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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Feb 23, 2022

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AK Question by AK on Feb 23, 2022Hindi
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 Hello Mam, I have been relationship in past 2 1/2 years. I saw her in my first matches and she didn’t show interest in me.
Later she got in touch with me and we got into a relationship.
Due to lockdown we couldn’t meet. Whenever I ask her to meet up she used to tell me NO.
We met only 4 times in 2 years.
And I’m only looking her all daily needs and expenses.
She is ready to meet her friends but for me she will tell it’s not possible because of parents and other circumstances.
Sometimes I feel she is using me. I’m confused. What decision should I make? I told her many times 'let’s move on.'
After a couple of days I will only call her to talk but she never says let’s move on.
Please suggest what I should do.

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Dear AK, maybe she has moved on and at the time when she liked you, you happened to be a mere distraction.

How do you know that you are in a relationship with her? Have the two of you talked about it?

If not, please request for a meeting and simply and kindly ask her where does she see this relationship going in the next 2 years?

That will give you an idea as to why she is avoiding meeting you and seems to find time to meet other people.

If she refuses this meeting as well which is important for both your futures, I think you have your answer and there is nothing more to clarify. Time for you to move on…

All the best!

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