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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 10, 2024Hindi
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My long distance bf of 2 years asked me to send videos of my body parts even though I refused countless times. He would act all sad. I started losing feelings for him eventually and I wasn't in a position to break up because I was having exams and didn't have my phone with me all the time. This went on for 10 months and by the time I started to develop a crush on someone but I never acted upon it or ever tried to talk to him. I was guilty for that. My bf started asking for more videos and he never deleted the ones I sent him. When I got to know this I broke up with him. After break up my friend sent me the profile of the boy I had a crush on, and I accidently sent a request to him even if I didn't want to. I cancelled my request and never thought about him again. My mind is messed up. My now ex bf didn't value my no-s. Did I do the right thing to break up with him? About the crush I had, was I not loyal to my ex bf? It was my first relation too

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Stay off boys/men for a while. I guess you need to start valuing yourself first before jumping into relationships.
You are worried about you ex not valuing you No-s...then why did you not say NO to him when he asked you for private videos? And here you speak of loyalty? Obviously your ex's obsession over only the physical aspect has upset you and you looked for a more deeper connection which you hoped will happen with the new person. So, what if you had a crush? And that too after you had a break-up...Chill...
Take stock of your mind, stop sending images or videos over the phone...you don't know who is going to use them and how they will use them. Be careful and draw neat and clear boundaries where no one can overstep them without your permission. Once you do this, you will come across people who value you.

All the best!
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I am 12th passed student and I had a bf around feb .Everything was perfectly fine in the starting but then somehow our talks got less and i asked him if everything was ok bcoz i felt strange whenever we talked through texts. He said he is tired and doesn't wanna talk and did not know what happened to him ... Plus exams were ongoing so I supported the way I can but i knew something was off ... As the time passed things got worse. I asked how much time u need to be urself .. u are going out with ur friends but don't wanna talk to me neither u asked how i am for past dew weeks or a month . In the last he said leave I am not good enough for you. Everything thing we talked was on snapchat app. I was so depressed plus my exam result were less then expected. I stopped using any social media.. There wasn't a single day i missed him or thought of seeing the snaps but somehow i made myself I understand that If u were imp he wouldn't talk about leaving...ig ... But still I do miss him when everything was started and ended by him... On 14th My frnd texted me asking abt my result and she said she will ask him aswell( she doesn't know abt us dating) ... And after a week i.e today i downloaded the app and i saw that he sent me snaps till 14th and they all were deleted and after that there was nothing. Somehow i feel that there must be some conversations between my frnd and him. But what i feel now is that i regret why i didn't saw his msgs when i missed him. It makes me feel regret and sad . Whenever i think about it i forget all that disrespect but at the same time something stops me . Idk what kind of feeling is this ... All ik that there was a little communication between us that was also gone ... I just wanna overcome but i cant . Its gonna be a month and these emotions are really making me feel depressed. I even start making scenarios and stories in my mind . Idk what is happening to me . Pls help me overcome this what should i do ?
Ans: Dear Radha,

I understand that you are experiencing a rollercoaster of emotions at the moment, but listen to me, this too shall pass. You won't feel this way three months from now. Six months from now, you will find it funny that you even felt this way once, and you might even regret focusing on your ex than your exams. Two years from now, you will even forget how you felt on this day; you will forget the sorrow, you will forget how lonely and helpless you felt. You will move on. Everyone does. Look at the bigger picture and these feelings that you are experiencing today will seem small.

Now, coming to how you can deal with it at present- focus on your studies; everything can wait, but your career won't. Hang out with your friends; tell them how you are feeling. Talking about pain is known to give some kind of relief. No one can take it from you, but having someone to listen to it can help. Focus on your health- mental and physical; workout a bit. It helps. And, in the end, let time do its magic.

P.S. If he says he's not good enough for you, believe it. You deserve better; even your ex thinks so. So why don't you?

Best Wishes!

