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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 18, 2023Hindi
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I am currently in my late 30s and i am unmarried. Currently i am chatting with a person whom i found on a matrimonial site but he is an introvert so i am.But is is extremely introvert he is not opening up completely its going to be one month since we are chatting. He calls me everyday.But he talks very formally.Does he has interest in me we are going to meet for a second time in a few days.Pls help.Should i marry him?

Ans: It's positive that you've been in communication for a month and that he makes an effort to call you every day. However, it's important to recognize that everyone has their own communication style, and being introverted doesn't necessarily mean a lack of interest. Some people take time to open up, especially in the early stages of getting to know someone. Introverts often prefer to think before they speak and may be more reserved in expressing their thoughts and feelings. If he is consistently reaching out and maintaining contact, it could be a sign of interest, even if the communication seems formal. Meeting in person can provide valuable insights into his personality. People may be more comfortable and expressive in person than they are online or over the phone. Pay attention to his body language, facial expressions, and overall demeanor during your second meeting. Encourage open communication by asking open-ended questions that invite him to share more about himself. This can help create a more relaxed and natural conversation If you feel comfortable, you might express to him that you would like to get to know him better and that you appreciate open and honest communication. This can create an environment where both of you feel more comfortable sharing. Before making any decisions about marriage, it's crucial to have open and honest conversations about your values, goals, and expectations for the future. Take the time to understand each other's personalities and communication styles, and assess whether you share common values and interests.

Remember, the decision to marry someone is significant, and it's important to feel a genuine connection and mutual understanding. If you have any doubts or concerns, it's advisable to address them before making any commitments.

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Hi Anu, my story is quite big. I am 43 and I love a man of my caste who is 52. He is not married and my father had showed me his profile in 2006 for marriage. Those days I was not interested in marriage and so I rejected him. I saw his profile in March 2019 in matrimony and sent him interest and he gave me a reply. I fell in love with his profile in 2020 and further gave him reply on his mobile. I went to see him in Pune in 2020 October. Since then we have only been chatting on WhatsApp. When I asked for commitment in Feb 2021, he said his sister is not keeping well. Then he lost his father in August 2021. Earlier in 2020 he used to call me and we used to talk for hours. It all stopped in 2021 February when his sister fell sick. Now I stopped messaging him but he still keeps sending me some or other forwards. He says he wants to marry me (He said this Jan last year when I asked him if he is interested in marriage) but this year has been tough. I am really fed up of the delay. I still love him very much. He is very intelligent and professionally qualified and has good hobbies -- he is a Himalayan trekker and has sent me pics of his trek. He also encourages me to do many things but I am bored of the delay. Should I trust him and wait for him?
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Dear VG,

It looks likely that when you sent him your interest request, your feelings were from 2006. But hey, everyone has grown older and wiser since then.

Also, to expect him to have the same level of interest that you have, isn’t wise as he has led a different life to yours.

What happens is when we start our lives together when we are younger, we merge on a lot of ideals and thoughts.

When the same marriage/companionship/relationship happens when we are older, having had separate experiences and a different life, we might not have much in common in terms of thoughts and way of being in life.

Given that, have an honest chat with him face to face, and express what you want out of this connection.

Give him time to process his own life, his needs, his wants, his priorities and then get back to you.

If he is clearly not into this, no point waiting for him and tugging at your heart strings.

So the only way that I feel is to have a mature face to face talk where both of you have space to be assertive and communicate boldly. It will help both of you to decide what’s best.

All the best!

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I am a 25-year-old woman who is still not settled in life. I loved my relative who is 10 years older than me. He also not settled in life. He doesn't have property, no good family (his brothers are not good). When he asks about marriage I used to delay because of my career. At one point of time, he lost interest because of this delay. He is a good person but when we are spending time I am not much comfortable and excited as I was in the initial days of love – be it chats or calls. Recently I chatted with a stranger in Facebook and felt happier chatting with him than with my boyfriend. Somewhere I feel like I want to cut this relationship but I can't imagine him with our girls. If I marry him I won't get good family (relatives). He is not looking as good as he did before. Will I suffer any sexual issues with him in the future? He is still waiting for me.
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Dear Unknown,

It seems like you have moved away in mind and heart.

