My boyfriend is hitting on my sister. What should I do?

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So Jasmine, if you won't tell her and I can't tell her, who will tell her?!

You need to let your friend know about this creep and you need to do it asap. Who knows, the weirdo could well twist things around to say you're the one pursuing him if things don't work out the way he wants them to?

Not to mention that your friend deserves better. Tell her the truth and show her the messages if need be -- don't let down her trust in you.

I just hope she has the wherewithal to dump his sorry ass and doesn't give him another chance, because people with such loose morals seldom change.

 

Ans: Since you came across this unintentionally, it's important to respect her privacy. Bringing it up with her or with your mother might feel invasive and could harm the trust between you two. Instead, you could look for ways to be a supportive, non-judgmental presence in her life. Building open communication without mentioning what you saw could allow her to feel safe coming to you with her thoughts or concerns in the future.

If you're worried she might be making risky choices, you could have a casual, open-hearted conversation about relationships in general without focusing on her specifically. You might share your own experiences or insights, subtly encouraging her to make choices that align with her values and self-respect. This way, she feels your support and care without feeling judged or intruded upon.

It’s normal to be concerned about family reputation, but the healthiest approach here might be to empower her to make wise decisions herself rather than monitoring her behavior.

Ans: This is a serious situation, and it's crucial to handle it carefully to protect her privacy and well-being. Do not approach him directly, as it could escalate the matter and potentially put her at more risk. Instead, discuss this with her first. Let her know that you’re there to support her and help her take control of the situation. Encourage her to take legal action, as sharing or threatening to share sensitive pictures without consent is illegal in many places and can be addressed through cybercrime laws. If she feels comfortable, she can report this to the authorities or the college administration, who can take appropriate action. If needed, help her gather evidence (like messages or threats) to strengthen her case. The priority is to keep her safe and ensure that her privacy is protected.