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Hello Mam, me and my bestfriend were in a relation for 2 years. everything was going smooth until he asked me to send video of my chest. When i denied he became emotional and asked- we are going to marry right? then whats the problem in sharing those. everyone does that. I'm not that kind of a girl. whenever i said no he used every ways to make me do that despite my discomfort. I told him many times I am uncomfortable but he chose to ignore them. he was the one who promised me that he will never make me uncomfortable. Since then I started to not like his touches. I loved him truly and he was there with me during my dark times . when i was at hostel which allowed phone only 2 days a week because I was planning to write CLAT that year, i seriously felt distant from him. he said he would wait just to hear my voice. i was allowed phone for only 30 minutes and he wanted me to talk to him more than my parents when i needed them most. I gradually started losing hope and i didnt want to create a scene which will affect my exam. But the thing is after gradually losing trust in him i developed a crush at my centre. i never knew his name, never talked , nothing. My mental health was completely messed up. I passed my CLAT exam last year and i never acted upon the crush i had, i broke up with my bf right after the exam because I couldnt handle that relation anymore. to be clear i never broke up with him because i had a crush, even though i was guilty. i broke up because of how he forced me into things he liked and how he never valued my opinions and how i lost trust eventually when he said he had photos of me with him. I broke up for my peace but why do i feel like I've cheated on my ex because i had a crush even though i never acted upon it. Please help me
Ans: You were uncomfortable and moved away from the individual - more power to you. It takes time to come to terms or get over such situations - when breakups happen we all go through self doubt, anger, sadness- this is a phase - they come and pass. Focus on your emotional and mental wellbeing - take care

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Hello Mam, me and my bestfriend were in a relation for 2 years. everything was going smooth until he asked me to send video of my chest. When i denied he became emotional and asked- we are going to marry right? then whats the problem in sharing those. everyone does that. I'm not that kind of a girl. whenever i said no he used every ways to make me do that despite my discomfort. I told him many times I am uncomfortable but he chose to ignore them. he was the one who promised me that he will never make me uncomfortable. Since then I started to not like his touches. I loved him truly and he was there with me during my dark times . when i was at hostel which allowed phone only 2 days a week because I was planning to write CLAT that year, i seriously felt distant from him. he said he would wait just to hear my voice. i was allowed phone for only 30 minutes and he wanted me to talk to him more than my parents when i needed them most. I gradually started losing hope and i didnt want to create a scene which will affect my exam. But the thing is after gradually losing trust in him i developed a crush at my centre. i never knew his name, never talked , nothing. My mental health was completely messed up. I passed my CLAT exam last year and i never acted upon the crush i had, i broke up with my bf right after the exam because I couldnt handle that relation anymore. to be clear i never broke up with him because i had a crush, even though i was guilty. i broke up because of how he forced me into things he liked and how he never valued my opinions and how i lost trust eventually when he said he had photos of me with him. I broke up for my peace but why do i feel like I've cheated on my ex because i had a crush even though i never acted upon it. Please help me. Was I cheating on him. When we broke up he said I'm like other girls always playing the victim card, he called me names and said he lost respect and felt petty about me when I said I had nothing else to talk on this matter.
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I was in a relationship with a boy(he is 35 yrs old man, and a lawyer but not practising in a court, he had a lot of relationship during our relationship and after break up , He had changed 4, 5 women or used them physically) for 3 years. It has been three-four months. We are not in a relationship. We have broken up. I told him to delete our personal pics and videos. He is not deleting them and is not blackmailing me either. I told him that since we don't want to be together, we don't have a future together, then delete them. He is not deleting them and is not blackmailing me either and I want him to delete them. Who knows what will come to his mind in the future and what will happen. If we don't continue, he has no right to Keep the pics in your mobile, whatever video is personal to us, don't delete it and don't blackmail me either. I am not able to understand what should I tell him, although I have requested him a lot to delete it but he is not doing it either, He told me that I have kept ur pics and videos So that I cannot complain against him in future. so what should I do, please guide me. I know I had made a huge mistake to love him and gave him right to keep personal pics or videos..
Ans: At this point, it’s essential to protect your emotional and mental health while addressing this issue. You might consider seeking support from someone you trust, such as a close friend or family member, to share this burden. Talking to someone who knows you and your situation can provide comfort and practical guidance.

If he continues to refuse, you may need to explore your legal options. Many countries have laws that protect individuals from having private photos or videos kept or shared without their consent. Taking this step might feel daunting, but it could give you a sense of empowerment and security. It’s not about revenge or escalation; it’s about protecting yourself and asserting your right to move forward without this hanging over you.

