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Jasmine Question by Jasmine on Oct 28, 2021Hindi
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Dear Love Guru,
My friend's boyfriend is hitting on me.
He sexts me and calls and when I meet him with my friend, he behaves very odd.
My friend is very much in love with him and I don’t have the heart to tell her.
The BF is very creepy and I don’t want to deal with him.
What can I do? She needs to know that he is the wrong guy.
Regards,
Jasmine

Ans:

So Jasmine, if you won't tell her and I can't tell her, who will tell her?!

You need to let your friend know about this creep and you need to do it asap. Who knows, the weirdo could well twist things around to say you're the one pursuing him if things don't work out the way he wants them to?

Not to mention that your friend deserves better. Tell her the truth and show her the messages if need be -- don't let down her trust in you.

I just hope she has the wherewithal to dump his sorry ass and doesn't give him another chance, because people with such loose morals seldom change.

 

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