my looks excessively. He texts me late at night. Once he even tried to touch my hand during a party. I have been feeling extremely uncomfortable when he is around but I am not sure if I am overthinking or reading too much into this. Should I confront my friend about her husband's inappropriate behaviour? I am afraid it would ruin our friendship. How do I handle this situation where a married man, who is also my friend's husband, is crossing his boundaries?

Hello madam, I am a 35 year-old software Engineer from Pune. I am living with my wife, sister and mother in a joint-family setup. My wife and sister both are working. I got married in Dec 2022. Last year due to project ramp-down, my wife had to move to Hyderabad for work. During that time, only she was living in Hyderabad in a rented flat, I was still trying to search for a job in Hyderabad. But after 6 months, around March 2025, her project in Hyderabad got ramped down again. She tried searching for jobs in pune and hyderabad, but she could only get interview calls from Pune. So ultimately had to settle back with us in pune. She does have a regret moving back to Pune. Now after 2-3 months of moving back to Pune, one night she started picking up a fight with me and she said she doesn't like a joint family setup, and wants to move in a seperate apartment. She is too much attached to Hyderabad City ,that she was forcing me to search for a job in Hyderabad. I explained her that last year also I was trying a lot for a job in Hyderabad, but couldn't get a decent job, and I am still trying to search for a job in Hyderabad but due to tough market situation and some bad luck unable to get a good opportunity. I also said we can move to another rented flat in pune as well, but she is still adamant about moving to Hyderabad. I tried to explain her that it would be easy for me to attend any family emergencies related to my mother or sister of we at least stay in the same city, but nothing works. My sister is suffering from clinical depression and due to this, she is still unmarried. We did tried to search a suitable alliance for her but we were unsuccessful. This also upsets her a lot, and the fact that my mother and my sister are financially and emotionally dependent on me, makes my wife sad and angry. I do always to make things work for her , but the fact that I also have to look after my mother and sister brings problem in our marriage. My mother is a single parent hence the reason she is dependent on me. My sister is working but her income is not that much that if I stopped supporting, the household will work. Now I am highly anxious that if I really don't get a job in Hyderabad, how things will take shape for me and my family. Things do look quite scary at this time, trying to convince my wife to look for rented flat in pune but no luck yet.

Anu Hi. I'm in a really stressful situation and I don't know how to handle it. A few years ago, I was in a relationship with a woman who turned out to be extremely manipulative and possessive. I ended things with her long before I met my wife. I've moved on completely and I'm happily married now. But my ex hasn't. I recently discovered that she has been stalking my wife on social media, creating fake accounts, and even sending her threatening messages. Some of them are nasty and borderline disturbing. She is sharing details about our past relationship that are not relevant. My wife is scared and upset, and it's starting to create unnecessary tension between us. She's beginning to question my past and wonder why this woman still feels entitled to harass her. I really don't want to involve the police or escalate this legally. I want to avoid drama, because I'm also worried it might provoke my ex even further. I just want this to stop. I'm trying to protect my marriage and my wife's peace of mind, but I feel helpless. My wife doesn't respond to her but the details still bother her. What is the right way to handle this without making it worse? How do I reassure my wife, and is there a non-legal way to make my ex back off for good? Am I wrong for trying to avoid police action in a situation like this?

I'm 34 and have spent the last six years trying to find a genuine partner through every possible route -- dating apps, matrimonial sites recommended by relatives, setups through friends. It's been exhausting and disheartening. The men I match with are either secretly married, emotionally unavailable, or bluntly state that they aren't interested in commitment. On matrimonial sites, I keep coming across entitled MCPs (male chauvinist pigs) who want a docile, obedient wife -- someone to bear their children, manage their homes, and take care of their aging parents like we are living in 1950. The few men I've genuinely connected with emotionally have told me upfront that they don't believe in marriage or aren't looking for anything serious. And here I am, still single. I've been seriously considering signing up for an app purely focused on intimacy. I'm not looking to sleep around without thought. What I crave is connection, touch, and feeling desired, even if it doesn't lead to marriage. I've dated so many men in search of love, and yet, I've ended up alone. Is it wrong to stop chasing 'the one' and instead focus on fulfilling my emotional and physical needs without expecting long-term commitment?