On an emotional level, remind yourself that you are not defined by this relationship or the choices you made while in it. You trusted someone who didn’t honor that trust, but this doesn’t diminish your value or strength. It’s natural to feel regret, but you deserve compassion from yourself as you work through this.

You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay to seek help—whether that’s legal advice, emotional support from loved ones, or even professional counseling to navigate the stress and anxiety this situation might be causing. The most important thing now is to take steps that protect your peace of mind and ensure your future isn’t weighed down by his actions.

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I am a 65+ retired govt employee. My monthly pension is rs 100000 as of today.My wife gets rs 26500 monthly rent from a flat in Banglore.She has a 300000 lac senior citizen bank account from where she receive 60000 thousand in three month. We both have ppf account for 7 years where we contribute rs 150000 each anualy .We have invested rs 100000 lac in stock in good company.We also have a fixed deposit of 200000 lac in psu bank.We have no insurance cover of any type but our names are co-included in my daughter’s insurance cover.We also don’t invest in mutual fund.Our medical expenses are reimbursed by government though it takes some time. Our childrens are highly educated,well paid in multinational company in India and aboard.My both daughters are married.Only son working in USA is likely to be married soon.We save something like 04 lac annually. We don’t have more than 50000 in saving account for anytime.We don’t have any type of loans either. Pl advice if this is all ok or we should save more. Pl advise
Ans: Your financial position is strong. You have stable income sources and no liabilities.

However, there are areas where you can improve. Let’s assess your financial stability and suggest better allocation.

Current Financial Position
Income Sources
Pension: Rs. 1,00,000 per month.

Rental Income: Rs. 26,500 per month from your wife’s Bangalore flat.

Interest from Senior Citizen Bank Account: Rs. 60,000 every three months.

Total Annual Income: Rs. 18.86 lakh (excluding stock dividends).

Savings and Investments
Public Provident Fund (PPF): Rs. 1,50,000 each per year for 7 years.

Stocks: Rs. 1 crore invested in good companies.

Fixed Deposits: Rs. 2 crore in PSU banks.

Savings Account Balance: Less than Rs. 50,000 at any time.

Annual Savings: Rs. 4 lakh.

Insurance and Medical Cover
No personal health or life insurance.

Medical expenses reimbursed by the government, though with delays.

Included in daughter’s insurance policy.

Areas That Need Attention
Emergency Fund Planning
Your savings account balance is too low.

Keep Rs. 5-10 lakh in a liquid fund or sweep-in FD.

This will help in case of sudden expenses.

Health Insurance Protection
Depending on government reimbursement is risky.

Delayed reimbursements can cause financial stress.

Buy a personal senior citizen health insurance plan.

This ensures quick cashless hospitalisation if needed.

Investment Diversification
Too much money is in FDs and stocks.

FDs provide safety but do not beat inflation.

Stocks provide growth but can be volatile.

You don’t invest in mutual funds, which can provide balanced returns.

Allocate part of the FD amount to actively managed mutual funds.

This will improve long-term returns while keeping risk moderate.

PPF Strategy
PPF is a safe option, but liquidity is an issue.

Continue investing as it helps with tax savings.

However, don’t over-allocate beyond tax benefits.

Future Financial Planning
Retirement Corpus Allocation
You have built a strong retirement corpus.

Ensure withdrawals are planned for long-term sustainability.

Use a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) from mutual funds.

This provides a steady monthly income while preserving capital.

Wealth Transfer and Estate Planning
Your children are financially stable.

Prepare a will to distribute wealth as per your wishes.

Consider a trust for smooth wealth transfer.

Keep nominee details updated for all assets.

Finally
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Increase emergency savings for liquidity.

Get a senior citizen health insurance policy for faster claims.

Diversify investments beyond FDs and stocks.

Invest in mutual funds for balanced risk and inflation protection.

Plan estate distribution for hassle-free wealth transfer.

With these changes, your financial stability will improve further.

