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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 06, 2023

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Question by sangeeta on Feb 21, 2023Hindi

Relationship

i am 44 widow, have lost my husband in 2015, but recently have in relation with my colleague but he is married and younger than me

Ans: Dear Sangeeta,
What is your question? I only can assume that you are confused about being in a relationship with your married colleague.
Yes, it can become an ugly mess when his wife finds out...also, when there are so many other eligible men out there, why would you choose a married man and taking in all the complications that will come with it?
And mind you, the moment his wife gives him the ultimatum, he will run away from this before he even has a chance to tell you or explain anything to you.
So, spare yourself of all this unwanted excitement and anguish and invite people who will respect you for who you are and where you are in your life at this moment.

All the best!

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Hi, i am 47 yrs, married & blessed with twin babies. Off late, my relationship with my wife is not good. She started avoiding me and very often blames, fights with me with misguidance of her mother. I advised my MIL too not to do so as you are playing with her life and my life too. She acts very innocent. Coz of this, i started feeling very lonely and stressed. No happiness or peace of mind in life. Now, i started to get attracted to my subordinate colleague who is 37 yrs not married, who is very caring, always watching me, following me. Now we communicate very freely. I sense that she likes me a lot but very afraid to express coz 1. i am her boss. 2. I am married with twin babies..... I am also very attached to her. I feel i started to love her. but practically, i cannot express as i know my limits. Kindly advise what to do. I don't want to lose my colleague also....

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

If you think your wife has been acting mean because of the misguidance of her mother, the right course of action is to have a clear-cut discussion with both your wife and her mother. Getting attached to a colleague is not a solution, nor is it absolutely ethical. Moreover, there is a good possibility that your wife is bothered about something else, or maybe handling two kids of the same age is taking a toll on her. If you did not discuss these with her yet, then it's high time you do so. Also, try to spend more time together, not just as parents of your babies, but as a couple. In any case, starting to develop feelings, whether it is in your control or not, is never the answer.

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Question by Ruta - Oct 08, 2024Hindi

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Hello Madam, i am 38 year married women, having a 15year 1 kid boy ( but my husband not loving me even he is not talking with me from the last 8 years but we r leaving together due to our son, he fulfilled the need with the responsibilities of our home and our son but as wife he is not talking and even not caring to me ,but before 2 years back one married man come to talk with me he is my official colleague and we both attached a lot with each other after some days he proposed me and said that he is loving me many years ago but he thought that i am very Strick person will not response him, but now he is saying that he wants me as a life partner me also every time he treat me like a wife very much caring and loving nature now i introduce him to my family as a friend and family members also very happy with taking to him, we are from 2 year together is it good or what should i do further?

Ans: Dear Ruta,
You want to get into a relationship with a married man? Will that not complicate your already complicated life?
You certainly deserve to be loved and taken care of BUT do not jump towards a married man...you do understand that his priorities will lie with his first family and this will hurt you again and you will feel neglected AGAIN...

What is he planning with his marriage? Does his wife know about your relationship? Is he going to end his marriage and then marry you? These questions need answers and then you can decide for yourself keeping in mind that you need to take of yourself emotionally in this second association.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 29, 2024Hindi

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I am having feelings my colleague who is older than me and is married with two kids. I am also married with one kid. What should I do now? Should I confess my feelings to him?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
First of all, I would need a little more detail about your relationship with your husband and why you are seeking romantic feelings outside your marriage to make any comments or suggestions. But, from a general perspective, I would recommend you focus on what's lacking in your marriage and fix it- maybe, see a marriage counselor. Plus, you mentioned having feelings for this colleague but never mentioned if he feels the same way. If not, why would you confess your feelings to him and create even the minimum chaos in his otherwise happy marriage? Again, from a general perspective, the entire thing sounds like a bad plan.

Hope this helps.

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am having flat in hyderabad which was registered as gift deed in 2009 and if i want to sell the flat on today date the valve may be 75 Lakhs what can be capital gain. Actual cost was 2.2 lakhs in 1986 . As my age is 65 years and i dont want to use for contruction or investment in new flat. How can i save capital gain. Your advise

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