Dear guru. I recently watched the film Aap Jaisa Koi and I could relate so much with Kusum bhabhi's character. My condition is somewhat similar. I've been married for six years now. On the outside, everything looks perfect -- a good husband, a 3bhk two storied home in Lucknow, a stable life. But inside, I feel invisible. My husband is a good man, no doubt, but he barely notices me as a person anymore. Conversations revolve around chores, family obligations, and money. There's no affection, no curiosity about how I feel or what I want from life. Sometimes I wonder if he even sees me as a woman, or just as a role I'm expected to keep performing without complaint. Watching the film made me realise how quietly unhappy I've become. I'm not thinking of anything drastic like Kusum, but I do crave connection, validation, and a sense of being wanted, not just needed. I have often felt the urge to text my college crush just to talk or sign up on an app maybe to share my feelings. Is it normal to crave for love and sex outside your marriage? Will it help

Hi Anu I've been married for almost four years now, and there's something my husband does that is really starting to hurt me. He constantly compares me to other women in his life -- sometimes it's his mother, sometimes his sister, and often his friend's wife. In the beginning, I brushed it off thinking maybe I was being too sensitive or reading too much into it. But now it's become a pattern, and I can't help but feel like I'm always falling short in his eyes. He'll say things like, 'Look how well my mother manages the house. She took care of the house without any maid and even helped us with our studies. You have so much help and still you are complaining.' Whenever he sees a homemaker wife, he will tell me 'See how she supports her husband without questioning him.' Even smaller details like how I dress or speak is a topic of comparison. He is never mean; sometimes it's casual, sometimes it's like a joke, but the message still stings. I hope I am not overreacting.

Hi Anu, My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We have a 9 year old son. But I am bored of my husband. He is lazy, doesn't take care of himself and there is no intimacy. All he does is watch TV when he is at home. Even if he go out on holidays, he prefers to sleep in or watch TV. He has friends with whom he goes on drinking sessions or watch a game of cricket. But that's about it. He doesn't like to talk or discuss anything at home. Is this even normal? If I tell him he says I am overreacting.

I no longer feel sexually attracted to my wife. Married for 14 years.

I am married since 25 years and aged 45. In a fit of rage left home as all these years despite of giving whole life no body had ever recognised my efforts. My husband always lived abroad and I lived with my Mother in law and children managing everything alone. Being a working lady it was very tedious but still with pride I did so......Always I was asked wha did u do? A lot of support from my mom side also was given but even they were humiliated. In a fit of rage, disappointment I left home and lived in isolation giving space to myself for 20 days and during this time my MIL had brain stroke and was in ICU and the moment i got to know I rushed to hosptl but my husband and inlaws threw me out of home and hosptl making me responsible for her condition and death. Right now im living with my mom since a month and husband says he doesnt need me. I need him , i love him. I am shattered now. Please suggest what do i do? He is not ready to talk to me neother any of my sisters in law are. I am a working lady but family is equally important. Question on my character is also being raised. Kindly suggest

I am 27 years old normal middle class girl , I have a family of 5 including my parents and one sister and brother. I am a software engineer earning 1 lakh. My mother is very happy and proud of me , but at the same time she has burdened me with over expectations . She asked me to renovate our old house , to which i happily agreed . But she kept asking for more. Because of her bad marriage she asked me not to marry , but i already have a boyfriend . I doubt that now more than the fear of marrying wrong person she is more afraid of the money which will be gone out of the house, if i marry someone. Because she never forbid marriage to my sister and brother , in fact she keeps planning for their marriage . i thought i will handle these problems later, by telling her that how nice my boyfriend is. Now the worst part is , she even asked me to buy flat for my brother , after i am done rennovating our house . I denied, which left her confused . But she never pushes my brother towards study and these days even my brother has become careless . She still thinks that my money is our family money forever, because I should never marry . I had several fights with her because I kept nagging her to ask my brother to study . Actually she thinks that I am brilliant and I should do everything for my brother, and my brother is not that intelligent like me . My mom is failed to understand that my brother is a lazy guy who doesn't want to study . She is not focused in overall growth of our family where everyone work hard, she is just happy that I started earning and it doesn't matter much that any other family member is earning or not . All these things are burdening me .