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I am a 53 year old male working abroad. I am well covered in terms of medical insurance and life insurance. Pls guide me on further investments to make as regards to these goals 1) My plan to retire at 60 with 1.5 lakhs per month withdrawal from SWP 2) Son will complete engineering in 3 years, planning for his higher education abroad. 3) Daughters marriage in 5 years. Also any other avenues to invest (do you recommend AIF?) or should i continue to invest in what i have done so far? I have below investments so far: PPF 51 lakhs EPF 32 lakhs MF (total cumulative) 5.5 crores Employee superannuity+gratuity 14.5 lakhs NPS 15 lakhs Monthly MF SIP ongoing 2 lakhs Company FD 10 lakhs Gold 16 lakhs
Ans: Your financial discipline and structured investments are remarkable. You have built a strong portfolio, and your goals are well-defined. Now, let’s optimise your investments to ensure smooth execution of your plans.

Retirement Plan – Rs 1.5 Lakhs Monthly Withdrawal from SWP
Your Corpus Requirement: You need a corpus that generates Rs 1.5 lakh per month.
Existing Portfolio Strength: Your mutual funds and NPS provide strong long-term growth.
Strategy for Stability:
Allocate part of your corpus to hybrid and debt mutual funds for stability.
Keep 2-3 years of expenses in liquid or ultra-short-term funds.
Use a mix of equity and debt mutual funds for SWP to manage volatility.
Gradually move some equity investments to balanced funds before retirement.
Continue investing in mutual funds to ensure corpus longevity.
Son’s Higher Education – 3 Years Away
Estimated Costs: Higher education abroad is expensive and varies by country.
Liquidity Requirement: Funds should be easily accessible within 3 years.
Investment Strategy:
Move part of your mutual funds to short-duration or dynamic bond funds.
Keep a portion in fixed deposits to safeguard against market fluctuations.
Avoid equity investments for this goal, as the time horizon is short.
Daughter’s Marriage – 5 Years Away
Time Horizon: Five years allows for a balanced investment approach.
Investment Strategy:
Keep 50% in conservative hybrid funds for stability.
Allocate 30% in large-cap mutual funds for moderate growth.
Keep 20% in fixed-income instruments to protect against volatility.
Redeem investments in phases to avoid market fluctuations.
Review of Existing Investments
PPF & EPF:

These provide stable returns but lack liquidity.
Continue them for long-term safety but avoid fresh investments.
Mutual Funds (Rs 5.5 Crores Total):

Your SIP of Rs 2 lakh per month is well-structured.
Maintain equity allocation for long-term growth.
Ensure diversification across large-cap, mid-cap, and hybrid funds.
Monitor fund performance annually and rebalance if needed.
NPS (Rs 15 Lakhs):

Good for retirement but lacks full liquidity.
Continue contributions for additional tax benefits.
Employee Superannuation & Gratuity (Rs 14.5 Lakhs):

Treat this as a retirement safety net.
Avoid using this fund for short-term needs.
Company FD (Rs 10 Lakhs):

Provides stability but offers lower returns.
Avoid increasing FD exposure as it is taxable and may not beat inflation.
Gold (Rs 16 Lakhs):

A reasonable allocation for diversification.
Do not invest further unless required for family traditions.
Should You Invest in AIF?
Alternative Investment Funds (AIFs) Are High Risk

They are illiquid and require large-ticket investments.
Returns are uncertain compared to mutual funds.
They lack transparency and regulatory oversight like traditional investments.
Stick to What Works

Your mutual fund portfolio is already diversified and growing well.
Instead of AIFs, you can consider actively managed mutual funds for better liquidity and control.
Additional Investment Avenues
International Mutual Funds

To diversify across global markets.
Useful since your son’s education goal is abroad.
Debt Mutual Funds for Short-Term Goals

Better taxation benefits than FDs.
Suitable for education and marriage planning.
Hybrid Funds for Retirement Stability

Offers a balance between equity and debt.
Reduces volatility while ensuring steady returns.
Finally
Your portfolio is well-structured and diversified.
Stick to mutual funds and avoid AIFs for now.
Optimise asset allocation to ensure stability and liquidity.
Continue SIPs for wealth accumulation and long-term financial security.
Keep reviewing your portfolio and rebalance as required.
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My wife and I are both 55. We would like to retire in the next five years. We live in Mumbai, where the cost of living is high. Our monthly expenses are around ₹1.2 lakhs, excluding any medical emergencies. We have two children settled abroad, and while we’ve saved ₹1 crore in mutual funds, ₹50 lakhs in FDs, and ₹20 lakhs in PPF, we’re concerned about the long-term sustainability of our funds given the rising living costs here. We’re considering relocating to a smaller city like Pune or Nashik, where property prices and daily expenses are more manageable. However, we’re worried about healthcare access, social connections, and whether this move will truly offer financial benefits. What financial and lifestyle factors should we evaluate before making such a big decision?
Ans: You have planned well for your retirement. A Rs 1.7 crore corpus is a good foundation. However, with rising living costs, careful planning is needed to ensure financial security. Relocating to a smaller city can reduce expenses, but it has other factors to consider.

