my husband is miser what to do

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Oh, boy!

When you’re living with a miser, and particularly if he holds the purse strings in your household, I don’t see an easy solution.

The only thing I can think of is, make your own money and spend it how you see fit. Because when you’re nowhere on the same wavelength financially, it’s unlikely that either party will change their ways.

People don’t change. Compromises can be made, and maybe you can work through your disagreements by discussing each expense, but it will remain an issue.

I would suggest seeing a marital counsellor, who can maybe explain to him that he’s being irrational about money. Hearing it from someone else may give him some food for thought.

Ans: Fighting with your partner can be a difficult and stressful experience. If you're finding that you and your partner are constantly fighting, it may be helpful to take a step back and reflect on what may be causing the conflict.

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Ans: Dear Helen,
I don't know what your question is. But I can safely assume that his doubting you bothers you.
Two scenarios here to consider:
1. Has any repeated behavior of yours that he feels responsible for causing him to doubt you?
OR
2. Has he always felt insecure if any man/male friend talks to you?

In the first case, it may just help to sir=t with him and clarify this, so that you give a voice to his concern about you. It maybe that he is worried about society or your safety. Whatever it is, he's coming from a space of concern, so appreciate it and do what it takes to bring back harmony.

But if it's #2, you have married someone who is insecure and builds stories around this. He seriously needs to work on this, else he will suffocate you with his doubts and slowly it will lead to him stalking you on social media and making sure he knows your every move. Work through a close friend or family member of his who can be neutral and can show him a different side of the story. It may work; but make sure to nip it right away, else it can break down the foundation of your marriage which is built on trust and love. If this doesn't work, seek professional help to help him combat his fears and insecurities of losing you to another man.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Helen,
I have answered this question of yours yesterday.
You can find it by clicking on this link below:
https://gurus.rediff.com/question/question-details/5136075

Best wishes!