Hi mam,im 38 years old and my husband 41 years old.we are joint family.My husband is in NRI and he comes to india yearly once.He have spend 45 days in a year only.we have two kids one kid is 5 years old and another kid is 8 years old.im staying with my mother in law.we got married since 2014.my husband not giving importance except financial advice.He is always supporting for his mother and his elder sister.Sometimes some conflicts between his mother and me.Many times i accept and give response for her age but sometimes she is speaking rudely.i cant control my anger and shows my anger to her its just 5 percent but 95 percentagd she is doing.whenever i told to my husband he told me that u are the reason for fight and u have to adjust all things.He give first preference for his mother and sister only.All parents are struggling to raise them but he talk that his mother only struggling and give this much life.His parents nothing do special .they are not do any specific or any special things.if i take and talk same like that what will happened.Some arguments and fight will come between us.he didnt accept his mothers mistake.He is good amma payan.And wherever we go he comes along with his mother.Im living with his mother for whole year even in his vacation time also he is not ready to spend some time with me and he didnt respect my feelings.Even lost year kerala trip also he comes along with his mother only.i told him wherever we goto temple we along with your mother but i need to spent time with you alone but he never listen my words and told that his mother never seen before this place.As a son can satisfying her expection.And my side all things doing with my parents is a certain limit.He is going toomuch for his mother and i want to tell one thing for 10 years of marriage life we didnt go any honeymoon trip also.wherever we go just nearby cinima shopping and nearby park we go alone and return back only.i want to spend with him what i have to do but he is not.i need some relief for my routine life.he never understood me.Kindly give some advice to rectify my problem.And in fronf of his son his mother spoke very polite and calm but with me very rude sometimes.I shows my anger with him and he gave me advice to his mother is oldage she is good and something.i got too much anger and fight with him.He always blaming me.What i have to do.

is it ok to approach ex wife .

there is btech IT girl who got 2 chances for internship but she did not get permanent job offer in that. in 2nd internship company terminates her internship tenure in four and half months only due to love affairs with colleague. Her father used to know about these all happening and tried to convince his daughter 100 times but she did not listen advise of her father and starting to make false commitment that I will not talk with that boys. She collapsed her career. Father advised 100 times to focus on career, after settling in career you can go for lover and other things. due to these incidents she is sitting at home without job. her father mentally disturbed very badly and always comes negative thought and effecting father's health also. How can father get rid of these negativity please advise. Her father lover very well she does matter in her life and being a lower income people her father gave up entire thing of personal life but tried to educate all three daughters she is 2 nos. of daughter amongst all three. her father entire hardship is going to be ruined due to these silly things. even elder daughter also does not get success in career. after getting clearance everything she rejected due to medical ground. please help father

Hlo mam my name is harpreet kaur and I love aa person whos name is ArjunSehgal we have intercaste problem my parents says that no matter how big job he have we will not do intercaste mariage now what to do mam pls tell

How to maintain a wife, who is going out of bounds.. we completed 10 yrs of marriage. Should I've to take Sanyasam..? Plz advice.

I'm a 31, female dating a 47-year-old colleague who is separated from his wife and lives with his teenage daughter. He is successful, kind, and emotionally mature. We are happy together, but my parents are completely against it. They want me to marry someone 'age appropriate.' I haven't told my parents that his teenage daughter also dislikes me. I love him a lot but there is also this fear of of never being accepted by either his family or mine. I have not spoken to his family members yet. My friends feel I am overreacting. Can age-gap relationships truly work in the long run? Or am I setting myself up for an obvious emotional breakdown?

