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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Hello Mam, me and my bestfriend were in a relation for 2 years. everything was going smooth until he asked me to send video of my chest. When i denied he became emotional and asked- we are going to marry right? then whats the problem in sharing those. everyone does that. I'm not that kind of a girl. whenever i said no he used every ways to make me do that despite my discomfort. I told him many times I am uncomfortable but he chose to ignore them. he was the one who promised me that he will never make me uncomfortable. Since then I started to not like his touches. I loved him truly and he was there with me during my dark times . when i was at hostel which allowed phone only 2 days a week because I was planning to write CLAT that year, i seriously felt distant from him. he said he would wait just to hear my voice. i was allowed phone for only 30 minutes and he wanted me to talk to him more than my parents when i needed them most. I gradually started losing hope and i didnt want to create a scene which will affect my exam. But the thing is after gradually losing trust in him i developed a crush at my centre. i never knew his name, never talked , nothing. My mental health was completely messed up. I passed my CLAT exam last year and i never acted upon the crush i had, i broke up with my bf right after the exam because I couldnt handle that relation anymore. to be clear i never broke up with him because i had a crush, even though i was guilty. i broke up because of how he forced me into things he liked and how he never valued my opinions and how i lost trust eventually when he said he had photos of me with him. I broke up for my peace but why do i feel like I've cheated on my ex because i had a crush even though i never acted upon it. Please help me. Was I cheating on him. When we broke up he said I'm like other girls always playing the victim card, he called me names and said he lost respect and felt petty about me when I said I had nothing else to talk on this matter.

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I am 12th passed student and I had a bf around feb .Everything was perfectly fine in the starting but then somehow our talks got less and i asked him if everything was ok bcoz i felt strange whenever we talked through texts. He said he is tired and doesn't wanna talk and did not know what happened to him ... Plus exams were ongoing so I supported the way I can but i knew something was off ... As the time passed things got worse. I asked how much time u need to be urself .. u are going out with ur friends but don't wanna talk to me neither u asked how i am for past dew weeks or a month . In the last he said leave I am not good enough for you. Everything thing we talked was on snapchat app. I was so depressed plus my exam result were less then expected. I stopped using any social media.. There wasn't a single day i missed him or thought of seeing the snaps but somehow i made myself I understand that If u were imp he wouldn't talk about leaving...ig ... But still I do miss him when everything was started and ended by him... On 14th My frnd texted me asking abt my result and she said she will ask him aswell( she doesn't know abt us dating) ... And after a week i.e today i downloaded the app and i saw that he sent me snaps till 14th and they all were deleted and after that there was nothing. Somehow i feel that there must be some conversations between my frnd and him. But what i feel now is that i regret why i didn't saw his msgs when i missed him. It makes me feel regret and sad . Whenever i think about it i forget all that disrespect but at the same time something stops me . Idk what kind of feeling is this ... All ik that there was a little communication between us that was also gone ... I just wanna overcome but i cant . Its gonna be a month and these emotions are really making me feel depressed. I even start making scenarios and stories in my mind . Idk what is happening to me . Pls help me overcome this what should i do ?
Ans: Dear Radha,

I understand that you are experiencing a rollercoaster of emotions at the moment, but listen to me, this too shall pass. You won't feel this way three months from now. Six months from now, you will find it funny that you even felt this way once, and you might even regret focusing on your ex than your exams. Two years from now, you will even forget how you felt on this day; you will forget the sorrow, you will forget how lonely and helpless you felt. You will move on. Everyone does. Look at the bigger picture and these feelings that you are experiencing today will seem small.

Now, coming to how you can deal with it at present- focus on your studies; everything can wait, but your career won't. Hang out with your friends; tell them how you are feeling. Talking about pain is known to give some kind of relief. No one can take it from you, but having someone to listen to it can help. Focus on your health- mental and physical; workout a bit. It helps. And, in the end, let time do its magic.

P.S. If he says he's not good enough for you, believe it. You deserve better; even your ex thinks so. So why don't you?

Best Wishes!

