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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 16, 2024Hindi
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I hardly have people around me who always pretend that I "was not supposed to be born", "how the hell was I born". Yes, I am 25 years of age and I am not able to deal with my colleagues despite trying a lot

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The more you indulge in this, the more you are going to indulge in self-pity and this doesn't lead you anywhere other than you feeling sorry for yourself even more. It's an exhausting loop; break the loop and NOW.

Ask yourself:
- Do these people actually say this to me OR am I just imaging it all?
- At 25, do I have the power to establish my identity or am I at the mercy of others?

You know the answers to both and also know that figments of imagination in a negative loop can only be self-destructive. So break this loop...Certain instances/events may have caused you to feel all this BUT this kind of self-talk isn't useful.
Your self-talk is something only you can control; so do just that...Write a set of positive and happy things about yourself.
If you don't value yourself, why should anyone else do it?

All the best!

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Ans: career paths are unique for each individual, and success is not solely defined by age or job title. Focus on your personal growth, contributions to your organization, and finding fulfillment in your workUnderstand that your age and experience bring unique strengths to the table. You likely have a wealth of knowledge and skills that can be valuable to your current organization. Identify and leverage these strengths in your current role. Consider investing in professional development opportunities to update your skills and stay current in your field Build relationships with colleagues, both younger and older, through networking Networking can help you feel more connected and open up opportunities for mentorship or collaboration. Connect with more senior colleagues or mentors within your organization. They can provide guidance on career advancement, share their experiences, and help you navigate the corporate culture Understanding the expectations for career progression can help you set realistic goals Find common ground with your colleagues, regardless of age differences. Engage in team-building activities, attend social events, and try to connect on a personal level. Building strong relationships with your team members can improve collaboration and create a more positive work environment.
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 22, 2025
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I am 32 and I have been working really hard to build my career. I love what I do, and I've invested a lot of time and energy to grow in my role. But somehow, at work, especially during informal conversations, people often ask me questions like, 'When are you planning to settle down?' or 'Any baby plans on the horizon?' or even worse, 'You should start thinking about family before it's too late.' Sometimes these are casual remarks during lunch breaks, after meetings when the tone turns casual. Surprisingly, it's not always from older colleagues. Even people my age do it. It's personally frustrating because the underlying message seems to be: Your career is fine for now, but surely you will slow down or quit once you get married or have kids, right? It feels like no matter how well I perform or how passionate I am about my work, there's always this unspoken assumption that it's all temporary. I don't want to snap or sound defensive because that often backfires. At the same time, I also don't want to smile politely and let these questions continue. I want to protect my boundaries while still being professional and graceful.
Ans: Hi!!

To be in a position where you are today and say, ' I love what I do', is simply stupendous, congratulations!

In the context of you being 32 and still unmarried will definitely get you the comments that you are receiving... and like you said they are happening informally casually... so just treat them that way, casually... answer them, don't avoid them or don't show annoyance. Just answer them with a ,"not happening anytime soon, ask me after 02 years", or any other casual remark you deem fit.

I can understand the frustration...forget about what other people are trying to imply etc , they are just casual remarks and take them that way.
"I don't want to snap or sound defensive because that often backfires", this is your remark I am requoting, don't give too much importance to it, if you are sure of what you want in life, you don't have to explain anything to others, it is none of their business any way, just shrug your shoulders and move on! You can't change people...
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Wishing that you make peace with yourself and the world around you...work is just one part of life. Take care of yourself and all the very best!!

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