Hi madam, i have a big problem , i not able to stay consistent in job , people just kick me out of the job , the reason for this that i had done something bad with my relatives. even i am married i was thrown out of that house too. but i like that guy . but my father insisted for divorce and now i am in the fianl stages of divorce and my mother in law is not a very nice person she will complain about my family what do i do

Hello mam, I am 52 years old & my wife is 50 yrs. we have son who is 18 yrs old. from marriage onwards my wife is pretending to love me & she is keeping double standards with me & my family. we oftenly keeps on fighting of such issues for ignoring her & not giving her time & her pleasures. I have told to discuss the issues with counseller before being seperated. please advice.

I am married for last 3 years. I found out about my wife's sexual past just months into our marriage. I even enquired her about her past before our marriage and told her that I don't tolerate lies and don't believe in premarital sex but she still lied to me and deceived into a fraud marriage. So I started sleeping with prostitutes and call girls as a revenge. I even had an affair with a divorced woman but that didn't last long. I know I didn't do anything wrong. She is the one who is in the wrong for deceiving me into a fraud marriage. She cheated me by lying through her teeth. She cheated me of my choice to choose a compatible life partner. Should I forgive her and live with her? I can't forgive her but I do want a stable life. Though it is still very unlikely that I will stop cheating on her

Hi Anu I'm 35, recently widowed. My husband passed away in a road accident. I was in a state of shock when he left me. I took a break from everything and resumed office only six months ago. A young man from my office, whose engagement was cancelled last year, has started showing interest in me. I don't know if he is doing it out of sympathy that I am a widow. But I am beginning to enjoy his company. I am surprised and also worried if it is too soon. I never believed there would be another guy in my life after my husband. Do you think I am feeling lonely? He's 37, gentle and respectful. We haven't kissed or got intimate. No flirting either. We like each other's company and there is an instant spark how we light each others' lives. I don't know if I am open to love, if this relationship will work. I don't know yet but how do I check if I am emotionally vulnerable? My family and in-laws would disapprove if I moved on 'so soon.' Is it wrong to date someone so early? I am feeling guilty too.

Hi Anu, I'm 29. I was living with my boyfriend in Pune for over two years. Last month, he told me he was going to Nagpur because his mom is unwell. We would chat occasionally because he told me there were connectivity issues. He didn't return my calls for 3 days. I found out from a mutual friend that his family arranged his engagement with someone else. When I confronted him, he said he didn't know how to say no to his parents. He says he still loves me, but is now confused. I feel betrayed and humiliated. I don't know how to react when he calls. He didn't even stand up for me and I introduced him to my parents and friends hoping I am going to spend my life with him.

My wife and I had an arranged marriage six years ago. She is kind and caring, but we haven't been intimate in over a year. She avoids all conversations around it. Whenever I try to get close or suggest something, she cuts me off, saying she's tired or uninterested. But she is normal with her friends. I suspect that she is seeing someone else. I've even suggested family counselling, but she says it's not necessary. I have told her that I have urges and I am managing on my own. I am feeling lonely, frustrated, and emotionally disconnected from her. I casually discussed this with an old married friend and realised that her husband is as unresponsive as my wife. Now we comfort each other and sometimes flirt harmlessly. Am I emotionally cheating? Should I seek counseling or is this marriage already over?

Anu, I saw your podcast on Rediff Are you being forced into marriage? My cousin is deeply in love with someone from her college. Both are 21, recently graduated. My uncle has clearly refused to accept them and is planning to send her abroad to live with our great uncle in Canada. We are a conservative family. Once she reaches Canada they plan to marry her off because she is being emotionally manipulated by our family. I know because I went through something similar. I couldn't contact my boyfriend and he was sent away to another city to look for a job. I waited for him but we couldn't communicate. Thankfully my husband understood and gave me time to accept him. I don't want to take that risk for my sister. I really want to help my cousin as her Canadian visa has already arrived. The boy belongs to a poor family and doesn't have a job yet. He has two elder sisters who are also dependent on him. He is a loving, hard working guy but they will need a few years to be financially independent. How can I help my sister? Please help.