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Hi, I am a 22 year old female with an engineering graduation passed before 6 months. I had an long term relationship with my boyfriend since 4.5 years. We both are from different cities of KA and currently in it's capital city. I socialize with my male friends, which my bf does'nt like and whenever we meet it always turns into a fight. During my college graduation day, I was told not to participate which I did'nt agreed yet participated. During this my bf saw me with my friends around me and slapped me in public. This happened many times. Even though I have had quite a intimate time with one of my classmate and kissed another one. I never had real S*x with anyone. The intimacy was only to show my anger on my bf. Now I changed my location after graduation, broke with my bf and now I have a deeper understanding & relationship with a man of 42 aged-married-2 kids and a yet good being. We both had good time, no trust issues, no s*x, yet intimacies for couple of times. He keeps me happy, joyful, helping me towards my profession and goal, respects, looks me well and yet never forced me for penetration. He has plans to fly to UK after 3-5 years and promised to take me with him supporting my profession. I was really contented and happy with this relationship. He even assured that marriage can happen between us, If I agree and If I can wait until he gets divorced from his wife. But one day, my ex bf friend called and said that he has met with an accident and is in severed health issues like (piles, kidney stones). He is basically a drunkyard. Seeing this I got agitated. Now I wanted to breakup with the current man and go back to by ex-bf because he is left alone and we had 4.5 years of relation. I don't whether I am correct or not, Please advise.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am not sure if you are right either way. Being in a relationship with a married man, who is yet to get divorce, is ethically incorrect, whether there is physical intimacy or not. At the same time going back to your ex merely because you feel sad for him is also not the right choice. You are yourself admitting that he is a drunkard and he was also controlling and above all he slapped you; there's no excuse for any form of physical abuse in a relationship. Being in love does not make it okay to hit your partner. Please understand that.

In my opinion, you should take some time to reflect on the choices you are making. I truly believe you deserve better than a man who hits you, tries to control you, and a man who is already committed to someone else. Please think about it and make better choices that will allow you to feel true happiness.

Best Wishes.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 20, 2024Hindi
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Hello Mam, me and my bestfriend were in a relation for 2 years. everything was going smooth until he asked me to send video of my chest. When i denied he became emotional and asked- we are going to marry right? then whats the problem in sharing those. everyone does that. I'm not that kind of a girl. whenever i said no he used every ways to make me do that despite my discomfort. I told him many times I am uncomfortable but he chose to ignore them. he was the one who promised me that he will never make me uncomfortable. Since then I started to not like his touches. I loved him truly and he was there with me during my dark times . when i was at hostel which allowed phone only 2 days a week because I was planning to write CLAT that year, i seriously felt distant from him. he said he would wait just to hear my voice. i was allowed phone for only 30 minutes and he wanted me to talk to him more than my parents when i needed them most. I gradually started losing hope and i didnt want to create a scene which will affect my exam. But the thing is after gradually losing trust in him i developed a crush at my centre. i never knew his name, never talked , nothing. My mental health was completely messed up. I passed my CLAT exam last year and i never acted upon the crush i had, i broke up with my bf right after the exam because I couldnt handle that relation anymore. to be clear i never broke up with him because i had a crush, even though i was guilty. i broke up because of how he forced me into things he liked and how he never valued my opinions and how i lost trust eventually when he said he had photos of me with him. I broke up for my peace but why do i feel like I've cheated on my ex because i had a crush even though i never acted upon it. Please help me
Ans: You were uncomfortable and moved away from the individual - more power to you. It takes time to come to terms or get over such situations - when breakups happen we all go through self doubt, anger, sadness- this is a phase - they come and pass. Focus on your emotional and mental wellbeing - take care

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 10, 2024Hindi
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My long distance bf of 2 years asked me to send videos of my body parts even though I refused countless times. He would act all sad. I started losing feelings for him eventually and I wasn't in a position to break up because I was having exams and didn't have my phone with me all the time. This went on for 10 months and by the time I started to develop a crush on someone but I never acted upon it or ever tried to talk to him. I was guilty for that. My bf started asking for more videos and he never deleted the ones I sent him. When I got to know this I broke up with him. After break up my friend sent me the profile of the boy I had a crush on, and I accidently sent a request to him even if I didn't want to. I cancelled my request and never thought about him again. My mind is messed up. My now ex bf didn't value my no-s. Did I do the right thing to break up with him? About the crush I had, was I not loyal to my ex bf? It was my first relation too
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Stay off boys/men for a while. I guess you need to start valuing yourself first before jumping into relationships.
You are worried about you ex not valuing you No-s...then why did you not say NO to him when he asked you for private videos? And here you speak of loyalty? Obviously your ex's obsession over only the physical aspect has upset you and you looked for a more deeper connection which you hoped will happen with the new person. So, what if you had a crush? And that too after you had a break-up...Chill...
Take stock of your mind, stop sending images or videos over the phone...you don't know who is going to use them and how they will use them. Be careful and draw neat and clear boundaries where no one can overstep them without your permission. Once you do this, you will come across people who value you.

