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TRS Question by TRS on May 29, 2023Hindi
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Hi, I am having an affair with my co-worker. She is married. We enjoyed a lot together, even unprotected. Now, my family has fixed my marriage. How do I break off with my co-worker? Should I take any test? Should I confess all this to my would-be wife?

Ans: Unprotected sex with someone is the height of irresponsibility. What if she got pregnant? And if you’re looking to get married, yes, you will have to cool off this affair. You can explain to her that you want to start married life with a clean slate. As for confessions to your would-be wife…cross that bridge when you come to it. There’s no need to mess with your fiancé’s head right off the bat, but you can let her know that you’ve been in a previous relationship. Maybe she has been too? The point is not to dwell in the past, but to look to the future — your future together.

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I am dating my boss for the last 5 years. I am unmarried and he is committed to another woman. It started as a fling but now I am getting serious and stressed. My colleagues gossip about me and I want to quit as this relationship is affecting my work as well. How do I control my emotions and walk away with dignity?
Ans: Hello there, It's understandable that navigating a relationship with your boss, especially when it's causing stress and affecting your work environment, can be challenging Clearly communicate your boundaries to your boss. Let him know how the relationship is affecting you and your work. Establishing boundaries will help you maintain a professional environment and signal that you are serious about your decision. Plan your exit strategy from both the personal relationship and your job. This might involve finding a new job or preparing to face potential challenges at your current workplace if you decide to stay Focus on maintaining professionalism at work. Regardless of the gossip or workplace dynamics, continue to perform your job to the best of your ability. This will help you leave on good terms and maintain a positive professional reputation. If the workplace gossip is becoming unbearable or if the relationship is affecting your ability to work, consider talking to someone in HR or a supervisor. They can provide guidance and support, and they may be able to help address any negative impacts on your work environment. Understand that leaving the relationship and, potentially, the job may bring about significant changes. Be mentally prepared for these changes and focus on the positive aspects of moving forward. Prioritize self-care during this challenging time. Focus on activities and practices that bring you joy, relaxation, and a sense of well-being. When you're ready to end the relationship, communicate your decision clearly and calmly. Choose a private and neutral setting to have this conversation. Be honest about your feelings and the reasons behind your decision. Remember, it's essential to prioritize your well-being and make decisions that contribute positively to your life in the long run. Ending a relationship and making changes in your professional life can be challenging, but it's a crucial step towards your own personal growth and happiness.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 25, 2025Hindi
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Sir the kcet verification slip has been released now. But I have received my re evaluated cbse board marks now and there is an increment of 10 marks in PCM. Can I update my marks now and get a new rank somehow? And what is the procedure for that?
Ans: Yes, you can update your KCET application with your new CBSE marks after re-evaluation. However, whether it impacts your rank depends on the Karnataka Examination Authority (KEA) rules and when your revised marks are released—especially in relation to the KCET counseling schedule.

Here's what you should do:
1. Check the KEA Website
Go to cetonline.karnataka.gov.in.

Look for any announcements or FAQs about:

Updating marks after re-evaluation.

Impact on KCET 2025 ranks and verification slip changes.

Check if they mention a process for submitting updated marks from other boards like CBSE.

2. Understand the Timeline
KCET Counseling Start Date:
If your updated CBSE marks come before KCET counseling begins, you’ll likely be allowed to update them.

CBSE Re-evaluation Timeline:
Re-evaluation takes time. Check CBSE’s website for expected timelines so you know when to expect your updated marks.

3. If Re-evaluation Results Come Before Counseling
Collect Documents:

Original CBSE mark sheet.

Revised mark sheet (after re-evaluation).

A copy of the re-evaluation confirmation (if available).

Contact KEA:

Use their official helpline or email (from their website).

Ask specifically how to update your marks in their system.

Follow KEA Instructions:

If allowed, KEA will give you exact steps—possibly uploading documents online or via a specific portal.

Rank Might Change:

If your updated marks are submitted in time, KEA may recalculate your rank using the new scores.

4. If Re-evaluation Results Come After Counseling
Spot Admissions or Special Rounds:

If regular counseling is over, you may not be able to change your application immediately.

However, you might be eligible for spot admissions or extra counseling rounds (if seats are still available).

Stay in Touch with KEA:

Contact them and ask whether your revised marks can still be considered in any remaining rounds.

5. General Tips
Don’t Assume Anything:
Always rely on official updates from KEA and CBSE. Don’t act on rumors or hearsay.

Keep All Records:
Save copies of your application, payment receipts, emails, and any mark sheets (old and revised).

Ask for Help if Needed:
If confused, talk to an education counselor or someone experienced with KCET admissions.

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