It does happen in few relationships as there might have not been a strong emotion attached when the relationship began, or the emotion ceases to exist as you have moved on and changed.

Good or bad? Neither…it happens.

Be rightful and do not lead him on.

It is not his fault that you feel the way that you do. But you do owe it to him to tell him how you feel now, so that he is not living in a love bubble.

So, break it to him gently and wait for his response. It maybe anger, sadness, disappointment.

Be with him through the process. He may not want to speak with you for a while till he gets a chance to process it fully; accept that. He may blame you; accept that as well.

It is not your fault, but he will not have any other safe space to vent out his feelings. And once this stage has passed, discuss it very maturely together as to what the next steps can be.

Till then, it will be only you dealing with this in the relationship when it has to be the business of both.

And as far as sexual issues go, I don’t find any relevance of it as age gap never hurt anyone’s sex life.

And what do his relatives have to do in your relationship? It’s the two of you (if you choose to be together mutually) and anyone else is just an unnecessary add-on piling on to make more mischief. Draw boundaries and live happy.

Now, time to come out clean and then maturely process and decide the future course of action.

My best wishes to you!

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Hi Madam, I am 36 yrs old girl, working in central govt, I lost my parents long back, all my siblings are elder & busy in their family, brothers doesnt even talk to me, so there is no one who is seriously finding boy for my marriage, I tried through matrimonial apps, it didnt work. Based on my colleague advise, I tried through dating apps but nobody is genuine there, most of them are looking for hook up. Finally I found one guy who is 3 years elder than me but come to know within 3months that he too married but we are in touch through calls & msgs from past 6 years, since I stay alone at quarters, he met me more than 30 times at my place, even spent nights with me but never forced me for anything that I dont like. I love him a lot but he is married so I dont want have physical relationship with him but I too have biological urges but I am scared of getting pregnant or even loosing virginity which might affect my marriage, at the same time I dont have any hopes left on my marriage. This guy has lots of patience , we meet, drink together , do all things except intercourse , could you pls advise me whether I should have sex with him? also I stopped using dating apps as I love this guy.
Ans: I read your question a few times...I will respond it in 3 parts
Part 1:
Current relationship with someone who is not available - You are 36 and are smart to take life decisions. You can do as you wish but incase you get intimate - keep it to that only. Do not let your emotions come to play and get used to him - treat this relationship as a casual relationship which it is already. As for getting pregnant - take precautions, but more than pregnancy you should be worried about STD's hope this man is clean. As for you stopping your search because of this man - Remember - He is NOT AVAILABLE - so rethink why are you being available for someone who is not available to you. You and only you are responsible for your current situation. You have the mind to decide if you wish to continue to know or him or stop this relationship.

Part 2:
Finding someone compatible/ likeminded can become easy if you are (a) not in a hurry (b) know your dealbreakers and negotiables (c) feel confident and good about yourself...if you have these things in place then you would need patience and with that you will find your person - online or offline.