Key Financial Considerations
1. Analysing Your Retirement Corpus
Your current investments of Rs 1.7 crore need to support you for at least 30 years.
Inflation will increase living costs over time.
A sustainable withdrawal strategy is required to avoid depleting funds early.
2. Expected Monthly Expenses Post-Retirement
Current expenses are Rs 1.2 lakh per month.
Relocating may reduce costs, but essential expenses remain.
Medical costs tend to rise with age, so a buffer is needed.
3. Income from Investments
FDs provide stable returns but are taxable.
PPF matures soon, but withdrawals must be planned.
Mutual funds offer growth, but market fluctuations must be considered.
A mix of these assets can help maintain cash flow.
4. Tax Implications on Withdrawals
Mutual fund redemptions have capital gains tax.
FD interest is taxable as per income slab.
Efficient tax planning can help reduce liabilities.
Factors to Consider Before Relocation
1. Cost of Living in a Smaller City
Pune and Nashik have lower rental and grocery expenses than Mumbai.
Utility bills, transportation, and leisure costs are also lower.
A detailed comparison of current vs expected expenses is needed.
2. Healthcare Facilities
Mumbai has world-class hospitals with specialists.
Smaller cities have good hospitals but may lack super-speciality care.
Access to emergency healthcare and quality medical services is crucial.
3. Social Life and Lifestyle Changes
Mumbai offers an active social life and conveniences.
Smaller cities may have fewer social events and entertainment options.
Adjusting to a new environment after decades in Mumbai can be difficult.
4. Proximity to Children and Travel Costs
Your children are settled abroad.
International travel costs will be a recurring expense.
Mumbai has better flight connectivity than smaller cities.
5. Rental vs Buying a Property in a New City
Buying property in retirement reduces financial flexibility.
Renting offers mobility and liquidity.
A trial period in the new city before finalising relocation is advisable.
Investment Strategy for a Secure Retirement
1. Maintaining Liquidity for Regular Expenses
Keep at least 2 years of expenses in liquid assets.
FDs and liquid mutual funds provide stability and accessibility.
Avoid locking funds in long-term investments.
2. Growing Wealth for the Long Term
Equity mutual funds can help combat inflation.
Debt funds provide stable returns with lower risk.
A balanced portfolio ensures both growth and stability.
3. Medical and Contingency Planning
Increase health insurance coverage for future needs.
Keep an emergency fund for unexpected medical expenses.
Regular health check-ups can help in early diagnosis.
4. Safe Withdrawal Strategy
Limit annual withdrawals to avoid depleting savings early.
Adjust withdrawals based on market performance.
Diversifying income sources can ensure financial security.
Finally
Relocating can reduce expenses but must be evaluated for healthcare access and lifestyle impact. A well-structured investment strategy can make retirement stress-free.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 07, 2025Hindi
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I’m 53 now. My spouse and I have saved diligently for retirement. Together we’ve built a corpus of ₹1.5 crore through mutual fund SIPs, PPF, and NPS contributions. Our two children, both in their late 20s, are financially independent but still early in their careers. We’re considering downsizing from our current house, worth ₹1.8 crore, to free up equity and move closer to one of our children. We’re debating whether to discuss our retirement plans with them, especially regarding potential financial assistance if we face health issues in the future. We also want to clarify any inheritance expectations and ensure they’re not financially burdened later. Please advice how to have a stress-free retirement plan.
Ans: You have planned your retirement well. Now, you need a stress-free approach to enjoy it.

Let’s create a structured plan for financial security and family discussions.

