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Pradeep Pramanik is a career coach, placement consultant and director at Fast Track Career Consultants, which provides career counselling, soft skills training and placement consultancy services.
Pradeep, who hails from Bhagalpur in Bihar, has worked in the pharmaceutical industry for 15 years in sales, marketing, training and product management roles in companies like Lupin Pharmaceuticals, Elder Pharmaceuticals and Ranbaxy Laboratories.
During his tenure in the pharma industry, he has worked in different states including Bihar, Jharkhand, Andhra Pradesh, Telangana, Karnataka, Maharashtra, Tamil Nadu and West Bengal.
In 1998, he launched Fast Track Career Consultants with the aim of helping youngsters find jobs through the right career counselling, training and placement services.
They also offer HR analysis and appraisal services.
Over the years, he has been invited by management and engineering institutions to discuss education and employment policies, entrepreneurship, soft skills and emerging careers in India.
He has published four books on career counselling and contributed articles to print publications.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 29, 2024Hindi
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My son is 19 years of age.He is very lazy and interested only in mobile and computer games.He has appeared for 12th board this year,but has not worked hard at all in studies or career.He wastes his time in mobile only and is very stubborn and misbehaved child.I would love to to get him treated but he never listen to whatever we say.He is not at all social also and has no friends.We are tired dealing with him.Suggest something please.

Ans: Dear Parent , I could feel pain from your message . There are many such c ases where children are addicted to Mobile for games or watching videos of no use. In fact scientists compare mobile addiction with Opium like addiction where users stay on mobile for as long as 15-20 hrs a day. Why don't you ask him for getting into development of Mobile apps by learning coding ..? Or even ethical Hacking if you are sure he is not getting not wrong direction. Or in worst case , get him into some businesses like Selling Mobile and its accessaries. He needs to use his negative qualities into positive strengths through soft counselling only.
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Hello Sir, My Son 14 years old studing in 9th Standard has not pay attention in studing, He is sleeping & lazy in all the Periods of School classroom.His body language is very idle & he has very Lazy guy. this is may due to he not eating healty food like, dryfruits, vegetable (eathing Junk Food) instead our so many attempt to do so. Myself & wife do all the attempt to improve him but we are failed in all the attempt. his school marks are only 30 to 40% & we are very much scare that he is going to failed in 9th standared. he also not listing to Teachers & our Advice but only ignore & sometimes arrogant in the argument. we have changes so many classes & private tution to improve in studey & behavour, but all attempts did not work. his only interest in Cricket, watching TV & Mobile. Request to need your valuable advice & tips to make changes in my son.
Ans: I'm sorry to hear that your son is struggling in school. It's great that you and your wife are trying to help him. Here are some tips that may help:

1. Encourage healthy habits: Eating a balanced diet, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly can help improve focus and concentration.

2. Create a study-friendly environment: Make sure your son has a quiet, well-lit space to study. Remove any distractions, such as TV or mobile phones, during study time.

3. Set goals: Work with your son to set achievable goals for his studies. Break down larger goals into smaller, more manageable tasks.

4. Reward progress: Celebrate your son's successes, no matter how small. Rewards can be as simple as a favorite meal or activity.

5. Encourage active learning: Encourage your son to take an active role in his learning. This can include asking questions, taking notes, and summarizing what he's learned.

6. Get support: Consider enlisting the help of a tutor or academic coach. They can provide additional support and guidance to help your son succeed.

Remember, every child learns differently, so it may take some time to find what works best for your son. Be patient and supportive, and don't hesitate to seek professional help if needed.

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Hello Sir/Ma'am My daughter has secured 4150 AIR and 602 Obc Rank What options does she have? She can get tier 3 NLUs, can she get any tier 2 in vacant seats? RMLNLU( she has UP Domicile) ? She can also get DU BA/BBA LLB, should she go there over tier 3 NLUs? Also she is considering taking an edu loan, is it viable for the college options she has?
Ans: Hi Neha Madam,

You have made multiple queries regarding admission opportunities. I am pleased to inform you that she has excellent prospects with an OBC rank of 602 and UP domicile for several top-tier and mid-tier National Law Universities (NLUs) through CLAT.

At RMLNLU Lucknow (Tier 2), there are high chances of securing a seat. Additionally, there are also opportunities available at other Tier 2 universities such as Bhopal, Gandhinagar, and Raipur.

In Tier 2 itself, the chances are promising, so naturally, there are very good opportunities in Tier 3 as well, including universities in Assam, Nagpur, and Shimla.

Regarding Delhi University (DU), both the BA LLB and BBA LLB programs are competitive but possible. However, since she has a good chance of getting into a Tier 2 university, it may be advisable to pursue that option rather than competing for a spot at DU. If she is truly interested in DU, she may apply, but Tier 2 options are more favorable.

Once she joins a university, she can apply for scholarships. Being a meritorious student, she is likely to receive support for an education loan. There's no need to worry; the education loan can be applied for through the Vidyalakshmi portal. Visit the website and register to get support from the bank.

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