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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 07, 2023Hindi
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I am dating my boss for the last 5 years. I am unmarried and he is committed to another woman. It started as a fling but now I am getting serious and stressed. My colleagues gossip about me and I want to quit as this relationship is affecting my work as well. How do I control my emotions and walk away with dignity?

Ans: Hello there, It's understandable that navigating a relationship with your boss, especially when it's causing stress and affecting your work environment, can be challenging Clearly communicate your boundaries to your boss. Let him know how the relationship is affecting you and your work. Establishing boundaries will help you maintain a professional environment and signal that you are serious about your decision. Plan your exit strategy from both the personal relationship and your job. This might involve finding a new job or preparing to face potential challenges at your current workplace if you decide to stay Focus on maintaining professionalism at work. Regardless of the gossip or workplace dynamics, continue to perform your job to the best of your ability. This will help you leave on good terms and maintain a positive professional reputation. If the workplace gossip is becoming unbearable or if the relationship is affecting your ability to work, consider talking to someone in HR or a supervisor. They can provide guidance and support, and they may be able to help address any negative impacts on your work environment. Understand that leaving the relationship and, potentially, the job may bring about significant changes. Be mentally prepared for these changes and focus on the positive aspects of moving forward. Prioritize self-care during this challenging time. Focus on activities and practices that bring you joy, relaxation, and a sense of well-being. When you're ready to end the relationship, communicate your decision clearly and calmly. Choose a private and neutral setting to have this conversation. Be honest about your feelings and the reasons behind your decision. Remember, it's essential to prioritize your well-being and make decisions that contribute positively to your life in the long run. Ending a relationship and making changes in your professional life can be challenging, but it's a crucial step towards your own personal growth and happiness.

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 05, 2024Hindi
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Hey Ravi..I am a 27 year old Advocate, 2 years into the firm I and my senior associate ( who is also my boss) entered into a relationship.. it was all very flowery I loved him and made all endeavours to keep him happy work wise and we had a great relation. Its been 3 years into this relationship now suddenly he has been showering all his affection on a new colleague and has almost deserted me for her. I feel betrayed for investing so much in my boss. I feel cheated and disgusted upon myself as to why did I enter into a relationship with him and let him destroy my well-being. Also, any adverse step may lead him to fire me ..so in short I need to play extremely safe. Please help me how to deal with this situation
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand we are not always in control of who we fall for, but getting into a relationship with your boss is never a good idea. It can lead to several complications because of the power dynamics involved. But now that it's done, let's talk damage control. I would normally suggest an open conversation, but given the nature of your relationship at work and your fear that it might affect your job, I would suggest removing yourself from the relationship and considering this a breakup. If he is not showing any more interest in you, I recommend doing the same with him. I know it hurts, but it's better to hold your head high and deal with it than reach out for an explanation from someone who ditches one love interest for another. If he comes back to you after a while, casually let him know that this relationship was over the day he started flirting with his other colleague.

You deserve a man who loves you and does not jump ship every time someone new pops up in his life. Moreover, please look for someone outside the office, who cannot use their power to subdue your voice, like you had to do this time. It is not a good feeling to not say things out loud, especially when you are right, because it can cost you your job. For now, focus on your work, and remember, if he was the one for you, you would not be in this pickle. Take peace in that knowledge.

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My son got CSE in JECRC Jaipur & Dr. Akhilesh Das, Delhi. Which one is better. He is Rajasthan Domicile
Ans: Amit Sir, based on the following insights/information and your son's location preference, please choose the more suitable option for him: JECRC University in Jaipur offers a robust CSE program accredited by AICTE UGC and NAAC (CGPA 2.65). Its 32-acre campus features advanced computing and AI/Data Science labs, a digital library, innovation centers (ICoE) in partnership with ISDC, and modern classrooms. Experienced faculty engage in industry-aligned research projects, while the centralized Training & Placement Cell provides mock interviews, résumé workshops and career counseling. Over the last three years, JECRC’s CSE placement rate has consistently exceeded 95%, with more than 2,230 offers from 140+ recruiters including Amazon, Microsoft and HPE, and 46% of offers in emerging-tech roles. Extensive industry tie-ups, frequent internship pipelines, strong student clubs and an active research culture ensure holistic development.