I need some emotional support in making decision in my family. Can you guide me

hi mam please help me i was in relashionship for 1 year with a boy. we broke up after a huge fight it has been 6 months of our brokeup but he backmails me to leak my private pics and show them to my parents. although he blackmails me only once after that i blocked him from everywhere but he calls me daily with different numbers i didnot responded him at all . but he sounded like pscho he start messageging my frds and share my chats to them . i am so afraid of him i can not tell to my parents as my parents are not that open and very strict. i always start overthing please help me how to get out of it

Hi I am a lady aged 37 and I have been married for more than 17 years now...my husband has never allowed me to work,go out alone or give me money not that he can't afford...he takes care of his children when needed...now i started doing

Hello mam. I am 31, and married for three years. My husband and I both work and split expenses. Last month, I found out that he had booked a house with his mother without informing me. He excluded me completely and told me after the registration and stamp duty was paid. When I confronted him, he said it was for his mother's security. But what about mine? I cook, clean, work full-time, and yet, I wasn't considered in a major life decision. What kind of partnership is this? I am upset and he knows it. What should I do?

Anu mam, my wife and I have been married for 18 months. I have always grown up around girls. My best friends are girls, one is married, another is single. I have two sisters, one elder, one younger, who is not married and lives with us. She is in college and financially dependent on me. Two of my closest friends from office are also women, and nothing's ever happened between us. But now, my wife says it's inappropriate to chat with girls. If I am late from work, or stay up late replying to texts, she accuses me of hiding things but it's not true. The first time she got suspicious, I gave her my password, and even showed her my chat history, but it seems, it's not enough for her to trust. She says if I love her, I should choose her over 'outsiders.' How is this fair? I feel suffocated already. Will this marriage work?

, I have been married for almost 14 years and have a 10 year old. A few months ago my husband found some intimate chats of mine with someone else. I am extremely remorseful of my actions. Honestly those chats happened because my husband never showed me any love or concern. However I know that's not excuse to have those chats. After seeing those chats he got extremely angry and threw me out of the house. It's been more than 3 months. He is not willing to forgive me. He wants separation and he has told our daughter also that we are separated. I am so heartbroken that because of my blunder I lost my husband and daughter. Is there any way I can get back with my husband

Hi ma'am I'm 25 years old and my relationship with my parents is getting sour since a very long time they always want me to do everything that makes them happy and think about their happiness if I ever think about my happiness or do anything that makes me happy then they fight with me and portray me as a bad daughter and my dad has always said that if she will ever think about her happiness or do anything that makes her happy then I'm gonna leave everything and go so does my mom she also threatened to cut ties with me if I ever do anything that makes me happy my parents never supported me for anything they never ask me who I wanna get married to who I'll b happy with what profession i wanna take nothing but it's always about them in my family there are 16 members who have had love marriage and inter religion marriages my grandmother stays 15kms away from my house she has 3 kids 2 of her daughters had a love marriage one to a muslim one to a hindu her one daughter ran and got married to a hindu guy at that time my mom dad and her mom didn't even say a word but accepted him with open arms and my grandmother got her 2nd daughter married to her boyfriend who is a muslim during Covid 2020 without informing any of our relatives when my parents got to know about her daughters marriage they invited her for lunch at my place they didn't even say a word or opposed that marriage but accepted him with open arms and showered them with love When I fell in love with a hindu guy my mom started to seperate me from him and she is telling everyone to brainwash me to leave the person person I love and find a suitable Christian guy for me when ever we go to my grandmother's house my mom always brings up my boyfriend's topic and start fighting with me infront of them we went there 3 times and all the 3 times she fighted with me and told everyone to brainwash me my mom always support my grandmother's children if anything happens to them she will call them 10 times and ask how they are and when my grandmother was ill treating me my mom didn't even take a stand for me or raised her voice for me but she was watching everything as a movie is going on when I was crying after we came back to my house my mom didn't even ask me what am I going through she always support my grandmother who did bad with me if they will say not to let her work and get her married my mom will listen to her and her daughters and my grandmother also started forcing me that I should also listen to her and get married to a guy who they choose and i should not at all think about my happiness and what makes me happy in my life and i should think about her and my parents happiness and my uncle who lives in Hyderabad he also started to get interfere in my personal life since the time he got to know I fell in love with a hindu guy he also started to seperate me from him and forcefully get me marriage to a guy of his choice my uncle's wife has been expired 15 years back and this age he has a girlfriend who lives in banglore she is a divorcee and her daughter is also a divorcee who he met in Facebook i didn't interfere in anyone's personal life or seperated them from their boyfriend or girlfriend and everyone who have had love marriages in my family and everyone are happy with their partners when it comes to me my parents uncle my grandmother and her daughters who have had love marriage always try to seperate me from my boyfriend and forcefully get me married to a Christian guy if anyone in my family will fall in love with a inter religion person then he/she is a good guy/girl according to them if I fall in love they seperate me from him and forcefully get me Married to a Christian guy i told my parents many times to talk to him and know him but they are like no we don't like him and they always say he is not a good person and always judge my boyfriend even without talking or knowing him once but for others even without talking to their partners they say he is a good person and they will accept him with open arms and also invite them for lunch and everything and will always stay at their place during trips but if I do they will mentally harass me to leave the person I love and get married to a guy of their choice recently we went to Bangalore for my sister's marriage who also had a love marriage at that time my uncle had come to the wedding and he was asking my mom did u brainwash her to leave him and get her married to someone else and my mom was saying yes I did with my aunt's daughter who also had love marriage I don't understand why they always try to seperate me from the person I love and forcefully get me married to someone else who I'm not at all interested in when I'm telling them about him they are not ready to listen to me at all plus they are mentally harassing me to leave him if I take help of any of my relatives who had love marriages in this matter they will not listen to me but force me to listen to my parents and do as they say what should I do ma'am I'm shattered

