Hi Shalini, I am 57 , teaching in a college. Separated from my wife and the father a 26year old boy , an art critic. I have bought him a flat and given him financial independence. There is no jois de vivre in my life. I feel like having a relationship. Am I wrong ? Is it possible ?

Ans: Dear Sangeeta,
What is your question? I only can assume that you are confused about being in a relationship with your married colleague.
Yes, it can become an ugly mess when his wife finds out...also, when there are so many other eligible men out there, why would you choose a married man and taking in all the complications that will come with it?
And mind you, the moment his wife gives him the ultimatum, he will run away from this before he even has a chance to tell you or explain anything to you.
So, spare yourself of all this unwanted excitement and anguish and invite people who will respect you for who you are and where you are in your life at this moment.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Ruta,
You want to get into a relationship with a married man? Will that not complicate your already complicated life?
You certainly deserve to be loved and taken care of BUT do not jump towards a married man...you do understand that his priorities will lie with his first family and this will hurt you again and you will feel neglected AGAIN...

What is he planning with his marriage? Does his wife know about your relationship? Is he going to end his marriage and then marry you? These questions need answers and then you can decide for yourself keeping in mind that you need to take of yourself emotionally in this second association.

All the best!
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Ans: Dear ShriDevi,Yes, it is absolutely possible to be in a relationship again. Having been divorced for eight years and raising two children, you have likely experienced personal growth, resilience, and a deep understanding of what you want from a partner. Love and companionship are not limited by past experiences, and you deserve happiness just as much as anyone else.

What matters most is whether this new relationship brings you joy, respect, and emotional support. If you feel comfortable, secure, and valued in it, then there’s no reason to hold back because of your past. However, since you have children, it’s also important to consider how this relationship fits into their lives. Take your time, ensure that the person you’re with is understanding of your responsibilities, and communicate openly about your expectations.

Most importantly, don’t let societal opinions or self-doubt make you feel that you don’t deserve love again. You do. If this relationship feels right, allow yourself to embrace it with confidence and happiness.