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I was in a relationship with my bestfriend for 1 and half years. Eventually I got to know that he liked physical intimacy more than emotional connection which is opposite to my concept. My feelings started to fade but I couldn't muster up courage to break up with him. While all this was going on I started to develop a crush on someone else but I never knew his name or never approached him in any ways and always kept my distance. Now it's been months since I broke up with my bf and about the crush I had I still hadn't approached it and I'm never planning to. I'm feeling that as I had a crush while being in a relation I cheated on my bf even though I hadn't approached or talked to the other person. Please clear it out. Have I cheated. I have never intended to hurt anyone but now I think I'm a cheater and I'm not able to sleep. I had to undergo therapy sessions right after break up due to the guilty and I've been diagnosed with depression too. Please tell me was I a cheater. I need a clear cut answer otherwise I won't able to live peacefully. Please help me
Ans: let me assure you that you're not a cheater. Having a crush or being attracted to someone else, especially when you're in a relationship where your emotional needs aren't fully met, is a natural human experience. What defines cheating is action—whether you pursued or acted on those feelings in a way that would break the trust and commitment of the relationship.

From what you described, you never approached or engaged with this person, and your feelings of guilt stem from the internal conflict of having a crush while still with your partner. It’s important to recognize that you didn’t cross any boundaries of betrayal. Emotional distance from your boyfriend due to differing needs is something that naturally can cause feelings to shift. Your realization that the relationship wasn’t aligned with your values speaks more to your integrity and self-awareness than to any notion of cheating.

The fact that you're struggling with these feelings shows how much you value honesty and loyalty. Sometimes, our minds create unnecessary guilt because we hold ourselves to very high standards. What you’re going through emotionally is tough, but it's important to differentiate between unintentional thoughts and intentional actions. You haven't betrayed anyone, and I hope this understanding helps you find some peace as you continue working on healing and your well-being.

It's clear you care deeply about not wanting to hurt others, but you also deserve self-compassion

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I have a 6 year fixed deposit which will pay at maturity in Sep-2027. My question is on when to pay tax for this deposit. Should it be paid every year based on interest accrued every year OR only once, at the time of actual interest credit into the account?
Ans: Understanding Taxation on Fixed Deposit Interest

– Interest on fixed deposits is taxable under “Income from Other Sources.”
– Tax is not based on when interest is received.
– It is based on when the interest accrues.
– This is true even if the FD pays only at maturity.

? When Does Interest Accrue?

– Interest accrues every financial year, not just on maturity.
– Banks calculate interest every quarter or half-year.
– Even for reinvestment FDs, interest is earned yearly.
– The entire interest is paid at maturity, but accrues yearly.

? Taxation is Based on Accrual Method

– As per Income Tax Act, interest must be declared yearly.
– This is known as “accrual basis of taxation.”
– Ignoring this may result in tax demand and penalty later.

? Common Misunderstanding About Tax on FDs

– Many believe tax is due only when FD matures.
– This is incorrect under the Income Tax rules.
– This assumption may cause large tax outflow in maturity year.
– Also, it may attract interest and penalty from IT department.

? Your Obligation Each Year

– Every year you must estimate interest accrued.
– Add it to your total income while filing ITR.
– Pay tax as per your income slab on that amount.
– This is applicable even if the interest is not paid out.

? Where to Find Yearly Accrued Interest

– Ask your bank for yearly interest accrual certificate.
– Usually available in April each year.
– This helps in proper tax reporting in your return.

