Hi my husband is going to a trip with his friends and leaving me and my kid is this wrong should I worry about it or let him go where he wants to

Ans: Dear Sree,

Men can do anything, but women can't; does it sound right to you? To me, it sounds like a male chauvinist idea put in place for a man's benefit.

Men and women are equal and have equal rights; read that again. If your husband can have fun with his friends, so can you. What makes him so exceptional that he gets to live freely, and you, on the other hand, should be caged? Ask yourself that, and you will have your answer to "Is that how it's supposed to be?"

You and you alone get to decide how you want to live your life, certainly not your husband. I can't tell you to challenge your husband's ideas; that's your call. But I can tell you this, if you submit, you will never know what it is to live. Fulfilling your partner's twisted whims and fancies will only make him feel more entitled. Stop it when you still have the time. Be strong.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You either trust someone or you don't...There is no grey area in this...it's black or white!

Has your husband done or said anything earlier for you to actually not trust him? If YES, then your fears are justified...
OR is this a one-off episode where you overheard his talking to his friends? What if you had no heard the conversation, would you then have felt okay if he went along on the trip?
Your husband is not a child and does not need a mother to tell him right from wrong. If he really wants to 'fool around', he can do that in the same city too. And whenever you prevent anyone from doing something, invariably the mind is stuck on the very same thing. Instead, it's wiser to state your concerns to him and what exactly bothers you. what you overheard and how it will bother you if he is part of something like this.

So, a good place to start will be to ask:
Do I have a reason to not trust my husband OR is it my insecurities that are causing me these thoughts?

If it is the first statement, then you possibly are right from your point of view and you can assert your concerns powerfully and express your dissent about the trip BUT if it's the second statement, then simply express, trust and believe.

Trust is what relationships are made up of...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: In a partnership, mutual support and shared responsibilities are essential, and it’s natural to feel frustrated and even resentful if your husband is prioritizing his comfort over your needs and well-being. Since he’s not providing emotional or financial support, it might be time to set some boundaries and expectations to protect your own peace and ensure you’re not carrying everything alone.

Start by calmly sharing how this situation affects you—not just financially but emotionally and physically. Emphasize that while you understand his desire to stay close to his family, your situation is not sustainable, and you need him to step up. You might also consider counseling, either together or on your own, to find ways to cope with your stress and explore solutions to address this imbalance in your relationship.

If he’s unwilling to make changes or support you even after open conversations, it may be necessary to think about your long-term well-being and that of your children. Your strength and resilience in handling so much on your own are admirable, but you also deserve a partner who is invested in your happiness and shares the load.

In the meantime, is there any possibility of support from family, friends, or childcare services near your work location? Having some practical help, even temporarily, could relieve some of your stress and allow you to focus on what’s best for you and your children going forward. Remember, you are not alone, and reaching out to build a support network can make a world of difference in helping you navigate this challenging time.

Ans: Dear Vandana,
Now what the boys do there will stay there!
If this bothers you and I am sure given how your marriage has been for the past year, it's necessary to tell your husband about your concerns. If he really cares about you and the marriage, I am sure he will either not go or reassure you that he will not be a part of the casual sex part. Now either you believe him or not, is left to you...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/