He always fight with me how I handle this situation

Ans: Move on

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The same way you ask your children to behave in front of others without throwing tantrums.
You do expect your children to follow that instruction, don't you? Then the same applies to adults as well. The reason we explode in the open is because we have taken the other person for granted and also not kept a check on our own behavior.
So, start practising the art of silence when you feel triggered and provoked. Requesting the spouse to take the chat in private also will help him/her to understand that it's important to keep certain things between the two of you.
When in private, talk without confrontation and with an intent to resolve. The more you approach it this way, the more this will become the norm for conflict resolution between spouses. So, no tantrums and yes to patient conversations.

All the best!

Ans: It’s common for fights to increase in a relationship when emotions are high and both partners overreact to small issues. This pattern often stems from unresolved emotions, stress, or a lack of effective communication. The good news is that recognizing this dynamic means you're already taking the first step toward improvement.

Start by reflecting on the triggers for your arguments. Think about what situations or topics usually lead to conflicts and whether they arise from unmet needs, miscommunications, or external stressors. Understanding the root causes can help you both address the real issues rather than reacting to the surface level.

When emotions run high, it’s easy to say or do things in the heat of the moment that you later regret. To prevent this, both of you can practice pausing during disagreements. Agree on a signal or phrase to use when things start to escalate, giving each other space to cool down before continuing the conversation. This approach allows you to respond calmly rather than reacting impulsively.

Another important step is to focus on improving how you communicate. Instead of placing blame or using accusatory language, express your feelings using "I" statements. For example, say, "I feel hurt when this happens" instead of "You always do this." This small shift can reduce defensiveness and encourage understanding.

It’s also crucial to nurture the positive aspects of your relationship. Make time for activities that you both enjoy and that bring you closer, whether it’s a shared hobby, a walk, or simply having an uninterrupted conversation. These moments of connection can help balance out the tension from disagreements.

Finally, remember that resolving conflicts takes patience and teamwork. It’s not about determining who’s right or wrong but about finding solutions that work for both of you. If you feel stuck or find that the fights are becoming overwhelming, consider seeking guidance from a counselor or therapist. A neutral third party can help you both understand your patterns and develop healthier ways to handle conflicts, ensuring the relationship grows stronger.

Ans: Dear Anshu,
I am really sorry that you are in such a situation. Please tell him how sad it makes you feel. Sometimes our partners don’t realise that their actions are hurting us, and hence, communicating our feelings is very important in a relationship. Tell him that you feel hurt that he only speaks to you when he is in some problem. See if he changes his ways or continues to do the same. This way, you are giving him a chance before judging him or reconsidering the relationship.

If he changes, then great. If not, I would suggest you rethink the relationship or have another direct conversation, because you don’t deserve to be treated like this.

Hope this helps.