? Tax Deduction at Source (TDS) on FDs

– Banks deduct TDS if interest exceeds Rs. 40,000 per year.
– For senior citizens, this limit is Rs. 50,000.
– TDS is 10%, provided PAN is updated.
– If PAN is missing, TDS can be at 20%.
– TDS is not the final tax liability.
– You still need to calculate your slab tax.
– If you fall in higher tax slab, pay balance tax.
– If your slab is lower, claim refund of excess TDS.

? If You Ignore Annual Reporting

– Tax department can track FD accrual via Form 26AS.
– Interest is also shown in AIS (Annual Information Statement).
– If you don’t report interest, it raises red flags.
– In future scrutiny, you may face tax demand and penalty.

? Tax Planning Suggestions

– Ask bank for Form 16A or interest certificate every year.
– Add accrued interest to your income in your return.
– Pay self-assessment tax if needed before 31st July.
– This avoids last-minute surprise tax burden at maturity.
– Also avoids interest under section 234B and 234C.

? Impact on Overall Financial Planning

– FDs give assured returns but interest is fully taxable.
– This makes post-tax return low for many investors.
– Consider this tax aspect while comparing with other investments.
– For high income earners, debt mutual funds may be better.
– They offer indexation benefit and lower tax impact over time.

? Should You Break FD to Avoid Annual Tax?

– No need to break FD.
– Just declare interest every year properly.
– Even if maturity is far, show yearly interest accrual.
– Maturity proceeds will be tax-free if already declared yearly.

? Tax Filing and Documentation Tips

– Maintain record of FD opening date, amount and maturity date.
– Keep bank’s yearly interest certificate safely.
– While filing ITR, enter interest under “Income from Other Sources.”
– Match with AIS data to avoid mismatch.
– If mismatch found, explain with proof during ITR processing.

? What Happens on Maturity Year?

– In maturity year, you receive full interest and principal.
– But only declare the last year’s interest in ITR.
– Don’t report entire 6 years’ interest again.
– That would mean double taxation.
– Maturity amount already includes taxed portion.

? If You Missed Reporting in Earlier Years

– You can revise past returns for last 2 assessment years.
– File revised returns and pay tax with interest.
– Better to rectify voluntarily than face penalty later.

? Key Tax Rule to Remember

– Interest earned is taxable on accrual basis.
– Even if payment is made on maturity only.
– Pay tax each year, not just in maturity year.

? Ideal Tracking Practice

– Maintain Excel sheet for FD investments.
– Note FD amount, start and end date, and yearly interest.
– Add this value every year while filing your ITR.

? Benefit of Declaring Yearly Interest

– You avoid tax shock in final year.
– You avoid penalty, interest, and notice from IT department.
– You show income transparently.
– This helps in home loan, visa, and other financial proofs.

? Role of a Certified Financial Planner

– A CFP can help optimise tax-efficiency of your investments.
– Can help plan maturity of FD with other cashflows.
– Can suggest better options if tax is reducing returns.
– Regular reviews with a CFP help avoid such confusions.

? Disadvantages of Fixed Deposits

– Returns are low compared to inflation.
– Taxable every year.
– No indexation benefit.
– TDS cuts liquidity.
– Not suitable for long-term wealth creation.

? Alternative Options for Tax Efficiency

– Actively managed debt mutual funds offer better post-tax return.
– They allow better planning for income and withdrawals.
– Short-term and long-term capital gains can be staggered.
– Professional fund manager brings risk control.
– Certified Financial Planner and trusted MFD can help align these.

? Don’t Fall for Index Fund Hype

– Index funds offer low-cost but no flexibility.
– No scope of outperformance during market shifts.
– Poor downside protection in falling markets.
– Better to use actively managed funds guided by experts.
– This helps optimise portfolio across market cycles.

? Disadvantages of Direct Mutual Funds

– Direct plans need your own research and monitoring.
– No access to guidance from a certified mutual fund distributor.
– Most investors lack time or knowledge for this.
– Errors in fund selection or exit timing hurt returns.
– Regular plans via MFD give advice, handholding and long-term value.
– A CFP-aligned MFD ensures aligned goals, reviews and discipline.

? Don’t Rely on Endowment or Investment Policies

– If you hold LIC or Postal policies for investment, evaluate ROI.
– Most of them yield low post-tax returns.
– Consider surrender and reinvest into better options via SIPs.
– A Certified Financial Planner can help this switch efficiently.

