Hi, I am having an affair with my co-worker. She is married. We enjoyed a lot together, even unprotected. Now, my family has fixed my marriage. How do I break off with my co-worker? Should I take any test? Should I confess all this to my would-be wife?

Ans: Hello there, It's understandable that navigating a relationship with your boss, especially when it's causing stress and affecting your work environment, can be challenging Clearly communicate your boundaries to your boss. Let him know how the relationship is affecting you and your work. Establishing boundaries will help you maintain a professional environment and signal that you are serious about your decision. Plan your exit strategy from both the personal relationship and your job. This might involve finding a new job or preparing to face potential challenges at your current workplace if you decide to stay Focus on maintaining professionalism at work. Regardless of the gossip or workplace dynamics, continue to perform your job to the best of your ability. This will help you leave on good terms and maintain a positive professional reputation. If the workplace gossip is becoming unbearable or if the relationship is affecting your ability to work, consider talking to someone in HR or a supervisor. They can provide guidance and support, and they may be able to help address any negative impacts on your work environment. Understand that leaving the relationship and, potentially, the job may bring about significant changes. Be mentally prepared for these changes and focus on the positive aspects of moving forward. Prioritize self-care during this challenging time. Focus on activities and practices that bring you joy, relaxation, and a sense of well-being. When you're ready to end the relationship, communicate your decision clearly and calmly. Choose a private and neutral setting to have this conversation. Be honest about your feelings and the reasons behind your decision. Remember, it's essential to prioritize your well-being and make decisions that contribute positively to your life in the long run. Ending a relationship and making changes in your professional life can be challenging, but it's a crucial step towards your own personal growth and happiness.

Ans: The answer lies in your question itself.

You said - 'but I am fully dependent on her for my emotion and cozy moments' which already puts you in a bad situation.

As a man, you're not supposed to get all your good emotions from the girl. Right now, you are needy, desperate and clingy which will anyway turn any girl off.

So sort it out man. You can reach out to me for help.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This entire thing is about sex. Kindly don't mislead her any longer... End this and please find someone else who is not married and vulnerable. This is not all about you and your physical needs. This is also about who you are with and what situation of life they are in. A little thought beyond just you and your needs can help.

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Ans: Hi,
Thanks for clarifying that. If you are considering ending your marriage and pursuing a relationship with your colleague, the first step is still to have an open conversation with your wife. Only once that is sorted, should you think about your next relationship. Even if you are not happy, you owe your wife the truth and a proper explanation. And you have a child as well, so with a kid in the equation, you have to take every step even more carefully.
Once that is sorted, you can finally think about your feelings for your colleague- whether it is fleeting or real- and decide if you want to confess them to her.


Hope this helps.

Ans: Developing feelings is normal. Since you are married, you have to not let that affect you. You don't need to leave the job. Not being able to concentrate is just an excuse