Part 3:
Its unfortunate you lost your parents - a virtual hug coming your way. While parents and sibling do help in introducing their people to others its wrong to Expect them to help - its your relationship and its ok to find your person, in fact its awesome to do so.
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Hi Mam, I wanted to keep it anonymous. I am 26years old female, my parents are looking for a suitable alliance for me. They came with a proposal from a guy's family and they wanted to have a formal meet in a temple. We all met in the temple the guy's family looked good they talked in a nice manner myself and the guy had a seperate conversation. Before going his parents told that he is an introvert and wont speak much. while we went to talk i was the one asking him questions and he only replied for that and inturn asked me the same question. I am an extrovert so i did the most of the talking part i didnt wanted to make the convo boring without answering anything so i was coming up with new questions. We spoke for around 10-15mins and then went to the place where our parents were sitting, his parents asked me to tell the answer immediately but i told them that i will tell the decision once i reach home. His parnets talked to him seperately and asked him the decision and he said yes it seems. We left the temple then, after two days when my parents asked me what was my decision i told them that though he is a nice guy i cant see him as my partner and if were to marry him that would be for your happiness i will not be able to marry him whole heartedly was my answer, then my parents spoke to his parents and told that if you want to talk to him again meet him somewhere and then talk and decide. I thought okay lets give it a try and said yes, we met after a week in a cafe. He initially asked me about my work and then i asked the same after that again he didnt speak much, i always wanted my partner to speak and have fun conversation with me. Though its our second meet i wanted him to atleast talk little bit that the first one but he didnt do much talking part. I was again talking and we left after 30mins. My parents were trying to convince me a lot, i told them that my intuition doesn't work with this guy(I am firm believer of intuition i have been doing things based on my intuition only) but my parents were trying to convince me telling you dont know what you want we will only know what you want, you will be happy if you marry this guy. But my soul doesnt want to marry this guy it seems im not able to accept my parents convincing words. If i were to marry him that will only be my parents choice and not my choice. What should i do now?
Ans: Well, this conversation requires a discussion - but I will attempt responding based on what you have shared. You should know introverts take time in opening up...and that should be respected. Its possible when you know each other, he may still not open up with others, but with you he is talkative. What is bothersome here is you intuition, your 6th sense - which makes you uncomfortable - question it, why do you think that is the case. If I was in a similar situation I would have asked to meet this gentleman 3-4 times more - and would observe more and talk less :)....maybe listen more and ask fewer questions. If you do meet him ask him what is making him say yes. Let him know that it bothers you that he responds in short sentences. But after that play games together - from board games to games like 3 things you wish to have in your partner to 3 qualities you wish you partner works upon. You need to answer this as well. Ask him his 3 strengths and share yours, share personality traits you need to work on and ask his.....keep the conversations light and fun....and then question your intuition again...and if it does not agree then do what works for you. Make parents sit down and explain it to them without getting emotional or raising your voice. Hope this helps.
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Ultimately, it's important to stay proactive, adaptable, and open-minded as you navigate your academic and career journeys. Keep exploring opportunities, gaining experience, and pursuing your passion for biotechnology, and you'll find a path that leads to success and fulfillment in the field.
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Mai 27sal ki ak ladki hu. Mainne diploma and engineering kiya hu Instrumentation ke upar. Meri academic score 60percentage nehi hai. English mai bhi bohot weak hu. Maine 2022mai engineering complete kiya hu. Coding knowledge bhi jada nehi hai. Last year as customer support kam kiya tha. Tabiyet kharap hone ke karon job chor diya. Last 6maine se ghar pe betha hu. Bohot dhunda job nehi mila. Please mujhe thoda help karo.
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Remember that finding a job takes time and effort, so be patient with yourself and stay committed to your job search goals. Keep refining your approach, seeking opportunities for growth and development, and maintaining a positive attitude as you navigate through this challenging period.
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I am working as Branch Manager in Bank. My nature is more talkative and also due to my job many customers are meeting me. This fact increases my talkative nature and due to this though customer is satisfying my working time get reduced and I can't do my office work. Please advice about how to overcome this.
Ans: It's great that you're aware of the impact your talkative nature has on your work efficiency. Here are some strategies to help you manage your talkative tendencies while balancing customer satisfaction and your office responsibilities by establishing clear boundaries for your interactions with customers. While it's important to provide excellent customer service, set limits on the length and depth of conversations to ensure you can prioritize your office work. Allocate specific time slots during your day for customer interactions and office tasks. Use techniques like time blocking to schedule dedicated periods for meeting with customers and focusing on your administrative duties. Identify your most critical office tasks and prioritize them based on importance and urgency. Focus on completing high-priority tasks during designated office hours, and schedule customer meetings around these priorities. Delegate certain customer interactions or administrative tasks to your team members or support staff. Empower your team to handle routine inquiries or transactions, freeing up your time to focus on strategic priorities. When engaging with customers, practice active listening to understand their needs and concerns effectively. Summarize key points and address their inquiries efficiently to prevent conversations from veering off-topic. Clearly communicate your availability and office hours to customers. Set realistic expectations regarding response times for inquiries or follow-ups, and inform customers of alternative points of contact for urgent matters. Implement visual cues or signals to indicate when you're available for conversations with customers and when you need uninterrupted time for office work. For example, use a "Do Not Disturb" sign or closed office door during focused work sessions. Reflect on your communication habits and identify triggers or patterns that contribute to excessive talking. Practice self-awareness and mindfulness techniques to manage impulsivity and maintain focus during work hours.