Hlo mam my name is harpreet kaur and I love the person whos name is ArjunSehgal we are intercaste i m in big tension will our parents aggree for marriage

Hello Anu Mam, I have a friend who has been married for 10 years and with 2 kids one 8 yr old daughter and a two year old son. His wife whom he loved and trusted so much had cheated on him with one of her friends for almost 3 years which he came to know about last year. Though he could not digest that and thought of divorcing her but thinking about his children's future he changed his mind and told her to end all communication with him in order to save this marriage .She too had agreed . He hadn't told about this to anyone except me including her parents whom he respected a lot and hence didn't want to hurt them ... But after 3 months he came to know that she was still in contact with her friend using another phone without his knowledge and her affair also had not stopped . This time he couldn't tolerate and told this to her parents and told them that he would be filing for divorce. Her parents literally begged with him not to do so and requested him to give one last chance as they would mend her this time . He told them that even after giving her a chance to mend herself she has cheated again and broken his trust and that he couldn't live with her without trust . So he had decided to move on but his wife and her mother threatened him that they will have no other choice but to commit suicide if he doesnt forgive his wife. He was also worried about his children's future without their mother .. Based on some elders and friends (including mine )advice he gave her one last chance but on condition that there should not be any communication with her affair partner in future and if he comes to know about them being in any kind of contact he would be filing for divorce . His wife and her parents agreed to this and he took her back though not wholeheartedly but due to circumstances. Though they lived under one roof they did not live a harmonious life and lived like strangers and there used to be quarrels very frequently between them . This sometimes had gone physical and on many occasions his wife had threatened him with suicide... And in March this year he came to know that she was in contact with her affair partner secretly using another phone. When confronted she told they were just talking and nothing else...Though there may not be any physical contact this time my friend is very upset and adamant that he wouldn't live with her and want a mutual divorce ...His wife is not agreeing for it and threatening that she would write his name and end her life if he goes for a contested divorce. My friend is too worried about the legal complications if such a thing happens . He is also concerned about his kids especially his daughters future if he goes for a contested divorce based on adultery , the impact it would have on his daughter s future ..He doesn't want to spoil his daughters future ..At the same time he says he cannot imagine living with his wife again after being cheated on twice... Kindly advice what should I advise him ...

