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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 12, 2024Hindi
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Hello maam , I am 23 year old male . I met a girl online , instantly our vibe matched, we got attached and went into relationship. I broke up with her because I was not sure is this girl right for me or not. She is not much spritual, she is not much aspirational,I don't know I like her but there are things which are preventing me to take further steps. I think she will not be able to adjust with my family as we are from village area and she is from urban city and wealthy family and I am financially struggling now . I am a sole earner and have many responsibilities. Not sure what to do in this case. I broke up with her on February but I still misses her , she also misses me and she called me yesterday saying come again please. What should I do? I am confused

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I appreciate you for being so selfless and thinking about others. It was a wise and mature decision. If you think your family and her would not be a good match, and if you have to remain in a joint family setting after marriage, it's best not to pursue the relationship. It would be unfair to both you and her. I understand that you both miss each other now. While you will move on from this breakup, both of you will have to adjust forever if there are compatibility issues. She might find your step cruel and hurtful, but you should know you did it for the betterment of everyone else, despite how much it hurts you. It makes you a great man.

Best Wishes.

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Hi , I am 23 year old male. I met a girl online , we talked attached and went into relationship. I met her thrice . I broke up with her because I am not sure whether she is right fit for me or not like our vibe matches , I enjoys her company but when I think about other things like will she be able to adjust with my family (my family is kinda orthodox) and she is from wealthy family. I am the sole earner in my family and not financially well in life right now. I am worried about future whether I can make it to marriage or not . I am not sure whether I have taken right decision of breakup or not. I broke up with her on February but I still misses her and she called me again after 6 months and telling me to come again . what to do , please anybody who can advise me . I will be so grateful to you
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
All these things should have been thought of before you broke up with her. Why now? This should have been discussed with her at that time...nothing has changed and she is still the same. So is the financial situation and the family situations...

So, what has to change is your mindset on all of this and you both need to be willing to work around all these challenges. If not, the relationship that you are going to pursue is going to be a stressful one...
If the two of you are serious on it, please sit down and talk about all the differences between both families, the differences between the two of you, what you agree and disagree on and how you are going to resolve all of this...Build your future and NOT worry about it...Have this honest chat and see where it all leads to!

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 04, 2025Hindi
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I am a 49 year old widower,have 2 daughters, and looking for my remarriage.Six months back i contacted one lady, through one matrimonial site ,divorcee,47 yrs old from Mumbai who faced Domestic violence in her first marriage and has one son.since then we have been chatting on whatsapp daily,talked few times on phone and met once 4 months back she is good looking and i have expressed my feelings for her.she says she has no such feelings for me but needs time as she is talking with other proposals at the same time and asked me too to do the same.one problem with me ,as she says ,is i am too tall for her height as the height difference is almost 10 inches and other problem is i am well placed job wise but in a good city in other state.she has very good other proposals also but chats with me dailly everyday for last 6 months where we had talked casually and friendly too .i am confused now and apprehensive also about what final decision she would take a about me.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your concern, but if she wants to speak to some more people and weigh her options, there’s nothing much you can do here. I suggest you might want to do the same. You are speaking to her and building a connection and that’s great. But it’s also okay if you want to talk to some more people and see if you find someone more compatible for you. Since she has already expressed a few problems and also there’s the distance, it would be practical to look a little more instead of tying yourself down to one person, especially since she is not showing interest in committing right away.

About what her final decision for you would be, it is difficult to tell. Sometimes people speak regularly and still don’t end up together and sometimes people interact with many others, and still end up with each other. If it’s meant to be, it will. It won’t hurt if you also speak to a few more people. You deserve the best and so does she.

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Thank you for being so honest about everything!

Do you like CA and CS first of all? This is the first question you have to ask yourself!

The next question I want to you ask yourself is, ‘am I scoring less marks because I have not studied / lack of interest or lack of understanding of concepts?’ Seek help if you really want to clear these exams!

Next question is ask yourself , “what comes naturally to me and I love doing it?”. It can be anything…. cooking, baking, teaching, accounting, handling customers in your dad’s office, taking care of office administration, etc, list out everything and then home down to one thing and start working on it with honesty of purpose, let that become your way to earning money!

And please sit and have a heart to heart chat with your parents!
If verbal communication is a problem, write a letter to them… I am giving you options, choose what is comfortable to you , but talk to your parents!

All the very best…

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