Consider participating in workshops, seminars, or training programs focused on time management, communication skills, and customer service excellence. Develop strategies and techniques to enhance your effectiveness in managing customer interactions and office responsibilities.

By implementing these strategies and techniques, you can strike a balance between providing excellent customer service and fulfilling your office duties effectively. Remember that managing talkativeness is a skill that can be honed over time with practice, self-discipline, and a proactive approach to improving your work habits.
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I am 40 years old, working in IT industry, I lost my job since past year, I am still not able to get new job... I am faling to pay my monthly bills and EMI's Please suggest me how I can secure new job???
Ans: I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Here are some steps you can take to improve your chances of securing a new job: Explore temporary or freelance opportunities to generate income while you continue searching for a permanent job. Freelancing platforms and websites offer opportunities for short-term projects in IT and related fields. Identify any skills gaps or areas for improvement that may be hindering your job search. Take online courses, workshops, or certification programs to update your skills and stay current with industry trends and technologies. Tailor your resume to highlight your most relevant skills, experiences, and achievements. Update your LinkedIn profile with a professional photo, a comprehensive work history, and relevant keywords to make it easier for recruiters to find you. Don't limit yourself to one job search method. Explore multiple channels, such as online job boards, company websites, recruitment agencies, networking events, and social media platforms. Consider reaching out to former colleagues, classmates, and professional contacts for job leads and referrals. Attend industry events, meetups, webinars, and networking groups to connect with professionals in your field. Join online communities, forums, and LinkedIn groups related to your industry or job function to expand your network and learn about job opportunities. Job searching can be challenging, especially during difficult times. Stay positive, maintain a routine, and focus on activities that boost your confidence and well-being. Set realistic goals and deadlines for your job search, and celebrate small victories along the way to stay motivated.

Remember that job searching takes time and persistence, so don't get discouraged if you don't see immediate results. Keep refining your approach, leveraging your network, and staying proactive in your job search efforts. With perseverance and determination, you'll increase your chances of securing a new job that meets your needs and goals.
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I passed out in 2020 and started my career as mechanical design engineer i started working for a drone startup as a product designer and now i am working as design engineer in a service based MNC, i have total 3 years of experience is it okay if i shift my role into data analytics, business analyst, operations analyst or something like that.
Ans: Transitioning from a mechanical design engineer role into fields such as data analytics, business analysis, or operations analysis is definitely possible, especially with your three years of experience and a background in engineering. As a mechanical design engineer, you likely have developed valuable skills such as problem-solving, critical thinking, attention to detail, and proficiency in technical tools and software. Evaluate how these skills can be applied to roles in data analytics, business analysis, or operations analysis. Consider acquiring additional skills and knowledge relevant to your target roles. This may include learning programming languages (e.g., Python, R, and SQL), statistical analysis tools, data visualization techniques, and business analysis frameworks. Explore online courses, certifications, or boot camps in data analytics, business analysis, or operations management to enhance your qualifications and credibility in these fields. Connect with professionals working in data analytics, business analysis, or operations roles to learn about their experiences, career paths, and skill requirements. Join industry groups, attend networking events, and participate in online communities to expand your professional network and gain insights into potential career opportunities. Update your resume and LinkedIn profile to highlight relevant skills, experiences, and achievements that demonstrate your suitability for roles in data analytics, business analysis, or operations analysis. Tailor your job search strategy to target companies, industries, or sectors that value cross-functional skills and welcome candidates from diverse backgrounds.