When I was in MBA first year . I had a boyfriend from ma graduation and now we have completed 9 year happy and we decided that we will say it to your Parents but when I was in MBA 1 YEAR we went to water park and we had some normal photo and video and after 3 year some today spread ot all our my village. Because of that my father took me home and told me to leave job and he want me to marry the one I don't like and he thinks more about the other people. He says me that I have to do what he want Because I love other more than me. And now he is forcing me to stay home and my uncle is harrasing me badly but still my father support him. I tried to took help to police but my father has lots of money do he is not afraid of than. Now what to do can someone help me

I was in online relationship and my ex is blackmailing me with my private pics

My daughter just passed cbse 10, we are OK with her marks as she never studies but still scored decent marks, the issue is she doesn't listen, disrespect and always on phone playing free fire and talking on phone with boys

I've been married for 19 years. We live in a joint family with my husband and in-laws. Since last year, my father has recently become bedridden and needs constant care. Since he lives in another city, I have been travelling constantly to take turns to attend him. I want to bring him to our home, but my mother-in-law strongly objects saying they will lose their privacy. My husband tries to mediate but often ends up siding with his mother, saying she's getting old too. I am not able to decide being a daughter and a daughter-in-law. Is it unfair of me to expect support for my father, or am I compromising too much in this marriage?

After my retirement, my wife and I moved in with our elder son and daughter-in-law, who offered to take care of us. But ever since my younger son got married, he barely calls or visits. Recently, he told my sister that my presence in his brother's house is the reason he avoids coming over. He feels suffocated and says we didn't give him equal attention growing up. I'm confused and hurt. My wife says we should give him space, but I feel emotionally abandoned by him. Have I failed as a father, or is this a common phase in families with grown children?

For the past few months, I spend a lot of time in the social media scrolling. I took 3 days leave from the office to fix this. Yet, those 3 days went by scrolling the social media. Help me please.

I am very behind of everybody in life, whether in relationships, study, career. How can i gear up and compete with people of my age.

Hi, I'm 44, never married. I have been on several dating apps and matrimonial sites. Every time I start talking to someone or go on a few dates, my family finds out and starts interfering. My mom would ask questions, judge what I am wearing. Worse, she will investigate the guy on his social media. She has sent friendship requests to so many strangers just to get access into their account. I am tired of being treated like a teenager. I want to explore relationships at my own pace without being shamed or forced to explain every choice. How do I draw the line?

I'm 37, successful in my career, live in my own flat. I am financially secure. But everyone around me keeps saying, 'you've become too independent, that's why you're still single.' Most men I meet either feel intimidated or want me to adjust my lifestyle to fit into theirs. What if I don't want to change myself to make someone else comfortable? Do strong, emotionally mature men exist? Or do I need to compromise to avoid being alone forever?

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Gurus, My father passed away when I was 27 years old, I was not employed before that, now I am employed in a field I don't know much about and the work is giving me anxiety and depression, also I need to stay away from my wife and child. Do many people go through these feelings ? I feel as I was shielded from people and work environment i am finding the work grind too harsh and feel like giving up, i have accepted my situation but can't find guts to work against these feelings What should I do ?

It's been three months I got married. My wife is a financial analyst in a company (working from home) . I am myself having WHF job. She was earlier doing WFO in gurgaon and now i she is facing some difficulty due to env change. We live with my parents in our hometown and there is always some small things ongoing amongst the family members. What should I do? How to balance between my mother and my wife

I am a 45-year-old divorced entrepreneur based in Pune. Over the past few years, I have been in three short-lived relationships -- all with people who couldn't commit or were emotionally distant. I have done some introspection and even tried therapy, but I still find myself falling for the same type of women. I want to understand what's drawing me to them and how to break this cycle.