? Final Insights

– Tax on FD interest must be paid every year, not just at maturity.
– Interest accrues yearly and is taxable even if not received.
– TDS doesn’t mean your full tax is paid.
– Declare interest each year in ITR.
– Collect interest certificate yearly for accurate tax filing.
– For better returns, explore tax-efficient debt mutual funds.
– Avoid direct funds and index funds without advice.
– Get professional support from CFP and trusted MFD.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
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I am a Govt. employee, aged 41 years and retiring in the year 2044. My net salary is Rs. 47K per month, after deducting almost 5K in NPS, presently have an amount of approx. 4 lak. in NPS account. I have a LIC plan, depositing 5k per month, maturing in the year 2039, assured wealth return is Rs. 21 Lakh plus additional 10 lakh death benefit. I have only a son, aged 6 years. I have a PPF account adding minimal amount whenever I save, maturing in 2033 and presently have a amount of Rs. 1.7 lakh. Plus, I have a loan of Rs. 10.5K per month, ending in June 2027. My first preferences is to accumulate wealth for my son's education. Second, is to buy a car. And third is to buy a peice of land to build house. My monthly expenses is in between 25K to 30K per month. Please suggest....
Ans: You have already taken thoughtful steps. Your goals are clear and well-prioritised. Now let’s do a complete 360-degree analysis.

Your profile shows that you are sincere and serious. Let us create a clear path forward.

? Income, Salary and Monthly Commitments

– Your net salary is Rs. 47,000 per month.
– NPS contribution of Rs. 5,000 is already deducted from salary.
– Loan EMI is Rs. 10,500 per month till June 2027.
– Monthly living expenses are between Rs. 25,000 and Rs. 30,000.
– LIC premium is Rs. 5,000 monthly.
– You have limited room for investment surplus right now.
– But this will improve after June 2027.

? Analysis of NPS Account

– NPS balance is Rs. 4 lakh as of now.
– You are contributing Rs. 5,000 monthly.
– That will continue till retirement in 2044.
– NPS is a disciplined and tax-efficient tool for retirement.
– Let it grow without any withdrawals.
– Avoid reducing the NPS contribution in future.
– After retirement, only 60% of the corpus will be tax-free.
– Remaining 40% may require annuity or structured withdrawal.
– NPS alone may not be enough for full retirement need.

? LIC Policy Assessment

– You pay Rs. 5,000 monthly till 2039.
– Policy offers Rs. 21 lakh maturity with Rs. 10 lakh death benefit.
– LIC is a mix of insurance and low-return savings.
– Estimated return is likely around 4% to 5% per year.
– You may consider surrendering this plan.
– Reinvest this into long-term mutual funds.
– Mutual funds offer higher returns and better flexibility.
– Insurance should always be separate from investments.
– Use term insurance for risk coverage.
– Use mutual funds for wealth creation.

? Review of PPF Account

– You are contributing a small amount irregularly.
– Current balance is Rs. 1.7 lakh.
– Maturity is due in 2033.
– PPF is safe and tax-free.
– But it offers modest returns of 7–7.5%.
– Use this only as part of your debt portion.
– Avoid treating it as your main growth engine.
– Increase contribution slightly if possible.
– But don’t overdepend on it for goals like education or retirement.

? Current Debt Structure and EMI Analysis

– EMI of Rs. 10,500 will end in June 2027.
– That’s about 25% of your current investable surplus.
– Once cleared, you will have higher monthly savings.
– Do not take another loan immediately after this one ends.
– Use that EMI amount for goal-based SIPs.
– Avoid using loan for buying car or land.
– Try to stay debt-free after 2027.
– That will help you build wealth faster.

? Insurance Planning Review

– LIC is not term insurance.
– You did not mention any pure term plan.
– Please buy one immediately with Rs. 50 lakh to Rs. 1 crore cover.
– It is low-cost and essential to protect your family.
– If anything happens to you, your son’s future is at risk.
– Term insurance is the best way to secure his education and upbringing.
– Review and ensure nominee names are correctly added.