Assessing Your Current Financial Position
Retirement Corpus: Rs. 1.5 crore in mutual funds, PPF, and NPS.
House Value: Rs. 1.8 crore.
Children’s Status: Financially independent but early in their careers.
Potential Downsizing: Considering selling the house for liquidity.
Future Concerns: Health costs, financial support, inheritance, and stress-free living.
Your savings provide a solid base. But planning ahead is crucial.

Should You Downsize Your House?
Selling will free up capital for better investments.

A smaller house will reduce maintenance and property tax costs.

Moving closer to children will offer emotional and logistical support.

Consider renting instead of buying again for more flexibility.

Structuring Your Investments for Retirement
Ensure a Steady Monthly Income
Keep part of your corpus in mutual funds with Systematic Withdrawal Plans (SWP).

Invest in a mix of flexi-cap, mid-cap, and debt funds for stability and growth.

Avoid index funds, as actively managed funds perform better in the long run.

Emergency and Health Fund
Keep Rs. 10-15 lakh in liquid funds for medical and emergency needs.

Ensure you have adequate health insurance to cover medical costs.

If needed, set aside funds for assisted living or home healthcare later.

Should You Talk to Your Children About Finances?
Clarifying Expectations
Your children are financially independent but may not be prepared for your needs.

Have an open conversation about healthcare, inheritance, and financial support.

Make sure they understand your plans to avoid future stress.

Discussing Financial Assistance
If needed, discuss potential financial support in case of emergencies.

Avoid becoming financially dependent on them unless absolutely necessary.

Keep them informed about your health insurance and long-term care plans.

Managing Inheritance and Estate Planning
Prepare a clear will to avoid legal complications.

Nominate beneficiaries for all investments, insurance, and bank accounts.

Inform your children about your financial plans without creating unnecessary expectations.

Finally
Your retirement is well-planned. But small adjustments will enhance security.

Sell your house if it aligns with your lifestyle goals.

Ensure a steady income from mutual funds while keeping an emergency fund.

Talk to your children about expectations but maintain financial independence.

A stress-free retirement is possible with proper planning and clarity.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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Hello Sir, I’m planning to construct a house within the next 12 to 15 months. I have already received a pre-approved home loan, but I need to accumulate an additional ₹60 lakh. I plan to save between ₹30,000 to ₹50,000 each month. Could you suggest the best investment options for this amount, such as Fixed Deposits, RDs, Mutual Fund SIPs, etc.? While I’m open to SIPs, I’m unsure about the market conditions when I’ll need to withdraw the funds.
Ans: You have a clear financial goal and a disciplined savings plan. Since your time horizon is short, choosing the right investment options is crucial. Safety, liquidity, and stable returns should be the focus.

Key Considerations for Investment Choices
You need Rs 60 lakh in 12-15 months.
Market-linked instruments carry short-term volatility.
Stability and liquidity are more important than high returns.
Capital preservation is a priority.
Investment Options Based on Risk and Returns
1. Fixed Deposits for Stability
FDs provide assured returns without market risk.
Choose short-term FDs with flexible withdrawal options.
Laddering deposits can help manage liquidity better.
Premature withdrawal may have a penalty but ensures emergency access.
2. Recurring Deposits for Systematic Savings
RDs offer stable returns with disciplined monthly investments.
Suitable for parking Rs 30,000 to Rs 50,000 per month.
Works best when combined with other safer instruments.
3. Debt Mutual Funds for Moderate Growth
Suitable for earning slightly better returns than FDs.
Opt for low-risk funds to avoid market volatility.
Ensure easy liquidity for fund withdrawal within 12-15 months.
Gains are taxed as per income slab, so tax impact must be considered.
4. Liquid Funds for Parking Lumpsum Amounts
Best for parking funds with better liquidity than FDs.
Withdrawal is processed within 24 hours on working days.
Offers stable returns without market fluctuations.
A good option for money required in the last few months.
5. Ultra Short-Term Funds for Balanced Approach
Suitable for a 12-15 month horizon with stable returns.
Carries slightly higher risk than liquid funds but offers better returns.
Low volatility compared to equity-based investments.
Investment Plan Based on Monthly Savings
Allocate 50% in FDs and RDs for safety.
Park 30% in ultra short-term and liquid funds for flexibility.
Invest 20% in debt mutual funds for slightly better returns.
Finally
Avoid equity investments due to short tenure. Prioritise safety over returns to ensure smooth fund availability for house construction.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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