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Child and Parenting Counsellor - Answered on Jul 11, 2023

Aruna Agarwal is a qualified child psychologist and behaviour therapist with over 20 years of experience.
She has a master’s degree in psychology with a specialisation in behaviour analysis. She focuses on children between the ages of 2-10 years who face challenges related to behaviour, language development or attention issues and providing them with the right life skills.
Agarwal is the owner of Kidzee, a pre-primary school, and Mount Litera Zee School that caters to primary students.... more
SONA Question by SONA on Jul 03, 2023Hindi
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My 12+ old son has gradually become disobedient and does not listens to us. he dont want to study and most of the time wants to play games on mobile or tab. during this covid this habit of playing games has become very strong. he does not want to go to school and tells to his elder brother that his classmates bully him as he is fat. this obesity also he got during covid days , earlier he was very agile. i try to listen to him , talk to him and try to make him understand the importance of study but no heed , in school also his work is pending. we are really worried and upset for his behaviour if your are available offline and help us in this matter. kindly tell your fee as well Sona Punj

Ans: This child needs help to set his routine and incase he is being bullied kindly look into it.Talk to his friends and school mates , teachers to find out what is happening exactly at school.
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I am doing great, thank you for asking, God bless you!

I can totally understand when you say you are worried.

Your son is 12.5, he will soon be a teenager. There will be different challenges, I want you to read up on parenting a teenager and be ready to handle him well.

The problem as I see it is that everyone of you, his teachers included have made studies like a burden for him.... and subjected the young child to a lot of anxiety, he just wants to run away form it....
"Every teacher from his kindergarten days upto now has the same complaint that he is doesn't pay attention in class".... this statement of yours... it is the teacher's duty to ensure the child listens to him/her, how can she start labeling a child like this. From a young age your son has been conditioned to believe that he is not not good in studies, he doesn't focus and he doesn't sit in one place. All my sympathies are with your son...every child comes with immense potential and it's our duty as parents and teachers to nurture the child.

The following is what I propose so that we bring him back to loving to learn ( not score marks, that should never be the barometer)-
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If you can connect with me, I can help him. Have had many a students in this kind situation.
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