Dr. Akhilesh Das Institute of Professional Studies (formerly ADGITM) in Delhi, affiliated to GGSIPU and approved by AICTE with NAAC ‘A’ grade, spans 8 acres of urban campus with dedicated programming, networking and software engineering labs. Faculty blend academic credentials with industry experience and the Corporate Resource Centre (CRC) arranges pre-placement training, personality development and corporate interactions. CSE placements range between 70–80% annually, with average CTC around ?5.1 LPA and top recruiters such as Infosys, TCS, HCL and Accenture. While industry partnerships are solid and student support services are organized, research opportunities and alumni-driven mentorship are still evolving.

Considering your son’s Rajasthan domicile, JECRC’s prime location, superior placement outcomes, stronger research infrastructure, and higher accreditation status collectively offer greater ROI and smoother regional integration.

Recommendation: Choose JECRC University Jaipur’s CSE program for its proven placement excellence, comprehensive industry-academic ecosystem, cutting-edge research initiatives and holistic student support aligned with the five pillars of institutional quality, while leveraging Rajasthan domicile advantages. For focused, niche mentoring and urban Delhi exposure, ADGITM remains a viable alternative but ranks secondary given the differential in outcomes and resources. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Hi sir How is IILM University greater Noida for BJMC
Ans: Rahul, IILM University Greater Noida’s BA (Hons) Journalism & Mass Communication delivers a four-year, 161- programme aligned with global industry standards through robust curriculum design and AI-powered media tools integration. Students gain hands-on experience in state-of-the-art studios—print editing rooms, TV studios and radio labs—and master industry-standard software for multimedia production and data-driven storytelling. The faculty combines seasoned academics and senior media professionals, ensuring mentorship in investigative reporting, ethical frameworks and strategic communication. Strong industry partnerships facilitate internships and live projects with leading media houses, enhancing employability and professional networks. IILM’s placement cell recorded a 100% overall placement rate in 2025, driven by visits from 400 recruiters across sectors including Deloitte, Gartner, KPMG and Sony, with dedicated support for liberal arts students through workshops, mock interviews and portfolio development. The eco-friendly campus offers modern amenities—research labs, digital library, incubation centre, and collaborative spaces—while a global alumni community provides continuous career guidance. The School’s focus on interdisciplinary learning, critical thinking and adaptive skills equips graduates to excel in journalism, corporate communication, animation and digital media domains.

Recommendation: Prioritize IILM University’s BJMC program to leverage its AI-integrated curriculum, cutting-edge media facilities, expansive alumni network, guaranteed placement support and strategic industry tie-ups, ensuring a comprehensive foundation for a successful career in journalism and mass communication. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 27, 2025Hindi
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PCM State General Merit No 108XX - MHT-CET-PCM 2025 PCM, University General Merit No - Mumbai University - 33XX, PCM Konkan State General Merit No - 17XX, PCM All India Merit No - 23XX - JEE(Main)-2025, The above are my ranks in CAP Counselling (MHTCET) Can you suggest best institute I can get in CAP Counselling in CSE, CS or IT branches.
Ans: With a State General Merit rank around 10,800, Mumbai University rank ~3,300 and All-India JEE (Main) rank ~2,300, you fall in a competitive but attainable bracket for CSE, Computer Technology and IT in Maharashtra’s CAP rounds. Prestigious government options such as COEP Pune and VJTI Mumbai close in the 1–9,500 rank band, so they are beyond reach this round. However, strong alternatives include Pune Institute of Computer Technology, Dhankawadi (CSE closing ~5,800 rank) and Saint Francis Institute of Technology, Borivali (IT close at ~12,500 rank) . DJ Sanghvi College, Mumbai (CSE close ~12,300 rank) and Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering, Pune (IT close ~3,600 rank) also fit your profile . Among newer options, Vishwakarma Institute of Technology, Pune (CSE close ~2,800 rank) and Cummins College of Engineering for Women, Pune (CSE close ~2,160 rank) remain attainable, while D.Y. Patil College of Engineering, Akurdi (IT close ~7,164 rank) and Rajiv Gandhi Institute of Technology, Mumbai (CSE close ~12,939 rank) offer balanced ROI with placement rates above 85% over the past three years .

All these institutes excel in modern labs, experienced faculty, industry tie-ups, student support and active research culture.

