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TRS Question by TRS on May 29, 2023Hindi
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Hi, I am having an affair with my co-worker. She is married. We enjoyed a lot together, even unprotected. Now, my family has fixed my marriage. How do I break off with my co-worker? Should I take any test? Should I confess all this to my would-be wife?

Ans: Unprotected sex with someone is the height of irresponsibility. What if she got pregnant? And if you’re looking to get married, yes, you will have to cool off this affair. You can explain to her that you want to start married life with a clean slate. As for confessions to your would-be wife…cross that bridge when you come to it. There’s no need to mess with your fiancé’s head right off the bat, but you can let her know that you’ve been in a previous relationship. Maybe she has been too? The point is not to dwell in the past, but to look to the future — your future together.

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Dear Anu, please keep it anonymous. I am 36 year old , married and with a kid. Though i am married , i have fallen aparr from my spouse and we don’t stay together since many years. In the last couple of years, I fell in love with a much younger person who happens to be my colleague. We are a great couple sharing and caring. We have been intimate too. Now, since two months They are searching for my lover's marriage. There is no resistance from my lover for this. My lover also tell that it was to happen and we have no future, my parents wont allow. Im trying to keep distance but because of work we keep meeting. Everytime the push pull is eating me up...im unable to work. Please advise what should I do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
So, the younger chap had his fun and now when you look for emotional support, he talks of no future together.
What does this tell you? Should you allow yourself to be a part of the push and pull drama? Also, without a closure from your marriage, this is just going to be an off-on relationship. It's time you acknowledge that you are more into this than he is...
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