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Relationships Expert - Answered on Jun 30, 2023

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Question by TRS on May 29, 2023Hindi

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Hi, I am having an affair with my co-worker. She is married. We enjoyed a lot together, even unprotected. Now, my family has fixed my marriage. How do I break off with my co-worker? Should I take any test? Should I confess all this to my would-be wife?

Ans: Unprotected sex with someone is the height of irresponsibility. What if she got pregnant? And if you’re looking to get married, yes, you will have to cool off this affair. You can explain to her that you want to start married life with a clean slate. As for confessions to your would-be wife…cross that bridge when you come to it. There’s no need to mess with your fiancé’s head right off the bat, but you can let her know that you’ve been in a previous relationship. Maybe she has been too? The point is not to dwell in the past, but to look to the future — your future together.

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