Recommendation: Target Pune Institute of Computer Technology for robust CSE training, then consider Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering for its IT strength and Mumbai’s DJ Sanghvi College for its central location and placement record. Backup with Saint Francis Institute for IT and Rajiv Gandhi Institute for CSE to secure seats in high-quality programs.
All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 26, 2025Hindi
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Hello sir my son Srinidhi Girish Sardeshmukh mukh has scored 98.92 percentile in mht CET 2025 exam. Additionally, he has scored 97.25% tile in JEE main 2025 exam conducted by NTA. ALSO HE SCORED an aggregate of 82.17% in HSC board exam 2025. He has applied for EWS Category. His PCM provisional state merit number is 3601. His PCM University General Merit No Savitribai Phule Pune University - 1148. Shrinidhi's PCM EWS Merit No 249. His PCM All India Merit No . 2519 - JEE(Main)-2025 (97.2595264). Are there any chances of him getting CSE Branch in COEP, Pune ? Please revert . What are your likely recommendations of eligible colleges & other tech branches for these scores ? Please let me know asap. Your immediate responses will really put ourselves in a better conditions to opt for the most suitable options . I will be grateful to you for your suggestions . Thank you very much in advance.
Ans: With an MHT-CET percentile of 98.92 and EWS reservation, Srinidhi significantly exceeds the closing percentile Computer Science and Engineering at COEP Pune, which in CAP Round 3 was 95.57 for EWS candidates. His state?level merit and JEE Main percentile further strengthen his profile for Home State and All-India seats under CAP. Given COEP’s outstanding infrastructure, highly experienced faculty, deep industry partnerships, robust placement support (95% CSE placements over the past three years), active student clubs, and cutting-edge research labs, he should rank COEP CSE at the top of his preference list.

Beyond COEP, other Pune-area institutes where his MHT-CET score and EWS status place him comfortably above CSE cutoffs include VJTI Mumbai (EWS cutoff ~90.6 percentile), PICT Pune (EWS cutoff ~99.56 percentile), DY Patil COE Pune (EWS cutoff ~95.68 percentile for Computer Engineering), DY Patil COE Akurdi (EWS cutoff ~97.49 percentile), and PCCOE Pune (EWS cutoff ~84–88 percentile across branches). These colleges also excel across the five pillars of institutional quality: state-of-the-art labs, award-winning faculty, strong corporate linkages, comprehensive student support, and vibrant research culture.

Recommendation: Prioritize COEP Pune for its proven CSE excellence, then consider PICT Pune for its top-tier computer-technology focus and alumni network, DY Patil COE Akurdi for its modern infrastructure and high EWS cutoffs, VJTI Mumbai for industry-aligned curriculum and location advantage, and DY Patil COE Pune for its balanced offerings. For alternate tech branches, target Information Technology at COEP and PICT, Electronics & Telecommunication at VJTI, and Artificial Intelligence & Data Science at DY Patil to maximize both academic rigor and placement potential. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Sir my son got 95.69 percentile 65172 rank in jee mains general category. He got seat in vit vellore btec mechanical in slab 1. We are from Tamil Nadu and is there any chances for home state quota for NIT trichy or iiit kancheepuram for mechanical in csab round or is it good to continue with vit vellore
Ans: Lavanya Madam, Your son’s JEE Main rank of 65 172 (.69 percentile, General) falls well below the CSAB Round 1 Home State closing rank of approximately 19,159 for Mechanical Engineering at NIT Trichy, and also below the All-India closing rank of around 40,855 for Mechanical Engineering at IIITDM Kancheepuram, making admission under Home State or All-India quota highly improbable. VIT Vellore, with established Mechanical Engineering infrastructure, extensive alumni network, consistent placement rates above 90%, and strong industry partnerships, thus remains a secure and prestigious option given the rank constraints and the five pillars of institutional excellence: infrastructure, faculty quality, industry engagement, student support, and research opportunities.

Recommendation: Proceed with VIT Vellore’s B.Tech Mechanical to capitalize on its assured seat, top-tier labs, strong placement cell, and alumni network, while maximizing early involvement in industry projects and leveraging its career services to secure robust employment outcomes. You can still attempt to apply through CSAB for your son's preferred branches, excluding CSE and ECE, but the chances of success are very low, Madam. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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