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Mayank Rautela is the group chief human resources officer at Apollo Hospitals.
A management graduate from the Symbiosis Institute of Management Studies with a master's degree in labour laws from Pune University, Rautela has over 20 years of experience in general management, strategic human resources, global mergers and integrations and change management.... more
Vikas Question by Vikas on Aug 17, 2021Hindi
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Dear Sir
In these difficult times, I understand one must be grateful to have a job.
I have your earlier columns where you have mentioned this.
As you know, it is been 16-17 months since WFH started.
At first it seemed good, especially since one did not have to travel.
But now, after so many months, with parents and young kids and the wife’s demands, it is becoming difficult to concentrate and deliver results. In office, there are no such distractions.
Many of my colleagues are facing the same problem because, like me, they have small houses.
I tried working at a nearby cafe, but it upsets my family very much and causes increased tension at home.
I understand the office’s side as well, but many of us are facing this problem.
How do we raise such an issue with the management?
Please help.
Vikas

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Hi Vikas.

I am sure your management is aware of the issues related to work from home. But you must have a one on one discussion with your manager so that she/he is aware of your personal challenges.

At the same time explain to your family the importance of having a job and request them to be more accommodating.

With the vaccination drive picking up, most offices have started opening and the rest will open soon.

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