I am a 41 yr old man. Married for the last 17 yrs, my wife is now 37 yrs old. w are Bengalis but now due t my work stay in Bengaluru. we had an arranged marriage but soon after the marriage I found her to be very irresponsible, she had the mentality that her husband has to be responsible for all her whims & fancies without any expectation from her. Though her family was more like ours middle class & financially poorer then us Initially I thought that she will mature with time. Within 1 yr we had our 1st kid who is 16 yrs old & in 11th now. Thinking she will now be responsible as mother but found very little change & I had to force/push her to do maternal duties while I managed the other things despite myself working as an engineer in an mnc & she being a housewife. next year we had our 2nd kid. This pressure was reflected in my office & my performance suffered, anyway I managed to stay afloat. Giving her any family task always resulted in her doing a coverup job & when things went wrong I had to set it right as the family or there will be monetary loss. Obviously I used to tell her about all this, then she will be OK for 1-2 weeks then again back to same. Even taking care of the children there studies soon became my responsibility. One thing was good was our sexual life which what I understand she is good & this gave me somewhat something to bear her Though other factor like middle class mentality that parents should not move out for the kids sake kept me somewhat tied to her & tried to make myself happy.Last year around June she told me that she will like to leave me as she wants to marry one of her telegu friend's brother who works in Dubai now, given my above reason I was not very upset on hearing this but was worried about our kids the eldest then gave his 10th exam & younger was promoted to class 10. After some talks & persuasion she agreed that she will wait for 3 yrs ie the younger kid to complete her schooling & going to college, & also keep the whole things secret with only 4-5 people knowing it, this she has responsibly done. Now its 1 year & I am in a very bad situation & need your support first she is now completely without any responsibility of the kids or family, she just cooks the meals sees that the maids work & even if I tell her to look into what the kids are studying or take the small responsibility like waking them up or minor things like go to the shop etc , she simply declines & always she is busy browsing or chatting, in Feb her to be husband came to Bangalore & she spend 2 nights with him in a resort. I did not want the kids to know about all this as it will mentally disturb them so I had to make stories to them about there mom going to a friend's marriage etc. He is again coming in mid July & they are planning to go out again.. My delima is I can bear the whole thing with a glimmer of hope that our separation maybe avoided which makes a somewhat social negativeness for me my parents & my kids but am I doing the right thing or being desperate is what I should be? The second point is something which I am feeling very uneasy to write, though we have decided to separate & she is having sex with this guy but we are still have sex, I dont want to really worry that she having sex with me is cheating with her to be husband but as I told you before it is really relaxing & gives me the strength to bear all this... Please suggest what I should do, immediately leave her which will end the story though I am not really ready if I & the kids will be able to take the social slur or wait for another 2 years with the hope that maybe things will change

I was only 23 when my mother left this world. Me & my father were alone after that. My father was asking me for marriage, so that a girl can come in our home & manage household chores. I wanted to focus on my career for at least 6 more years. That's why I denied. We somehow managed for 1 year after my mother left us, but after that my father started pressuring me to marriage. I was still not ready when I became 24. So, my father found a girl for himself. Co-incidence was that the girl was just 1 year elder than me. My father's master plan was that he will make us pretend that it's my wife in front of the world. I liked the idea & the girl was also ready. Don't know how that girl was convinced to marry my father. She is from decent family. Even her parents don't know that my father is her real husband. So, my father made me married to her in front of all. We managed everything excellently from all the rituals to our relatives. We acted well. In front of the world & in papers, she was my wife, but biologically she became my step mother. They got 2 children within 6-8 years, but I got stuck without marriage because according to everyone, I am married. Now, I am 39 now & my father also left this world last year. I am unmarried & she (step mother) is a widow. I & her both are feeling alone in this world without a partner. My step mother suggested if she can become my real wife. We both like each other's company but I don't know if there will be any consequences in the future. Nobody will say anything because nobody knows the truth except both of us. Divorce is not a good option because there are children. What do you suggest ??

What do I do .My husband flirrts with females outside and my maid servants openly

I am 23 years old. I am in relationship from 8 years. I am Hindu brahmin and He is Sikh . so its inter-religion . my mother and brother accept my relationship. but my father is so conservative. wo kidhar aur rishta dekh rhe hai mera .and he is like usko bhi mar duga aur tumko bhi. but itte door aake i can't loose him. we seriously love each other. but bhagna bhi nahi chahte dono. what should I do ? how to convince my father?

I am happy with my current life i got a job everything is going well but the thing is my mom don't understand that i need time for my self after slogging myself at work i relax myself by watching web series reading a book or going out for walk she follows bageshwar dham baba and expects me to do the same which i don't like i am not that religious i do have Faith in god but she is just to much what can i do plz help?