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helen Question by helen on Mar 13, 2023Hindi
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my husband doubts me with any guy

Ans: Dear Helen,
I don't know what your question is. But I can safely assume that his doubting you bothers you.
Two scenarios here to consider:
1. Has any repeated behavior of yours that he feels responsible for causing him to doubt you?
OR
2. Has he always felt insecure if any man/male friend talks to you?

In the first case, it may just help to sir=t with him and clarify this, so that you give a voice to his concern about you. It maybe that he is worried about society or your safety. Whatever it is, he's coming from a space of concern, so appreciate it and do what it takes to bring back harmony.

But if it's #2, you have married someone who is insecure and builds stories around this. He seriously needs to work on this, else he will suffocate you with his doubts and slowly it will lead to him stalking you on social media and making sure he knows your every move. Work through a close friend or family member of his who can be neutral and can show him a different side of the story. It may work; but make sure to nip it right away, else it can break down the foundation of your marriage which is built on trust and love. If this doesn't work, seek professional help to help him combat his fears and insecurities of losing you to another man.

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 28, 2024Hindi
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I am 65 years old and have history of sleeplessness and on tranquilizers. about two years back, it got so bad that one night I wanted to end it all. fortunately my wife was around and calmed me down. We saw a psychiatrist the next day and she put me on anti depressants. Since then I am sleeping well. But the fear is I feel I will not sleep without medication. Is it okay to take this medication life long. Is there a way I can go to sleep without medication like everybody else? allthough I am a diabetic my general health is good as I take part in endurance running and related activities.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You need medicines to sleep and now you worry that without that you worry that you won't sleep. That's how these medicines can be...make you dependent on them...
The better choice will be to grow out of them...any kind of dependence of anything or anyone is never healthy.
Speak with your doctor and state that you do not want to be dependent on medicines for something as natural as sleep...He/She will suggest ways to wean you off from the medicines and also hoping that they put you on some holistic treatment like meditation or other any alternative therapies that are known to eliminate the source of sleeplessness in you.
Be patient with this line of treatment as it will take time to identify the root of the problem but once it is found, it becomes easy to treat it once and for all hopefully taking you off medicines fully someday.
Kindly explore this option as this will help you to take charge of your life and sleep as well.

All the best!
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my husband died when my son is12.5yrs. he was fond ofcricket and after my sons birth he trained him my son is now 15 he is spineer and play verywell. secondly after my son sbirth he always with my son because he left job and taken vrs. i m single mother now. my son didnot cry cry when he dead nor whenever i talked withhim he didnot want to discuss about him . he irritate. and never from his side he talked about his papa. why i didnot understand. and what to do so that he will talk about his papa. iknow he has verygood memories with him he alawys pamper my son when he was alive. suggest what to do
Ans: Dear Shobha,
I am truly sorry for your loss...Loss of a loved one is one of the toughest phases in anyone's life!
Also, you must understand that each of us have a different way of dealing and coping with loss. Your son possibly feels more comfortable masking his sadness and not talking about how much he misses having his father around. Since you say that he has good memories of his father, spend time with him not discussing his father but actually playing on those memories and keeping those happy memories alive. Since, they bonded over cricket, talk more about that with him and how his father would have been proud of him now. Someday, when he is ready to talk about his father, he will...give him time and replay the good times as a family and especially cricket with his father.
The only time you need to be concerned is when he starts to show any signs of withdrawal from life in general...since you haven't mentioned this, I assume that your son is fine and is just not willing to discuss his father. Let him be...each of us process grief differently. Just bond with him as a caring mother that you are...that will keep him safe and stable.

All the best!
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