? Goal 1: Your Son’s Education Planning

– Your son is 6 years old now.
– Engineering or medical education costs can be high.
– It may require Rs. 25–30 lakh or more in total.
– You have 10–12 years to plan this goal.
– Start a separate SIP dedicated only for this purpose.
– Choose diversified mutual funds with active management.
– Avoid direct or index funds.
– Direct funds lack expert guidance and periodic review.
– Index funds only copy market and offer no protection.
– Instead, regular mutual funds through a Certified Financial Planner are better.
– You will get yearly reviews and strategy adjustments.
– Increase SIP once your loan EMI ends in 2027.
– If possible, start with Rs. 3,000–5,000 monthly from now.
– Even this small start will grow with time.

? Goal 2: Buying a Car

– A car is a depreciating asset.
– It should never be bought with long-term loans.
– Try to buy a car with savings only.
– Delay the purchase till after 2027.
– You can set up a 3-year recurring deposit or short-term SIP.
– Use balanced or hybrid mutual funds for this goal.
– Do not disturb your son’s education corpus for car buying.
– Keep car budget simple and realistic.
– Avoid costly models with high EMI burden.
– Remember, a car is a comfort, not a goal.

? Goal 3: Buying a Piece of Land

– Real estate for living is a lifestyle choice.
– But do not treat it as an investment.
– Real estate lacks liquidity and transparency.
– Also, it brings added costs like stamp duty and maintenance.
– If you must buy land, do it only after key goals are covered.
– Never delay your child’s education or retirement for this.
– Avoid taking a big home loan again.
– If you still wish to buy land, start a separate SIP now.
– Use equity mutual funds with 8+ years horizon.
– Do not compromise your other long-term financial goals for land.

? Emergency Fund Planning

– You didn’t mention any emergency corpus.
– This is very important for salaried families.
– You need at least Rs. 1.5–2 lakh in liquid funds.
– Build this over the next 6–8 months.
– Use liquid or ultra-short mutual funds for this.
– Don’t keep money idle in savings bank account.
– This money is for medical, job loss, or family emergencies.

? Long-Term Retirement Strategy

– You retire in 2044, which gives 19 years.
– NPS will continue to grow till then.
– But NPS alone is not enough.
– Start a separate retirement-focused SIP now.
– Choose long-term equity mutual funds with active fund managers.
– Direct or index funds don’t give such customisation.
– Regular mutual funds via CFP-led guidance bring structure.
– Post 2027, increase retirement SIPs aggressively.
– Build two retirement sources – NPS and mutual funds.
– This dual structure gives tax and liquidity balance.
– Avoid any plans that mix insurance with retirement.

? Suggested Cash Flow Plan From Now

– Monthly net income is Rs. 47,000.
– EMI is Rs. 10,500 till 2027.
– LIC premium is Rs. 5,000.
– Expenses are Rs. 30,000 at max.
– That leaves very limited room today.
– Still, try SIP of Rs. 2,000–3,000 for your son’s goal.
– Also set aside Rs. 1,000 in liquid fund as emergency base.
– After EMI ends in 2027, divert that full amount to SIPs.
– Split that into retirement, car, and home planning SIPs.
– Don’t increase lifestyle expenses after loan closure.
– Instead, increase savings commitment.

? Maintain Financial Discipline

– Avoid borrowing for car, travel, or celebrations.
– Track all your expenses monthly using an app or diary.
– Update nominee details in all your accounts.
– Review all your investments every 6 months.
– Set financial reminders for SIP dates and insurance renewals.
– Don’t stop SIPs even if market goes down.
– Stay invested for long-term compounding.

? Benefits of Active Mutual Funds Over Index and Direct Funds

– Index funds copy market and offer no active strategy.
– They can fall badly when markets crash.
– They don’t help in risk reduction.
– Direct mutual funds are also risky for non-experts.
– They give no guidance, no regular review, and no help during crisis.
– Regular mutual funds through a Certified Financial Planner are better.
– You get yearly check-ups, goal mapping, and corrections.
– A planner keeps your emotions under control.
– That helps build long-term wealth safely.

? Finally

– You have good habits and clear goals.
– But some product choices need correction.
– Surrender the LIC and replace it with term insurance.
– Build your son’s education fund with SIP.
– Create a car fund only with savings.
– Don’t rush into land purchase.
– Build emergency fund and retirement fund gradually.
– After 2027, your cash flow will improve.
– Use that to increase SIPs and reach your goals easily.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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