Overall, transitioning from a mechanical design engineer role into data analytics, business analysis, or operations analysis is feasible with the right mindset, skills, and preparation. By leveraging your existing experiences, acquiring new skills, and networking effectively, you can position yourself for success in your desired career path.
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Hello Sir, I am 34 years old, doing job at CPP power plant of steel plant as Instrumentation Engineer. I can't find any fun doing maintenance job. So much pressure in this job.Shal I go for sales engineer or normal sales job. Will this suitable for me? I can't decide what to do? Please suggest.
Ans: It sounds like you're feeling disengaged and stressed in your current role as an instrumentation engineer at a CPP power plant. Transitioning to a sales engineer or sales role could offer a change of pace and environment, but it's important to consider whether it aligns with your interests, skills, and career goals. Deciding between a sales engineer role and a traditional sales job depends on your interests, skills, career goals, and personal preferences. Here's a comparison to help you make an informed decision. Sales engineers combine technical knowledge with sales skills to sell complex technical products or solutions. They often work closely with engineering and product teams to understand product specifications, features, and capabilities. In traditional sales roles, professionals focus on building relationships with clients, understanding their needs, and persuading them to purchase products or services. Sales engineers help customers identify their technical needs, address challenges, and find solutions that meet their requirements. They may conduct product demonstrations, provide technical support, and offer customized solutions based on client needs. Traditional sales roles may involve selling a wide range of products or services to clients across various industries. The client base may include individuals, businesses, or organizations. Sales engineers engage with clients who have a technical background, such as engineers, architects, or IT professionals. They communicate technical information effectively, answer technical questions, and build credibility by demonstrating expertise. Sales professionals typically have sales targets or quotas to meet, incentivizing performance and results-driven behavior. 

Ultimately, the "better" option depends on your interests, strengths, and career objectives. If you enjoy blending technical expertise with sales skills, solving complex problems, and working closely with clients in technical fields, a sales engineer role may be a good fit. On the other hand, if you excel at building relationships, driving sales outcomes, and thrive in a fast-paced, results-oriented environment, a traditional sales job may be more suitable. A sales engineer job is more promising considering factors such as job responsibilities, earning potential, career advancement opportunities, and personal fulfillment.
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I am a 40 yr old Orthodontist in government service since last more than 15 years. Since the time I joined this service I wanted to quit it since it has basically been a place not aligning with my life values. It has destroyed my clinical skill and has been basically a political playground, fake performances, below average minds. But I could not quit it due to family and financial issues. Now I have decided to finally say goodbye to it since lately it has been affecting my mental wellbeing also. I’ve been a bright student academically and quick learner also. I’m planning to move to Australia with family after clearing the stages. But I am anxious about taking this initiative at this age along with reason that I have no contact whatsoever in Australia. Australia due to the fact that it has just three time saving steps compared to other complexities in Europe and US. What do you suggest for the situation?
Ans: It sounds like you've reached a critical decision point in your career and personal life, and it's commendable that you're considering taking steps to prioritize your well-being and pursue a new path. Conduct thorough research on the immigration process, licensing requirements, and job prospects for orthodontists in Australia. Explore the Australian Dental Council's (ADC) accreditation process for internationally trained dentists and orthodontists. Familiarize yourself with the healthcare system, regulatory bodies, and professional associations relevant to your field in Australia. Although you may not have existing contacts in Australia, start building your network by reaching out to professionals in your field through online platforms, professional associations, and networking events. Consider joining forums, social media groups, or online communities for dentists and orthodontists practicing in Australia to connect with peers, ask questions, and seek advice. Seek guidance from experienced orthodontists who have successfully transitioned to practice in Australia, either through personal connections or professional networks. Consider enrolling in continuing education courses, workshops, or certification programs to enhance your skills and demonstrate your commitment to professional development. Prioritize your mental and emotional well-being during this challenging transition period. Seek support from family, friends, or mental health professionals to cope with stress, anxiety, or uncertainty associated with making significant life changes. Recognize that embarking on a new journey in a foreign country may involve obstacles and setbacks along the way. Stay resilient, adaptable, and open-minded as you navigate the complexities of immigration, licensure, job search, and cultural adjustment in Australia.

Taking the initiative to pursue a new career path and life direction in Australia requires courage, determination, and perseverance. Through planning, seeking support, and staying focused on your goals, you can overcome challenges and build a fulfilling and successful professional and personal life in your new home country.
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