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Confused 23-year-old: Break up or stay with girlfriend from wealthy family?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Aug 23, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 12, 2024Hindi

Hi , I am 23 year old male. I met a girl online , we talked attached and went into relationship. I met her thrice . I broke up with her because I am not sure whether she is right fit for me or not like our vibe matches , I enjoys her company but when I think about other things like will she be able to adjust with my family (my family is kinda orthodox) and she is from wealthy family. I am the sole earner in my family and not financially well in life right now. I am worried about future whether I can make it to marriage or not . I am not sure whether I have taken right decision of breakup or not. I broke up with her on February but I still misses her and she called me again after 6 months and telling me to come again . what to do , please anybody who can advise me . I will be so grateful to you

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
All these things should have been thought of before you broke up with her. Why now? This should have been discussed with her at that time...nothing has changed and she is still the same. So is the financial situation and the family situations...

So, what has to change is your mindset on all of this and you both need to be willing to work around all these challenges. If not, the relationship that you are going to pursue is going to be a stressful one...
If the two of you are serious on it, please sit down and talk about all the differences between both families, the differences between the two of you, what you agree and disagree on and how you are going to resolve all of this...Build your future and NOT worry about it...Have this honest chat and see where it all leads to!

All the best!
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Hello Mam, I have been relationship in past 2 1/2 years. I saw her in my first matches and she didn’t show interest in me. Later she got in touch with me and we got into a relationship. Due to lockdown we couldn’t meet. Whenever I ask her to meet up she used to tell me NO.We met only 4 times in 2 years.And I’m only looking her all daily needs and expenses.She is ready to meet her friends but for me she will tell it’s not possible because of parents and other circumstances.Sometimes I feel she is using me. I’m confused. What decision should I make? I told her many times 'let’s move on.' After a couple of days I will only call her to talk but she never says let’s move on.Please suggest what I should do.

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Dear AK, maybe she has moved on and at the time when she liked you, you happened to be a mere distraction.

How do you know that you are in a relationship with her? Have the two of you talked about it?

If not, please request for a meeting and simply and kindly ask her where does she see this relationship going in the next 2 years?

That will give you an idea as to why she is avoiding meeting you and seems to find time to meet other people.

If she refuses this meeting as well which is important for both your futures, I think you have your answer and there is nothing more to clarify. Time for you to move on…

All the best!

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